you go girl! Back in the day my kids were raised in the 70s. They did not have their TV. They could not go over their friends house. Not could they have friends over their house 😮after a while they got the message. I was a single mom raising 4 children.. I worked two jobs. I was exhausted when I came home and if the chores weren’t done, that’s what happened. They are all grown and their houses are immaculate😊 and they do the same thing with their children. I learned early on if I didn’t put my foot down they didn’t care because it wasn’t their home per se so why should they do anything, so they thought😂 I’m very proud of you. it’s not easy, not giving in. with your back hurting so much they should be doing every chore. They are asked to do no question…
Totally agree I was raised that way too. I hope she takes it easy for her back my husband just had back issues, we been married 40 years next month, never seen him in that much pain. Shavonne please take it easy and let your kids help you please 🙏
You’re a great Mom!! You do everything you can for your kids, provide them with everything they need and most of what they want, and you’re just teaching them respect & responsibility 👏🏼 A lot of parents could take a lesson from you. Could you make a family room/ hangout space in your basement? That’s what I did, and it was the best thing I could’ve done! Concrete floors with a big area rug, so if something was spilled, it was a much easier cleanup. Not to mention my main livingroom always stays clean and nice. I know you have things stored down there, so did I, but if you create a 2nd space, maybe you can use some of it, and it will thin things that are stored out. 🤷🏽♀️ Just giving you a thought…lol
It’s good to hear that you’re finally hold your kids accountable. You’ve finally waking up cause you’ve been a fog for quite some time about your kids before they thought that you didn’t mean it when you asked them to do what you told them to, I’m glad for you
Hi I love your channel, you are doing the right thing about the kids. They seem to get everything they ask for and yet don’t appreciate all you do for them so persevere and get your point across! They have to learn and not take you for granted. ❤
Hi Shavonne I saw you making up the children's bed you can take a flat sheet entitled to top ends together underneath the mattress and you can also do the same thing at the bottom of the bed underneath the mattress tie the two flat ends together and it will fit like a fitted sheet❤❤
❤I know it’s hard to be tough at times as a parent. Your son will understand discipline and the need to be a person of your word when he goes to basic training. So proud of you! We believe in you 🙏🏽
Teaching your kids to be responsible is a part of loving them. I have a 10 year old grandson and he’s allowed to play with whatever he wants to during the day, but nighttime, he has to put everything back in its place. This works in my house. I had to check on this being done until it became his regular schedule. Kids need balance in their lives. But it’s up to us as parents/ guardians to make sure they have it.
You r doing exactly the right thing Stay strong-kids can be lazy and you have a powerful tool and continue to use it. Days w/0 electronics will be meaningful. Don’t feel guilty. You are teaching them a great life lesson in responsibility. Proud of you. (Teacher here)
You are a great Mother ! Your children are blessed to have you ! You always put your kids first, but sometimes you should think of yourself because you deserve it ! 🥰🥰
Hey Family, Shy I never speak on your children , But am so PROUD of you standing on your words !!!! Your children are big enough to know NOT too mess up the way they do !!!! 😮 You should have made the twins cleaned their own messy room ! You mess up you clean up !!!! You took your precious time to give them a beautiful room and it seems as if they don't appreciate it , Their big enough to know bette , When you know better you do better ,The more you help and do they will continue too be messy . Same thing with the bigger children their rooms should never be out of order ! 😮❤
@@ShyvonneMelanieTV You are a beautiful soul I know for a fact and I don't even know you from a can of paint ,But my spirit never tells me wrong 🌹 Very humble you are and your children use it too their advantage @times ☹️ I really really do admire you. And I definitely get it if you want something done right do it yourself right ? But when it comes to rooms and chores get it done without me , It's okay to let them do what's ask of them 😘 I still LOVE y'all ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💙
If you clean with your children they will learn how to clean. Sending them in to do it themselves is overwhelming. You are doing great. Back pain is the worst. Take care.
Shyvoone your home I so beautiful why won't they want to help keep it that way, you work so hard making sure they have all their needs, come on you Kids, Mom needs help and she shouldn't have to ask you , you ask her what can you do to assist in keeping the house clean.
I’m so glad you did that. They need to learn that you mean what you say. It’s simply no excuse for it especially considering how good you are to all of them and how hard you work for them. And you are right that is your home they are just living there and they should respect you enough to take care of it. I tell my girls the same thing. I don’t have to take things away anymore because they dont try me honey they know I mean business. Mom is going to ask you one time and that’s it after that it’s on boo lol. But they are 15 and 16 now so I really have no issues. We do a lot for our children and they should show respect by simply doing what we ask since the requests are so small. Wish the dishes take out trash clean your room. These are all small tasks and they need to learn the way of the real world.
Hi. I love the way you changed the sofa. Looks great. I know helping the twins with their room shows them how to do it themselves. However, every time I see the stuff under the beds I feel they should know to use the waste basket. Anyway one day hopefully. Thanks for the video it gave me motivation. 💕
Any mother or parent with children should ALWAYS check in and clean the children's rooms from time to time. Number one they don't clean like parents at that age so they need the guidance and help and instruction. Number 2 at any age obviously unless grown it gives you the opportunity to see what they have,what they are into and possibly exposed too. Some things can be caught and helped or prevented with a watchful eye on the home front. So good job!❤ I hear so many time I didn't know my child had thoughts of harming themselves or other people for example and then go to their room and there are a ton of books or letters!! Stay involved parents .
Great job Mom, years from now they will be remembering this and proud that their Mom made them responsible. My kids laugh now and will tell their friends my Mom didn’t take no stuff, she made us be responsible and your kids will as well. House as always looks good. Great jobs girls on cleaning your room.
Shyvonne I admire you on how you are keeping your house and family as being a single parent. And I no how it is to just do a project at a time when you have to save up for . Everything looks really nice and clean😊
Hi Shyvonn I truly understand how you feel. I raised two boys by myself and as a mother you want to give in but stay strong they will benefit in the end. This will show them that their is consequence for there actions.
I absolutely love your channel and your family.I was a single mom also of four children one son and three daughters who are all grown now and now I’m becoming a grandmother.You have grown and middle aged children so I don’t need to say how important it take up time while helping them clean their room that’s a way to bond and let them express what they are going through they will all soon be grown and out of the house and trust me I used to say oh I can’t wait to become an empty nester boy was I wrong anxiety separation set in and that was a process …so cherish every little moment don’t listen to everybody you are doing an awesome amazing job!❤
@@lisafarris1870 You are right! As soon as she begins “helping,” they stand around and watch her do everything. It seems that most of what is needed is for the kids to put things back where things belong. Then the cleaning would be done quickly.
Shavoyne, I hope that I spelled your name correctly. I love your style to include decorations and being a mother to your children. I came from a single mom. My mom wasn’t present the majority of the time. She was still trying to party and live her life like she had no care in the world. You are a great Mom! You are showing your kids how to be great people. I love cleaning and it’s my favorite thing to do. I’m not good at organizing because my Mom would make me do all of the chores to include organizing the closets and if the closet’s weren’t to her standards she would pull everything out and make me redo them. Your kids are blessed. You making things happen and it looks effortlessly. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
I’m so proud of you shyvonne because us long time loyals know you give in on those kids and they only be on punishment for 2 hours 😂😂😂😂I bet they will get it together I promise if works im a mom of 3 and I had to put my food down and they love those devices too much so they get it together!!!
Maybe you could work out a daily chore system where they can only get their devices after their chore is complete. Each day they have to do the chore after school to get their electronics. And no sharing . In other words a twin cannot earn their device and then let someone who has not done their chore use their electronics. Stick with it as they will try to out last you. Lol
You are doing right by taking away things they like when you do all you can for them. And they can't do what you ask them to do. I might be wrong. Sometimes, children take their parent for granted. They don't know it is to have stuff until you take it. I have to do the same to my grandkids.
U are doing an amazing job from one single mom to another❤!!!. And you are rich in spirit! God own all of it!!! We're just just stewards over what hes blessed us with. So make the very best of what u have!!. Stay encourage!!!. And know God is your way maker, promise keeper light in the darkness.. ❤
Shyvonne, your home looks really nice. I believe you're doing a wonderful job rasing your large family. I agree you are on the right path with expectations and requirements for them to become responsible and accountable for their actions. Your children will appreciate you for giving them structure. The twins are old enough to keep their room straightened up. It starts every morning 10-15 minutes, before school 30 min before bed. I believe they just may have too much stuff. (which will make any space look clutter) #TeamMom
I'm so proud of you Shyvonne! I know it's not easy for you, but you keep those devices for awhile. They may be upset now, but they will get themselves together and thank you later! ☺
Praying for you Shyvonne you'll get better just keep doing your water aerobatics helps take the pressure off your joints. Consider Yoga and strengthen your core man that saved my life I could barely walk but I just kept at it and I'm doing much better Also physical therapy they gave me exercises to do at home that helped a lot .Loved your Sunday reset stay safe!
You did by doing that to the kids i knw its hard but they have to learn im like you no matter if ur hurting u still r doing something i got a bad back too i still push my way through n still do what i have to do u can do the floors u did alot u didnt think u could do n u could i got faith in you but wait to ur back is better which i hope u see releif soon ur a awesome mom dont never think ur not i miss my mom every day ahe was my mom n my best friend i loved her n still do like she was here take care just wanted to share this with you u deserve it girl
Girrrl it sounds like you need a spa day. On the first day of school, send the kids off, tell Iyanna to have a nice day at work and go to a spa. Find one that has a hot tub and can give you a full body massage and facial for a nice price. Sometimes the pains in our bodies come from stress and us mothers go through a lot of that. Go have a self care day. Take yourself on a solo date once a month and just enjoy you. When my kids became pre teen, teenage, and early adults I would take self care days to keep my sanity lol. Now that they are grown and living their own lives I do it because I enjoy it. You gotta take care of you.
Shyvonne you are a wonderful Mom I really enjoy your interaction with you and the twins...I think it's great how you're holding strong with the kids....God Bless you all🎉🎉🎉❤
I’m going thru the exact thing right now with my kids, the thing that gets me is when it comes to them I’m supposed to drop everything and drive them here and there but nobody wants to do a chore! Whoever said babies are hard lied cause it’s the teens! And I find myself constantly saying we didn’t act like that as kids😂
The living room looks great 😊 I have to take my grandkids, electronics and stuff away every once in a while until they get the message of keeping everything clean. I told them when they respect their home. Their friends will respect it too. Be Blessed
Lady I am so motivated by you! You share a lot! Life be life’in as they say! You said it right.. it’s just you! Take your time and do you! You always do so much! You’re a great mom as we’ll see! Blessings
Shyvonne…have you ever thought of removing the small dressers in the room and maybe moving the shelf unit to where the small dressers are and getting one or two more wardrobes and putting those where the current open shelving is? Or, removing the book shelf completely and have three closed cabinets, one for Kade’s clothes, one for Kinsley’s clothes and one for books, games, etc. which would dedicate the one full wall to sleek cabinetry. I know it is hard with two girls sharing a room but just a thought.
Shyvonne, people often mistake the content from the context. Your heart spews out Love,love, love. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Most people wish their mom paid attention to details… They will rise and call you BLESSED!!!! Life makes us grow together! Love you sis. Be encouraged!!! You are helping somebody. FYI… when I don’t feel like cleaning my kitchen… I think of you and I begin to suds away with my soap dispenser like you… lol❤❤❤❤
I love the new arrangement of the sofa when Christmas come if you move the other ottoman you can put your Christmas tree in the window I just took notice how cozy it would look with your tree there by your sofa I love shelves also everything looks so good I just love those built in bookshelves
😍 That's the kind of Furniture my son needs in his apartment in N Y . You did the right thing you are a good Mom. I feel for them but you had to do what you had to do they will get it . I love the girls room nice video.
Your house is really looking beautiful! Just a thought: did you ever think of finishing the basement ? You can make the family room down there the hang out area down there ? ❤️
You’re such an Awesome Mama!! Try to find some candle warmers. They have a lot of different styles of them and you don’t have to worry about blowing them out lol! Love ❤your channel!!
Queen, you are doing a fabulous job on raising your children. Do how you feel n not what people expect you to do on raising your children. Cause your opinion is the only one that counts. But where did you get the vanities? Cause I have some lil queens that would love those? Stay strong sis❤
Hello Shyvoone, and family. I only have one child. ( son. He in now grown, and married, doing well,and his wife,is a lovely young lady. Do well too) when my son, was your twin age,his room was a mess. My husband, his father said no he made the mess let him clean it. He asked me for help,which I did help him. I noticed he would constantly, ask for help again. I finally put my foot down,and said no. I became very sterner with him. I never had that problem again. I don't tell people what to do with their children, but if you ask, I would suggest a solution. I cannot stand a messy house. Continue to do what is best for you,and your children. Great video ❤❤
