A shining example of why public assistance does not work. Once people are on the dole, they get addicted, they feel entitled, they make demands. Completely forgetting that the assistance they're receiving is out of charity, and that we don't "owe them" a penny. Not everyone on assistance does this, but far too many do. Just gross.
Dude, way to be a damn good Joe, honesty and integrity. Honestly, I would be too much chickenshit to actually man up and apologize like that. Thank you for stories like this, good role modeling! I appreciate it.
Jeff, I love this! keep it up man. I've been in similar situations and I just can't say no. Mean old ladies like that take advantage of nice people willing to help.
I know the feeling Jeff. You're a great guy and that's why I've been subbed so long. Guys like us often get taken advantage of and I don't know how to say no. But I like helping peoples so I keep helping. Take care my friend.
I think that you and your father are great people with big hearts for helping that lady out. I personally still really struggle with standing up for myself, I find it really hard to tell people NO. Hopefully karma came around and bit that old bag in the ass :)
livmadeleine You'll learn to tactfully stand up for yourself in time. I try to help people whenever possible. But when I sense that someone wants to take advantage, I usually say: "I'd love to help you, but it would actually be illegal for me to do so because slavery has been abolished."
Man that's rough. The first second I feel someone is taking me for-granted or trying to pull an angle I start planning an exit strategy. Your a good guy Jeff. When you start getting that feeling there's a reason.
Hey Jeff, Great story and with a lot of impact to me personally. I started helping a young man to work (just a little older than me evan) hoping I could help out... Long story short, I was taken advantage of. I did what I could, but for several months I received no compensation as agreed upon for a few bucks a day. Eventually I learned how difficult this situation can be and decided to cut off my new found "friend" and advised I could no longer help. You've made it easier to understand my frustration and hold me to my true fealings, thanks!
One of the rules I live by that was ingrained into me when I was young is this: If I wouldn't say it to the persons face, don't say it at all. Even in a situation like yours my parents would have made me go talk to her as soon as they knew how I felt about it. I'm not saying you are bad people for what happened (she's the jerk here), but I'm saying for me it's the right thing to do (most of the time). I've been known to do this when I really shouldn't have and have had to climb out of a few shit holes that I dug myself. But as they say, with age comes wisdom and that's what I think this story is about. Thanks again Jeff!
I learned to say 'NO' when I was a wee kid. You won't believe the number of times I have said "no". I have lost a bunch of people over it but hey, true friends don't try to take advantage of you. Just learn to say "no". It makes you a better person than gossiping or taking shit behind backs.
Hey man I'm a kid who loves knives and stories so your channel is awesome and I really like the message of this keep up the good work with your videos they are all great
Such a great story ! I didn't know my wife was listening to me watch this video and I hear her say " he didn't hang up the phone" just before you said it.
Dude, been there, done that, learned my lesson. Good to share, starting to skip payments is a lack of respect and as you said, taking advantage of people worse of. These days, I would have dropped her 2nd payment missed, she knew exactly what shes doing. Lol I wouldn't be embarrassed, its was the truth. She should have been embarrassed for just taking and never giving back.
I hate to say this, but no matter what a child says, to any adult, they will take it as disrespect if they simply dont agree with you or like the statement even if it was completely honest and true
The same thing happened to me. An old guy lived 3 doors down. He's in his 80's and never had kids and no relatives so I offered to cut his lawn for $15 which is half what I normally charge. I was 16 at the time and felt sorry for him because he was alone. Eventually he started asking me to take him to the food store every other week and I did it for free. Then he started asking for favors every weekend, the bank, Thrift Store, doctors office etc. Never did he ever offer gas money but to be fair I never asked for any. He had an old Pontiac Bonneville that he kept tagged and insured but never drove and I thought he would give it to me or sell it at a low price for helping him since I was using my parents spare car. One day the car was gone and I asked what happened to it and he told me that he sold it to the guy at the bottom of our street for $500. The next time he asked me for a ride I told him to ask the guy down the street. He actually went down and asked him and the guy flat out said no and resold the car for $1500 the next week. He asked me for a ride again and I told him my parents didn't want me to use their car anymore and that I need to save up and find a used car to buy. I also mentioned that I only had $500 and couldn't find anything in that price range. He never thanked me and stopped talking to me after that.
great line --rotten people age too - so true rotten people also come in all shapes sizes and variations but fortunately so do good people - enjoyed your story cheers
I've been in the same boat. Moved to Long Island and moved to an apartment complex with an older lady next door. I did tons of stuff for her. The week I was moving out she was demanding me to remove the apartment complex's air conditioner unit from the wall. I told her I can't do that, if something happened I'd be liable (living on the 2nd floor and possibly dropping the wall unit out of the wall.) The day I left she acted so pissed at me I couldn't believe it. That's why I never take any money when I help people. They make it seem like they are actually helping you out, not the other way around.
People have the power over you that you give them. Also there are thankless people out there, do not let them sour you on helping others. Never let someone bring you low enough to hate them.
That's funny. While I enjoy the story, you shouldn't feel so bad. The only shitty thing you did was talk about her behind her back. Never ever talk about someone you're not willing to tell to their face. What a dirt bag lesbian. Good thing you got rid of that headache.
Wow, just went through a very similar situation. This helped me not feel like so much of a bad guy. Sometimes you have to learn how to draw a line between you and someone who only has their own interests in mind.
10:34 "and I'm like ah fuck!" great vid Jeff. Ms. B sounds a lot like a manager I used to have at an auto dealership. She was the detailing manager and I was a detailer, I worked for minimum wage and busted my ass there. When I first started she was nice and seemed like a level headed person, but as the months went by I realized she was not who she seemed to be. My real problems started when she began to take advantage of my kindness (do not mistake my kindness for weakness). I was too scared of the consequences if I spoke up and said something that I would later regret, but I wish I had because she was a bitter little witch. I got out of that place quick and never looked back, and it was one of the best moves I ever made. No more stress.
Great story, had pretty much the same thing happen to me when I got into horses. Deal was he needed some work done around his farm and I'd help out and could keep my horse out there free. Long story short pretty much the same thing, very demanding and eventually got to the point where I didn't have time to spend training my horse because I was doing shit for him. Then the last straw was hearing about him chasing my horse around with a stick and bucket for fun so found another place. It cost a bit for boarding but moved her out the next weekend haven't talked to him since.
No good deed goes unpunished. A wise proverb i have learned long ago. beneficial actions often go unappreciated or are met with hostility. If they are appreciated, they often lead to additional requests.
Actually a good story, I relate very much to being taken advantage of by being nice... You're a decent guy and it's a good learning experience - regards
You crack me up in a big way. I have had similar experiences however. You are right about speaking up. A whole lot of ill will came to you by not being straight with the person. Unfortunately, many times I have seen the truth in the saying "No good deed goes unpunished". With church, volunteering, in the work place, etc. You just have to be able to speak up the very first time it starts to slip into that bad place. If not ,it will never end or even get worse. And the longer it goes the harder it is to say something. I too have talked badly about someone after speaking to them on the phone. Especially on a cell phone. I've cursed and name called, or said to myself or someone with me what I wanted to say to the person but did not have the balls to say directly. Afterwards I discover the cell phone did not hang up. And the person heard what I said. Oops.
LOL... I fricken love the stories. Thanks for sharing. The older we get the less shit we take from others. I ain't got time for that. Bashing on her just pissed her off cause she heard the truth.
That's how a lot of people get to be so wealthy taking every short cut and free thing they can get, taking advantage of peoples good will so they don't have to spend their own money or as little of it as possible.
dude I just found ya on the tube I'm now a sub. I give ya credit for this story I've been there (taken advantage of, sucks!!!) u were cool to admit the chicken shit aspect I've been there!!!! keep up the great vids
I had a job for a neighbour of weeding (which the weeds kept on growing back), mowing lawn and raking up leaves and sticks I spent 2 days there pulling shit loads of prickles out and we made a deal of $50 and I did an excellent job and the weeds never came back and I even swept up all the back yard. It was all because she had to leave her rental house and needed to clean up the backyard. In the end when it came to paying me at the end she only gave me $30 and at the age of 13 I was really disappointed and didn't have the guts to speak up.
When I was in middle school my dad would drive me to school everyday. One year in particular the winter was colder and there was a lot of snow for the area. After a few days we noticed another kid who went to my school and walked there everyday. I barely knew the kid and he was probably a sophomore or junior in high school (my school was 6th to 12th grade). Since the weather was so bad my dad just pulled over and offered him a ride. My dad's truck was a two door pickup and since I was the younger one, I offered to sit in the back even though it was uncomfortable, and I was fine with that. This went on for about week until this kid started telling me to sit in the backseat instead. He wasn't overly rude or anything like that but he told me what to do when it was my property and I didn't have to do anything. My dad took him to school that day but drove past him everyday after. It's a similar situation and it actually kinda shows just how childish the woman is in the story.
Something to take away: You didn't talk sh*t. You thought you were having a private talk with your father. You were taken advantage of by an abusive person, and finally had enough, and needed to vent. She almost certainly didn't care that you said it. She'd have likely heard it before, since she went on using others. You and your father were not the first. Sometimes, feeling bad is a weakness that lets predatory people get to you.
It sounds like she went from grateful to ungrateful. Much like any relationship it always starts off good, and then one person who was originally humble becomes expectant. And you knew that from you feelings, when you went from feeling good because you were helping her to feeling like its no longer a good deed, its an obligation and a chore. I think you have the right to feel resentment. You have the right to vent and feel your feelings. And yes, as bad as it is to get caught talking crap about someone, if the things you were saying about her were true, then there is very little to apologize about. If you have anything to apologize about its not being true to yourself. Its the manner in which she found out your feelings. But not the feelings themselve.
Don't blame yourself Jeff, after 6 months I would have stopped. And the phone call was an accident, you didn't purposely insult her to her face. I enjoy the story time videos.
So i found this channel just recently looking at knifes and stuff and found that this cutlerylover is also an amazing story teller, anyways i just got in to butter fly knifes and want to know a cheep/good training knife and what tricks i should try for a beginner. and just one more time this is a great channel and keep it up.
well never mind i found more videos on the channel that shall help me, i will be watching more tonight and tomorrow and the day after and the day after that day and so on
I know an old person who would go around shops (including my family one) and beg for money and she look quite pitiful and almost convienced me to give her money which i never did as i was not the boss and didnt want any shit from work. a few weeks later we get a new staff whos into gossip turns around to me and goes "theres that lady you dont like, shoulda seen the amount of scratch cards she had the other day" then it all clicked...i know i can be hard but sometimes they need another form of help.
It has been my general experience that the more money someone has, the more stingy they are with it. Take pizza delivery for example, usually smaller houses give you several dollars, but those large, upscale (250,000 dollar plus) houses usually only give you like fifty cents or something.
I had a similar experience I lived in a duplex where the neighbors didn’t have a car so I offered one time to give them a ride then they wanted a ride and use my car everyday eventually I just moved to get away from the situation they never offered one dollar in gas
For situations like this I think it's best to "use" them back like after you take her for the ride ask to have 100 bucks for Bill's that will get rid of people like this fast
I had a friend like that I would always give him rides for free to the gym and back to his house and to places he would call me to hangout , then once he had a car he never ever made contact with me no more and basically didnt need me anymore and started hanging out with our friends and never invited me and would tell them he did and basically used me and now our friends think im a b*tch for not being his friend anymore, Just like you said i only knew him because i was a victim of being used.
I rarely ask for rides, but when I do, I offer money and say "I really appreciate the ride man." I have some friends who never say "Thank you." or anything. They just ASSUME you're there to give them rides.
I get it. My mom had a stroke, not debilitating to the body but her mind is half shot. Despite driving up and down the east coast 4x and moving her in she became paranoid demanding, insulting and mean. She is now in assisted living. The rest of the family grew tired of her games. I still am her taxi, druggist, ferry to doctors, shopping but its better than living with that shell. It sounds mean, you have to experience it.
I used to have a lawn service and the little old ladies were always taking advantage of my kindness. I do not mind helping out but these ladies were being dishonest. It was always something can you do a little extra and or they would just not pay the bill and swear they did and they had more money than me. Then when I stood up for myself I was the bum and they character assassinated me.
What a terrible person, if you feel bad, don't. Though I know how you feel. If that happened to me I wouldn't have been so kind to apologize to a peice of shit like that. I probably would have ripped into her the next day. You did a good thing, I wouldn't have been able to do any better.
It's a shame that this is the way the world is going. People just not caring when they know they are doing the wrong thing. Unfortunately it will catch up to society, and it is, less people will do good because this is happening more and more.
