Getting ready to propose my arse. Love him or not I'd have dumped him after 2 years MAX. Definitely wouldn't waste 4 on someone who hadn't made his mind up yet.
@@keinvm There isnt anything to replace God with 😉😉😉 He is the only wether u believe in Him or not, seek Jesus he can give u peace, any hurting, depression, anger can be taken away by Him, u just got ask. God bless, be safe ☺️☺️✌️✌️✌️
My personal experiences with Love...when it's true, honest to goodness Love...the thought of touching someone else is inconceivable...not possible.. absolutely, just the thought makes you nauseous...So if they cheat...It was NEVER genuine Love!
I agree with you 110%. Every Therapist, most your friends n family will say (it was a mistake give him a chance) I never got that, how they call it a mistake?. Like you said just thought of it (being with some else) makes one nauseous. 🙌🏼
Relationships are complex, sometimes the person can actually change for the better and that can make the union stronger. The old relationship dies so that a new one can take its place.
Cheating is never a “mistake” it’s a “mistake” that you got caught. Cheating is always a CHOICE. It’s a choice that’s not made in the second oh happens. It’s a choice that has been building up.. thought about, fantasised about, flirted with for months.. it’s never ever a “mistake or accident” It’s a clearly considered CHOICE. Never let anyone minimise it and tell you otherwise. Stepping on your toe or spilling a drink is an accident. Doing the most intimate activity two humans can do, the thing that creates life and your very existence isn’t an accident. even if the event happened the same night the two individuals met.. the thought, notion and potential has been fostering in your partners mind long before the deed takes place. Do not accept the gaslighting and minimisation or victim blaming of cheating and betrayal. The words “sorry I made a mistake” or “you neglected me, you are partly to blame” just don’t cut it. When trust and respect are gone in a relationship, you can not get it back. I’ve never re-respected anyone in my life. Even if you take them back you will forever be sleeping with one eye open and watching your back. The minute you feel the need to even check your partners phones, you can’t be with that person. Deep down already you have no trust for them. That may be a personal issue and either you shouldn’t be with anyone until you can trust or it’s just them that can’t be trusted. Either way.. it’s over. Let them go.
@@dragonslayer7199 glad my words help at least one person. If you are going through this right now I send you strength, self love and healing. He/she is not for you and this is the universe’s/god/alláh (or whoever you pray to) way of showing you their true colours and removing them from your life. It’s a blessing in disguise. Live well ✌🏽🌟
This brings a new pov for me. I cheated at the time I was so detached from everything I didn’t think twice about what I was doing not even in a sense of I didn’t care just totally unattached to everything. I eventually told my partner and my god the tears and cries I heard that night where heart breaking. This girl stayed and gave me a chance to prove myself to prove I’m worth the investment and risk and chance and time. I can genuinely say this girl showed me love and care when she should have ran away and for me she gave me a new outlook on things if she could stay with me after what I did then I can be a better person. I had many insecure reasons for doing what I did I won’t mention them here but she genuinely showed me love care empathy and pureness and it changed me from the inside out. I’d do what ever it took to see this girl smile. And I know I should have always known that my girl was a queen and it should never have happened but I can’t take back the past I can only show her the future. I wish people didn’t cheat I genuinely wish things where more simple and everyone was loyal and caring from the start. All I can say is I’ve changed and for the better. Could I cheat again ? Possibly who knows I guess so … but that comes down to my choices I know I’d make the right choice if ever even close to those scenarios again. Love is a choice you wake up day in day out and choose to remain in love we don’t pick when we fall in love but we do pick when we stay in love. I used the same terminology it was a mistake I’m sorry I love her etc I just don’t think there is a better way to explain things. For me my mistake was because I hurt her and I genuinely didn’t attach the two together once I saw the hurt I caused my god it hit home. We’re together but it’s not easy I made it so much harder now for selfish and scared reasons. If I just fixed things with her I’d never have went outside for help that’s on me and it’s my fault. There was issues from both ends but she stayed loyal I’m the idiot who made the choice to do what I did regardless of reason. Just don’t do it guys and girls it’s not worth it. Fix what you have or leave and no one gets hurt. I still see the damage I caused 2 years on it sucks that I’ve did this to her so please be better and don’t do what I did. If I eventually lose her then I know it’s my own fault she deserves happiness and I stole it from her. I just hope she can find it in me once more because I know I won’t let her down again
This is the most honest comment I have ever seen. I'm happy you are fixing it. She stayed because she loves you. To hear there's no end, she sees you as the one. If you really love her, you'll stop thinking about cheating on her or breaking up. Can't you see, she stayed, she wants you. Understand this and take care of her. If you are truly considering a break up in the future then stop wasting her time. If you cheat on her, you'll break her God you'll hurt her worse
@@joymbiu7917 I would never ever hurt her again my friend. I have seen what it does to innocent people and they don’t deserve it. Now is my chance to show her I am the man she dreamt I was when she met me
@@shiro9950 alright, that's very good. She might never forget what happened. But your actions will either cover her insecurities or make them worse. Love her back, pamper her, treat her well.
Hey ma’am I’ll like you to get you match with my uncle he’s trying it so hard to be in a good relationship. He’s kind of calm and cool person it would be nice for you to know him..
A marriage counsellor once told me that cheaters find it easier and easier to cheat. He was right. I divorced my cheating first wife and have been with my second (faithful) wife for 27 years.
@@addya4011 I was with my ex for 20 years. She is an alcoholic who progressed to cheating. Our 2 sons have had nothing to do with her for 17 years. They are in their 30s and doing very well.
"Oh sorry dear, it's a mistake..." Naah bruh. She actually admitted that it was a MISTAKE that you found out that she cheated on you. Sorry bruh. There are tons of gals out there who are far more better than her. Like there's an old saying, "to find a girlfriend is easy, but to find a 'wife-to-be is difficult". Good luck bruh.
Bro, that’s the best thing that EVER happened to you! You dodged a marriage, kids, shared bank accounts, and splitting a home / family with this unfaithful chick! You dodged a bullet! Buy her some roses and say THANKS & now GO!
@@sam-wm2dd time is not wasted. Think of the lifetime he saved by NOT marrying a cheater. When people think like you they stay in relationships that are going nowhere.
Its easy to say someone who already been through this situation. But tough for someone who is going through all this . It takes time, and time heals everything
I think what everyone needs to understand is cheating is NEVER a “mistake”. It’s not an isolated occurrence; it isn’t accidental, it’s a SERIES of CHOICES. A choice to hide, a choice to lie, a choice to lie about hiding, a choice to hide texts & calls over a period of time… & how often are those choices being made, leading up to the physical act of meeting up, buying condoms, getting a hotel room, getting undressed with the person & exchanging bodily fluids, etc. etc. those are all individual CHOICES. it wasn’t just cheating & “that’s it”… you didn’t “just” meet someone & hop into bed with them; you made conscious decisions along the way leading up to the act. People need to not be afraid to speak their truth when it comes to their boundaries within a relationship. If your boundaries don’t work for that one person, then don’t get caught up in lowering them for that person. Go find someone who will respect them & have complementary boundaries themselves, where you can feel safe in trusting this person with your mind & your heart. Cheating should be nonnegotiable in every relationship, because regardless of whether it’s a committed relationship or a marriage, you’re still committing your time, your energy & your body to that ONE person & trusting them with it. Not including your mental & emotional well-being, as someone who truly & genuinely loves & cares about you, will NOT jeopardize those things for anything or anyone. If for some reason the relationship doesn’t end up working, you just be honest with each other and go your separate ways if you’re no longer compatible. Breaking up may be hard to do as the song goes, but it’s a lot better to end something that’s already heading towards a dead end, instead of trying to drag a dead horse to water. You know there’s no amount of shoveling water into the horses’ mouth, that’s going to revive it. So If you don’t want to be commuted, then be single. This isn’t complicated. If y’all don’t have honesty between each other & the ability to have MATURE communication, conflict/resolution, then MOVE ON. I think he needs to get a refund on that engagement ring, if he hasn’t already & realize he dodged a bullet. He’s a good looking guy, obviously values lifelong commitment & seems like a really sweet, good hearted guy too. He’ll find a good girl.
this brought me to tears. you put it exactly how it is. i’m trapped in a relationship where he constantly cheated on me and he now swears he will never do it again. i just can’t forgive him for lieing to me for years and watching me be pregnant and still blaming me for his infidelity. i hate him but i love him. when he says he loves me i can’t help but say i love you back.
@@mindless143dl wow ,that's really rough...but if you stay..it's just guarantees more rough roads ahead...best to find a new path..and maybe at least have a chance to find your destiny..
I was thinking about the same thing. No wonder they left him. But he also preached in one of his own programs that men change. What made him change for Marjorie and be loyal to her that his previous 2 wives couldn't do?? I'm curious
@@mobiloyuncu9398 thats exactly what a cheater would say. there are billions of women out there and a decent portion of them are loyal. why piss your life away with someone who cant even keep her legs closed to other guys while in a relationship with you? no man or woman that respects themselves and values their time are going to give a cheater a 2nd chance
My grand uncle on my father’s side always gave me solid advice growing up, however at times they came from a period of uncertainty, i.e. world war 2 era, like you have to eat fast or else the enemy will attack you during your meal. But one piece of advice that always stuck out was that when you’re dating, you have to show the other person the front door and the back door. The implications of such is the other person has to know that just as easily you welcomed them to your home, which also is your heart, that there’s an exit if they choose to leave or if they are unfaithful you can escort them out. Life is too short wasting it on people who don’t genuinely care and I’ve learned(the hard way) that love should be free from constraints, but intimacy has a price. He was a great man and an actual captain of the high seas in the Mariana’s. Rest In Peace Capt
My dad told me and my brother when we were teenagers and I got my heart broken due to similar circumstances, that “If a person you care about can hurt you like that once, they can definitely do it again. It’s up to you to decide whether you feel like taking a risk and being content with being hurt again”. It sit with me and my brother to this day.
i dont get cheating, you have the free will to end the relationship and then do whatever and it's not cheating, it tells me they dont really care they just want to be with you for ur stuff
It’s the fear of being alone. People that cheat usually are narcissist wanting validation but are afraid to end current relationship because they fear the ability to be alone.
Well it’s more to it . It could be a abundance of things.. I’m not saying it’s right, because it’s most certainly NOT. But people cheat rather than break up.. because they either still may want you, but are testing the waters. And are not sure . 2. They are CHEATERS.. Meaning that’s what they do and think it’s ok. Or just don’t care. 3 have been in the relationship or marriage for an extended time- and don’t know how to end it / or are scared to end it. 4 may be other reasons … ALTHOUGH cheating is wrong either way!
I can’t imagine the pain he is in, how will he trust someone again with a full heart, I am sorry for him, please don’t break hearts because it’s the only place if clean and pure, where The Almighty God lives within us, just be loyal , loving and always be part of the soul of your significant other, life is too short to fulfill the wishes, so why not live by being humble and honest with the loved ones, what else or more can we ask for?
Just for a second imagine when women have to go through when alot of men these days are involved in extra marital relationships. You can deny the fact that percentage of men cheating on their wives is far more than vice versa. I am not justifying cheating by that girl but i am just saying men have to have taste of their own medication.
@@javeriamasood3328 You seem biased, if you read above carefully than you might understand the fact that I am not defending any gender in such situation , just sympathizing for that man, ,and I would have done the same for a woman, and you definitely need to see the percentage of women cheating on men these days, 80% of the women are chasing men with money but not for their loyalty and humanity, than how can you expect positive results when your own intentions are not right, you have no idea that what kind of mental pressure do men have to bear these days. Very true words said but someone that” women and children are loved unconditionally but a man is loved for being a provider”
@@javeriamasood3328 so we're all Pakistanis here discussing Gora's problem. Let me tell you something, girls cheat more than men and this is a fact, even if you take the example of Pakistan you'll see men who get a lot of girls and tell every girl that he's with her but everyone knows he's just screwing around with them, yeah in this case boys outnumber the girls. But when it comes to cheating in a stable, working relationship or marriage it's the girl who outnumber men by a mile and funny thing is that most of them doesn't even regret it. Note : Pakistan I'm talking about is cities like Karachi, Lahore, Islamabad, Gujranwala and etc.
@@farhadmalik5593 It's perfectly okay for a girl to chase a man with money, it's built in our (human) evolution. Evolution has made sure that girl would pick a man who can take care of their offsprings in the future. Problem arises when we can't control our instinct.
I was given this advice 12 yrs ago, and didn't listen. Now I learned the hardest lesson, and 44 yrs old, and soon to be alone. The worst of it is he is 57 yrs old. I am heartbroken, and now desire to remain single for the remainder of my life. To be cheated on is horrible, and even worse when your husband is 13 yrs older. 😪
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Indeed. This comment section would have been filled with « forgive him, or you’ll go to another cheater etc… » it’s just once, chill etc…. The hypocrisy is even reflected in the number of likes your comment has received compared to the other ones.
Dafuq? I've never seen this happening but seen majority of y'all women on tiktoks admitting cheating and other women in the comments be like "You go queen", " You deserve better ", etc if you're misandrist just say that!
I totally agree he should let her go but this comment section has taught me men don’t forgive cheating as women do so lesson to self never forgive a man’s cheating.
Im honestly surprised a lot of women forgive cheating, a man will only forgive cheating in two situations: 1. He's extremely gullible or 2. They're married with kids and he *has* to stay to protect the kids. Don't get me wrong, you can forgive if that's what you want but cut him/her loose and save yourself the trouble & time
Not always, God can change someone’s heart. Look up Joe Beam, he once did a lot of bad things but he repented and now him and his wife have been remarried for a longgg time and have a non profit to save marriages in trouble
I don’t believe he was getting ready to propose. I think after 4 years, you would have gave some direction. Men in love, move mountains. She may love you but couldn’t get you to move forward. I would question his love for her.
@@mtell620 if you cheat on your partner, regardless of gender you do not respect them. Stop trying to convince yourself and others that it is appropriate to cheat on and harm women. That’s wrong. If a man cheats, breakup/divorce him. Do not forgive and forget. You will never be able to trust him again.
Lol! I know.. u can change tho. Unfortunately you already have this stigma on yourself that follow you for decades.. consistency is the key never detour again and practice that pattern on someone who don’t know your past. That’s how you start over the right way.
@@danutahavercroft2850 What? 😂So if Steve Harvey can change then maybe this guys girlfriend can change too. So it would have been nice for him to say that people can change. Not just saying leave her.
Together for 16 year's with my hubby, but if either one of us would cheat.. Game over.. Trust would be gone.. You just can't say, I love you to your partner, after you cheated. your love is just BS than.
@@m.s9146 what you’ve just said is -It makes more sense to lie in this committed relationship -just because you haven’t been before a priest it makes it more okay
my dad said it with the first marriage he said it with the third marriage and with the forth marriage. he kept repeating what he called " a mistake " and left a lot of people damaged for life. don't give second chances
It wasn’t the first or only time it was the first time you caught her if I was truly in love I couldn’t cheat leave man don’t be dumb they don’t change we just wanna believe
Man or woman, when someone cheats on you, let go of them because that kind of emotional damage is never irreversible. It will never be the same again. Something in you dies and you’re not seeing your partner as you did before. It’s not a “mistake.” It’s their own mind and body that made the decision to cheat. Yes, second chances are allowed, but let the cheater find another person to start over with. That’s their second chance: to start clean with a new person they haven’t cheated on yet and hope they don’t screw up and lose a relationship again.
He could’ve been horrible af to her but if he was good and treated her good, respected her, spent time w her, offered her emotional safety and she still cheated then that’s fucked up but if he was trash and now he’s playing victim well…. Cry ab it lol
@@Pagalchhagal people tend to merge the two together. A dude will know he’s being horrible to a woman and act shocked when she breaks it off to either spend time alone or she eventually find someone some guys will still call it cheating. In a beautiful relationship where there’s no problems and someone cheats.. I think that’s a bit more cold hearted
@@SA-ju5rn a woman can be horrible to the man as well and that's what compels her to cheat as part of her abusive behaviour. You're obviously imposing your own made up idea on this particular video. It says the woman still wants to apologize and work things out, not break it off for whatever reason
@@Pagalchhagal regardless I feel men are so used to being able to do whatever they want and expect to be forgiven. When women match their energy they cry ab it lol
Did Steve just tell him to “get another chik”? I mean, I agree. However, I just saw a video earlier of Steve and his wife discussing the time he was caught talking to another woman on the phone(lead you to believe he wasn’t faithful to her). His wife packed her suitcase and at 3 a.m. tried walking out of the house. Steve then professed his love to her by breaking his phone. So she stayed and they’re supposedly happy now. So, my point is, if Steve deserved a second chance then why wouldn’t he suggest this fella here stay and maybe give his woman a second chance?
It’s a lose lose for you stay and lose her respect leave and watch her play victim to anyone who cares to listen and believe. Your sanity is at the line at this point
see - the kind of girl this man wants is someone with the integrity to end the relationship or be honest in the relationship before she looks around for someone else. most people just cheat and then lie and then devastate the other person and rip out their soul. BE someone who would never do this because of who YOU are. imagine your perfect partner and then BECOME that person.
My church counselors told me “you can stay and accept him, but he won’t stop cheating. He will just realize that won’t make you leave. And he will keep doing it more. They don’t stop”. Every counselor has pretty much said the same. I. Their experience they won’t stop cheating. You allow the line to be drawn there and they will gladly stay and keep stepping on it.