02:31 🌬️ When feeling frustrated or angry, use the "stop, drop, and breathe" technique to regain composure. It's like hitting a pause button on your emotions. 03:38 🗣️ Take a moment to choose a calming mantra that resonates with you. Repeat it to yourself to shift your mindset and diffuse anger or frustration. 05:41 🛀 Find physical ways to calm down, like running your hands under warm water or engaging in deep breathing exercises. These actions signal to your body that it's safe to relax. 08:22 🌟 Prioritize being fully present with your child. They are sensitive to your attentiveness and will be more responsive when they feel truly seen and heard. 12:11 🌅 Recognize the importance of reframing situations. Viewing them from a more empathetic perspective can shift your emotions and lead to more effective responses. 16:17 🚗 If frustration arises while driving and your focus should be on the road, find a safe place to pull over. Use calming techniques like deep breathing to regain composure. 23:49 🧠 When kids are dysregulated, they lack the brain development to delay a fight. They need tools to re-regulate. 24:13 ⏳ Remember, difficult moments with your child are just that-moments in time, not the entirety of your relationship. 25:20 🧘♂️ When facing big emotions, pause and acknowledge the variety of feelings you've had towards your child recently. 26:00 📖 Regular exercises can rewire your brain, strengthen the vagal tone, and help you return to calm faster. 27:47 🔄 It's normal to get frustrated; acknowledge it. Share your feelings with your child to demonstrate that emotions are natural. 28:29 🤝 Connection is crucial for children. Build rituals of connection into your schedule, even in brief moments. 35:28 💬 "Notice that everything your child says is code for 'please love me'." Acknowledge their need for love even when they're being challenging. 38:39 💖 When your child acts out, see it as a sign that they need you. Take a breath and offer support, even if it's just a hug. 42:18 🤗 Emotion coaching involves accepting and acknowledging your child's feelings, allowing them to learn emotional regulation and problem-solving skills. 46:30 🤝 Emotion coaching helps children feel heard and validates their emotions, creating a foundation for moving forward. 46:43 🚫 When validating feelings, it doesn't mean agreeing with negative statements; it means acknowledging and empathizing with their emotions. 47:09 🗣️ Address the disappointment with empathy, emphasizing it's not the sibling's fault, but a natural feeling after losing. 47:51 🧹 Consider implementing a family rule where the winner takes responsibility for cleaning up after the game, easing the sting of loss for the other child. 48:18 🤝 Focus on good sportsmanship, teamwork, and fun in activities, rather than placing excessive emphasis on winning. 49:15 🔄 Acknowledge and correct mistakes when they occur, demonstrating to your child that it's okay to admit errors and make amends. 51:48 🌱 Your child's brain is shaped by their environment; responding calmly and positively contributes to their growth and development. 54:47 🌈 Deepening your connection with your child leads to more joy, cooperation, and fulfillment in parenting.
