In the darkest times, I've felt like the only ones who are there for you unconditionally are your family. I've realized I can't have expectations on people anymore, the more expectations I put on people, the more disappointed I often am. I wouldn't say I am turned off from having friendships but I definitely do not care as much to put time and effort into them anymore. I would say my mindset has shifted towards working and focusing on my goals and manifesting the life that I want, which I am hoping will introduce me to the same like-minded people.
Lil Baby said I’m the hardest out on RU-vid right now, I’m Just a young 21 year old mexican that smokes weed on my RU-vid channel,tryna make it out the hood. I also ate burger king inside target hah😫
It’s great that you came to that epiphany! For me it’s very different because I have extremely toxic parents. I moved away from home, to a completely different state where I knew basically no one, and there I truly found out who my “family” was .. it was the friendships I made there ❤️
Thanks for opening up, this is super relatable as someone who is in their mid-20s. I've realized I no longer find certain activities "fun" like going out drinking or clubing with a large group of friends. But like you said, I still get fomo if I see stories about these activities. I think the most important thing, though, is to find people who are actually there for you during dark times, and treat whoever these people are well. Good friends are rare 😌
Man...I feel like at just the surface level, because of how strong and hardworking you are in your videos, people might just think, "Wow, she's got it all. I bet she has nothing to worry about", when in reality you also have the multilayered and complex people problems, concerns about FOMO that we all share. It takes gut to open up and be completely honest about your vulnerabilities and recent deep thoughts, and I think it's really solidified my image of you as a such a genuine, hardworking and kind person. I'm glad that you have such a supportive family to be with you through tough times, and I loved your honest and deep reflections on how shallow surface-level friendships can feel. Previously, I just thought of you as the "it girl" who's pretty and business-savvy and hardworking, but now I realise you're just another person with the same thoughts, insecurities and painful experiences we all share. You're amazing Briddy
I appreciate your being so real about friendships. I think maintaining and developing friendships as an adult is so much more difficult than as a child/teen. Keep being you and you’ll find your people over time. 💗
Thank you for opening up gurl! I totally get what you mean by wanting friends that would think about you and support you during your hard times. And it’s always heart warming to have a shoulder to lean on and an ear to listen to how you feel. Maybe that incident was a blessing in disguise to filter out the friends that don’t deserve your love and attention and now you can find better friends that’ll support you 🥰 I know this may be weird but I’m sydney based and if you ever just want to go grab a coffee and sweet and chat, I’m all for it 🥰 the offer is on the table!
i relate to you so much about the friendship chat. although i can't say that i've ever felt betrayed or left behind by my friends in a grand scale, i often feel like i may be putting more effort in than its worth or being scared to be "overbearing". those feelings only make me want to draw into myself more even though i long for a really close, tight knit group of friends. but, i think that, in general, many people feel this way and even though it hurts and you shouldn't ever feel distrustful of others, it allows for good independence and self-reliance :) (that's what my optimistic side tells me LOL)
Briddy you’re not alone! I can relate 100% to how you feel and I really appreciate you for sharing this part of yourself to us! I don’t find clubbing or going out as fun anymore, and I find myself feeling more fulfilled when I have great one-on-ones with people. Like your affirmation said, you will balance life in the way that works for you (going out, making friends and investing in them, or focusing on career)! This video is so calm and inspiring to me, thank you and I’m sending love to you!❤
thank you for opening up to us, it’s definitely not an easy task to do.. but always know we are here to listen and not judge, so don’t be afraid!! tbh i’m currently going through the same phase as you right now towards friendship.. it’s lonely.. but people do come and go.. friendship is a continuous kind of thing.. when someone left, others will come!! one day we will be able to find someone who can vibe with us and see eye to eye!!🤍
It's a really hard for me to be honest but thanks for reminding me why I keep making videos, I feel like it's important to talk about these things bc at the end of the day we all go through these experiences and I know it'll help someone 💕
Honestly everything you said during the therapy sesh is what I have been thinking and you just vocalized it. I have always had a handful of friends but now it just gets smaller because the harsh reality is the more you grow, the less you care if you have little to no friends. And group situations are the worst even though they could be fun to have in case of travel or big group activities
hi briddy, i've been watching your videos for a long time but never really comment. i'm going through something similar with friendships and i'm really similar to you in that i thrive in one on one friendships but struggle with group friendships. it made me feel like something was wrong with me but your perspective was really nice to hear. thanks for your honesty, it is really comforting
Really needed to hear this because I can resonate to the core especially when it came to the friendship discussion. Thank you for sharing your vulnerable side, Briddy. You have already impacted my teenage years in a positive light and now I feel like you are also carrying me through university. Big love
the whole friends thing literally me. like i thought i had friends but when my life took a turn no one was there and it affected me more than i thought .now that time has passed and i finally accepted that they weren't and moved on, i can see that they feel bad and even though i forgave them in my heart even tho they acted like nothing happened i don't really want them in my life like that again
Your talk on friendship hits deep. There was a time in my life when the friends I considered home and family to me all just disappeared during the moment I needed them most, I remember thinking to myself how come it was possible to have made so many memories with them and for it to all disappear like that. I remember only being left with one true friend, until today I am forever grateful to those who were there. I'm sorry for what happened to you. To me, we just gotta use the love and gratitude we've received from those who love us as strength to keep going and take care of ourselves for ourselves. We meet people almost everyday, we should take in what is given and don't beat ourselves up on trying to measure the quantity of our company or how big our circle is. In the end of the day, what's more important is how the people around us make us feel rather than how big of a crowd is around us.
I really appreciate the honesty about friendships!! I recently have been feeling just kinda lonely as well because I also had a moment where I realised how much love and timeee omg so much time and energy I put into certain people who I thought were my ride or die and this type of heartbreak over loosing someone who essentially did not care about me as much as I thought they did, is unlike any other feeling I have had before. its a tough one but please remind yourself not every loss is a loss?? it can be a gain... a painful gain but still a gain because why would you want to be surrounded by people like that. you deserve better
Really appreciate your honesty, Briddy, re friendship. I don’t actually know what happened to your scar, but now I realised, must be a traumatised experience and I am so sorry to hear. I’m 10 yrs older than you, I can tell you I struggled the same at your age. I think it’s just one of those things everyone has to go through in life. I went through a period of time, disappointed at certain ‘friends’ then feeling lonely and discredit myself. For a very long time, I closed off. But later (when I was much older), I realised it’s all just my own insecurity. Tbh, I don’t think anybody needs friends, our best friend is ourselves. Think about that twice, take care of yourself, love yourself and prioritise yourself. The right ppl will come to you and won’t leave you. Now that I’m in my 30s, I’m very happy with the very few friends I have. They are someone I know when I am in trouble and need them, they will be right there. And I will do the same for them too. You are still young, there are good people around, you just haven’t met them yet.
it was really nice hearing you open up briddy! i really relate to a lot of what you talked about so it was really nice to hear from another person's pov 💖love your content so much!
I can relate, I truly have 0 friends. Sure I talk to people here and there and small talk. It’s hard to make friends outside of school/work. I’ve become use to it and it’s not as sad as it sounds lol
loved the therapy sess moment i feel u a lot friendships to me have always been a really complicated thing n i always felt like i was giving a lot and not getting much back or sometimes even getting hurt pretty badly by the ppl i love but ye ive learned my lessons it also taught me to be my own friend n love myself as clishe as it sounds n just overall be more mindful with who i open up to n let into my life
yo briddy, i honestly enjoy listening to you talk and it’s actually really interesting so don’t feel sorry for going deep bcos i live for such deep talks. i hope u can hv more of these therapy sessions w us hehe🫶🫶i truly enjoy listening to u share your thoughts and perspective, it’s v eye-opening and it made me feel like i knew u better, which also increased my liking towards u and i hv no idea why i am talking like i’m a on a date w u but yes that is how i felt. i appreciate how u took time out to chit chat w us. pls continue to take care of yourself and i hope you’ll feel more energized and less tired soon!! lots of love💗💗
Thanks for opening up, it’s a very vulnerable position to be In especially on such open platform. I’m experiencing the same thing in life, but you know we’ve got greater things to achieve!! Life long friends will come along one day before you know it, please continue stay beautiful and inspirational 😍😍
thank you so so much for sharing your story Briddy! I’m a relatively new follower and I’ve loved your cute wholesome videos for a couple months but honestly girl you are so articulate and vulnerable and dynamic. I always looked at your videos as a source of entertainment/content consumption but this made me really love you more as a person! it’s really scary to think that you can’t count on people as much as you think you can but in a slight silver lining, it makes you as a person even more resilient after facing tough situations in life. it sucks but you are so so STRONG and I admire you!
Hii ! thank you so much for opening up to us . I've realized I can't have expectations on people anymore but the family stay here for us every time. Tank you so much, love you
Im glad you can be open on your channel, i hope you’re having fun on this journey. I’m in the same boat of not having many close friends. The right people will come. I didn’t even notice your scar you beautiful girl. We care for you sm angel, we’ll get through this 🤍🫧🎧
Follower for years but first time leaving a comment. .... Thank you for being so vulnerable with us Briddy. hv been following u since ur high school days and i believe the older followers hv seen u grown so much over the year. I am a few years older than you but i look up to you sometimes even!! You are absolutely inspiring and lovely. I totally agree with u about the friendship HTHT. Not every friend will be able to journey with us forever. Honestly, I like the overall vibe of your vlogs better in recent years. So calming. Finally, kudos to my girl, focusing and prioritising family! Its not easy!
I totally understand because i went through a surgery in 2020 and felt how you feel about no one was there for me despite i invested a lot of energy and effort to maintain my friendship circle.. sending hugs for you
I relate to you so much. Friends do tend to come and go. It tends to be a slow process & can be psychologically draining 😓. I would find some form of clubs that i’d find interesting🏸. I’m grateful I have a few close friends but I’m wanting to find friends that goes out and all. Keep fighting 💪💜
Briddy I can totally relate on what you’ve said about friendships. I had the same situation as well. I don’t have lots of friends. I do have lots of them when I was in Uni but then when we graduated we all drifted apart and loss communication which was sad. I am also a people pleaser and I also put a lot of effort to friendships but now it seems like they all went away maybe because I got married and now have 2 kids. I literally don’t have social life right now except for family events. It is true that family will love you and be there unconditionally. Don’t think too much about it. You are blessed and love by many especially your loved ones and family.
I totally understand how u felt. As we grow older as well, friends tend to also drift apart & realise some people are just worth keeping & others are not. Its ok to have a few friends. I too value alot and cared alot for others but some people dont see it the same. For the people who has seen me at my lowest & still had been there for me etc, their in a higher priority than the ones who didnt. I understand i’m probably in the lower priority for some as well. So its ok to have a few close knit friends instead of a big group.
Thanks for the chat, regarding the friendship thing it is very much what I am going through at the moment. I constantly feel like i value friendships much more than others and always felt that have been investing time, effort and all to them for nothing when they arent by me when I am at my lowest. Felt super unfair and now I dont see a point in really valuing friendships that much in my life. Whatever you said felt extremely relatable to me in my life right now. Thank you for opening up about this, cuz it definitely made me feel less lonely especially social media is filled with best friend or like friendship goals posts. :)
I'm so obsessed with your content! Loved that you're opening up to us! And i LOVE how the cats are involved in every single clip (in the beginning of the vid).
You can't imagine how helpful and inspiring you are ! The subject you are talking about, and especially relationships, are so relatable! I am in a similar situation and that's hard to deal with, but honestly it's better to have less friends than have fake ones🙁 knowing that you have the same issues but still live a great life (I mean you have your own business and managing so much things all by yourself !) Is inspiring! I follow you since a lot of time now and never disappointed ! Love you, keep being yourself you are doing great xo
I feel the same way that you describe, the problem is that most people have a vision of friendship that is not pure love and being there for each other,
Just stumbled across this video. I feel everything that you have expressed yourself on this video. I recently broke up with my partner and sold our house that we built together, i felt that no one was there for me. But trying to keep positive but its hard. All the best Briddi, keep shining ❤
I totally understand how you’re feeling because I’ve been feeling the same way and it sucks to admit but life isn’t going as smooth as I want it to I give so much attention time and love to my friends but I don’t revive the same things which is heartbreaking for me honestly that’s why I’ve been distancing myself from everyone at the moment and it’s not like they even care but I still have hope that someday I’ll find genuine friends who will love me and hang out with me for who iam 💔🤍
Honestly I love your chit chats and life updates, I'm also currently going through something similar and it's nice to hear that I'm not alone ❤ You should def consider some podcast episodes 😳
❤️ 🤗 💯. Friendships are tricky for me . I left my hometown after college graduation years ago . Than years later I returned 🏡, but those friendships are not what they use to be. As a breast cancer survivor friendships take on a different meaning. I am grateful for the friendships in my support groups. I hear you about looking at people differently for me the years, and being a cancer survivor makes you see life differently and one priority their life.
Totally agree with you with regards to family and friends not being there for you in your worst moments got diagnosed with type 1 diabetes 2 years ago and I still don’t have friends anymore because of this. I feel like sometimes people do kind of show you the truth with regards to how they feel about you. I’ve always felt exactly like like you always putting effort in and never getting it back 🤗🥲❤️ feel like now it is too much to be putting in that effort
The exact same thing happened to me. I had a surgery. I had only told my 2 best friends because I’m a very private person. Neither of them texted me before the surgery and after they still hadn’t said anything. I’m not an emotional person and I honestly started tearing up once I left the hospital. It wasn’t a major surgery so I left the hospital the same day but it still hurt that they didn’t care enough to say anything. One of them didn’t even know what day the surgery was on after I had told her multiple times. I remember when this happened I held so much resentment towards them. I was so mad at them that when they finally texted me (not about the surgery) I didn’t talk to them the entire week until I came back to school and felt forced to. They are still my best friends to this day but that day changed my friendship with them forever and they don’t even know it. As awful as it sounds, I can never love it care for them the same way. I cant really allow myself to get as close to them as I was before. I really want a group of friends who feel the same way I do about them but I’m very introverted and not a social person so if I stopped being friends with them, I’d be alone. If I’m being honest I’m waiting until I leave secondary school so I can find new friends and slowly drift away from them. I also feel like I should be out having fun because im still a teenager and I should experience things, and I get awful fomo even when I don’t want to go out. I really hope you feel better and gain more energy!! I’m happy you are surrounded with better friends now 🫶 Thank you for talking about this briddy, I don’t feel alone now
Love the kitties they are growing so big now🐈. As an introvert, I understand how you feel and friendships are hard work to build and maintain to begin with. You pour so much out but you never know what it amounts to and what you'll get in return until something life-altering happens in your life. I have like one friend which is sad tbh, I want to make new friends but I'm so fricken cautious and sometimes I wish I wasn't so but I came to the realization that's who I've always been and how it's going to be. Sometimes I'm okay with the loneliness and sometimes I wonder why I can't be more interesting and more outgoing like most people. I'm not good with feelings and expressing emotions but had we been friends I would've visited you and made sure you were okay. I love your video aesthetic and contents btw. Your voice is so soothing and calming so I think you should try asmr videos lol 😌❤
Girl i cried so much because i can relate so much. I thought i had friends... i was the victim of a car accident which honestly, it's a miracle that i didn't die. It was a huge accident, i was on the local and national news where i live, i got very lucky cause i am still alive and i was able to learn how to do everything again. Such a painful and cathartic process which I still have not healed from. Not a single "friend" i thought i had even called, and of course they knew. My mother and i did it all alone and gracefully. I truly suffered so much and felt so lonely. 4 years later , now that i hear you out, i think i still hold that resentment and honestly....it only hurts ME. They don't care, clearly never did. Just pour love & more love & more & more and give it to yourself.
I don't know how I didn't find your channel before. I'm lovin 'it. 💖.... I identify with you, because this year I had a thyroid operation and the same thing happened to me, only my family was with me, my so-called friends didn't ask me if I was okay, and they weren't there at the time
Back in Highschool and Uni I was always "The nice guy". Friends introduce me to their friends as "Stan is one of the nicest person I know!". And for a long time I tried to please everyone around me so as to live up to that reputation. But it came to a point where I'd realised that bending over backward to please everyone is not a good investment, especially at the detriment of you own happiness. My expectation is that my friends would repay in kind, and treat me the way I'd treated them. Turns out that being so nice and dependable just made you into a safe option; one that they don't feel like they need to go out of their way to care about, as they thought I would always be there when called upon. When that lightbulb finally came on I made the decision to live for me and my family only, and not so-called-friends and acquittances that says the right thing in good times, but turns out to be just 酒肉朋友 (fair-weathered friends). I'd pretty much cease to initiate communications with the majority of my friends, and just focus on doing things I want to do, and not what everyone else wants to do. It'd certainly allowed me to discover what my real hobbies and past-times are (turns out I have been suppressing my inner-geek for the sake of being into what's considered "popular"), and most importantly, embrace being an introvert. As we get older, our social circle retract at a rate commensurate to the spare time we have daily. I'm at an age where I'd came to realised that it's pointless to be disappointed with friends who you feel are not there for you, or care about you the way you feel you deserve. Sure there are selfish people who would take advantage of you, but for the most part, people are just too busy, and are preoccupied by problems that exist in their inner circle that needs handling first. At the end of the day, one needs to learn to be in charge of your own happiness and wellbeing. I'm still trying to master that, but I definitely find myself to be more reliable then anyone out there.
I feel that way to. I believe if they are your true friends they would be there for you to at least make sure you are doing well after surgery. It let's you know if you matter to them. I only have a few friends which is really good.
Even if you are a strong person, and feel that you don’t need anyone during a hard situation in your life. You’re mind will automatically expect that your friends will be there for you. I have tried, and asked my brain to not expect anything from anyone, and even know that my so called “friend” will not come for help. But still… it hurts when they don’t show up.
I did Online school, but I didn't like it too much. I like the classroom setting. Yeah, Online give you the freedom, if you have allot to do. Briddy, you do allot with the business and RU-vid. Thank you for the video. You do a great job.
Briddy!!! I can 10000% relate to everything you spoke about, I am 22 years old and I only have my partner as my best friend, I also do not have any "true" friends, Im more like a backup friend to my friends, to be honest. To find a real friend is SO HARD! I wish we can have a chat
Briddy I feel like I understand exactly what you are saying....there is this group of friends in my college that I wanted to get close to. I thought we became friends at the beginning but it feels like we never really were friends like the way I thought we were....they would always ask for my help regarding college but I realised that in the end they were never really there for me when I needed them.... also I realised that if I didn’t contact them first to make plans to go out, they would never will and that was literally a red flag that I should have seen from the very start....the problem is that when college starts again I will have to see them every day and I don’t know what to do. Briddy, any advice will be very appreciated 🥰
na but fr tho what u said was what i was exactly going through a year ago and sometimes you gotta realise that you outgrow people and you just gotta leave them behind
Treat the floofers to some milk a couple of times a week, they need it for their teeth and bones like toddlers 😂😁 I found this out recently after a checkup xx
