Instagram leefrancis007 Here's my views regarding sex for the first time after gender reassignment surgery. #mtf #transition #transitioning #postop #TRANSgender
Thank you for being genuine and sharing this experience. There is an exploratory phase in all life novelties. Sooner than later you will feel at ease and be fully satisfied. Perfect practice makes perfect!
I wish this was explained to all these young people. It is not poof your a woman and can have sex like a woman. Feel sexual desire as a woman. It won't ever happen. That is something they should know before transitioning.
Sadly, I found out that in women after certain age, it's also often "use it or lose it". After I didn't have sex for few years, I got horrifying diagnosis of vaginal atrophy at only 49! So, we also have to at very least use dildo or something if we don't have sex because the freaking organ atrophies! I can't imagine how hard it is when you are trans.
You should be using estrogen cream. It's completely safe and returns your vagina elasticity back to normal. A few years ago I was in misery and after 3 months on estrogen it was a lot better...6 months it was totally normal. The estrogen isn't systemic if you're worried. I'm 54 and back to full cc function.
@@betsyb2256 Thanks for the advice. I asked about that but my dr thinks I should do all the tests for cancer before I can get even topical estrogen. I don't have that much money to do all those tests! 😒
Hello lee i have just come across this video from you and enjoyed watching your story. Thank you for sharing it with us so we know what you went through with your boyfriend on the occasion that you first tried it with him. I'm going to watch more of your videos from now on and support you through your channel. Stay safe and enjoy your life as a wonderful young lady
Hi, Lee. It sounds like a positive outcome! I've seen you talk about "the process" of your transition and I'm quite glad to see you in a better state. Your journey has been informative, to say the least. Dramatic at times as well. Good luck to you. *Buona Ventura! ☮🍀💖🥰🏳⚧🏳🌈😉
Hello Lee, I don't know if you will see this but I just wanted to say thank you for your video. You were incredibly frank and went into a lot of detail. I found it very informative and your honesty takes a lot of courage, especially given some of the idiotic comments that you have received. Honestly, it sounds like losing your virginity was actually pretty amazing! Your boyfriend sounds very gentle and loving and I'm really happy that it was such a positive experience, very very cool. Thank you again, I think it's so good that there are people like you who can share their personal experiences and hopefully lessen some of the anxiety around such a sensitive topic.
Thankyou for the insight, Everything I read or see is at the extreme ends of things so a more real human experience put me at ease as this is my end goal
Videos like this teach me no matter how bad you think your life is theres always some nutcase out there sabotaging their bodies, and i instantly thank god im not like them.
Im a cis woman and somehow found your channel. You are beautiful and I really do feel for you navigating sex for the first few times. I really do wish you all the best ❤
In females, ejaculate comes out almost instantly when you sit up or stand up. Can't be good for you when you're "collecting" it in your canal. I guess the canal collapses or has a kind of pouch somewhere? I think maybe it's angled wrong and allows for things to sit in it as opposed to flowing down. I'd get that checked because that doesn't sound right.
Glad for you finally get a good experience after the various letdown stories you have shared. This is all learning experience for the both of you , testing your limits and recall his is above average girth. Most women need time to adjust to the particular mans size .Huggz dear
That is often not true that sex becomes better after genital surgeries. More often, painful sex is permanent, and orgasms are usually not possible, especially if hormonal puberty blockers had been used.
@@SpaceTrashCrash My comment was not for you and the young woman it was for seemed to like it. So you attempting to tell me anything is irrelevant as long as Lee appreciated what I comment.
@@acgayle2494 - This is a public forum, and I did not discount the possibility that the pain will go away. I can't imagine why it offends you for me to warn that more often the physical pains don't go away or merely fades slightly many years later. Please do not ignore the many others dealing with this issue when the pains continue. Trans people matter, and acting like pain is normal for women is damaging. Empathy is to listen to the very real side effects of genital surgeries. You should not be trying to shut down conversation about other people's physical pain caused by genital surgery.
I genuinely feel for you. Sounds a struggle. The problem is that it is not a vagina. It is something surgically constructed and can not replicate a vagina. These surgeons should be in prison
@@thisolddown are you high? My mother and cousin survived cervical cancer and my grandma had her breasts removed an still passed! I'm a woman not a cis woman, and how dare you shame me. This man will never experience having those problems because he doesn't have the parts. People have lots their damn minds. Also I birthed two children, and would never allow my kids to go through any type of surgery unless it was life saving. This transitioning crap is not life saving it's a bandaid that falls off
That's good advice, my husband is always very patient caring, a little foreplay and lots of lubricant, when I'm lubed up I 'm ready to receive him slowly, he gives me complements, it's tighter and dryer than a regular vagina and some guys actually love a tight vag, he can't believe it's surgically created, being with the right guy has been great for my self confidence as a woman.
I get really stressed about sex too. I had to be drunk for most of my sexual experiences so I could chill out. Someday I have to let go without substances!!
Lady chill out, this woman is beautiful & has gone through hell to achieve her goals & what she wants in life, a little respect & courtesy would be great
im preop bottom surgery but concerned about the experience of the partner, are you able to speak a little about how you partner feels? is enjoyable? is it different than a natural vagina? only if you feel comfortable to talk about it ofc
I feel for you. I hope that your body adjusts so that you can have sex with your loving partner. 😊I was born a female or cis and seman usually comes out straight away. I know you said you don't like douching but keep it clean because vagina's keep themselves clean.The vagina is a self-cleaning organ, and people do not need to clean it. Regular douching is unnecessary. People can help keep the area clean and healthy by: using barrier methods, such as a condom. The last thing you want is an infection. 😮💨
It might be wise to use a condom. The decaying semen in your wound might end up becoming a problem at some point. Or does the piece of colon in there absorb it somehow?
@@stuff1784 - Women should never internally douche, as it completely destroys the pH balance, causing yeast infections. I think you must be a man, because all women who have ever been to a doctor knows not to douche.
What your describing isn’t that different to what real women feel when they first have sex. The stress can make everything tight and when you haven’t done something before it takes a bit to get past the initial pain. I think that now you won’t be as stressed you can enjoy it more and more. I’m glad things are working out this time for you.
A woman's vagina self lubricates. Its specifically designed for certain thin gs including interourse. It'll never be remotely similar..... Exit...it self cleans, most importantly.
Stop lying, you can't compare a woman's natural vagina (organ) with an artificial structure (neo-vagina) which is not a vagina and is not an organ. It's an inverted penis (a fuck pocket that allows a male to stick his penis inside an inverted penis).
If all came out instantly, we wouldn‘t concieve 😂, so there’s the reason why it‘s not flowing back out like water instantly. It‘s water&proteins mainly, the „stuff“.
It all comes out eventually, whether it’s the same day, through regular vaginal discharge, with you period or with a baby. It will come out either way, that’s just the way the female body works. It’s gross to think all men’s jizz just stays in there.
The vagina and colon are mucus membranes which are absorbant. The colon's job is to absorb nutrients, so it's more absorbant. Surgical neo-vaginas is are sometimes formed using some of the colon, which is why I bring it up.
@@jamessmith6363 - People are lied to about the many side effects of surgeries and high doses of hormones. This is something you should research on your own time.
Awesome! Glad you were successful! The smile on your face when you mentioned he came was very cute! Hopefully you really enjoy it often now! Everything should work out and you really have fun! Love to be friends?
Did you say that you got a colon lining in your canal so it would self lubricate? I heard those were considered pretty risky and hit or miss as to whether they work. Have you ever experienced other side effects from using that particular tissue?
Lee the human mind is your worst enemy . You can slide your finger tips down to the cliterus area. Can help with sensations. Planning is good. As time goes by you will be able to be more spontaneous and natural. Relax and it will get better
Women have always been told that painful sex is all in the mind, and that has been extremely damaging to women for doctors to ignore the real physical reasons the pain exists. The pain is never from he mind; it's from the scar tissues and reformed nerves which take many years to heal, and damaged or over-exposed nerves often send pain signals throughout life. Needing to relax in order to reduce pain does not make "the human mind your worst enemy". That pain is not normal, and it's a sign of a medical problem which was surgically induced, and medical authorities should be keeping track of these painful or numb side effects which are often permanent and not properly disclosed to potential patients.
@@SpaceTrashCrash a lot of what you said is true. With everything she has gone through being relaxed isn’t going to come naturally. Will have some reservations about anyone touching that area. Which can make it worse. That’s why I said your brain is your worst enemy. But also with multiple surgeries in that region her feelings will not be normal. Her new vaginal canal made from intestines will not have nerve feedings. Intestines don’t have nerves which is why so many people die from perforated or ischemic bowels each year. Another reason why it’s a very risky surgery to have.
