If You Want People To Respect You, Speak Like A Leader 

So true!

Law of power 4: Always say less than necessary

@@noureldin6388 48 law of power 🤟🤟😎

A fish with it's mouth open always gets caught.

Truth man

Everyone is afraid of death.

@Samson 92 in some way every being is. So dont lie.

​@Samson 92 do you think you are edgy now for stating that you dont fear of death and claiming you have depression? the real guys out there that have real depression wont go around in yt vid comments and "flexing" with their mental problems, because they are actually ashamed of it, because they actually have that and they really dont want to have it, they try to chage for good, and especially, because of their lack of desire for life, they wont even probably have the energy to turn on their phone or computer, not like you who running around flexing with a serious mental problem. you probably just plain miserable, father went away ur mom prob cant do any motivation and u stuck at ur screen with waay too much time in ur miserable life, go out touch some grass, and stop falsely claiming a serious mental problem, cause within some time no ones gonna believe to an even chronically depressed guy because idots like you set this attention seeking a trend. ppl like you legit make me wanna throw up

@@tomystark5606 Fear of death is irrational, because you will never experiance it, you will never experiance anything other than being alive, you won't know you're dead. You can fear the process of dying, that can involve pain and suffering, you can fear being forgotten or forgetting everything, you can fear the expanse of eternity. Personally I actually fear at some point during that eternity, becoming aware of it, and having to experiance eternity. I would prefer if the end was truly the end, which is why I'm not religious. But death itself is nothing to fear, for it is nothing itself.

guy said it himself, only tommy shelby can kill tommy shelby

Exactly.....take this to 5000 Comment asap😂😊

Word my friend. I've been told multiple times that I'm quiet and calm, while my brain is not at all. I'm always shocked by people's perspective of me. If we could all be a part of some reality show, i guess we could see ourselves go and learn. But otherwise, idk what's going on lol

Exactly! Its the practice and time that turns you into a person such a Thomas. I honestly think majority of these channels tips are cool, but won't apply for your average person. Sure, you can maneuver and talk like Thomas all you want and it might even work, but the reason why he is the way he is, is because of the war. He went through some pretty intense stuff that no one will ever go through in their lives in the 21st century, unless exposed to it willingly. He is stone cold and moves the way he does because he experienced way worse during the war and he truly does not care anymore. I think a better advice for the viewers of this channel would be to actually go through tough situations like Shelby which will chisel your personality and develop your self esteem. You can only fake and emulate a character/model to a certain extent. Its way more efficient to emulate the tribulations these character go through even if it is to a lesser extent.

A long time or a long time being abused.

Is he calm because he is unreactive or is he unreactive because he's calm

No cap bro.

xinw

Or awake, would say the Buddha.

You may be short tempered.

So so true

It can go both ways Having no hesitation and quick movement makes you seem devoted Having slow movement makes you seem methodical I'll try to do the slow movement thing more and see what happens I think it's important for energy preservation, introspection, and presence

​@@Jaxan-dq2jy how did it go man?

@@enricoleon_3302 Oh I didn't explicitly test anything too much since my social calendar isn't the fullest right now. I've been in a more introspective period recently When I walk slowly it forces me to be more patient and reflect more often and I don't really notice any social change, I think it comes across as intimidating sometimes though, at least that's what someone told me last year (i move slowly naturally, this was before i was aware of it and tried to move slower intentionally). I am also unsure how much people respect me since that is not really something you can gauge unless you ask, but I don't often feel disrespected so maybe it plays a part in that, but I often let people talk over me since I don't like interrupting them so maybe that's a form of disrespect if you think about it? I don't like being in people's faces and trying too hard to gain their attention Also my philosophy watching these is probably different to most, I don't put too much importance on changing myself to attract other people because that is a bit inauthentic to me and defeats the point of low effort attraction. If you have to try and act a certain way to attract people is it really attraction? I think trying to please everybody socially and have a strong presence is a great way to disappoint and burn yourself out, not that social status doesn't matter and that you shouldn't try to improve, it's just that there is always someone who will ignore you simply because they are attracted to different traits or are preoccupied with their own lives. How much attention you get from others doesn't determine your value So yeah I don't really have a clear answer for you since I don't take it that seriously and prioritize other things, I acknowledge that might be disappointing. I just watch these for some passive learning, it's fun to learn about people :) Being too concerned with how you come across is a recipe for anxiety so I try to accept my natural traits first, even if they are unconventional or weird and then use more covert methods like these if I need to. Example: If you have naturally dreamy eyes and look around when you think or reply to someone, there's no need to force yourself to make strong eye contact with someone unless it's important or are listening to them. Forcing yourself to do something unnatural to you can sometimes spur growth, but it can also be needlessly tiring

@@Jaxan-dq2jy What you described, came as stoicism. Slow movements, proving for yourself not others, and focusing on your nature. It is not for everyone I concur.

@@caynereed8988 Yeah I guess so, I'm passively studying it in my spare time right now Things like : Intrinsic motivation over social status Desensitization of negative emotions to increase positive ones and mitigate negative ones I don't consider myself a "stoic" but I try to extract the insights that work for me while not obeying its rules too strongly. Every ideology has flaws and I think I'm better off borrowing pieces from others to create my own, although still flawed one At least for me philosophical pursuits are more valuable then conventional self improvement, since it helps you discover what you actually care about, who you are, and strategies to deal with life instead of some guru telling you what you need to do in order to be happy and get everything you want That just feeds hedontic adaptation (we get used to the things and experiences we have so things and experiences that make us happy wear off) and neglects individuality

Yea, until you cross paths with the wrong person and knocked out, then you'll fear, for the rest of your life, d!psh*t

Still recovering from the stab in the dark alley, but I think this guy has a point.

True, but try to say it positive, a sentence without „no“ is stronger. Like “I’m brave and strong“

in psychopathology and one of its intervention to help many patients with phobia is "exposure therapy" and the concept is similar to what you said here, so it is based off of actual cognition research

Movie name?

thanks for sharing this it helps alot, much love brother

where was your dad?

@@bigmre113 Oh, he was around, but he was never particularly tough. He is more of the passive type. My mom has always been the tough one.

Facts, as a quiet, introverted, somewhat shy but now very confident and self assured person, I now naturally do this. But I've put myself out there enough and tolerated disrespect enough to demand respect from others and nothing less. I don't tolerate any disrespect. And so when I carry myself, that natural translates through. People ALWAYS think I'm an extrovert when it comes to the conversation about personality types even though I speak the least in a group.

Exactly. It all started in the mind. When your mind is right, your body will naturally follow.

@@TheProtagonist37I like focusing on the body eventually my mind catches up

You know it's bad when you try to make eye contact but can't do it for a long time not because of lacking confident, but because of eye soring and tears coming out automatically 😭

@@محمد_حبيب_الله🗿

yes, they chose the right actors

couldn't agree more

It will forever be his masterpiece, the show show had the best casting I've seen in a show.

Agreed!

Being attractive and having status is the difference

These are known male traits. Just watch a man sit and a woman sit. A man sits to take up space, women cross things to appear smaller. Men: Spread legs, elbows out, more gesticulation Women: Crossed legs, crossed arms or wrists, angled away, often a more whispery voice. That’s why Marilyn Monroe did all those things.

@@Beatboxskill blackpill always collects. i started loling when he says at the end "being confident is easier than it seems" then shows a bunch of chad celebrities "standing tall" and looking "confident", then tries selling his program. standing tall only works if you are actually tall

Attractiveness looks different for different people.

Being introvert doesn't exclude you from being confident. I'm an introvert myself and just the realisation that a lot of extraverts deal with the same problems and feelings I do but express themself differently helped me a lot. It was liberating that with the years I learned to just don't give a F what people think of me and that helped me express my opinions or defend my borders even though I knew some would not like me for it. The fact I don't care what the majority of people think of me gives me confidence because I don't have to pull punches if I need to stand up for myself, my beliefs, my well being, my interests or the people I care about.

@@Carrinthesometimes it does

@@kay6692 True. But my point is, it doesn't have to be.

Scarecrow

He's a good actor, because he's charismatic.

@@dmytoe5679 goes hand in hand 👌

Maybe he trained as an actor and learned various techniques to “act” that way. E.g. He acted, like a coward in Dunkirk. He's not a good actor because he”a a coward.

That’s your excuse huh?

thats what I thought too this video is going to get people into problems

Yep, it's pretty much acting like someone you're not.

They should pin this

The simple fact of the situation. He used to laugh a lot, then he turned into what we know him as

You don't need to experience horrible things to learn from someone who has, or from their actions and beliefs. This video isn't invalidated from this information, because it doesn't rely on this information heavily or directly. There's a bigger focus on the ends than the means.

My mom is an introvert and my late Dad was an extrovert. I'm an introvert that also learned how to be an extrovert when the need arises but prefer my introverted nature

Thanks for the advice!

@@Introvertedalpha You're welcome!

vocalizing your flaws is a very good way in being confident because it shows that you are comfortable with the flaws you have. good list btw :)

@@Introvertedalpha No B

Thank you for the advice!

Basically just acting like the quite kid

autism

I have some of them already should improve in others

@@Akash-jn6fp do you realize people arent 'good' at these because they practiced it its because they lived life and got traumatized

@@mrjacko2972 I don't think of it as having strong eye contact. I think of it as not having weak eye contact.

FYI, don't do the hostage negotiation strategy when asking for a raise. Most jobs if you indicate you are looking for others will begin to prepare for this and push you out. Even if you get the raise you've effectively sealed your own coffin. Just take the other job if it pays more.

Nothing is free. I can be the calm dude in situations where everyone is running for their lives. Sometimes stress hits you after

He probably didn't mention this as it can a does spoil character behavior

@@king6530 unless said position is extremely rare to find qualified people

A should consider another career if this causes breakdowns and drinking. It’s just acting.

True af you either got it or you dont, not that it cant be developed eventually but its something that will happen naturally with the right combination of people place and time. Like Jim Carrey said, if you wear a mask around people expect to wear that mask to the grave.

@@whorem0anss personality, personal etc...from Greek persona= mAsk...I've eliminated this word from my vocabulary...just a previous comment, saying "strong personality "... not knowing what he's actually talking about...

I'm someone who is quiet but not unconfident. I clicked on this video and sure enough, these are all things I do or have picked up as I became an adult (almost scary how accurate). The thing is to really try to understand where each point is coming from and really "feel" it rather than just copying the motions. For me personally, some of these points like holding eye contact, are things I almost see as a challenge to myself- but that is only after I first saw the value in it.

This guy is an actor. He's not a ww1 vet in real life. He's imitating confidence, to the point people act like it's a real person. How is this obvious point being missed by so many people in these comments. Fake confidence long enough and well enough and it becomes the real thing.

nah bro, im gonna be tommy one day

Kind of like Michael from the Godfather who almost always maintains eye contact with the people he’s talking to.

just a tip, naturally people's eyes switch over to look at the other one from time to time, so instead of looking at one switch it up, it'll make you seem like you're not staring/uncomfortable

Whilst studying at college I had a part time job in a store where the manager ruled by intimidation. Everyone was afraid of him - including my naïve immature self. During the time I was there I developed a stutter and the inability to look people in the eye. After I left it took me a few years of maturing to shake that experience off. Thanks Gerald. I learned a valuable life lesson though - respect others, and if you see someone who appears to be nervous around you give them a warming smile and engage with them in nice brief conversation if you can (added humor is a big plus!). You'll be surprised how much of a positive effect this has on a person's confidence.

I found while making eye contact...alternately blinking each eye has a striking effect...don't exactly kno what...but who your doing it too smiles, and gets all tough tied...ahaha.

With the eye contact thing, I found it a bit intense to stare into both eyes, so I would focus on the "opponent's" one eye, then, a few seconds later, shift the focus on the other eye. It sounds weird, but it seems to be very disquieting, in my favour fortunately 😂

lol

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Lmao 😂

Lmfaaoo 😂😂

Underated comment🤣🤣🤣

*Aurelion Sol

I'd say it works both ways when you practice. When you intentionally practice slower movements, it can help the mind to slow down too.

ultra instinct?

Meditation also does wonders, helping to regulate your emotions to be calm and not reactive, and being mindful of your surroundings goes a long way.

Can't agree more. I am someone with Social Anxiety but Sometimes(very rarely) I feel fuckin calm mentally in social situations That's when I feel I'm the most Confident among the people around me.

As Chase Hughes says, move like you're under water.

so ... be that sloth front desk clerk/secretary at the police station from Zootopia, Gotcha :P

@@agnidas5816 Omg.. having reread my writing, you're absolutely right lol.

@@MarcusConstantine_Cavalida21 Better to be like the Red Fox.

@@agnidas5816 deplete their patience, and win

- Johnny Sins be like

Be done _before_ you're tired. Work smart, not hard. Or hire someone else to do the work for you. See how your well-intentioned 'advice' is just a platitude? Common, be better than a hallmark card.

@@BlaBla-jj6sh just like ‘work smart not hard’ is a platitude. none of it is this deep, and your advice is so general it borders on meaningless. very ironic that you mocked the other commenter for being unoriginal by responding with clichés

Especially if you are a trucker or a pilot :^)

Facts tough

-alec Baldwin walks on set-

​@@kingdarkem😂😂😂

In my experience you will have more guns pointed at you that aren’t made from metal in life

Everyone wants to be mafiosi these days not even gangs want to be gangs

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Spot on. And very underrated comment. Too many fiction based characters displayed as role models, indeed.

This comment quite true. I almost imitated thomas shelby behaviour into mine. But instantly I regret, because in the show, they do as script wants to or what the shows want to. What we need is just to know what we weak of, then cover it with what we strong of or even built it.

@@iulianbendrea9010 I don't mind drawing inspiration from fictional characters, as long as you are still you... However pretending to be them or act like them is another thing. Trying to act like something you aren't is not the authentic or real you. Unless you're a professional actor.

@@syahrizaindrautomo44 Creating good and healthy habits is one step in the right direction. Compare yourself to the person you were yesterday and improve upon it, just don't take it too far. Like everything else; practice moderation, healthy and good habits.

True!!!!

Good advice.

I feel like a lot of people have the misconception that telling the truth necessarily has to hurt/offend the other person, when that just doesn't have to be the case.

@@WanderTheNomad People often think that honesty means letting loose of emotions and being savage for savagery's sake. One classic example is how politicians and dictators who speak obvious lies and stupidities are considered by many as 'straight-forward' and brutally honest.

Agreed, it's uncomfortable at first, but also being able to develop calm is the key. I used to have a boss who always left uncomfortable silences. I just sat there waiting for her to fill them. She soon realised I wasn't ready to play her games and that my time was best used at doing my job and not in a personal development review.

Not true - sometimes you don’t need to say the truth - in some circumstances you don’t have to say anything etc

He said "glance downwards if you want to de escalate." Interesting story, though.

FIRST PLACE I LOOK AT EVERYONE IS ALWAYS TO THEIR SIDE, NOT MINE, BECAUSE THAT'S THE MOST LIKELY PLACE TO CARRY A GUN.

@@fondawilliam8371 I love The Art of Self-defense, where they ride up on the motorcycle and ask the potential victim if they have a gun before using karate to mug him. It's seems ridiculous, but on the other hand, most people don't know how to respond when put on the spot like that. Most people carrying a weapon of any kind would impulsively move their eyes or hand in that direction. Most people not carrying would give it away. Either way, it improves the odds of singling out a helpless victim.

Don't make me laugh. I suppose u r some lame black belt karate 🤓. Don't talk to me till you've actually shot someone, or disarmed somebody with a gun who is bigger than u.

@lame azz Kevin.

I hate speaking in front of an audience. One strategy that sort of helps and I need to keep reminding myself is I have information the audience wants. If not they wouldn't be there. I know more, I can supply the details and the audience is there to receive that info. It's still not 2nd nature. I gotta pump myself up. still hate it

oh wow so .. complete narcissism ... lmfao ... boy you may be an undiagnosed sociopath

Well put👏.

For me is basic stand up to the person the way they stand up to you

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@@nickgarner-uc7jqnah

You are great ❤️

Couldn't agree more on first two statements

Love the pancake analogy 🥞

perfect duo! now, about you, i think you could benefit from taking more risk. you will fail more, but learn more.

Lol true. It’s baffling to me how people seem so sure of themselves when they have to realize how often they are wrong

@@spankey88 It's frustrating to me honestly. Especially when it works for them with people that don't know that they're full of it =P

@@k01dsv if we were unsure/not confident about everything, nothing would get done due to undeciveness, fear, etc..Mistakes will happen. Failure comes before success

Same

Hahaha me too I stressed them even when I don’t want too . I’m 6’5 at 18, I don’t talk so much , I’m big, it doesn’t help

His aura hits different

Madara can beat him

agreed cover him^^

And The Valley girl accent doesn’t make you appear very confident and competent, does it? Just because the accent is like this, doesn’t mean it loses its inherent effect on people. Especially those who are not used to it. In Germany most accents make you appear less competent than standard high German. Even though it may sound normal to those who are used to the accent.

​@@SmokingBirds I'm not sure if you're agreeing or not but yes, that's what I was saying. It would be a mistake to read into certain accents in this way.

LIMEY REDCOAT. I WANT TO SEE U BLEED. STOP WITH THE SUPERFICIAL NONSENSE. THAT HAS NO TRUTH TO IT AT ALL. AS SOMEONE WHO HAS AN ENGLISH WELSH STEPFATHER WHO IVE KNOWN SINCE 1996, I CAN VEHEMENTLY SAY IT IS STRICTLY A PERSONALITY TRAIT AND THE WORLD ROUND TALKING IN A HIGH -PITCHED VOICE IS A SIGN OF WEAKNESS OR VULNERABILITY. ONCE AGAIN DO U WANT 2 BELIEVE SOME SO- CALLED EXPERT, OR SOMEONE WITH EXPERIENCE?

Wow, how honest !! I have a Sister, she's a school teacher. Family get together,,,me, I would talk about something and half way through,,"eh I tend to disagree" whither she's right or wrong. THEN, everybody has to shut up while SHE speaks and whoa betide anyone that interrupts her!!! So i know exactly where your coming from !!😊

as confident as i am, i have a tendency to speak fast as well which sometimes results in people being distracted and interrupt me. it feels like good advice to speak slightly slower and a more confident tone and see what happens. how has it worked out for you in the past 8 months?

@@Bonbloc I haven't really noticed being cut off in conversation, but I have yet to break my bad habit of speaking too quickly or paraphrasing while telling a joke or funny story because I'm worried someone will cut me off and break my rhythm, or just switch topics so I don't get to finish

When you're cut off, hang your last word, stop talking, look them in the eye for 1 second longer than necessary, and 90% of the time, a person will apologize for cutting you off, and go out of their way to not do it again. You're showing them that you don't approve of them speaking over you, but you give respect by stopping what you're saying. It's true that to get respect, you must give it. When you give respect, and are disrespected in the same situation, people feel the need to either apologize, or make it up to that person.

@@crazierthorn10 that only works with 1 on 1 conversations. but in group convo's they just look at something/someone else so you cant maintain eyecontact

Personally eye contact is awkward and pointless to me, the only person that would have my eye contact, would be for example my wife. Eye contact is pretty intimate if you ask me, guys looking into another guys eyes, seems like a waste, if one can listen and continue engaging in work or recriational activity simultaneously. You would stop and give your spouse all of your attention so much so you look into their eyes and focus, stopping anything else that's currently happening. I hope this perspective helps.

@@Notyourhandle777 You look into someone's eyes to share and receive information. I look into the eye of a man I am about to tangle with, to see what he will do.

It’s called practice….repetition. Of course it will take a lot of energy it’s something out of your comfort zone

tommy isnt real

not necessarily true.

not true. i do not have a good background, nor have i really explained to anyone. i was just a normal person, but after many things that happened that could have easily killed me, i became a lot more calm in scenarios people usually wouldnt. i know im going to die one day, and i most likely do not know that day, so why spend it unwisely.

@@justsomeguymustache there is lots of sigma males in the world bro if there you need to prove yourself bro The people's always respect a gangster instead of solo person

@@jod8130 its not necessary LOL, and by the way, i never said i was anything but a normal person, who doesnt talk a lot, but gets respect from those around me. you talk like a child.

@@jod8130 English please