Strict Dating Rules From The 1950s We No Longer Follow 

Still have my fraternity pin from my beloved Eddie from over 50 years ago!💕. Then came the engagement ring, the wedding ring and then sadly he was drafted and I lost him in Viet Nam. Great memories keep him alive in my heart everyday 💕🍀 Love my Screaming Eagle🇺🇸

I'm really old fashioned. I only date someone who can bring me treasures from the gods and the heads of my enemies, provided they can answer my riddles three. I'm a classy gal.

According to my grandmother, if you visited your boyfriend's house, you weren't allowed in his bedroom, at all. And you couldn't wear any kind of nightwear around them.

1950: You get a guys school pin to prove your dating him 2020: You take a guys hoodie to prove your dating him

"As a woman you could not order your own food on the date." -Me a woman with extreme anxiety and asks my friends if they can order for me

My husband was brought up in an old fashioned way. His mother taught him to ask for permission to date a girl, go introduce yourself to her family and when you go to collect her for the date - don’t wait in the car! Knock on the front door and ask if she is ready to go out. We’ve been together 13 yrs and I still find it so precious that I married an old fashioned gentleman! I find that whole “dont talk about yourself” thing so rude!! Everyone should feel comfy to talk a bit about themselves.

Spend seven dollars a month?! I want to date in the 1950's

I love how they spoke back then, I wish we still spoke with that more formal kind of accent now.

Legend says if you're early Jessica will heart your comment....

*me thinking how strange it is for the guy to order Me remembering my mom orders for me 1/2 the time even though I'm 16 bc anxiety

Are you okay Jess? (You mentioned who doesn't dye or cut their hair when going through a crisis) If you ever need anything just dm me, okay?

here in the Philippines, we have this called "Harana" where the boy sings in front of the girl's house/porch to ask her hand, and also we still introduced our boyfriends/girlfriends to our parents. ..I'm sorry if my English is quite bad. I'm not that good in english. but I'm happy i could share this information ^^

A lot of gals don't realize that rules like "let him talk first" is actually a great idea, you can tell a lot about how considerate a person is by how long it takes them to ask you about your day. Also the "order your food thing" shows you how well he listens and pays attention to your needs, If someone didn't ask you about your day or was obviously not listening when they place your order you could know right away that there would not be a date #2. My husband can order for me without asking no matter what restaurant we go to, not because I get the same thing all the time but because he really understands my needs and preferences, he has been doing this since day 1. On our 4th date when i returned to the table after using the restroom and saw the exact drink i wanted and the appetizer i wanted on the table without me ordering it, at that moment I knew he was a very attentive person. The older i get (35) the more i realize these "old fashion norms" were actually really good ways to find out about a person's character very quickly and were actually really smart. Now a days we spend so much time on surface level things like hobbies, and favorite books but don't have many "norms" to help us figure out someone's character besides how they treat the waiter. As a 30 something married gal, let me give young ladies advice, figure out the guy's ethics and character, observe his action, not what he says. A lot of these old customs are great ways to see what a man is made of.

I like the one where you have to schedule dates in advance. I feel that is more considerate to peoples times

A woman couldn't really talk about her day and her feelings and she couldn't order food? This is the so called "good old days?"

It's crazy to me how much dating has changed over the years. Imagine how much easier dating would be today. If every told you there intentions from the start. Lol I of course can't image having so many rules pressed upon me.

I'm still a little old fashioned because I love when my date asks me out, orders for me, and pays for me 😁😂

My boyfriend has a bit of 50s in him when it comes to dating. He believes that you have to meet parents before or early on in dating to ask permission, and he believes that he should pay for everything when we go out or get food. I know that he's only being polite, but I'm stubborn and don't want to feel like a mooch, so we always fight about the latter. We've made more cashiers than I'd like to admit nervous because we both hold out money and insist that they take ours. We finally came up with a passive-aggressive way to do this in private by allowing the other person to pay, but slipping money into their backpack or guitar case. Yeah... I don't think I would have had a dating life in the 50s.

Girl I spot that Marilyn Monroe eyeliner trick! pls do a Marilyn transformation!

As a lesbian, my relationship would have been against ALL the rules. Lol.

You’re baby bangs look so cute 🙂

I'm so untraditional I don't think I would survive dating life in the 50s lmaoo I think I would offend too many people 🙈🙆🏻‍♀️

if we could just bring back the 50’s aesthetic and leave literally everything else behind that would be great

We still have most of these "unspoken" rules in Russia. It's bad to ask a guy out on dates and also offer to pay for food a big NO. And I still tell my bf what I wanna get in a restaurant. If you say the order yourself nothing bad happenes but its uncomfortable for me personally and a bit rude, because boyfriend pays for this not me.

if a girl said yes or no immediately after I asked her out, I’d be very suspicious lol it seems many things have changed :0

See I went out with a guy a few years ago and he said I’ll order it for you I thought it was quite nice that he did that I didn’t find it awkward at all

I just want someone who loves me, I dont care if there will be rules. Thanks Jessica, you make me happy!💕

I'm the kind of girl that wants a guy to court me :) and yes, he'll meet my parents from the start. I guess I'm just a bit old fashioned hehe. P.S. please tell us where you got your outfit! I love it!

1:49 Crybaby! I love that movie.

"I think she wanted a burger with a lotta sauce" "no a little bit of sauce" 😂😂💔

I can‘t order my own food? I can‘t talk about how my day was? Sounds fun 😬

My husband and I started dating when I went up to him and said "I like you, would you be my bf?". (He said yes! This year is our 10th anniversary). I talk "too much" and def paid for the dates! So, even if I'm into 50s fashion I'd never fit to the culture. 😅

Honestly, I would still rather date in the 50’s before I date in this era

well, my granny said that her "date" in the 50s was a forced marriage k

Some of these I'm glad died out (ex: girl can't ask a man first, order their own food, pay dutch). Others I kind of miss (guys showing restraint and respect on dates, "going steady" to define an exclusive relationship, not getting drunk/wasted and making your date uncomfortable). Basically no matter your gender, just be a decent person on a date.

I'm a gentleman in quarantine questioning life on how could I date now... Also, it makes me happy to see I'm not the only one who loves old fashioned things

I wish the 2 days in advance warning for meeting up was more of a thing now (in general rather than just for dates) especially if people are going to come over

I really like the ideas of going steady and getting a pin, making dates at least two days in advance, and meeting the parents early on.

I'm an old timer. "Going Dutch" means you each pay for your own (meal, movie ticket, etc.) not that the girl pays for the whole date (as it sounded that you said, maybe I misunderstood). I think that the guy ordering was too be considerate of his budget, not that the girl was not allowed to speak in public. Also, things were much simpler then, more considerate, common courtesy, and a girl wouldn't have such a picky food order out would be a burger and fries ans a coke or shake. And the burger wasn't a double quarter pounder with bacon and cheese, lol. So simple.

My husband orders all my food at restaurants mostly because my voice is so quiet the waiters can never hear me. Plus it's just more convenient to put in the entire order all at once. Also my parents always wanted to meet my dates while I was living in their house, since I was a minor it makes sense. Most of these I've (and my boyfriends) always followed anyway, maybe they're not that arcane! 😅😅😅

WHEN YOU PLAYED A SCENE FROM CRYBABY I SQUEALED I LOVE THIS

My parents still make me live by these rules and I'm 22

I love how personal this felt, like you were actually remembering how it was and telling all of us. Especially when you said "that sucks" at the end and then kind of awkwardly laughed and looked down; I felt like I was watching a girl that had really been a part of such a society that didn't really care about her as a person. It was kind of heartbreaking and beautiful at the same time

My family is very traditional about dating and I agree with them on it.

I wish the "introduce your parents" rule was still a thing because man is it a great way to avoid some of the guys my friends and I have met. My husband sometimes orders for me but only because we're at a drive thru and he's driving lel.

I wish it was still like this in many of the ways.

It would be so cool if you did another video like this, talking about social life in the 50's, but you interview your gramma or some lovely nursing home residents.

My husband generally orders for me lol. It doesn't seem weird to me because I'm so used to it.

“You introduced your date before the date. That’s crazy” it’s very similar to the only dating rule in my house. They have to ask my dad for permission before they ask me out.

I like the politeness and gentleness and tests to make sure their intentions were true, but the pressure put on the guys and the helplessness of the girls is a lot.

I don't find any of these strange. In fact the meeting parents rule makes so much sense. (and the drinking rule too) It shows respect to her parents and it means you're not taking the relationship as a joke. Everything has meaning. I was raised very traditional and was always told to let the woman do most of the talking. She's more important.

Thank you so much for this video! I learned so much and I am grateful a lot of these rules don't exist anymore. :)

Well I must be living in the 50’s lol because I still do 60% of this. I always play hard to get. Men love a challenge. I still introduce to my parents, when in a restaurant I never order my food as I thought it was common and courteous for a man to order. I don’t like showing affection out and about lol always thought it was a bit cringe. I’m only 27.

My grandmother is a very classy 50s lady who raised my mother this way so I was raised to follow a lot of these rules!! (especially the meeting thembefore going on a date rule) the PDA rule and most of the others still aply or at least I was told to respect them (all except the food ordering and not speaking your mind)

these strict dating rules are the reason why so many relationships worked and why so many old people are still married nowadays with their first sweetheart

The whole introducing them to the parents thing I totally understand because my father is very old-school and he made me do that every time I was interested in a guy

Although i would love a guy being so respectful all of these rules are mainly strictly against women and how they look in the eyes of everyone that just sucks i love old time eras but i just hate the way women were treated

I love the vintage footage that you used for your evidence 😀 Also I hope you feel better about the stuff you are going through👍🏼

Honestly if a guy didnt let me pay for my own things or talk about my day I would flat out leave him.

I WILL ORDER FOOD IF I WANT! So happy I live now.

Having been married a few years now, here is my checklist of those items. 1. Pinned her with a WW2 pilot's pin when we started dating. Everyone knew I liked WW2 as a topic and giving this to her made it obvious to everyone - Done 2. Asked her out first after formally hanging out with a group - Done 3. Scheduled a date before the we went somewhere. It gave us something to prepare and look forward to doing - Done 4. Did not meet parents until later - Failed 5. We ordered our own food - Failed (not really a failure, though) 6. Always covered the food. I'm not an animal - Done 7. ...yeah... 8. I've actually asked for no affection in public. Didn't know this was a rule. - Done 9. LOL, what universe does that happen in? Me, my dad and my grandfather have always sat on the couch nodding our heads as they talk. - Failed

I actually like these rules better it’s just showing RESPECT! & I love that.

“People don’t like to babysit people” Me: *laughs in CNA*

I can’t tell you how much I adore your posts. I love that era and I appreciate other who do also and help bring it back 🥹🤍 xx

I would’ve been a rebel back in hose days!

Oh my goodness I followed some of these rules without knowing!

“I’m sorry Bill but I can’t go to drive inn tonight my mother wants me to clean fridge”

I noticed that on 1950s shows when they were ordering food. The guy would order for the girl and I’d be so confused.

Me in the 50's: *Goes against almost everything except over drinking and asking the guy out because anxiety*

Our family still does the whole family thing they need to know who I'm dating and if they don't like him they'd kick him out.

"we no longer follow...…" guess you've never met my pArEnTs.

Seriously the cutest woman alive! I was literally thinking about how much I love your hair when you said you did it yourself. The content was super interesting too, thanks!

I feel like me and my boyfriend still carry some of these values today 🥰

Honestly, you just earned a new subscriber! I love how it doesn’t matter if you’re old fashioned or not when it comes to you and you accept everyone! I myself love the 70s/80s and would love to live in that period of time! I also love other periods but 70s and 80s are my favorites!❤️❤️❤️

I started dating and i am very vintage most of these I am doing lol

Love your channel! I think some things don't change -- men still like to be the ones pursuing and not being pursued, I as a parent wouldn't let my minor daughter go out with a guy who didn't come to the door and introduce himself, getting drunk in public IS trashy (for anyone), as are PDAs. Ordering food and the man speaking first, glad those are gone.

OMG YOU ARE AMAZING

I’m down with bringing back the advance notice for plans and dates. I hate when things are sprung on me, and it’s nice to have a few days to mentally and emotionally prepare for something.

The part of wearing a ring to symbolize that you date is super common where I live! **countryside** Even 13 year olds with their first boyfriends use it! And the man ordering food and not the woman too, most waiters don't even like talking directly to women because some men are very offended 🙄

Ha! I laughed when you said that "We no longer follow the rule of introducing all our dates to our parents." My parents are VERY strict on meeting the guy BEFORE I go on a date or even befriend someone. :/

I find some of these pretty patriarchal ; I’d totally not be the ideal person in the 50s 🤔

I feel like I came out of this decade. My parents were always strict. They always needed to know who I was going out with and was there a chaperone and who, the man always had to ask the girl out in my family, the woman never paid, I had to know about the plans at least 2 days ahead or God forbid my parents decide to make plans for me to help them in any way and I go out instead of helping. Also wasn't allowed to be drunk in public(my parents' rules, not the bf). Lately I've been fighting some of these rules but because they were so ingrained in me I don't even realize that they're still there, these self boundaries.

What do I care, now days women can order and pay for themselves. The good news is "I just saved a whole bunch of money on my car insurance."

If only I've known this 15 yrs ago Thank you you've made me want to learn more about history and culture and dating and what not❤️❤️❤️❤️

Aww... Jessica I love you! You’re my favorite RU-vidr! You’re the only RU-vidr that I can find that’s so much like me! I love your videos!! 💕💞

My parents raised me very traditional, I never knew why I didn’t give my own order to the waiter. My husband used to get upset when I’d tell him. This video cleared that up for me.

Everything but the last point my boyfriend and I unconsciously have followed 😱 but I need to speak my mind too!

The little curly bit of the side of your bangs is the cutest thing ever!

People actually respected each other

Nice to see someone else on this platform that appreciates old school styles.

I like these rules

I just realised that I basically still follow most of those rules unintentionally XD including not ordering my own food

Am I the only one who wants these standards re-introduced into mainstream society?

Woah its so interesting to hear about these kinds of rules and such as someone in a modern rolereversal relationship. I pay for everything, was the one to initiate the relationship and our first kiss etc.

I love the content you come up with, it’s always so unique 💕

My boyfriend never lets me pay for anything when we’re together. He’s Japanese and thats still a social rule in Japan. I saved so much money once I started dating him 😆

"The guy should be the one to order your food." Introverts watching: Wow, I wish they still do this rule today

I pretty much follow all of these except the ordering rule and "the guy has to talk first" rule

also omg I love your style it’s so cute ♡

The thing with the pin that the girls would wear. That changed a bit seeing as how I'm in highschool currently. The girl gives the guy a scrunchie to show that. It's cute and kinda funny