Whoever feels how lucky Sudha ma'am is on getting an understanding husband, they all should see this video to witness her sacrifices. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-fYfebwD_jAc.html
@@positivity798 understanding and progressive both!!!agar partner ka mentality ko understand nehi kar payenge toh support kaise karenge?!!and progressive toh hain hi,that's why he will accept and respect her ambition
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Only women, kids and dogs are accepted the way they are . Man is accepted if he provides something. Women on the other hand always tend to FIX MEN to achieve her dreams. Entire history asks the question WHAT WOMEN WANT. Have you ever thought about what WHAT MEN WANT? Also, as Sudha said that owner tend to want OWNERSHIP of man and they get jealous of them being close to sons being close to their moms. Stop your jealousy.
One should not contradict everything, she mentioned her views… if you cannot accept it then don’t contradict… there are many things that men cannot do but women can and they are many things that women cannot but men can… we are all born with a purpose don’t lose yourself in trivial matters like who is better and who is not.. you do you… if you cannot make a life better then not make it worse atleast.
Ur mother told u that if u fight with your husband and came back, then she won't open the doors,but to adjust.. there was a girl in kerala who suicided a couple of months before knowing that her parents won't open the doors and she took all the pain and suffered and died... U r just lucky that ur husband is a good man... We can't expect everybody be the same..
I agree. Many innocent girls would have lost their lives to that thought, and many keep adjusting unhappily. The talk is relative because as she said, her husband is understanding. And that doesn’t come on one day. It is there or not there. Adjustment should only be if the path of dharma is followed. Else Mahabharat too wouldn’t have happened. Everyone must know when it time to fight their battles !
It's depends on the matter that y they are fighting.A parents should know the reason behind the fight.if they are fighting just for silly reasons her parents should stay away from that.
Lol too many open questions 😂 1. Aren't friends the family we choose? 2. What if you married your best friend 😜 3. What if as a friend you agree but as a family unit you disagree 😅
Accept a person as it is doesn’t mean you accept them however messed up they’re. There are boundaries. You need to be sensible enough. If they've issues mentally, they need to sort it out before getting into any commitment or relationship. It's not the other individuals duty to fix these issues or concerns that can potentially threaten the integrity of any relationship. Yes, in a very basic platonic relationship most tend to overlook a lot of things and go with it as it wouldn't bother you too much due to a very minimal connect on an emotional level. But when there's something known as vulnerability and emotional intimacy a lot of things cannot be let go as such as vulnerability and emotional intimacy is part and parcel of any romantic relationship as time goes. It all comes down to how much it means and what the relationship is to a person. The degree of intensity varies but never take BS from any person. Always know your self-worth. If the quote "Accept them for who they're." is literally taken? Yes, to a very certain extent it can be but never let anyone take you for granted, you will be for sure be messed up by that individual if you're not concerned. If they’re toxic? NO. You will need to put an end to it and let go. You cannot workaround such individuals, you’re stooping down to low standards. But if you consider yourself to be of low self-worth? You’re free to engage in such lacking adequacies which is otherwise considered a mandate in any relationship and “Accept them for who they’re.” But if you know your true self-worth as a person? You know what to do, do not settle for mediocre and do not allow yourself to get treated in a shitty manner. You always deserve the best.
Cannot agree with you more. What she says is the conventional view- sadly, unfortunately, it does not always work. Another addition to the “wisdom” women have been fed over centuries.
So true....This exact thought changed my life. Life has become very easy, when I realized that my husband looks at things totally different from how I look at it. Allowing him to do that makes him feel strong and giving that strength to him, I become more stronger....❤️🤗
U are a lucky wife . That's what I can say Unlike my father who is abusive as a wife my mom tolerated everything but as a mother she can't so she left him one day. She raised her kids and educated them as a single parent. I am so proud I have got a great mom.
This human is epitome of wisdom and generosity, far better than most of the comedian these days in terms of being funny , also wiser then many intellectuals
Aunty? Are you for real? Do you know even who she is? She is a stallwart in her industry...Her family members are mostly gold medallists from elite universities of the world!
Genuinely epitome of novel thoughts as well as sophisticated personality with pure knowledge and distinguished intellectual yet simplicity at it best. Immense respect Ma'am for such insightful speech for youth at the right time.
1:34 -The statement shows DISCIPLINE 5:00- Shows GENEROSITY 5:30- Husband is a wife's FRIEND too. 5:54- Good PHILOSOPHY Appreciation to the lady too from the audience to ask her this question perhaps knowing that she will receive some unique reply from Madam Sudha.
This is it !🙏 That's why we (me & my hubby) never realized that we've completed 10 years without any ill issues .... The words LIBERTY & FREEDOM were always there ... and we both accepted each other as "what we are"! Not what we want to be .... Thank you so much Sudha Ma'am...💞🙏
@@cubancafe7867 we Kannadigas respect Tamil people for fighting for Tamil language. My sincere request to my Tamil friends : please help Kannadigas in saving our Kannada language. We will always be grateful to you for your support.
So you will accept your husband the way he is even if he's completely lazy and irresponsible?? You will give him the freedom and liberty to go do what he wants, party and all, while you work professionally and come home and continue to do housework as well? Don't support a speech that is not applicable to everyone.
So you will accept your husband the way he is even if he's completely lazy and irresponsible?? You will give him the freedom and liberty to go do what he wants, party and all, while you work professionally and come home and continue to do housework as well? Don't support a speech that is not applicable to everyone.
Completely agreed with each word said. I just want to add that never neglect some fundamental expectations like respect, love and care. Both shall give each other respect, love and care❤️
you cant give freedom to a husband who is an alcoholic or womaniser. You can give a freedom to a husband who does not do anything wrong to disharmonize the family.
Yes. But she said a valid point. Nowadays, there is no adjustments. My mother used to say that her parents always advice her that she should adjust to my father's family. Nowadays, girls when they enter into a house, try to separate her husband from his mom.
Very beautifully explained Ma'am. If there is love & understanding between husband and wife , life becomes easy & many problems can be resolved mutually.
I always agree what you say Ma'am....the way you speak difficult topics in such a simple way is always commendable. This is a great advice to all the women
I've lost both my maternal & paternal grand mother's and it's been over 6 years now. Sudhammagaru it's my fortune living time to have come across someone speak and in a way preach the younger generation that Life is not mere worthful but far away valuable to experience. I could ignore a single statement from so many of your interviews. I'll be more fortunate to not just read myself but share thoughts of your ideologies from your books with my children, if at all there's one to share my Life. I bet on my entire life, Narayan sir, is a fortunate and wise Man to have chosen you. My honest Regards to you Sudhamma. 🤝
What a gracious woman! I am so glad to see this video as I am about to get married. Although it is an arranged marriage, I love my husband-to-be so much. ❤️
Mam.. You elucidate such a complex matter in a very simple way.. It's like listening to a mother.. Thank you so much mam.. Always grateful to you mam.. 🙂🙂🥰🥰🙏🙏
Understanding each other ,accepting each other is the ultimate theme of her words ..in between understanding the relation between mother and son is the best thing she said ..
the problem is not about a wife accepting her husband as he is, the problem arises when husbands demand their wives to "change" for their convenience !! their wives should be the only one to compromise as per himself, his mother his father his siblings. the wife should fulfil all her duties of the home and hearth even is she too wants to be dedicated to her career, the wife should take care of the kids, the wife this and the wife that. after marriage the woman completely loses her own personality, character adn desires. That is what brings the clashes. if she too is thriving in the marriage there would be no clashes.
@@nagasankarrao1270 agreed but unfortunately in Indian societies, patience is expected only from the wife. if husband wants a promotion and has to put in more hours, the wife has to have the Patience and handle "her" responsibilities. unless the realization that marriage is a "Partnership " where both partners have Equal responsibilities sets in there will never be a Happy marriage. the husband will just sire a child but the responsibility of bringing it up is of the woman. the husband will bring the wife to his family and the responsibility of managing the family is of the new wife who has no clue about the nature of people in his house.. Typical words from the husbands mother or sister " now that he is your husband you have to take the responsibility of "Improving his life" nobody ever says to the woman that now that you are married to our family, you are our responsibility. We will take care and look after you thru all thick and thin.
Absolutely right..after marriage there no individual career for her.All the time she have to compromise herself and accepting their wishes at maximum level she try to fulfill that.Marriage completely changing a women physically and mentally but end of the day she is loosing herself her happiness,wishes, confidence, carreer sometimes getting complementary words from in law's your mother not teached you well.
@@darlakrishnan5697 true this is when the same mother tells the new wife of her son that she has to take care of him !! so what did she do as a mother for her own son ? what did she teach her son ? be a burden on the wife ? Marriage in Indian societies is a Joke. its not a partnership between 2 individuals, its basically hiring a manager for a dysfunctional family.
Charming and so innocent. Why would her husband fight with her? What she says here is gold guys. But the truth is the other side never accepts. No matter how understanding you get, you still get misinterpreted and discarded.
Of course most of the women would be ready to follow her advice if the husbands are determined towards a successful life as her husband. Towards husbands who are self destructive this advice will not apply.
Really real Inspiration that without your support Mr Myrthy can't get founder's Infosys . the balance you maintained between offices and travelling and absences were excellent salute you and Mr Murthy also from San Francisco
If there is love, there will be understanding naturally. Without even knowing that each other is understood well. If there is no love, why should someone understand or be understood? My husband used to say that we are parallel lines and we will never meet. However, we are never out of track. We have never agreed on anything so far. Yet we are happy with a good family. We have agreed to disagree. Mutual respect for each other. I have not lost my freedom and individuality. I think that's the best gift any spouse could give.
with all respect to Sudha mam, It's easy to accept a man who is passionate and driven for a constructive aspect in life. I see many men in this generations hooked up in front of laptops, virtual games, TV and social media. They disregard the family life and love ones in that process. Then a wife or a wellwisher has to point it out to them.
What is wrong is pointing it out to them , everybody is running a rat race of money ,fame , addictions , responsibilities. Some people may have get lost in these Other realities . Balance of both family and work is important. Its a good sign that u r thinking of pointing it out to him , some people won't even do that .
So true! Also, if Mrs. Murthy herself had the freedom to devote at least 3 weeks of a month to NGO activities that speaks a lot of her privilege. Seems she had the luxury to delegate household responsibilities to domestic help.
@@shaaam6654 how can anyone consider sati as an Indian Culture... It was practised only amoung some groups in Bengal ......that social evil was not even an Bengali culture then how indian????
@@petersanju Madam being women you are using bad words. You can take out your frustrations in other ways on other platforms as well. Your comments have shown what your thoughts are. I follow simple rule ignore idiots. 👍
I was once reading an article ... where I came across a joke: 'What is the secret behind your 40 years marriage ' asked a friend to the couple at their anniversary. The husband replied 'My wife loves me and I love me, that is the only secret'.
Mam, working women these days don't want their husband to take them out for a movie, or to take them out for shopping. They want them to share household chores and do their share of parenting. Women don't care how much money the husband is giving to mother inlaw. They want the liberty to help their own parents in the same way as husband helps his parents Also every husband is not a tapas like Murthy who lives and breathes Infosys. Husband might be spending the day playing video games while the wife is doing all the chores like an adult after working in an office.
@99 may be her husband has made her that miserable. I have seen so many happy bubly girls changing into miserable women thanks to their husband and in-laws.
@99 I pity your wife. While she may be working u are here comenting on stranger ladies that too under the guise of anonymity. You have proved the point of so many ladies here thanks☺️
It’s easy to say these things when you are married to a decent, hard working man who is successful and stable and when his mother and Sister don’t harass you and create a toxic environment for you. A man should meet the needs and wants of his wife and kids first (within reason) this is my opinion.
Simple and Straight..Don’t expect or force or do a showoff of any kind just to seek validation. PDA and all other stuffs like not giving space, being jugedmental with the friend circle etc. are the criterias one follows to make people around ‘em BELIEVE that their marriage is successful one. RATHER than making people BELIEVE one should focus on keeping their own BELIEF in a marriage.
Ma'am Sudha Murthy ji Namaste 🙏i feel your good selves has made us feel so great and powerful for realising the depth of lady power your each word always gives the message for adding value to the life Ma'am thank U so very much for always inspiring ❤️🙏
Beautifully explained Mam 🤗🤗Ur a grt inspiration for me mam 🤗🤗🙏🙏 Actually the clash arises when it isn't mutual..... There should be mutual freedom and acceptance 🙏🙏
This is one of the best advise to any women which equally applies to all men. Her advise to both the entity.....has the cure for all matrimonial disputes... seperate if you just can't adjust......
So you will accept your wife the way she is even if she's completely lazy and irresponsible?? Don't support a speech that is not applicable to everyone.
Cant get seperated there is emotional blackmail of children...indian society says what ever hapns u hv to stay with husband and die...whetheru like or not..parents to dont support women once she is married...
Actually when we accept everyone in our lives as they're, life never gets stressful or complicated.. we even stay healthy. But very well said by the Lady. She has always been my inspiration and still does. 🙏
@@nnshiek5244 I do understand what you mean dear. Ofcourse accepting people as they are is not letting them abuse you. Any form of abuse must not be tolerated. Abusers could be husband, wife, parents or children. No one must be spared.
Madam You are an icon in so many aspects in this present time and society. You are an absolute example of women of the best family in our society. God bless you for long life with good health. 💐🙏🙏🙏
Hats off to Mrs Sudha Murthy. Her talk is worth listening by the younger generation who do not have the patience and are not ready to adjust and compromise. Even for petty issues they go to the extent of divorce.
Sudha Murty is an institution, for me, I respect her for her teaching to all woman like me. Hat's off to her for her immense knowledge in every aspect of life, she is an outstanding woman for me.
That's exceptional case. She is definitely not suggesting to stay in a toxic or abusive relationship. Infact, no one should stay in such relationship. Sometimes it's better to move out.
Only two words to say worthful words .oooooo my god she told the big fact of life in a simple way 🔥👍🙂love her for her experienced valued thought really adorable
No wonders Infosys grew so big No wonders Nayayana Murthy is so rich No wonders Sudha Murthy is so rich Rich not only of money but of values Stay Blessed Sudha India needs Millions and Millions of Sudha(s)... infact the World too needs Sudha(s) like you... May God Bless you...
How to accept a drunkard and abusive husband? No need to accept wat he s if he s making our life a mess then have to come out of such abusive relation women are not slaves to suffer
That's why she said that she belong to the previous generation and the women of previous generation believe that it is better to adjust and tolerate a drunkard or an abusive husband than to live alone. It is still valid too. But of course feminists won't agree.
@@rajamohan8464 okay so it's better to live with a lunatic than to be by yourself besides one can find love again .. so leaving a toxic partner is anyday better n it's valid for both genders.. if ur wife is toxic leave her if ur husband is toxic leave him.. simple.. mental peace is more important than companionship anyday..
@@shahnas7606 he is a man ...he will say that..women r meant to obey, adjust in all things, get beaten and treated like jail acquist according to him...he wil not say if he is born as girl..
What about girls, who use boyfriends for long time for her and for her family purposes.....and will try to avoid saying I'm not liking you.....this is just bullshit you ladies are speaking...
I love her lines "Accept the person what he is" Makes my life wonderful. She is my role model. She is always positive, cheerful, understanding, responsible and a lot a lot more.
