This is the mentorship I didn’t know I needed today. I’m literally taking notes and bringing things to the surface things I hadn’t thought about before. 👏🏾👏🏾
This message has definitely convicted me. I’m not happy with how I have been taking care of me and I have to get comfortable with showing u p and advocating for myself.
Wow. This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear for a long time. At my worst I am tired and angry because I am needed too much while tired. Definitely need to do some self reflection and figure out my needs before I lose my temper or have a meltdown. Thanks for this video. Self reflection is the beginning of self care.
I am learning to work through Post menopause at 56 and will be a first-time grandmother by this December, which is also my birthday month. So today's message has helped me a great deal. Thank you,, Chrystal
Yes I had planned to spend time today examining my needs because I’ve learned that my anger is an indication of boundary violations, especially toward hubby. Just last night I realized I need mercy and a break from heavy problem solving with tight deadlines ( resolving 3 car accidents-1 accident 3 years in litigation and one about to hit the deadline to start, husband starting new job Monday, private school scholarship deadline yesterday, needed to enroll kids in school, daughters 9th bday party planning this Saturday, and needed to have several dr appointments before our insurance coverage changes.) I CANT BE superwoman anymore. I had to perform CPR on my husband after he and my then 6 year old were hit by a pickup truck while our family of four was walking in the park at our makeshift staycation reprieve a lake in our public park. This was Aug 4, 2022. I was wearing my yellow gold choose joy outfit because I knew I was burnt to a crisp internally. We had not had more than 2 hours of childcare since March 2020, no dates alone together. The morning of that same day i decided to make a deposit in my “trusting God safe” and was gonna use the reprieve location and dare to believe God to keep us safe on a family vacation that I’d been declining since 2020 because of CoVID. Right when I got to my spot the truck came and struck my guys. I’ve been in fix it mode since then. I’m trying to get off the roller coaster. Hubby returned to work after 4 months and then we all contracted COVID for the first time in Dec 2022. I knew he was contemplating resigning knowing we’d lose our health coverage in the midst of all this accident related medical followup and not knowing what COVID would add. I was about to cut my sons hair as I tried to push my body and emotions to remain calm and believe God no matter what (our COVID-flu-RSV test results had not come in yet) I was so convinced my “tough it up” “faith it up” pep talk had worked that I decided to open the results before I starting cutting my sons hair and felt my body go limp when I saw the results. I knew to sit down but then decided I was gonna command my body. I got up to pick up a cup my son dropped in the floor and all I remember was waking up in a cold sweat in between my husbands legs as he spoke anxiously with 911. I even argued about not needing the ambulance saying that I just got anxious about COVID test results, that’s all. I didn’t know i had passed out twice and hit my head both times, my blood pressure had been 88/48 and later learned my iron stores were almost exhausted.. Ambulance came but hospitals were already full with Covid patients so instead of sitting on ambulance for 6 hours parked at ER due to know rooms or hallways. I was able to recline the rest of that day at home but started the next day like it never happened. God was merciful, but three days later hubby quit his job of 25 years, I’d never even been able to get therapy for my back injury in the midst of caring for my hubby and kids. God intervened and an angel hit submit in the insurance application that is placed in the shopping cart days before the fainting job quitting episode. Though I thought I missed the deadline I later learned a couple weeks later the plan had been submitted but now we not only got a credit but we got insurance free because we now qualified for Medicaid. To God be the glory for his present help. Finally in March 2023 we took the long awaited vacation and someone hit my parked car at our very first stop and I spent the rest of the vacation trying to salvage the trip and get our car repaired on st patrick’s day weekend out of town. By the end of the trip hubby felt disempowered and isolated cause I tried to shoulder the burden of the inconvenience and let them feel relaxed, so I ended up driving all the way home after a 3 minute argument with hubby. My leg began aching 15 minutes from home, a leg with history of blood clotting. randomly I had a Dr visit the next day where they discovered I’d developed 3 new blood clots in my leg… But a week later God miraculously (with my husbands assistance) dissolved ALL THREE, and I’m alive. I’ve had blood clots since 2011 right after I turned 30 and during my first year of my doctoral program. My doctors are dumbfounded about why I get the clots because my genetic profile is mostly clear, yet my doctor has resolved that in seasons of incredible stress “you get these clots”. in a strange way these clots are like my emergency evacuation signal , I wish they weren’t there. but because God has spared me I’ve decided to work on listening before the clots manifest. This is yet another multiple significant deadline week and it was Supposed to be a vacation week. I’m not totally the worst version of myself but I see her arising like lava monster on Moana. So Lord have mercy on me and let me not miss the grace. Chrystal as you exhorted/rebuked us, I will sit back and refrain from having all the solutions because I do desire teamwork. Ironically my kids had a choice to act out one of multiple book options this week at public library and their group chose a book called “be quiet” I don’t think the message can get any clearer. Thanks for your obedience to transparently share
I pray that God's grace May abound to you and your family, May He quite you with love and rejoice over you..... You have gone through much, May He rebuild your walls.... Hugs❤
As to what I need… despite my weight (quite plentiforous, heh), have this horrid tendency to forget to eat. Then my glucose level dips dangerously low and I make bad decisions (like buying eye shadow or slimming chocolate from RU-vid adverts lol) or faint or rebound binge. Letting myself slide so much one way facilitates the way to falling into the other extreme. But not so anymore, for this lovely episode made me “metanoia” :) (and not coz my physicians are like “SALLY, you wear a 24 and your glucose is like under 50!! What are in DOING with your life?!!” Lol. Sigh. What indeed lol. May I allow Him To Change what needs changing, and on the double!) thank you as always for great wisdom ♥️🙏✝️
Chrystal, you have incredible insight on sharing what questions we need to ask ourselves! No one needs to think they do not know an honest and sincere friend in this world . . . ever! 🙂 Thankyou for all you give to us all the time. And also, I love when you mention things about your mom, so many good things she gave that continue on. ❤
I am thoroughly enjoying these "coaching" sessions. That's my lens of how helpful these podcasts have helped me. As a "chronic helper," I realize that I am taking the power of critical thinking from others. It goes into high gear when I am "pressed." And turn into a "Control Queen." What an eye-opener. ❤ Thank you!🤗🙏🏾
Just started doing this. I haven’t made time to myself in so long and my first walk alone in awhile brought tears to my face. that time alone is so crucial and I regret thinking it wouldn’t make a difference during this depressive season. going through a separation and I know God will lead me during this time.
I pray for the healing of your minivan, sister Chrystal! Going through that with my Avalon (which is also discontinued :’( or maybe God Wants To Bless us both with Benzes lol.
Good Morning Chrystal This Is Part 2 Contiuning To Watch💪🙏❤🦋!!!! THIS IS SO CONFIRMING AND A TIMELY WORD BOUGHT FORTH🙌😭💪🙏❤🙌🔥🦋!!! Thank You For Your Obedience , Transparency and Freedom To Be Unapologetically YOU🙌❤🙌❤🔥🔥🔥!!!
Thank you Chrystal for your gift of speaking truth! ❤ I am always enlightened by what you share. It's so comforting to know that through your obedience, God is opening a pathway to reveal His message at the exact time that it is needed. This will be a topic for my journal writing... who am I when I am pressed, nervous, and uncomfortable? Thank you again!
Great job Chrystal! I saw your Converse! They look good with that outfit! My feet look like boats in Chucks, so I'm a Puma girl lol! So to your message, I appreciate you and each member of your Evans family (mom, dad, sister and brothers). Y'all have given me timely perspectives throughout every season of my life. Keep doing what the Lord gifted you to do ❤ I will keep rockin' with you 😊
God keeps asking me to do my own “shadow” work. This talk was confirming and motivating. I need to be in the inner circle because this was good stuff!!❤
Later I shared this at an event for the women of our Church, and all I can say is the post testimonies, stories of convictions, and the release was truly amazing. Thanks again!!!!!!❤Your shared wisdom and teaching is making a difference and helping to change lives for the better.
I am unsure what I need. I have been seeking Abba for the answer but I feel blocked, I feel like I’m missing something. I’m not sure if it is the enemy distracting me this time or not.
