Stop doubting yourself and go after what you really, really want | Mario Lanzarotti | TEDxWilmington 

“the pain of my past does not determine the possibility of my future.” 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

“On the other side of self-doubt is the person you have been looking for your entire life”. So true.

- Self-doubt is a mental conversation in which your mind questions your ability to find a desired solution to a perceived problem 1. Share your self-doubt with the people you trust 2. Self-doubt is a call to love yourself 3. Love yourself regardless of your achievements 4. Forgive yourself for your past failures

“True freedom comes when you no longer rely on achievements to help you fall in love with who you are right now”

"Let go of blaming yourself, give yourself permission to express a new level of confidence, passion, and commitment".💕

"Love yourself regardless of your achievement." We all needed to hear that! 👍

"surround yourself with people who build you up" I think that was one of the best advices I'd ever received. Alternatively sadly, if you can't find those people, it's better to be alone than in the company of those who was to take a jab at you whenever possible because they have issues with themselves.

"Everyone faces self-doubt, only those who are courageous enough to admit it will find the support, that allow them to move forward, while still facing self-doubt " 👏👏

“Acting the way you did at the time is proof you could not have acted any differently” really hit home. I think a lot about coulda woulda shoulda scenarios and feel bad about them, but everyone, including myself, is just doing their best with the info and experiences they have to pull from at any given time.

I had an interview at my dream job abroad, 30 minutes before the phone call started I began doubting myself: "What am I doing here interviewing for this job? I don't even have the skills to work there!" and with this mindset I went to the interview, already thinking very low of myself and it showed and affected my whole performance. I didn't get the job and regret it to date! Great talk, thank you! :)

The pain of my past does not determine the possibility of my future. Touching my heart so deeply

I found him incredible, and he gave us a lot of proof that self-doubt is a good way, and if we understand how we can controll it ,we win the war

Great conversation. I have suffered from self-doubt for years, but with high aspirations. I had to get out of cult and leave all my family. I had did it and it was the best decision ever made. I did travel around the world and studies college, lived in a few countries, but leaving my family was my big crutch. I also suffered from depression before that. Today, I miss my family, but I don’t have this huge depressions anymore. I have a great husband and son.

Forgiveness of ourselves and others-for both things we did and didn't do-is one of the key gateways that leads to personal freedom.

When i am lonely I actually find my true power. The things I really need to do

Best TED talk so far.. Makes you think about all past failures as badge of experience and possibilities we can create for ourselves with positive and happy mind. I will be coming back to this video number of times ❤️

Thanks a million for the statement " The Pain of the past must not determine the possibility of your future"... Getting back the lost enthusiasm and motivation.. God bless you.

I wished I watched this sooner before but then I realized that if I didn't experience self-doubt before I wouldn't have gone through this video. Thanks for giving us this talk, now I can see my past as a lesson and not a failures I made of my younger self.

Powerful speech on how self doubt is one of the best things EVER! I took notes and accept the challenge by the way: I will forgive myself for all wrong and let go of blaming myself. Give myself permission to express a new level of confidence, passion, and commitment.

This is so relatable! I have experienced a similar journey of self doubt and still do. This video gives so much of clarity of how to deal with it correctly without sabotaging my self worth! Thank you Mario, this is exactly what i wanted to hear!

I needed this video in my life right now. I’ve been so lost and confused trying to be an overachiever, but I didn’t realize I was losing sight of who I am. I have been trying to perform for everyone else and forgot about myself in the process.

Thank you Mario. Self doubt can be very crippling and keep you stuck not doing anything for years in depression. You worded and explained everything perfectly. Love ourselves, love our self doubts, forgive and grow🙏🏾

Great message. I totally agree. There was a time when I treated my self doubt as the enemy and was basically at war with myself which means I was pretty hard on myself. Now I see fear and self doubt as my allies....and I love myself a whole lot more. Thanks for the great talk.

One of my dreams, is to stand in that stage and share also a motivational speech someday The message of that speech is really an enlightenment

This speech is relating to my current situation. I stack at a point of learning where I am thinking that I am too weak to perform that work. But not now. I have to overcome my all self-doubts. Learning may take time but you can learn if you will be consistent. So from now own I have decided to not quit at any cost. I am forgiving myself for the mistakes which I have done before.

Summary: Speaker achieves life goal through well-connected Father.

Thank you for uploading this. I really love the phrase "everyone faces self doubt, only those who are courageous enough to admit it will find the support that allows him to move forward" This speech was wholesome.I Love it

I have listened to this video over 7 times, and pull new distinctions from it each time. So clear, concise, and packed with wisdom that we can all apply immediately to our own lives. Well done, Mario! Thank you!

I really like the way he delivered his speech , verbally and non verbaly because its kinda like something you wanna need to hear for your entire life. I was kinda amazed how he expressed in the best way. You really can understand truly.

When you can love the person in the mirror regardless of your achievements ,you become truly unstoppable.

Stop doubting yourself and go after what you really, really want. The nex time self-doubt comes, dont fight it. Embrace it as a friend to remind you to fill your self-love tank. Not knowing how to deal with your self-doubts --- delay your dreams.

This talk resonated with me on many levels. Ambitions with shallow or false motivations. Keeping oneself "busy" with so many distractions. Admitting one's mistakes or missteps in the context of knowing that you did the best you could at that moment. Learning from one's past missteps. Lots of great content. Very inspiring to me. Thank you, Mario!

Self doubt creates the hesitation and hold you back from right decision. However, we're living in the world of spreading the self doubt, some people always makes this to us and this is why we have to avoid these toxics. Furthermore, we all must have self-esteem to lower our self doubt. Thanks for the speech.

Best TED talk ever!!! Man spoke nothing but the truth.

Thank you for such a clear message about an important subject. We all need to hear this. You have helped me and I'm sure many others.

Wonderful inspirational speech. Never thought of self-doubt reminding us to self-love, yet it makes total sense. Self doubt brought me here, and now I am so grateful for it!

This is a great talk! While I am fortunate enough to generally look at my negative internal dialogue as merely signals of how I need to account for possible roadblocks & succeed nonetheless, it took me much longer to develop this relationship to similar comments I get from others. There are particular people in my life that, while I love them, I used to get very frustrated & discouraged by their comments on my life path. Once I learned to simply thank them for pointing out the things I needed to account for in order to persist & succeed, it changed my relationship to them completely. Thanks for giving this talk, it’s inspiring for sure!

Ooohhhh this hits the spot. It’s the story of my life. Wish I had heard this talk years ago but I’m grateful for it now. Thank you so much for sharing your story. You have no idea how this impacts me. Now I can accept my self doubt and love myself.

Really sweet knowledgeable man. He clearly had done the hard work on himself. Bravo to him, i'm so inspired

Such an inspiring speech! Thank you Mario, for showing the positive side of self doubt, loved it

“True freedom comes when you no longer rely on achievements to help you fall in love with who you are right now” Mario Lanzarotti.

я сейчас сидела и рыдала от безысходности , думая что не справлюсь, что не оправдаю ожидания родителей и себя. но теперь я продолжу трудиться и не буду сомневаться, спасибо вам 🤍 вы сделали большой вклад в моё будущее

One of the best ted talks I've watched. I really loved it! Thank you for sharing all this keys for personal growth.

Thought provoking, Inspiring and yet relatable speech! Thank you! 👌🙏. The points that resonated with me- beyond the underlying thread of the positive influence of self doubt in utilising it to connect head and heart. 1.What you really really want are the positive emotions those goals promise... 2.Not knowing how to deal with your self doubt delays your dreams. 3.Forgive yourself of the past mistakes because the fact that you acted shows that was the only thing you could do then!

Can anybody watch this without crying and wanting to hug this guy??? ❤️❤️❤️❤️

This is the best Tedx talk ever! Truly motivated and relaxed by this man. 💙

Relate much to this, been into similar situation as well. I thank all the people and myself for not giving up into pursuing my aviation career now. Fear and Doubts are always part of the process. Courage does not mean that you will never feel such of those, but rather it is define by your ability to face fear and doubt even if it trembles you.

A LOT of key points for healthy and positive state of mind. Thanks Mario , I really felt everything you were talking about.

"The most important journey you take in your life is the one from your head through self doubt to your heart " 🙌

In striving to achieve desired goals what we really want are the positive emotions those goals promise. Ultimate truth!

I will remember this video for the rest of my life. because the later i was rejected when propose the final project topic to finish my college. But now I can take a lesson within, I will not give up! and it feels like I am given a more confident feeling to do it other way, wish me luck!

One of the best ted talks. Self doubt really killing yourself and made you missed opportunities. But it's never too late to change yourself and build self-trust within yourself. You just have to reflect and move forward..

Whenever you are in self doubt it's the Signal that 'love yourself ' ❤ increase your self-love ☺️🤗

What a power message. Thank you very much for sharing it with us. Many blessings

Wow this video came out at such a perfect time. Needed to hear this I’ve been stuck in a crossroads of what I should do this gave me clarity

Great talk Mario Lanzarotti! Couldn’t have come at a better time for me. Thank you indeed!

Love yourself regardless of your achievements. Loved this line man!

One of the most inspirational and motivational TED talks ever!!! Thank you!

What a beautiful speaker with a great message of inspiration. GRAZIE MARIO 🇨🇦

My takeaways- In striving to achieve desired goals, what you really really want are the positive emotions those goals promise. True freedom comes when you no longer rely on your achievements to fall in love with who you are right now.

The message I needed exactly when I need it. Thank you.

Love this, and needed this! Thank you so much for sharing this valuable message!

Mario lanzarotti and supermario..they both taught me , don't doubt yourself, keep trying until you reach the next level..

This feels personal, at my 26 I'm finally understanding this. Thank u. Everyone can do it.

What a beautiful and encouraging message. Thanks Mario

Self love is key. Thank you for sharing

Thank you sir for sharing your words.

Thank you Mario. From my heart to yours

Very good Mario!!! I am so proud of you for coming this long!!! I hope everything goes well for you. ❤❤❤

One of the best speaker that I've seen and heard in TED.

This is easily my favorite talk here! Love this.

this is so timely for me. i've learned a lot from this talk. thank you so much! i'll surely apply it to my life.

Thank you. Your Ted Talk made my day. I truly appreciate it.

I always doubt myself. I used to think that I am the only one who does it but after watching this video I can say it is good to doubt sometimes and when we doubt ourselves that incline our abilities because we try to figure out the confusion which has built in our mind.

Thankyou so much.. This is the best Ted talk I've ever seen.. I've gone through many videos on self doubt,but here I get the answer..

i watched different types of self development videos .all have one thing in common that is LOVE OURSELVES .

So helpful, Self doubt is our friend Whenever we feel the doubt, let's assure ourselves to work more and become even better

Thanks mario,. I recently just got turned down from a job offer which I worked hard for. I have been questioning myself and my future so much I kept asking myself " can I make it in the future?". I guess it's time to treat myself better and stop blaming myself that I didn't do better. In fact, I already did, and it's the best of what I could do at that time. We can grow, but everyone starts from somewhere including myself. The fact that I gave myself the chance to be in the interview and apply for the job speaks volumes of my effort. That I should be proud of, better than not doing anything or giving myself a fighting chance. Better luck next time:)

Omg!! What a talk🙏🏻 came in a proper time ♥️

Beautiful. This is everything I needed to hear, and I truly want to start implementing this. I know that it is going to be a long, bumpy ride, but one that will be worth it. Thank you for this Ted Talk.

Self Doubt is essential to overcoming your hurdles in life. They'll help you gauge what you need to achieve them. Self Doubt in a sense is the vision, and Confidence is the plan. In today's world social media portrays certain standards and expectations, and it may seem like you're either falling behind, or maybe you're not even in the ball park. This is not the case. You might even compare yourself to your peers around you who you might think are successful, and that might be the case, but understand that it takes time and effort to get to where they are today. Everyone goes through the same issues in life, one way or another. Be confident in what you do and you'll experience progress you never thought was possible. (A speech I had with a former employee. It's mostly word for word. Some words I've substituted with vernacular from the video. But I hope this helps anyone who thinks they're inadequate in life, or if they're stuck in a rut)

this is the best TED talk i've heard so far.. thanks for the inspiration !

Even though the pilot career did not work out, I still learnt how to fly because I found my true calling 👏❤️

Oh my god, this video is exaaactly what I need now! Amazing speech, thank you million times!!!

that was really awesome. and btw for me as for a non-native speaker the way how the narrator speaked was a huge pleasure. so clear and straight. really impressive

It just totally changed my way to look towards my self doubts and teached me how to use self doubts to improve myself, to achieve goals with greater vision.. thankyou so much 😊🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

This has to be one of the best talks I have EVER seen….

Powerful presentation, reminds me of Brené Brown’s Tedx talks on ‘Them power of Vulnerability’ and ‘The power of Shame’

Love the message! Truly eye opening on all levels.

Yes I always doubting myself whenever I going to do something that time automatically doubt coming into my mind..and I scared to come out infront of the people and say something to them

wow wow wow - this speech is amazing. Such an important topic and it definitely gives me a whole new perspective on self-doubt. Thanks Mario

To be honest, I did nor expect this talk to be that good. I'm glad I finished it tho. One of the best Ted Talks I will forever remember. 🥳

love who you are love the person in your mirror regardless of your achievements… peace and love❤❤❤

Constant doubt and worry spiral through my mind borderline 24/7 during even the most mundane moments in my days

This helped me so much in the moment im going through. 🙏🏼

I teared up a bit at the End to be honest, it's like the whole video hit at once then. Thank you😊

I can so relate to what he said. Thank you!

So precise and profound.Our limitations are mostly ours ,that’s the nature of self doubt.

Truly an amazing ted talk. Thankyou so much for the wisdom.🙏

some brilliant stuff in there - more ted talks like this please