Just my opinion, not that you asked for it but….I would take out the expanders and do a flat closure. Get your radiation & chemo. Then later you can make decisions about reconstruction. 🙏🙏💕
I am totely flat now ,first mastectomy 16 years ago and second 6 weeks ago ,I am so happy to be flat,I look great. No more breasts need mammograms. I don't know will I ever wear a bra again😂
Could you go see a wound specialist? My heart breaks for you. I also have breast cancer, and I have skin necrosis from a lumpectomy and a significant breast reduction. A few days after my surgery (August 23rd), I noticed dead black skin over the incision on my noncancer breast that was also reduced. My aunt who is an NP, said to go to the ER immediately. I did, and the doctor said it was not necrosis but a scab. It was not a scab. Needless to say, it got much worse over the next few days, and my husband has a friend who is an ER trauma surgeon who saw the pictures and said that it was definitely necrosis tissue and prescribed an antibiotic for me. Still, the damage had been done; I had a 5-inch by 2.5 inch piece of tissue missing on my breast. The pain is horrible, and I have gone back to my plastic surgeon 5 times. He has done nothing except for the first time when he removed the dead skin. Finally, he sent me just this Monday to a wound specialist. Like you, this massive wound (that they will not even treat the pain for) is delaying me getting radiation. I have lost so much trust in the medical field as well. I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. Ask about a wound specialist. That is crazy that you have to keep going back over and over again for surgeries/procedures. I will be praying for you.
I’m also her+ going through the thick of chemo. Hugs. It’s so hard. Your feelings are valid and should be heard. Thank you for sharing and keeping it real. You’re not alone I’m sure you already know that but I hope maybe hearing it from a stranger that is also feeling and dealing with some similar pains may help. You’re going to get through this!
I feel your pain. ❤️ I am also battling breast cancer. You just want normalcy or at least some semblance of a “normal” life back. You want, or at I do, to put your cancer treatment behind so you can focus on prevention and healing. Delaying radiation is not a position you should be in. 😢 Sometimes I feel that surgeons are so focus on their “art” that it comes sometimes at the detriment of all other things. The past is the past and “what if” are not healthy. Focus ahead on next plans. Talk with your radiation oncologist about your concerns. I’ll be thinking about you. And NEVER apologize for crying or for being angry. It’s normal.
I went through this during my treatment for osteosarcoma, which was diagnosed just before my 30th birthday. I started out so strong and confident, but as anyone who’s had chemo knows, it has a cumulative effect that just beats you down after awhile. I had numerous complications and side effects, and like you, got to a point where I didn’t know myself in the mirror. It felt like I’d been erased; there was nothing recognizable left. A naked egg of a head on a body covered in scars. I want you to know you will come out the other side. I didn’t think it was possible, but it is. I’m incredibly blessed to be thirty years down the road, especially since I had metastasis in my lungs that required several surgeries. Hang in there. You don’t have to be strong all the time; just take it a day/hour/minute at a time
You are among friends here. We love you. I have a different cancer so I know the ups and downs of treatment and recovery. Cry all you want. Feel our love and support.❤
Ok, take a breath. It totally sucks what’s going on with you right now for sure. You have a good relationship with the NP so that’s good. Everyone heals differently. The biggest priority is to get you healthy. Get the skin healthy. I know it’s taking multiple procedures, but it sounds like you’re getting close. I pray for peace and comfort for you.
Eat protein - NO SUGAR - this is like a 3rd world country. A nurse? Where the hell is that doctor - I’m so sorry for you. PLEASE see another group-ask someone on the channel that’s gone through this get you a referral. This is horrible.
You’ve got to dig deep and fight. You have the power to say no to any procedure. Your life is worth seeking an outside opinion. It may be inconvenient however was the best thing I ever did prior to my bilateral mastectomy a month ago. Trust your inner wise self. You are a beautiful soul and not your body. I am with you my sister. You got this.
I think you need to allow yourself the grace to feel what you feel. If it bothers you to look at your body, there is nothing wrong in feeling that. Our body is what we see of us. We've had it since we were born, and it's what we equate with who we are. So any change to that image is going to affect how we feel. I had half my foot amputated, and I definitely have feelings of loss just with that. I can only imagine having to have a double mastectomy and how I would feel after that. Add to that the caustic treatments you've had to endure, and the physical illness those have caused. It all adds up to a lot our mind has to process and deal with. So, give yourself the time and space to mourn that loss and process those feelings. And know that it's ok to feel discouraged and depressed. Then, do whatever you can to build yourself up mentally and emotionally and to recognize that no matter what changes are made to your body, you are still you, and you are loved and valued. I don't know you, but I really do feel your pain, but can also feel your strength and resolve. You've got this, you can get theough this. You will prevail.
My heart breaks for you. I'm also Her2+, going through 4th chemo and ended up in ER for 3 days due to low potassium. We not only dealing with the treatments but it what our bodies have to cope with. I pray the Lord gives you strength and healing through this difficult time. Sending hugs. ❤
I'm so sorry for what you are going through, my heart aches for you. Don't ever feel bad for crying, we lost our son a couple of years ago and I still cry alot, I know it only helps for the moment but I will take any thing I can get I pray for you, just hang in. Wish I could give you a big hug
I’m very sorry to hear you’re suffering. Don’t apologise for crying. You will get through this. I know you can’t see it now. I know only too well how mentally this affects you. I’ve been there. I’m a survivor of ten years now. You can do this. ❤
I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through all this. All of your feelings and emotions are valid. I think if you trust your surgeon, that she is a good surgeon and has your best interests in mind, you might want to follow her advice. I will keep you in my prayers. 💞
I hear you and I see you and I understand the feelings you have right now. I just finished radiation 33 sessions. It was so painful and we are told the importance of getting radiation. I’m no doctor I’m just a mom of 3 going through what you and so many other women go through. To wake up and look in the mirror and see a stranger is something that until you go through it it’s hard to understand. But we keep getting up and fighting. I know getting radiation is important and you healing from surgery is just as important. My journey was different I had double mastectomy first then chemo then radiation. Dec 22,23 surgery, feb 5 chemo, June 11th radiation. I needed that time to heal to then be able to heal from radiation. Just recovering from the mastectomy is so hard and you’re doing that when you just finished chemo which is so hard. I hope and prey that you heal from your surgeries and then when the time comes for radiation you’re able to continue to fight and finish radiation and heal from that. That’s all we can do. We fight. We do what it takes we heal and we fight. I don’t know anyone in my life with breast cancer. I went to the internet when I was diagnosed Oct 17,23. Here i am today now on tamixafin trying to wrap my head around what has happened to me in less then a year. Just know that we hear you and we understand and we are right here with you.
I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time. Just my opinion but it will help you to talk with a therapist about the situation. You will feel so much better. Here is where faith is needed. I know you are spiritual. God is with you always. One day at a time. Try to think only about the day you are in. When you let your mind wander to the future or think “what if” you are letting fear and anxiety take over. My prayers are with you…🙏🙏🙏💕
Sounds like you don’t want to give up yet, but are real close. You are expressing a lot of fears about your future health. In talking with your loved ones - maybe they can help you set boundaries with this procedure being the last. You have a lot of living to get to- and this isn’t it. After each one of your videos, I am reminded to include you in my prayers. You have been so strong and I know you will ultimately make the best decision for you and your family.🙏🏻
I am sooo sorry your having so many difficulties with your surgeries….i don’t know if you are…but when I was going through treatment I made sure to eat red meat and take my vitamins for the Bs for the skin and collagen to help heal the skin…everything I could think of to concentrate on healing…and lots of prayers…which I know you already do…plus I just finished my radiation with no burns….I got radiation cream and spray four times a day….they suggest the aquafor but it’s just not enough….i know it’s so hard….im trying to find myself too through all the suffering….i will be praying this is the final one…..and you can move on😢
As a cancer survivor of 20 years for colon cancer, I now have a potential breast tumor. I will not get a lumpectomy. I will change diet and exercise. I will refuse chemo radiation. I say women weekly go through treatment and they were not there the following week. I’m so pissed that people do what doctors say and don’t get well. I saw it so I know. Chemo radiation donot cure as far as what I have seen. I’m praying that you get well. Google how to get your immune system stronger to fight. Look up eating muffins with flaxseed and how breast tumors have shrunk 45%. It’s true. There are videos you should be watching by Dr.Michael Gregor. Look up everyone on cancer under nutrition facts on RU-vid. It has improved my health and immune system. 😊
Honey...I'm so sorry. I'm chronically ill and the energy it takes because each different dr needs to be seen. The emotional, financial and the energy to keep going. It's coming, your time of rest. Push through there's a lite at the end of the tunnel. Praying that you find peace and comfort
I’m a new subscriber and I feel your pain. Also HER2 positive (initial diagnosis and recurrence). Fighting breast cancer alone is hard, so having to have continual surgeries, etc. gets so discouraging. 🥹 Sending prayers up for you asking God to give you strength to keep going! 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Sending you love and strength to you. You are not a downer you are beautiful inside and out. I know sometimes storytelling and fear takes over in our mind thoughts but remember this will pass. Everyone here lifting you up and holding your hand. Once this is all over we all will do our high five to You! ❤🇨🇦
I am so sorry to hear about yet another setback. Praying for you Rebecca (please let me know the correct spelling of your name ❤) and also praying for your family. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Big hugs and well wishes - whether you are having surgery or not tomorrow. Either way, I’m thinking of you and hoping for the very best. ❤
Oh mama, im so sorry. i hate that you are going through this. it’s bad enough to have the loss of control from cancer, but then to have to feel like you are being delayed again. I’ve fur nothing to give but love and prayers. I know you’ll be looking back on this day in the future, seeing how strong you were and are. ❤
Oh Rebecca! I thought I was strong, but you’re the winner. This is my third cancer. Going through chemo and immunotherapy. It hasn’t been easy, my side effects are killing me, nausea, pain everywhere, can’t eat. Anyways, I hear all you are going thru and it breaks my heart, i swear everyone going through terrible desease, is on my prayers. We’re warriors. We’re in the hands of God! I know you have three little ones that need mommy. God it’s big and prayers are listening.
I don’t understand why are you back to work. I exhausted all of my time, sick, vac and fml bc I hasn’t been working since March of 2024, thank God i had a lot of time, but my oncologist signed accommodation paperwork and she said I’m going unable to work. It was approved, now I’m paying my own insurance, not getting paid but we need the insurance, and I honestly can’t work, every time I get treatment, I get so sick for 4 weeks straight, I don’t get a break. Do something so don’t have to work.
Wemon dont need to feel that going flat is not a good thing ,it is totally lebarating, no more mammograms, not having to worry about cancer hiding behind reconstruction , I have a problem in a world where Wemon feel the need to ho through this because it is expected of them ,
Don't know what to say to make you feel better. I'm an end-stage leukemia patient & I have to deal with so much less than you. I admire your bravery & resilience so much. I wish I could do something to help...I'm keeping you in my thoughts & prayers.
Maybe you are not meant to have radiation.could be a blessing. Perhaps its just time to deal with healing and let the radiation part go, Heal be with your family and work - None of it is a promise with the treatments. You are beating yourself up over radiation. Plz Stop. You had it removed and did the chemo Thats A LOT. Time to HEAL and Surround yourself with LOVE- Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness. Isaiah 41:10
Your lymph nodes are doing what god designed them to do. Go to pubmed and ask it if lymph nodes spread cancer. Cancer is a systemic disease. I feel bad you feel so pressured to move forw. You have time ❤️
Girl, are you ready to get off the rollercoaster? Its all up to you -- did you forget that part? Listen you yourself You already said you are HEALED FROM CANCER. Now BELIEVE IT. FAITH. Should it return You'll decide what to do..However there is No point borrowing more trouble. TRUST IN YOURSELF You 've got this you already did your part. Start Living your life with your loved ones, that's what is important, Dry your tears, pick yourself up and ENJOY your life the best you are able to with your hubby and your children, Now its time to be POSITIVE and EMBRACE LIFE once again. You gotta cause that's also part of healing
Sending prayers from sunny South Africa. Im a 22 year breast cancer survivor. I had many operations plus a year of chemo then rads. Later i went onto tablets for a further ten years. Im thankful to be healthy and well twenty two years after my diagnosis. You hang in there. Much love. 🙏🇿🇦💕
That's good to hear ,I had her2 positive breast cancer, they have put me on hormone inhibitors which are causing alot of bone pain, does this ease in time ,thinking of coming of them but frightened will have a recurrence 😢
@@Debilee16I was on hormone inhibitors for five years then off for five then back on for another five years. Been off them for many years now and yes the bone pain eventually fades. Thinking of You 💕
Please dont apologise for getting upset, its totally normal with what we are going through, feel like not getting anywhere, im the same ,do not look the same now ,have lost 3 stones since my treatment started 2 years ago ,i hardly go out as i suffer from Anxiety, but this is a means to a end ,theres women who had breast cancer 20 years ago , we will be survivors to ❤
Don’t apologize for your feelings, ever. You cannot help the way you feel about things. Your life is precious and you will find yourself again. I am having to do that too. God Bless you! 🙏😘
Hi, I am new to your channel. I am so sorry you are going through this. I have two close family members with breast cancer. One had a lumpectomy with other treatments 12 years ago. The other has a rare type, got a double mastectomy and lots of reconstructive surgery. They are both doing great. It may take some time, but I believe you will get there too. You got this!❤
I pray for you every day. ❤❤❤ nothing i can say to make anything better. Just know we love you and you're in my heart and prayers everyday. God Bless you and your family.
My God what the Hell are they doing? I had her2 positive, grade 1 had 2 lumpectomy then had to have mastectomy, No Radiation, are you sure you totally need the Radiation , funny how they keep getting you in , your having to pay for all this ,it's all going to effect your mental health even more 😢
God bless you honey I sympathize with you my Mom went through the same thing only thing she was a lots older but she said the same thing she said she was so tired but your your young and you have children and your family to fight for we will keep praying for you to bet this thing God is a awesome God
You are so wrong in saying that, why would you do that? I had HER2+ cancer back in 2016.went thru chemo, surgery and radiation abd have been clear ever since. Stop spreading lies, ut does not help.
