The skill of self confidence | Dr. Ivan Joseph | TEDxRyersonU 

Easiest and fastest way to gain confidence is to do exactly what you are afraid of.

You and i gonna achieve our dreams

Anyone here in 2024

“No one will believe in you unless you do.” - This has been true in every big and crucial moments of life.

Ted should be a school , I swear they will create a whole new sort of generation.

"There's enough people telling us we can't do it. Why do we want to tell that to ourselves?". Just WOW.

I learned more in 13 minutes than I have over all those years back in high school . The counselor humiliated me in front of the whole class saying that I was not smart enough to go to college. It stayed with me for many years. By the way, I have 1 bachelor and 2 master degrees today.

To anyone reading this, you are an amazing person The fact that you’re here watching this video means that you are already taking the first steps in building your confidence Keep going, you are amazing. You deserve the world. Believe in yourself. Everything improves with confidence and I believe that you can increase your confidence. Good luck

Confidence is the mindset of knowing that "no matter what happens, I am gonna be alright!"

Amazing how im learning more about life from Ted talks than public education

Life breaks you down so you could rebuild better. Most times it amaze me greatly the way I moved from an average lifestyle to earning over $63k per month, utter shock is the word. I have understood a lot in the past few years to doubt that opportunities are bound in the financial markets, The only thing is to know where to focus.

Amazing talk, I remember watching this video while I was in high-school, didn't understood much back then, but now that I look back at it I implemented a lot of things that were talked in this video without even knowing.

man ... why they don't teach us this kind of things in schools

The fact that this video got so much views reminds us that self confidence is a big issue

My takeaways: 1. Believe in you first 2. Practice the skill of being confident 3. Accept and embrace being different

10 years later I'm still going back to this video which really changed my life and made me who I am today. At that time, me as a Brazillian still did not understand english, but I watched it many times, translating every word and it inspired me. 2 Years later, I became fluent in english and went to US to study Manufacturing Engineering there and then I came back to my home country. Today I'm a polyglot, I have a good job and the life I wished to have 10 years ago, which I was able to construct with the self confidence, motivation and a lot of effort videos and books like this tought me. I know Dr. Ivan will never read my comment, but I just want to say: THANK YOU !!! Regards from Brazil!! It's awesome how a video posted can change lives many many miles away and for years!

I watched this last year and it motivated me to run a marathon. Now I've done 2 marathons in total and a bunch of other races. Got 3 marathons planned for next year. Believing in yourself is very important!!

“Get away from people who brings you down” But.. uh how am i suppose to get rid of my whole family

Honestly, my advice is this: be yourself and you will never run out of confidence! don't try just be, because when you are being yourself you the best version and most unique!

My comment will probably get lost but whoever reads this.. You got this! Whatever you are going through will get better hang in there ✨❤️

What a great man…. Sending him a digital hug...

Important points I picked up in this - persistent practice makes perfect - stop negative self-talk - reinforcing positive behaviour through positive feedback - live strong and don't let other people drag you down

The greater the automated income you can build, the freer you will become. Taking the first step is the hardest, but 5 houses later living off automated income since July 6, 2016. You’ve got to start taking steps to achieve your goal.

“Praise the positive behavior that we want to reinforce.” I say this all the freakin time. This is the TRUTH!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Dude is probably one kickass father

self confidence : - practice - repetition - after failure, still practice and repetition, and presistance - get out there, do what you wanna do, and don't except no - stop the negative self talk. do it, self affirmation to ourselves : I am the captain of my ship, and the master of my faith - praise the good, catch them when they're good : good job! you did good! - believe in ur self

“No one will believe you unless you do.” This sentence wraps up the whole speech, one of the most inspiring and amazing talk I’ve ever watched.❤

_I used to treat other people the best I could, and I still am; the only difference is I started to treat myself the same. I treat myself the same way I treat the people I love, and I feel more confident and more happy since then. This video is a real treasure! Thank you so much!_

This is the Ted Talk that changed my life. I remember listening to this Ted talk in school in 8th grade, now I'm 20 years old and i carry every single value that he talks about to this day.

Important Clippings: - Self-confidence is the ability or belief to believe in yourself to accomplish any task - He sees it as a skill because he believes it can be trained. 1. The easiest way to build self-confidence, repetition, Maybe it shouldn't be repetition, but maybe it should be persistence. - Get out there, do what you want to do, and do not accept no. 2. The other one is self-talk; We know for a fact that thoughts influence actions. We need to get our own self affirmations. - Get away from people who will tear you down, there is enough of that. All the things that make him who he is, he puts down on a list besides his mirror. - Your own brag sheets. Your own letter about the things you are proud of. - Stop the negative self-talk. 3. You can teach self-confidence in others. Because we are educators, we are critical by nature in what we do. - Catch them while they're good. Praise the positive behavior we want to reinforce. 4. Self-confident people interpret feedback the way they choose too. No one will believe in you, unless you do. We are supposed to be different.

“Self-confidence is a skill”… I 💯% agree

"Confident people interpret the feedbacks the way they choose to". This sentence touches me a lot because we can't always get enough positive feedbacks or encouragement in our life and study. In this case, we have to learn to keep ourselves feeling good, otherwise we may decide to quit. This is definitely a significant capacity for me to pick up.

This guy is full of positivity and very lively.

He's amazing, his body language, his voice, his charisma...I loved him !

One of my students told me that when he discussed his anxieties with someone close to him, like his wife or a close friend, then he found that the moment he started opening up to them, the anxiety decreased-even before he received any advice or support. Togetherness definitely decreases anxiety. There is a saying in the wisdom of Kabbalah that “a sorrow shared is a sorrow halved,” i.e. when we share a sensation, we divide it up, and in turn it becomes more manageable. Since it is quite easy to see how sharing our experiences lessens our negative feelings, the question is why do we not use this ability more? Why is it so hard for us to share our fears and anxieties with others? We are indeed afraid of opening our hearts, letting everyone see that we have certain fears and anxieties. That is, in addition to whatever fears and anxieties we hold within, we usually have additional anxieties about sharing them with others, that it might cause others to perceive us as weak. Since society in general values stronger, smarter, wealthier and fitter individuals, opening up our anxieties to such a society makes us vulnerable to exploitation. We thus need to seek a social environment that would not exploit us for opening up, but would rather give us a sense of faith and confidence that it can help us cope with any negative feelings. A social setting that can guarantee faith and confidence in its members is one that actively draws itself to the upper good and benevolent force-the force of love, bestowal and connection. It is this very same force that awakens negative feelings in us, whether they be fears, anxieties or several other painful sensations, in order for us to draw closer to that force, and we do so by drawing closer to each other. If we wish to connect with the upper force and let its perfect quality of love, bestowal and connection fill our lives with a sensation of faith and confidence, then we need to emulate such a quality toward other people-giving them a sense of faith and confidence, and for them to do the same toward us. By wanting to positively connect with others, we then start awakening the positive force dwelling in nature into the connections we create, and we then feel a new sense of faith and confidence wash away any anxieties that we might be holding within.

"When you lose sight of yourself... we're done for" - That was powerful!

he was my athletic director at my university. I remember talking to him and sort of asking(begging) him if i can drive his model S he was so nice to throw the keys to me and in his voice said " run before i change my mind". Nicest guy you'll meet.

I am gonna try to interpret his talk in a simple Q&A: Q: Do you like doing something in your life more than anything? A: Then go there and try to master that thing. Q: How? A: By practice, repetition and Persistence. Q: What if you fail? What if people judge you? A: SO FUCKING WHAT?? Just do your things... You are not born to make people happy, You are born to make YOURSELF happy... The End.

The average person can’t take too many No’s. They don’t realize that the No’s are preparing them for the Yes. Most people don’t make it to the Yes because they give up so easily. There’s always going to be a Yes somewhere. When you keep going consistently you get to those Yes’s faster. Once you keep going after that you find yourself getting more Yes’s than No’s because you have now developed a skill and you are confident about what you’re doing. You literally came into alignment with success by not giving up!

The biggest takeaway for me was, "Get away from the people who will tear you down!" - This is so true! I used to share my plans with folks that I thought were my best friends and almost always, they advised me to do the opposite. I only started seeing progress in things I wanted to accomplish after ceasing to share any of my plans with them until they were done!

From now on, i will believe in myself no matter what or how people will think of me.

Reference: 1. Repetition 2. Persistence 3.Self Affirmation 4. Interpret information in their own way

They say third times a charm, I have pass my step 1 finally🎉🎉 for all my repeat test takers don't give up and don't be discouraged.

I found this speech several years ago. It is simple and to the point! I’m glad it’s still around!

Video summary: 1. Fake it till you make it. 2. Practice makes perfect. 3. Remove yourself from people who suck the life out of you. 4. Believe in yourself if you want others to believe in you.

In order to be confident you need to be comfortable with yourself. You need to be able to like yourself. It can be very hard to like yourself when you haven't accomplished much and you're still struggling. That is why it's so important to get a good education and work your ass off.

自信の定義0:50〜1:51 反復練習　1:51〜3:35 諦めない大切さ　3:35〜4:33 セルフトーク　4:33〜5:34 自己肯定　5:34〜7:17 自分相手の手紙　7:17〜8:47 自信を与える方法　8:47〜10:31 カンザス州のチーム　10:31〜11:19 独自の解釈　11:19〜12:42

I'm grateful for seeing this video today. Practise makes perfect was my motto when I was at school but somehow it was lost. we should be diligent and persistent in everything we believe in. Building self-confidence is what I need right now and this sentence "No one will believe in you unless you do" light me up

Summary: 1. Self confidence is a skill that can be learnt. 2. Persistence 3. Stop Negative self talk 4. Refrain from Negative 5. Focus on your good things

Getting rid of facebook boosted my confidence. I stopped thinking about all those people from high school

This is probably the big speech on TED Talks for me. Self Confidence is a big issue for me. Hearing this makes me a little bit confident. Thank you!

I am new to cryptocurrencies such as bitcoin, but I am very interested and curious to start investing in it, although I do feel this is kind of late now. Can anyone tell me what I need to do?

These are the speeches that stick. A powerful message delivered by the common man in a funny and simple way. Self confidence is without a doubt the most important skill you can attain. Let's all start believing in ourselves - don't think of it as selfish when you're telling yourself you did great in those quiet moments. Because when you shine light on yourself, you shine light on others as well.

Gf : i think we should break up This guy : no

" I am the CAPTAIN of my ship and the MASTER of my fate" what great words👏

We are already in the big crash , inflation is a catastrophe. This CPI report is a colossal failure. To bring the housing market to a halt,the FED will have to pull all the stops . The unfortunate issues is that the other market are being decimated. If you want to stay green ,you have to rely on a lot of diversification. Currently up 15% and being carful. Still a better deal than leaving it in a savings or checking account yielding 0-1 percent interest.

Get away from the people who will tear you down!

Yet here I am watching motivational videos instead of studying.....

i love this:) my affirmation has been “stay awake” since i was around 8 which for me means “stay in control, stay aware” because i’ve dealt with depressive episodes since i was 6 year old where I didn’t feel in control of my emotions or my life. this affirmation helped me a lot

So glad to have come across this video! So moving and powerful. This has pushed me further to want to help people in this way. I never realised how powerful spontaneity is. Do you have any more videos? Well done Tony for making such a brave decision for yourself and not just the money!

Summary of the talk: "Confidence is a SKILL you can build" 1. Build it by practicing! The more you have tried something over and over again the more confident you become. Practice, repeat and persevere. The more you fail and keep going, the more confident you'll be 2. Stop the negative self talk. You're shooting yourself in the foot, tell yourself "I am the greatest!". You'll be surprised at how much that helps you keep going. 3. Get away from the negative people. You're already struggling not to tell yourself "God I look fat, I'm no good at this" You don't need other people to make this even worse. 4. Build other people's confidence: Focus on what people do well. Don't try to correct their mistakes 5. Interpret feedback in a way that builds your confidence. Instead of "Wow that interview went shitty. I gave a terrible answer to 8/10 questions." say "Hey I did 2/10 questions pretty good! I'm gonna ace those on the next interview!"

“Pressure builds diamonds”

分かりやすい言葉で伝えて下さり、ありがとうございます。 自信を持つには繰り返し繰り返し練習する。思考が行動に影響する。 自分が信じなければ、信じてくれる人は誰もいない。というところが私には響きました。

"We're supposed to be different". Thank you. Hearing these words was what I needed to regain my self-confidence.

I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate

Self confidence is the key to doing anything in life!

"Praise the positive behaviour that we wanted to reinforce. Catch them when they're good. Showed them the times they did it right." Thanks for the words.

“Our thoughts influences our actions” 🙌

Small tip: When you’re on a high - write an email to yourself and schedule send it for 6 months down the line. Then? Forget about it. One day, you’ll get an awesome pick-up in your email when least expected that will transform your month. Wash, rinse, repeat.

it's been 3 month since i have watched this video and it truly changed me as a person

What charisma! This man should make a Friday evening show giving motivational speeches every week!

I couldn't agree more with Dr. Joseph's emphasis on self-confidence. It's a game-changer not just in sports but in every aspect of life.

for really shy people: you actually need a psychotherapist who teaches you to "stop the negative self-talk". youtube gives you a (fallacious) good feeling for 15 minutes, but does not teach you how u shaped your brain by 20 years of destructive thinking, how you behave in situations because of that and how you can fix this in less time. it's alot more complex than on youtube obviously - fortunately you don't need to learn any theory for yourself. if you suffer, do not buy books, do not read blogs, do not do all the things, that consume time (procrastinate), make you feel better but don't help you with your actual problem - be bold and see a therapist, you will soon be as happy as could not have imagined.

"I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate." - This does it for me.

The only problem I see in me with self confidence is procrastination. I become so confident I will get it done or it will happen that I wait to the last minute for everything. I’m confident bc working under pressure works for me. It is a little high which feels good and feels better when I get my desired result. 😊

I met this man today I have to be honest I had no idea who he was until I got home and googled him after watching this I wish I could go back and sit down and just talk about this type of stuff with him. He is a amazing person/influencer/motivational speaker/ father

My respect goes to any speaker who doesn't use slides yet manage to speak to the souls of his listeners and change their lives forever... Thanks Dr. Ivan, you earned my respect.

"And when people look at us, believe in yourself!" Golden words right there.

I had the privilege of learning from this man in 2008 right after he had led the Graceland University Men's soccer team (Lamoni, IA) to a National Championship. I was taking my USSF "C" license at his University. Awesome coach, teacher and man.

“No one will believe in you unless you do” so powerful. Great Ted Talk a must for everyone. Self-confidence “magic, no” “reps, reps, reps” simple but so true. Thanks for this

This reminds me of my high school biology teacher. She did not take “I dont know” as an answer in class but there is such a fine line between embarrassing your students and encouraging them to speak up in class even if they think they have the wrong answers. Maths class was a nightmare, the teacher was always calling out names and making people stand up and solve problems on the chalk board. But biology❤️❤️ oh man... she would even go as far as telling us exactly what to research on for the next day so we could be prepared. And she’d allow us to help other students answer if they didnt know. It was such a positive experience and it encouraged us to be curious and just ask about other things we didnt understand even if that wasnt in the curriculum. Miss that lady. 1 of the best teachers ever

"I'm the master of my own fate" ya know I've been telling myself to study consistently to get into a good uni and become somebody in the world. But that lazy bug in me strikes too many times and I procrastinate a lot. And at the end of the day I hate myself for that.. Day by day, crushing my own future in small ways. I've told myself so many times that I'm gonna do it, gonna make my parents proud, yeah it works for two or three days then it becomes stagnant again. I have to believe in myself that I CAN. So important.

I cannot count the times I have watched this talk and how it helps me every time. Congratulations Dr Joseph!

found this decade-old speech and it's such a gem 👏💚💯💎

I love the sentence that he said : " Repetition , Repetition , Repetition " Really, it is the key of any success ♡

This is great. I am an introvert, and hate talking to people, especially public speaking, but I am at high position at work and am now having to force myself to get out of my bubble

This VDO is 10 year ago. But I just watch in late of 2022. 10 year ago I don’t understand English. But now it’s right time for me to listen this knowledge. I want to say thank you so much.❤

Dude right about 10 min mark really hits home for me. Praise the good actions to reduce the bad ones. Instead of “attacking the bad ones head on” perfect alternative, it also allows that person to choose as their own person.

"No one will believe in you unless you do". Thank you! Great performance.

Believing that no matter what happens you’re going to be fine anyway is always a great mindset to have

I've watched this video more than once. And I recommend it to everyone, because it's amazing.It's amazing how 13 minutes of time spent here with Ivan can change your life 180 degrees for today and for many years to come. Thank you very much! 🙏

12:51 "...hears to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in square holes..... we are supposed to be different folks....and when people look at us.... believe in yourself."

Lovely talk. Catch them when they're good!

thank you. I got a direction in which I should head towards to improve my self-confidence. I will learn this skill , believe in myself and won't take negatives of the society, and become the person I visualize from my future self

A useful video! I used to be someone who wasn't confident when it came to public speaking or public speaking until I came across this video. Confidence gives me great strength and helps me stay true to my stance and dare to speak my mind. Confidence helps us become bold, enterprising. Thank you so much for the video that conveyed energy and enthusiasm so that everyone could understand the importance of trust life skills.

Confidence comes from competence. Competence comes from repetition. Repetition happens when you interpret failure in a positive way (positive affirmations to create good beliefs). Others can have confidence in you only when you are confident in yourself.

Possibly the most important video on the internet. Parents NEED to watch this with their children, it'll do them both wonders.

I'm here to motivate myself before applying for my new job. Let's all believe in ourselves & achieve our dreams!!!

Thank you for this talk! As a middle-aged woman starting back up in school, this is exactly what I need to hear. In my first class, "Public Speaking," there are so many unknowns with the worst of all being, "Am I doing all this right?" I am very unfamiliar with computers, how they work, what exactly they can do and how i get them to do it. Like right now, am I responding to this in the right place, will the teacher see it? How do I make it "bold" like the instructor said? I keep going back to what the speaker said, "Perception and believing in yourself." I have listened to everything I am supposed to, clicked every button "next", and here I am. Grateful, open to learning and believing that I am doing this right.

"Get away from the people who will tear you down" - I love that one.