Striking is inherently feminine. Wrestling is inherently masculine 

There is going to be a teenager somewhere that sees this in their recommended and dedicates their life entirely to wrestling

Your description of high school wrestling reminded me of high school swimming. Training hard two hours in the morning, then off to class, then doing martial arts after school. Man, I don’t know how I survived high school.

Being infertile due to thyroid disease has changed my concept of masculinity drastically. I lack an adequate hormonal masculine state, but my family looks to my example and I never back down from a challenge. I remember being a younger man with functioning libidinous energy and presence, and it feels like I now occupy all the same responsibilities of the male role model with none of the hormonal responses that facilitate and reward being a patriarch. It’s a unique kind of loss that few will ever understand. I train as a striker, and it really resonates with me that my techniques and tactics got easier to implement well when I felt my testosterone first reduce. I was more relaxed and fluid, less ego driven, more cunning, more able to read the opponent, anticipate their movements, and move in harmony to neutralize them. When I cross trained in BJJ, I did notice a familiar masculine energy and cameraderie that I missed so badly it caused me grief.

This is culturally specific. You grew up in a place with a high school wrestling culture. I’m British, and here, the tradional “manly” “martial art” that young men would gravitate to would be boxing. Go back to my parents generation, who grew up in the 50s & 60s, and that’s basically all there was.

I think the reason most women don't do wrestling so much is because most women are not so serious about MMA or martial arts and they don't want to get so intimately close to random male strangers.

It's the reverse here in the Philippines. If you grapple as a guy, you are considered "homosexual" and "feminine" because "real men only boxe and kick their way out of adversity". Lol the amount of street fights I saw first hand always ends up the assailant grabbing the other guy on a clinch when they got overwhelmed by lazy jabs and haymakers because they always head-hunt, and try their very best effort to hold on to dear life so their friends can jump on the other fellow. It's so funny they claim that grappling is for the weak and always ends up hugging the other so his friends can beat up their rivals as fast as possible 😂

I think that all young men should watch this video. You’ve made many good points in this video. Those of us who grew up without a father, need something like this.

Yeah, rolling around on the ground with sweaty guys is "masculine."

Perhaps I am a paranoid or pessimistic person, but as you often produce videos every few days, I had become worried you might have been taken off to an isolation camp after Covid testing. I am more pleased than usual to see this video. :D

This reminds me of a lecture I listened to years ago (given by Fabrice Cognot I think) about a 15th century pollaxe treatise. He mentioned that in medieval France, striking with the hands was considered feminine, while grappling was masculine. I thought it a strange concept at the time, so it kinda stuck in the back of my head.

I agree, I think grappling takes large arms and shoulders which lends itself to masculine bodies.

I disagree that striking is inherently feminine, but I do agree that it is less masculine then something like wrestling. Even bjj may be less masculine then wrestling. It’s because wrestlers while they do use technique, they are also focusing much more on strength , taking risks, and powering through then other martial arts during matches. Wrestling is based off aggressive technique. It’s almost if not probably impossible to win a wrestling match if your not aggressive and trying to dominate your opponent. Wearas things like striking or bjj you could be more laid back, and use more technique, leverage, and defensive strategies to win fights and your just not forced to be as aggressive as you possibly can like in most wrestling matches. But that’s why striking + bjj + wrestling is such a good build . Since you have the technical ability of striking and bjj with the aggressiveness of a wrestler .

This is a great video. I watched a lot of your content, but this really took the cake. A lot of my old football teammates were wrestlers as well that helped trained me. This helped transfer my skills to actual grappling martial arts when I trained, and people thought I grew up as a wrestler all my life. So I resonated with what you said.

Counterargument: To my intuition it's the other way round. Striking is about power and precision, wrestling is about attrition and a less instantaneous kind of strength (women are less physically powerful but better at survival). Striking also maintains boundaries and separation between the bodies of the combatants and the winner is always clear; wrestling is about getting all tangled up with your opponent (intimate, even) which is feminine. Striking is standing up, wrestling is etc. I think you're wrong to characterise that 'distance' idea inherent to striking as feminine, 'distance' is a masculine thing - in philosophy Nietzsche and others have written about the principles of Apollo vs. Dionysus (and Camille Paglia takes those to literally mean masculine vs. feminine) and Apollo is of course the god of archery(precisely striking distant things) and prophecy (seeing distant things), he's all ABOUT distance. 'Distance' describes the typical male approach to problem-solving and to life in general, keeping a rational distance and not getting emotionally tangled, offering problem-solving instead of emotional support - how many times have we heard women make this complaint? Whereas women typically get more emotionally involved (entangled) in their problems and those of others like a grappler. As I typed this, particularly the sentence about the winner being clear in striking - it occurred to me also that chess is like striking and Go is like wrestling.

This, right here, may be your most motivational upload in a while… This video needs to be more viewed and be understood… Thank you.

I can't say I agree. I think fighting is a masculine thing no matter what. As a BJJ brown belt and former high school wrassler I find grappling to be more feminine due to things that I feel like someone will try to cancel me for if I say LOL. I think the inherent understanding of this shows in how women were taught to wrestle throughout history as a form of leisure/last ditch preparation for invasion. I think to explain the lack of women in the grappling class is that people today are generally a lot less comfortable with close contact. On top of that women typically don't want to grapple with men, but in many cases they also just don't want to do a women's only BJJ class. But who knows.

Yeah, Sonny Liston and George Foreman punching a heavy bag is the most feminine thing I've seen in my life.

Here's a counter-argument. Striking is also masculine, because the goal isn't to cuddle like in grappling, but to ideally knock your opponent out. Its inherently much more dangerous of an art than grappling. Femininity is the opposite of danger seeking behaviour. Masculinity on the other hand.. Also most women have serious issues about hurting someone (physically) or being hurt in return, which you need to focus on doing in striking. Thats the whole point, hurt them really bad if you can before they hurt you. Also, my local BJJ club has the most women out of all. My boxing club has 0 women, and I've been here for 5 years and I haven't seen a single aspiring female boxer to ever walk through them doors. Theyre all in the cardio-boxing class. The thai boxing club next door has a few girls.

This was awesome. I got into mma as an adult. Before I did, I saw grappling very differently. However, I get it 100%! Thanks for this post! Time to train!!!

Striking is about distance control, grappling is closing the distance in the most favorable position for a take down. Short stabbing sword like Gladius was not the weapon of the upper classes, longer cavalry swords and officer core level swords were of the upper classes and required specific training. Strong core was needed for line troops that directly closed with the enemy forces, grappling is the best way to build a strong core, but at the same time heavily built up core limits agility that's required for sword fighting. Historically best sword/saber/fencing fighters are slender and agile. A man that's properly trained in edges weapons is superior in delivering fatal damage to any given variation of hand to hand combat trained men.

The average grappler be like

I definitely agree with the sentiment of keeping good traditions. I think younger generations get the wrong idea about these "masculine" values in large parts because of the toxic ways in which they're often taught. Young americans now days are burnt out on the idea that "hard work is it's own reward" because we can now see how the hard work of americans, and to an even greater extent people in developing countries is exploited. Many baby boomers in the USA (including my grandpa who I look up to greatly.) Use the vales of hard work to justify capitalist exploitation, holding the belief that one should be grateful to their employers just for giving them a job. I think there is a lot of good in these old fashioned values, but for the modern individual, there needs to be some modification. I will never be thankful to those who exploit my labor for profit, but I will always be thankful to god/the universe for every job and opportunity that comes my way. I will never be ok with how normal working closer to 80 hours a week than 40 is becoming again, but I will always admire those with the strength to sacrifice so much of their body and soul to scrape by. Also I think it's very important to work extra hard outside of your job, because then your labor isn't being exploited, and all the value you provide is going directly to the community members you are helping. Physical strength is similar, because people often associate strength with bodybuilding and vanity and trying to be better than others, when strength is more about being better than yourself, and having the ability to help your community. Sadly life is hard. I'm a young man, and recently I made the choice to stop going to jiujitstu. It's expensive, and I spend so much time working for survival and working for the good of my community that it's hard to make it to class. I'm not going to stop lifting weights, because it's so much cheaper, and bring strong helps me perform better. Instead of being angry, I try to be thankful, cause over all I'm very lucky, and this struggle has made me look deep inside myself. Like most people, I started martial Arts because of super hero fantasies, but because of all the introspection I've had to do, I've realized that real life super heroes are people like my grandpa, who help other in a system that punishes generosity. I won't be fighting, but I will for sure be training. I'll be honing my mental and physical skills to the max in order to be the most helpful person possible. And I'll do my best to help tech these "masculine" values to people of all genders. Thank you for sharing your wisdom online, it's been very valuable in my personal struggles.

I agree with your point, that in the vast majority of cases, women tend to prefer striking. But, something that you might find as surprising as I did: as the dean of a campus in China, I decided to introduce no-gi grappling to the students here, as there is nowhere nearby this campus for the kids to practice, so I just decided to share my knowledge in an after-class club. My first two sign-ups were girls! I was genuinely surprised! But happy, want to see more ladies get into this sport.

I have a really hard time seeing striking as feminine, on the basis that, when it comes down to it, there's a really large difference in how hard the average woman can hit compared to the average man. The average man might have something like 50% more upper body strength compared to the average woman, but in my experience at least, the difference in striking force tends to be a lot larger than that. And the difference in ability to endure the physical punishment of blows seems even larger. If it's not being treated as a counterpoint to grappling, I think that if people were ranking activities by their "feminine" character, striking, or physically hitting people with one's limbs and enduring blows, would be pretty well down towards the bottom of the list. Things can be complementary counterpoints without falling into masculine vs. feminine roles.

So, the manliest form of wrestling is pro wrestling. You're not only manly enough to close the distance and get personal to harm your opponent, you're also manly enough to harm yourself bumping. While wearing a brightly colored singlet.

I think we can all agree that wrestling is inherently masculine, and I personally agree that feminine traits are not negative traits. But with that all said, you didn't present a single argument as to why Striking is feminine - you mentioned that striking is about keeping distance from danger, but also did not explain how this is a feminine trait or not. So I could (for the sake of argument and playing devil's advocate) say that wrestling is more feminine, as when you mount another fellow martial artist, you are reducing to the highest degree the amount of damage they can do to you. Or I could argue that masculinity requires people to ward off danger - as to keep danger away from our families, instead of embracing it, so the trait you described as being feminine is actually masculine etc. All of the other features of wrestling you cited seem to be also true about striking or any type of fighting - hard work, power etc., so I don't get how this could be used to mount an argument that wrestling is masculine and striking is feminine. My opinion is that both are inherently masculine, and that's that. But of course, since you did not make it clear whatsoever - this is not something I can argue without you laying specifically what 'is' masculinity and what is feminality.

So being successful at striking doesnt require strength, athleticism, and hard work? But doesnt every sport? I think if anything striking is the MOST masculine because it also requires the will to do serious violence and damage against others. If you dont think that that is a masculine trait, then why are the majority of people in prison for violent crimes men? Why are the vast majority of people in war men? In fact this is where striking martial arts originated, and exactly who it was for. How can you say that the goal of wrestlers is to be the danger as an argument? A striker is much more likely to have that mentality than a wrestler. What am i in danger of from a wrestler? Some guy laying on top of me? I think the reason we dont see women in wrestling is because the average person doesnt realize the utility of wrestling as a martial art or something that can be used for self defense. In my experience even actual wrestlers themselves just think of it as a sport. And aside from that, women are going to have a proclivity to be more uncomfortable having a sweaty guy physically dominate them. Plus nobody wants to wear a singlet, woman least of all.

This is making me introspect about my own journey as a martial artist and a psychologist. I'm thinking of the ideas of learning, categorising and then dissolving into your being here, with respect to what is/can be considered as masculinity and femininity

In HEMA we wrestle as well. Not really a whole lot of striking b/c 1) the masters assumed youd have a weapon & 2) punching people w/o protecting hands can break them which on a battlefield = your a done biscuit. We train wrestling & disarms w/ daggers etc b/c in war that's what your more likely to encounter.

I totally agree here. I've noticed, when it comes to training, a lot of guys seem to enjoy the locking, grabbing, and throwing portions of training more than the girls do. Also, there's a lot more girls training in arts involving striking I've noticed. My personal theory is kinda similar to yours. I think the reason they feel this way is because they feel like they want to run from the danger. But also because they don't like touching people unless they want to. Where as men are more hands on and aren't afraid of getting roughed up.

Grappling gives the biggest advantage to the bigger stronger person. If you cant control a single arm of your opponents with both of yours, the only option you have are chokes. And then they only have to defend against one thing.

Mind blown 🤯 it makes so much sense!!! I think deep down we all know this is true. I’ll never look at the yin and Yang symbol the same way again. I will be signing up for grappling asap!!!

I had a coach in high school who had just this sentiment. He had a gym elective that was laws and combatives for self defense. He was a well rounded fighter former D1 wrestler, Black Belt Judoka and proficient in Muay Thai and Kyokushin Karate. I saw first hand the men picked up the grappling and short clinch striking(knees, hooks, and uppercuts from the clinch.)women picked up long striking(kickboxing)

Really nice content, man. Thanks.

I guess Mike Tyson is definition of a woman

My partner does Mui-Thai and British Boxing, where I trained in "traditional" as far as it can be in Japanese Jui-Jitsu within the WJJF. We train together at home with exercise, and her routines in boxing and techniques in Mui-Thai. She likes to challenge me, and I talk her ways out of the moves she's learnt to be victorious in a real life scenario if someone did her moves against her in a street fight.

That's why I usually use my striking skills against women and my grappling skills with men

Your voice is so soothing, you would be perfect as a radio speaker !

The answer is “collar and elbow wrestling”. That is the jacketed form of wrestling that was arguably the most popular sport in America on the 18th century. George Washington was a practitioner. A lot like judo. Many of the same throws as judo but with English names. O Soto Gari for instance was a “forward back heel”. Ippon Seoi Nage was a variation of the “Flying Mare”. Basically every culture in which jackets have been when have had a historical form of jacket based wrestling, with the lineage of the American collar and elbow style likely being traced back to Ireland. In Scotland a closer range variation of grappling called “backhold” was more popular. Thanks for the video. Always love to hear about other cultures’ approaches to grappling and see just how much they have in common.

"What is power other the capacity to perform work?" Given the context, this goes so hard.

GSP learned how to wrestle as an adult and he is a karate guy raking wrestlers like Matt Hughes down.

How dare you, I'm more of a striker than a grappler and I'm as masculine as I can be... You're absolutely 100% right, I need to do more grappling.

"What is power, if not the capacity to do work?" Wow, Ramsey, you sound like a physicist now.

This resonates very well with me. Having transitioned from Striking to cross train in wrestling and BJJ, there's truth in this. I get it. Infact, I should just "get out and train!"

Well, i guess I'm bi

To my grandma (RIP), boxing is how men fight, wrestling is how women fight. We're a Filipino family. She's also a farmer who didn't get any formal education and lived through WW2.

Ramsey, I honestly think you made this video just to get the "Grappling is gay" dudes to start grappling! 😆 I train both grappling and striking 50/50 and like them both but c'mon. Don't get me wrong I agree with alot of what you said in this video but something's are just way to out there. Strikers are not hard working fighters? Have you met Thai (Muay Thai) fighters, or Dutch kickboxers? And hardworking is more masculine than feminine? I mean we're not talking manual labour here but general hardwork! I don't think gender has something to do with that trait. Anyway, i always enjoy your videos wether i agree with what you're saying or not. 🙂

I have been training in gong fu (shaolin initially and then wudang)and muay thai for about 6 years now and over the years, I have come to realize that most the gong fu is mostly a grappling art, and the strikes and sweeps involved are merely weapons/options used to open up opportunities to pin the opponent in a lock(I am yet to come across any ground game in gong fu/wushu) or employ a takedown or slam them on the ground. In essence, I have been developing a balance in my fighting style without even realizing it. Thank you for this beautiful nugget of wisdom, coach!

The predators catch their prey to complete them (wolf, lion, etc.), the prey defends itself by hitting the predators (herbivores with horns). Someone weaker will seek to get away from danger, he will strike. Someone strong will try to approach, he will grab and be the danger. The woman is weaker she hits and the stronger man he catches.

Many people in these comments are losing the forest for the trees. Especially some women have taken feminine to be an insult when its just a difference. Women and men are complimentary to eachother. Striking and grappling are complimentary to eachother. Some also say it needs to just be kept to yin and yang and not masculine and feminine but yn and yang IS female and male. Thank you for sharing this

Best male strikers are quite feminine. Floyd Mayweather, Anderson Silva, Israel adesanya. I'm not saying they are not masculine but they have a certain flamboyance.

I really like your channel. As a young kid and teenager, I was able to fight very well, instinctively. There were three types of situations where these fights would happen. 1. Two groups of gangs, where threats could happen from many directions. In those days, bringing a weapon was seen as a violation of a masculine honor code, as a result almost nobody brought a weapon, but if they did, time to scatter, if it wasn't a gun. Avoiding knives, chains and bats are skills. Fortunately, I didn't have to face a gun in those circumstances, but have faced guns before. 2. The apparently isolated person that insists on having a fight. This is the most dangerous. Do you take them on as an excellent fighter? With hoodlum gangs in abundance, extreme caution needed to be used. You could be fighting another excellent fighter, setting a trap -- while you engage. Usually, some bs reason for the fight starts and is the clue to clear out, "did you say something to me?" No you answer. "Well I heard you call me @*#&(#" I didn't say anything. By then, if you are not looking for an escape route, you are a fool. With 5 or 6 gang goons closing off both ends of the block, you might not be leaving in good shape. Being on the track team is more important than fight skills. I know because I have been caught before, I have also escaped. 3. Forty sometimes more than a hundred, force a fight, there were strict rules on how the fight would start; knocking a stick off the other person's shoulder or step over the line. There were no rules to the fight except no running from the fight the crowd would beat the living hell out of the runner, and no weapons. Punching, gouging, kicking, kneeing, elbowing, throwing, tripping, anything you could physically do was ok, although biting was frowned on, but bite the hand in your mouth. these were fights to the finish. Somebody had to say they give up, and the fight was immediately over. I would look for an angle, and try to be a lawn mower and strike them down, and if necessary trip or throw them down. These fights could go on for a long time 30 minutes or more. With two "I never give up" types, both would be completely gassed out. I found my best friends that way. The same spirit as the Thrilla in Manilla, without the skill level. There was budding masculinity, a male honor code, and respect on the street. You felt good, confident and manly. You belonged. You bring up an interesting point about femininity; controlling distance. I understand you, yet there are those who walk other strikers down and destroy them. I learned that the farthest engagement was from striking, and you went after them, sometimes wrestling wouldn't happen. Sometimes only a couple of missed punches would be thrown and wrestling would go on and on. The little wrestling I did was in high school, and the training felt like 400 meter training, total exhaustion. One thing not brought up is how weapons and guns in particular have feminized what remains of masculinity at least in this country (America). American males have become dangerous, compulsive, impulsive and effeminate, with every pansy armed with a gun, desperate to be dangerous with cowardly power. Many, emboldened by their guns, have become loud, boorish and aggressive. If a country wants to feminize its male population, hand out cocaine and guns, and they'll be sissy fruit ready in a couple of years. I am repulsed by most young American males of today, except those that compete, at least in something. Vidiot games instead of goals and touchdowns, guns instead of fists and throws, body builders (better than nothing!) instead of performance athletes, sloth instead of physical work, entertainment instead of academics. Disgusting.

Thank you for enlightening me!

Man that was fun and truthful speech. And I completely agree that true values are being diminished. Everybody is striving for hedonism and luxuries. And that's why everyone is afraid of hard labor. O but little they know, it sets you free 💪👊👍

Another awesome video, thanks coach!

I was in agreement up until the point where you talk about what traits are manly... For that I have found the book Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus more accurate and more comprehensive (I would definitely recommend reading it). When I was growing up I saw literally every dependability fail me, and because of this I had to redefine everything. One question I asked myself frequently was what makes a man, and years later I got my answer from a video game... In this game a seemingly very masculine prince says he will only agree to help the kingdom of the knight whom stands before him if he kneels and begs for his help, the knight unhesitatingly drops to his knees and respectfully begs the young prince for his aid to which the young prince declares "What is wrong with you?! Have you no pride?!!!" to which the knight responds "None so fragile as to be threatened by so minor an act as this.". I knew immediately upon reading that response that was the kind of man I wanted to be, not the prince but the knight. A man is dedicated to something so much so that he is willing to do whatever it takes to be of service to that cause. Without that we are merely boys, but we are boys because we were born that way or in the words of Tom MacDonald "the indoctrination starts as soon as you come out the womb"... nothing changes the way you are raised and treated except being raised and treated differently. Therefore we are, most of us, just children trying to find a way to be ourselves while still trying to be true to the whole of who we are not merely as male or female but as both (because if either you cannot honor in you then neither will you honor in others, and what you do not honor in others you will dishonor of yourself). Just be respectful and do as you will, wisdom is not a short cut but a long path and all else are just stepping stones getting there (not usually worth dedicating oneself to, so be patient and remember temperance as the knight). All this being said this will likely be my last comment on this channel, I find that this channel (while helpful over the past few years) is more true to whom I was and not to whom I have become. I thank you Ramsey for your grappling tips because they really helped me in a lot of ways when I needed help most. The rest of you, follow your own path wherever it takes you because ultimately you and only you will have to live with the outcome of it all. Best wishes. :)

When I first saw the title, I was almost instantly understood it. The statement that martial arts is the the pursuit of power. Then I thought "what is power? Knowledge. What is knowledge?? The truth." what I've heard you say before, about martial arts being the pursuit of the truth. It's like a full circle.

I studied Shiao Jiao for 8 years, awesome effective art often taught with Tai Chi. It has a lot of locks, throws and striking in combination in its modern form. Definitely focuses on top dominate grappling. Most stories about tai Chi in combat may have their source in close proximity. Of ,course I have never stopped training.

Depends on the striking/grappling art too For example Muay thai (striking) is very masculine in nature and it can make (some) woman butch.. aikido (grappling) is very feminine, it can make hard aggressive men more softer /graceful

The best fighters will have both feminine and masculine traits.

Striking is explosive and expansive, inherently yang, and masculine. Catching, controlling and manipulating are inherently yin, and feminine. Maybe women are more attracted to striking as a subconscious desire for balance.

The background of ocean creatures swimming and the shaolin temple and forests, I feel like Ramsey dewey is on an LSD trip talking about this subject 🤣🤣🤣

Also I would like to say that I really enjoy your content. I've been in the martial arts community for about 4 years now. I'm 30 years old, and started training at the age of 26. I'm a coach at the gym but I often feel brand new at the same time! I consider myself new still (2 fights, 1 juijitsu comp.) I have a student attitude about it all and so I definitely stay humble. I come to your channel every once in awhile. Even though fighting is very popular I feel like the communitty of people who actually train on a regular basis is pretty small. So it's nice to hear someone like you share your rhoughts, it helps me not to feel alone in this game! : )

Very interesting. Makes sense to me. PS: I always thought you were Canadian for some reason.

In my school, our women's BJJ class is actually larger than the men's. I contribute it to one of our first coaches being a woman. The women's class is also not integrated with the coed class.

I think both are masculine and show different forms. Striking your getting punched and kicked in the face, that's a tremendous amount of fear for the primal part of your brain. To set aside your emotions and think rationally and try and walk forward(like muay Thai) is much more than a wrestling match. That's one of the highest degrees of mental toughness. In your video you spoke about the masculine traits. Strength, physical fitness & hardworking these are all elements of striking. Wake up early, work hard, humble & principled. That's still manly, masculine competition. That's still traditional traits in my opinion. That's still the capacity to work hard and in many cultures it's the opposite. The reason wrestlers are tougher than strikers because it's embedded in the school system and in many cultures compared to striking partially due to the safety aspect. Wrestling is much more taxing on our cardio vascular system the striking. Wrestling can be practiced more often due to safety reinforcing that toughness. Thus, more tough wrestlers exist displaying the principles above. Also wrestling is more ancient that striking resulting in more cultures practicing it and it being more prevalent in rural areas. Striking clubs (high-level ones) are mostly in the city due to it being a more modern martial art thus, you cannot implement the tough farmer work but that mindset is shown in other parts of a striker who lives in the city. So, its just a lack of examples of the striking toughness vs wrestling toughness, as well as a few other things I mentioned above. I think Striking and Wrestling show the same toughness just in the different styles. Both are masculine in different ways What do you think? I really enjoy your videos and they have helped me alot.

Kung Fu was the manly tradition of China that was forgotten, curiously it was 80% grappling.

In my gym there are many girls in grappling, bjj and wrestling classes, but the boxing class is a room full of men. Being the danger, closing the distance and crushing your opponent is also something you can do in Boxing. Am I right or have I misunderstood what you said?

Tell this to any muay thai practitioner and youll see how masculine striking can actually be.

I didn't learn wrestling until I was 22

I've done both. What gets women to show up is culture. If your boxing gym is full of dudes that spar to the 3rd concussion instead of 3rd round I promise the women are all gonna leave. If you go to a BJJ gym where everyone smokes weed and flow rolls you're gonna get 50% women. Men tend to stick around in hyper competitive gyms more than women where women in my experience tend to stick around in more "chill" gyms. Gym culture is what is gonna determine who shows up. Not style.

but wrestling is also gay, so it's a choice between being too feminine or gay.

Much of the world seems to be subduing, both traditional masculinity and femininity.

Boxing has been commercialized and therefore has a greater reach in more people overall compared to grappling sports. If you go to a hardcore boxing gym, the amount of women getting trained would be similar to that of any hardcore grappling gym. This is because learning the sport of boxing is inherently boring. Hitting a heavy bag is fun, spending weeks and months learning footwork and proper punch technique is not.

So how girls grab the hairs and guys punch each others

America is actually an exception to that idea. In some places wrestling is kinda gay.

So, a prime Mike Tyson knocking guys heads clean off their shoulders and a prime Mirko Cro-Cop kicking guys heads to the backseats of 80,000+ people stadiums is feminine, while 2 guys going through the Kama-Sutra together is masculine? I love wrestling and grappling in general, but COME ON BRUH!!!! LOL!!

Before watching the video I have noticed that in my gym females do tend to be interested more in the kickboxing than the bjj

we got more women in the jujitsu classes than the muay thai classes. how how the turn tables.. **Edit bit of a shock hearing youre from idaho, i live in the north bit :D **

Interesting. I heard grappling styles especially like judo and ju jutsu were gentle arts because they rely on leverage more than strength which would be interpreted as a feminine quality. Assigning martial art to a gender seems a little too simplistic anyway

This video timing is hilarious I a Maui Thai guy and I just started at a wrestling and jiu jitsu gym Monday

Okay, that's where I thought you were going. I saw the title and immediately thought, "this is a yin yang talk isn't it?"

This man is like everyone's favorite uncle, minus the random mixed drinks out of nowhere. 👌

I think many dislike grappling because they consider it homoerotic. When it was not considered homoerotic by many in the past. Considering it "gay" seems to be within the last 30 years as the culture got more and more pornified.

Ramsey, now you have some of us wondering 💭.. Did you grow up on a farm and have to get up before dawn to do chores when you were growing up in Idaho? Did you actually work on the fields planting and cultivating? Finally, did it ever snow much in your hometown?

Women, generally having smaller size and less upperbody strength seek striking as a means to effectively defend against male advantage.

Wrestling is masculine because the most masculine thing possible is to engage in intense love hugging with other men. -Some random world champion kickboxer

@Ramsey Dewey, hearing about the farmers in Idaho doing their manual chores in the mornings remind me how much I miss doing manual labor. I do burpees every day so I can keep in some kind of shape. I am working to get up to 500 burpees in a day. I thank you for your videos and they are quite insighful in the fight game.

This is the best one you've done yet, I subscribed after this one

Man i never looked at martial arts in that way.

Can you make another video about why striking is feminine? And, you know, like the female version of this talk? Because this is strong and I don't think you meant to leave the women out.

Ramsey you are great, love your shows always interesting and challenging, keep it up

IDK about this but, people shouldn't say that grappling is "gay". Guess good for this.

That title That face in the thumbnail I love this troll energy

Based.... I'm going to my first Wrestling class today :) Can't hardly wait

Women don't like wrestling because the men they have to wrestle with are 2-3x the strength and there is no inherent minimum-power/technique-only rule during training rounds.

mma fighters watching this video:Perfectly balanced as all thing should be.

I am not in danger Skylar, I am the danger!

It is interesting that most cultures around the globe either have or had a native wrestling tradition, exclusive to the men. Urbanisation and the subsequent atomisation of societies has destroyed those traditions as well as others.

Very interesting perspective, thanks for sharing