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Surviving Incest 

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@rosedix9116
@rosedix9116 Год назад
My step father abused me my entire life and then stole my car and gassed himself when I told the police. My mum kicked me out of home bc of the resentment she had for me ‘fucking her husband’. No one believes me when I tell the story… it’s good to hear a scarily similar story and not feel alone xxx
@rosedix9116
@rosedix9116 Год назад
It was a week after my 17th birthday he killed himself. The week prior he cornered me in our kitchen and said I was finally allowed to tell, because he was so depressed due to the fact I had recently got a boyfriend and that he was planning on killing himself. I thought he was bluffing so I told my mum who didn’t believe me at first, despite the fact he had told my mother he watched CP, and multiple other family members coming forward to tell her that he had attempted to molest their kids. He was banned from family events and my mother kept him in the house and stood by him while he physically and emotionally abused her as well. Her and I have a broken relationship sometimes it is better sometimes worse.
@Ferreneh
@Ferreneh Год назад
I believe you & wish you healing, that's absolutely awful 😢
@kirakoraawesome
@kirakoraawesome Год назад
I believe you too. That's fucking awful.
@rosedix9116
@rosedix9116 Год назад
@@kirakoraawesome thank you guys 🙏 I remember just randomly telling a man I worked with at the poultry processing plant I worked my story, just for a laugh to see his reaction, as he was brought up in a war torn country, and asked what it was like growing up in Australia. So I told him exactly what it was like for me! He just shook his head and said No way that’s not true. You need to respect your mother blah blah blah. Ok mister 😅 I’ve had people gossip and my ‘friends’ tell my story for me without permission, only to have random sticky beaks come up to me in public saying ‘THAT DIDNT REALLY HAPPEN TO YOU RIGHT?’ Hahaha all I can do is a laugh or cry. I sent my mum MC disturbance (allday) - diss track to my step dad mark to my mother on the anniversary, as his name was mark, let’s just say she wasn’t happy 😃
@rosedix9116
@rosedix9116 Год назад
His name was also mark for context.
@fattunicorns
@fattunicorns Год назад
Incest needs to be talked about more. The stigma and shame keeps victims silent and therefore trapped in trauma.
@stanleyperry
@stanleyperry Год назад
There is a general stigma around trama
@jorgevaldes6160
@jorgevaldes6160 Год назад
you mean pedophilia/molestation right?
@Rexorazor
@Rexorazor Год назад
Ah okay, time to normalise it then. Leftist logic.
@margonuts
@margonuts Год назад
people speak about it as if it’s some historical thing or only occurs in the south but soooo much of SA happens within the home therefor so much is incest
@Jennifer-gr7hn
@Jennifer-gr7hn Год назад
Enabling is a disease in itself - and rooted in selfishness.
@wifflewaffle5006
@wifflewaffle5006 Год назад
Pedophiles shouldn’t be able to get out early based on good behaviour Of course they’re behaving well in prison, there’s no children there for them to traumatize ?? I’ll never understand it
@taylorrmariex3
@taylorrmariex3 Год назад
Literally!!!!!
@frozenyogurth
@frozenyogurth Год назад
I had the exact same thought. Like, of course he'd be on good behaviour, there aren't any children to be a menace around.
@sarahhan1867
@sarahhan1867 Год назад
And pedos said themselves they can’t be changed
@who__cares__
@who__cares__ Год назад
I'm surprised the other inmates didn't k*ll him cause they despise pedos more than anything
@gigiarmany4332
@gigiarmany4332 Год назад
Ikr??😵😡🤯
@Toral3l3
@Toral3l3 Год назад
I love how the cat jumps up on the table when the conversation starts getting more and more intense. Plus the smile she’d get when the cat jumped up - I love animals. Best podcast I’ve seen so far this year.
@TheKatarinaGiselle
@TheKatarinaGiselle Год назад
Same!
@meganmullis5386
@meganmullis5386 Год назад
I think more podcasts/interview shows should have emotional support cats
@el-topo
@el-topo Год назад
i wonder if they can somehow smell our stress hormones or something?
@tamslicenfoo-ssmooth9124
@tamslicenfoo-ssmooth9124 Год назад
right they definately 100 % sense or feel it in some way , im not sure exactly the sensing ability that is used. as im sure you know dogs can also do this, dogs can sense even before something medical or life threatning happens in quite a few instances i would assume a cat is just as capable to catch some those fishy issues before it even really happens too . animals just know , call it their own little type of gut feelng or a sixth sense perhaps?
@aracelimejia1526
@aracelimejia1526 Год назад
His little cute paws 🐾 😍
@Death4271
@Death4271 7 месяцев назад
I was also molested by my dad as a child. He legitimately thought we were in a relationship because I was one of the “I wanna marry dad” types of little girls. When years later I, ironically, discovered the manosphere at 10 I took the advice they intended for men for myself and it gave me the strength to put him in his place enough that he never touched me again. He did however spend the rest of that week seething because I “broke up with him”. People who commit incest are absolutely sick.
@rachelgura3567
@rachelgura3567 2 месяца назад
That is a horrible thing to go through. I hope things have gotten better.
@Mintimiruku6369
@Mintimiruku6369 Месяц назад
This is so gross. Children don't know better and yet a grown man can't act accordingly to his age but take advantages of their innocent words.
@pinkpugginz
@pinkpugginz Месяц назад
I wonder if you aged out of his target range
@brittanyzahn7939
@brittanyzahn7939 Год назад
I love how you get right to the point and let your guests tell their story. No BS opener, just straight to the point. And I LOVE the beautiful cat jumping up to help break the intense emotions of these stories. Animals are amazing. This story was wow. This is one strong woman
@MICCZECH
@MICCZECH Год назад
Her mother COULD see everything, she pretended she couldn't bc the dad is the priority. She did not care about her kids. Gross narcissistic, abusive pedophiles. Yuck.
@Mrsmorbid
@Mrsmorbid Год назад
Same thing my mom did. She always bragged about how she never beat her kids but would watch my father beat us until we had scars. Also bragged how she came to our rooms every single night to make sure we were sleeping safe but somehow did not bump into my father once and catch him sexually abusing me in my sleep… then she gave him full custody of my little siblings and now calls herself a counselor and therapist for other girls my age and uses my abuse story which I never gave her permission to do. She’s giving other girls the help she should have given me but all she cares about is herself
@nellieshoals
@nellieshoals Год назад
@@Mrsmorbid JESUS. she sounds histrionic/narcissistic af tbh.
@sweet2sourr
@sweet2sourr 11 месяцев назад
Like my mom. She said basically it could have been worse
@nikkig4847
@nikkig4847 5 месяцев назад
As an incest survivor and mom it is so hard to know for sure id toure paranoid or your own husband violated your child. Rage and heart break denial... I have him under supervised visits set up and do not know the truth ... I'm doing my best .... It's all so confusing and overwhelming
@kimutone2970
@kimutone2970 2 месяца назад
​@@MrsmorbidProtest outside wherever she is working. I wouldn't rest until everyone knew what they did or didn't do.
@amandanorton6508
@amandanorton6508 Год назад
On behalf of all incest survivors, thanks for telling your story.
@itskarl79
@itskarl79 9 месяцев назад
Incredibly courageous, it’s so very embarrassing/shameful to live with.
@nikkig4847
@nikkig4847 5 месяцев назад
Agreed
@Indiemakeuplover
@Indiemakeuplover Год назад
I am so terrified of someone molesting my child multiple times a year we have a talk about what type of things are not okay. I can’t thank you enough for sharing your story. I’ve learned a lot about the disorder from you, and how the brain handles trauma that has helped me understand how my brain operates
@cintroff
@cintroff Год назад
i’m glad i’m not the only one terrified and has constant conversation about bodies and boundaries, what’s not okay and that it’s okay to talk to me. she’s only 4 but this world is scary.
@Flawdagal
@Flawdagal Год назад
Same. I talk to my 6 year old about it. (I don't use vulgar words or anything) just talk to her on her level. It's so sad and horrible that I even feel like I need to at all.
@MK-Hogan
@MK-Hogan Год назад
Same. And the most important thing to tell them is that, no matter what someone says about how they’ll get in trouble or they can’t tell anyone or anything like that, it’s absolute BS and you should always tell mom immediately no matter what.
@AnaMariaCratib
@AnaMariaCratib Год назад
I dont have kids, but i have a niece that i would simply die for. And even as an aunt i get terrified at just the thought of it… i cant even imagine how it must be like for a parent, a mom. 😢
@aimeem
@aimeem Год назад
@@MK-Hogan The vast majority of the time it's not 'stranger danger' -- it's someone the mom knows and trusts.
@BlendedBeautyXO
@BlendedBeautyXO Год назад
There’s no way her mom didn’t know .. whether she wanted to believe it or not .. she knew and she failed her
@joycecardinot9284
@joycecardinot9284 Год назад
I think her mother was probably another victim. it wouldn't be the first time wives do this kind of thing, especially religious ones. She's was fucked up in the head. Definitely failed her kids, definitely guilty, but I would like to listen to her if one day if she ever has the mental capacity to admit that she knew
@Ferreneh
@Ferreneh Год назад
​@Yinn's Yard yeah we have to realize that the mom was a fully fleshed out person themselves. Doesn't excuse her actions, they were just probably in such deep denial about the situation & hoping they could fix the father with love etc. There's layers to this stuff is what I mean
@snoozyq9576
@snoozyq9576 Год назад
​@@Ferreneh ya obv but still got a duty of care!
@clairelicciardo6198
@clairelicciardo6198 Год назад
​@@joycecardinot9284 come on what an absolute cop out! As a mother your number one job is to protect your children, religion has alot to do with it for sure. But victim this woman is not.
@joycecardinot9284
@joycecardinot9284 Год назад
@@clairelicciardo6198 We don't know her mental state to go in such deep denial. We don't know what this psycho pedophile did to her, we also don't know her background. I said she *probably* was another victim, I don't know for sure and probably never will. This is not to say that she shouldn't be held accountable, but something must have happened to her. I would listen to her with the benefit of the doubt, and some compassion, until she proved me wrong. But you don't have to share my opinion, I have my reasons.
@jesses7244
@jesses7244 3 месяца назад
Not sure why this popped up on my feed, but grateful that it did. I was molested and raped by my mother and older sister from ages 10-17. It took me so long to learn that what was happening was wrong, and that I was being abused by the people who were supposed to love me. I didn't get therapy until 24, at 28 I attempted to "check myself out", and it took me until around 30 to finally heal somewhat. I turn 32 next month, haven't spoken to my family in over 8 years, and have never felt better. If this is happening to you, please know this... You didn't ask for it. You don't deserve it. You don't enjoy it. Tell a trusted adult, and protect yourself. You are not alone, and things WILL get better. You are so loved, and deserve to live a normal life. Keep your head up and don't stop until you are safe.
@magmarok8209
@magmarok8209 Месяц назад
Damn, I wasn’t by family but a family friend and mentor figure I had for a long time. I don’t have timelines or days or even ages really, just pain and flashes unless I look at notes I never remember writing and from talks people tell me about.
@sarah-pz5de
@sarah-pz5de Год назад
i’ve never seen this channel or been into podcasts but i sat and watched the whole thing through and her story is so heart breaking, i’ve come from being groomed by people online growing up from the age of 12-15 and i’m so glad to see more people sharing their experiences and stories and making it known to the younger audience that these are the signs of abuse and that it isn’t love.
@agentstepp
@agentstepp Год назад
As a single dad who literally had to move and uproot my entire life because my wife was putting my daughter in danger I can’t understand how people like her dad exist…that’s your daughter dude, you’re supposed to be willing to die for her, abuse like this should end up with them getting convicted, getting their appeals, then being pushed into an incinerator. Gross.
@dedcoyt3437
@dedcoyt3437 Год назад
Thank u
@LexesOHara
@LexesOHara Год назад
Her story has blown me away, she is incredibly strong. Her body adapted to her trauma in ways that she needed to cope - stuff that some people have no idea what its like to go through. She sounds like an incredibly strong human
@crayons1584
@crayons1584 Год назад
It's insane how someone could experience so much pain that their brain creates different people to help protect them from their emotions. I feel for all of these people
@badnewsbecs
@badnewsbecs Год назад
I came back and listened again. I’m here for the third time, actually. My trauma had me thinking I was the ‘only one’ again because *no one* speaks on this. Thank you.
@elizaanderson3302
@elizaanderson3302 6 месяцев назад
Wow, I’m very impressed with this young woman’s ability to tell her difficult story with so much wisdom, grace and humor. Thank you for sharing.
@eziocorvo8793
@eziocorvo8793 Год назад
The worst part of these stories of abuse is when the abuser takes themselves out. Not only did the system fail these kids and her, this man should have been under the jail on the first round of abuse. Horrible.
@astrwolf5507
@astrwolf5507 Год назад
Nothing gets me angrier than cowards who ruin many many lives intentionally with no second thoughts but freak out when things go bad for THEM because of what they did. This will live with his victims forever, and he took the easy way out so he didn't have to deal with it himself. absolutely spineless
@strawberryfox8819
@strawberryfox8819 Год назад
It's definitely cowardly and horrible but at least that means he can't get out again and hurt more children.
@reu2002
@reu2002 Год назад
This interview is very important because it details a key aspect of CSA that many don’t want to confront because it’s so disturbing to reckon with. With these kinds of situations where abuse went on for years, people who don’t understand how CSA works will often say, how did they get away with it for so long? Why didn’t the child tell anyone? The fact is that in a lot of instances, the abuser will make the child feel like they are a willing, enthusiastic participant in what’s going on. That they want it. This can be one of the most damaging aspects psychologically when healing from the abuse. As a side note, Devorah, I hope that you are able to access your own psychological support when doing this work. Vicarious trauma is very real, I hope you can look after yourself.
@ellem5649
@ellem5649 Год назад
I love that you offer this platform as a safe space for victims to share their sides of the stories
@trentblender3318
@trentblender3318 Год назад
hearing dissociative disorder system really helped me understand this way of life
@katerinahater
@katerinahater Год назад
I love trents
@blitzogene
@blitzogene Год назад
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@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver
@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver Год назад
Most people who actually have DID don't talk like this, because it's not something you can stand to be aware about. It's a red flag for me. Not saying she's fake, just that I personally know. It's most likely something people pick up from the trend side of disorders.
@becz9485
@becz9485 Год назад
​@@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver after what she's been through, I don't doubt her at all. I don't think she's getting this from a trend.
@misssnobooty
@misssnobooty Год назад
@@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver you want h this and the first thing you do is comment you found a ref flag
@brookelaughlin6603
@brookelaughlin6603 10 месяцев назад
The part where she said her dad would say “I’m doing this bc i love you” hit hard. My dad the same thing after he would a*use me. It completely warped my perception of love and partnership. I only started getting PTSD flashbacks of incest this last year and it has been so hard. Thank you for letting her share her story so I know I’m not alone.❤
@glittergoddess_
@glittergoddess_ Год назад
This played as a recommended video and I decided to let it play. This was a very informative video. She is so brave and communicated so well. Thank you for giving her a platform and letting her tell her story.
@JulieASuh
@JulieASuh 3 месяца назад
This is my first time coming across this Chanel. First the interviewer did a great job of only sparingly jumping in and just letting her tell her story. Second,to the victim thank you for sharing your story. You never know who may be needing to hear this. I wish you peace and healing going forward.
@trtlduv07
@trtlduv07 Год назад
She's so brave and awesome to come on here and share her deeply painful trauma story!! 💚 Also Dev is truly such a great listener and always so attentive! I feel like she'd make a great therapist!
@thatmombielife
@thatmombielife Год назад
She would be awesome at that.
@g.peacharts3674
@g.peacharts3674 Год назад
I do like hearing victims being jelous or wanting to be with the abuser because it makes me feel better about my grooming. I was so jelous and wanted him all to myself even if it didnt feel completely right.
@klaudianapieraa4924
@klaudianapieraa4924 Год назад
Your father was in prison for child molestation, he was a registered sex offender and yet he was allowed to come back to a home where children lived?!! He should never be allowed to see his or any children ever again, he’s a dangerous child predator! 🤦‍♀️ 8 months long sentence is a joke as well.
@amandabiz
@amandabiz Год назад
This is absolutely heartbreaking. I wish I could give her the biggest hug. It is by sheer bad luck who our parents are and the homes we end up growing up in. the universe is so unfair sometimes, and I feel it with this episode. She doesn’t deserve to have to deal with all of this trauma. I feel so bad for her. Sending everyone love and healing 💕
@mikaylalocklear1919
@mikaylalocklear1919 Год назад
This is probably the best genuine example, interveiw, discussion, about DID I've ever heard. Thank you very much to the both of you.
@lemonmeat
@lemonmeat Год назад
exactly. as someone who has to experience osdd-1b, the main shit i see on the internet about it disgusts me (misinformation, ableism, fakeclaimers denying REAL CONFIRMED symptoms, people thinking you can "manifest it" or get it without trauma etc). it's so faith-in-humanity restoring to hear someone actually speaking the truth about it.
@paigeruff5752
@paigeruff5752 Год назад
Thank you so much for sharing your story with the world. As someone who has severe CPTSD from childhood sexual abuse, being able to hear someone else's experience of their parental figure being the abuser, was so comforting to me.
@erinmeyers-t9w
@erinmeyers-t9w Год назад
💚💚💚
@lordofentropy
@lordofentropy 10 месяцев назад
Absolutely horrifying. So many adults failed her that were supposed to protect her. I hope she finds real peace as best as is possible given her circumstances and finds so much love and joy.
@sanjipress
@sanjipress Год назад
your recollection of dates and years is astounding , i repressed so much trauma i barely remember my age of it all
@sanjipress
@sanjipress Год назад
i believe the repression after time - when u keep pushing something away that needs to come out- the brain develops “alternate” ways of releasing it such as the alters
@dmtea
@dmtea Год назад
it’s scary how many times & at how many placements i told adults i didn’t feel safe going back home to my dad & they did nothing. there needs to be obvious reform in dcf/cps & placements on this, same w mandated reporters actually doing so & investigators actually following up. as well as court systems making sure the mother isn’t lying for the abuser & claiming to be “representing” the child to silence them while the child is unknowing of the hearings & didn’t consent to their mother’s representation (happened to me). it’s sickening how little-to-no time many pedos do in jail & how many of them are at home constantly with their kids, & it’s just assumed they wouldn’t commit incest or re-offend…
@MamaRahRah
@MamaRahRah Год назад
It’s so painful when our own mother chooses the predator’s good name over the innocent child she was supposed to protect. My mom chose the brother who she let be a monster, she can’t face she raised a monster, but we have infinite value and I would rather be us, then them.
@thelonely-rt1vg
@thelonely-rt1vg 2 месяца назад
i was abused by my brother. when my mother found out, she forgave him because she said she couldn’t handle the guilt of knowing he did that to me. i can’t sleep at night because of him but he gets to live guilt free.
@casspower
@casspower Месяц назад
May you get the peace you deserve. Rest assured, we all reap what we sow.
@Solenenyx
@Solenenyx Год назад
The mother is equally responsible as the abuser, killing himself was the easiest way out. Both should be in jail for life being molested and abused by the other prisoners.
@ebbatiedje5647
@ebbatiedje5647 Год назад
I just have to say how much I appreciate these people talking about what has happened to them. It must be super hard to relive everything, I can't even imagine. I have learned so much from all the people coming onto this channel and talking about their experiences. It has helped me open up my mind and see things from new perspectives and also to understand how people deal with trauma, how different the mind works in different situations. I think a lot of people today have a lot of preconceptions about people and the way they act, me included, without knowing what is behind the way people act, the way they talk and more. I can say that since watching these videos, I have started opening up more to what people might be going through and try to have more of an open mind. So thank you to all of these wonderful people coming here and talking about their experiences, thank you for educating and thank you to Dev for making it possible.
@maijeverett
@maijeverett 10 месяцев назад
The system is BS. I too am a survivor. Father was a cop, only got 10 years for aggravated incest with a minor. Thank you for sharing your story. Over 20 years later and it's still nice to know I'm not alone in my trauma.
@Heyits_kayt
@Heyits_kayt Год назад
I feel so privileged to be able to hear her be so vulnerable and share her story. I wish her and her system so much peace and happiness through the rest of their life. (Im still not finished watching so I’m not sure if all of her alters are she/her yet so I apologize if I misgendered at all)
@elleinvestigates
@elleinvestigates Год назад
Wow! I just stumbled on your channel and I love these deep dives into real people's lives. Thank you so much for giving them a space to speak! I especially loved the end of this, having experienced abuse, I know that it's so hard to get people to listen to you. Even if they empathize and hate what happened to you, it's just too uncomfortable for them, but that's how abusers hide! Also, I truly hope this is cathartic for guests. Just a full trauma dump sounds amazing, lol! Nobody ever wants to know how weird, creepy, and utterly lasting it is to get stabbed by your 4-year-old brother and just raised with someone with early onset schizophrenia as well as parents in denial. However, that means no one knows how detrimental it is to an entire family unit to ignore mental illness, and it can continue to go unchecked. I'm certain there are families out there right now, fighting against systems that are trying to help them. Moving their children to different schools to avoid allegations of abuse, expulsion, etc. TLDR: What you do is awesome, TY to you and your guest! Mental healthcare is important at every age, that's my PSA for today.
@amazing_zozo6744
@amazing_zozo6744 Год назад
as somone with DID who has struggled with the stigmatism of the disorder, this mas so great to listen to. really appreaciate you and what you do ❤
@Ragdollcatlover
@Ragdollcatlover Год назад
Such an intelligent young woman. It’s impossible not to have so much respect for her. I can’t imagine what she’s been through.
@Jenna-ko6im
@Jenna-ko6im Год назад
I’m happy to have found this, it’s so important to hear the stories of anyone who can tell their story.
@adanneholman2098
@adanneholman2098 Год назад
Hate to say not all school counselors and communities will save you. My cousin reached out SO many times. Cps and school did nothing but send her home again and again. Heart breaking. Absolutely heart breaking.
@DarA-vh5zo
@DarA-vh5zo Год назад
my brothers were my abusers plus a few others starting at 2yrs old-11 the brainwashing was the hardest part to process. thank you for sharing your story as there aren’t many others who talk about it . I’m 21 now The shame around it is almost too much to bear sometimes
@loveoverfearalways
@loveoverfearalways Год назад
Sending you love and support - remember in your dark moments that a stranger cares and hopes you're well.
@theimpulsesystem
@theimpulsesystem Год назад
As someone with DID this is a great interview. They are so brave and I'm happy OSDD got some talking about. DID is so complicated and I'm glad we get some time to talk about it. I wasn't for all I know sexually abused but my parents are a lot of my trauma. It is so hard to deal with, so we now are here as a DID system and it's so nice to see representation.
@user-cs9kr2wl6n
@user-cs9kr2wl6n Год назад
Same thing happened with my dad. Now I'm 20, just had my first baby, and got adopted my an amazing family🥺
@taylor576
@taylor576 Год назад
❤ so happy to hear that. You deserve all the love in the world don’t forget that
@plushygun
@plushygun Год назад
I'm so proud of you for still becoming a person after growing up in an environment where you were not seen as a person. Keep growing, learning about yourself, and remember that if you still need help, you should absolutely reach out to reliable sources. Much love to you, strong person 💞
@superquasigalaxygamer6297
@superquasigalaxygamer6297 2 месяца назад
You're a great mom ❤️ I'm so happy for you, keep healing and being an inspiration! 🫂
@deiadrarose7593
@deiadrarose7593 Год назад
What a strong, beautiful woman. To speak so confidently, and honestly while recapping their abuse is tremendous. This system seems very well taken care of, and you can tell that sammy & abilgail work very hard for system harmony. My heart is absolutely shattered for what they had to endure, but i am in awe of the strength to persevere. I am sending nothing but love, and healing their way.
@ultrarzadkiebieszczadzkiep6537
@ultrarzadkiebieszczadzkiep6537 3 месяца назад
i would love to hear more from people who have this disorder, thats so sad yet so fascinating how our brains work after experiencing such a horror. Thank you guys for this episode, I've learned a lot.
@rbf_blonde672
@rbf_blonde672 Год назад
That bugs me so much “battling to be abused” without even knowing !!! I wish I could heal all of this for this girl :(
@zk1914
@zk1914 Месяц назад
How are there so many mothers who don't help their kids? My mom was one if the first people I told, she knew something was wrong, but because I kept denying it, she didn't press me. Finally I told her her husband was abusing me sexually for 10 years, and the first thing she did was apologize for not helping sooner, and making a plan to report him
@s0cializedpsych0path
@s0cializedpsych0path 6 месяцев назад
This girl is SO unbelievably strong! I'm in awe of her! Reminds me a bit of myself. I wasn't sexually abused, I was emotionally abused (but it's not a contest)... I'm also on the spectrum. Some people fold from trauma. They wither and die. Others are forged by it. It's the mother of all gains in strength. She's a true survivor.... and we are rare!!! Man... I would love to sit down and have a beer with her.
@TJ-Judge
@TJ-Judge Год назад
I dont understand how these peadophiles get kids to become "voluntary" participants in their own abuse. Even to the point that they would get jealous when he molests another child. Its so disturbing... ppl need to talk more about the mechanisms used in grooming tactics
@thedarkangel456789
@thedarkangel456789 Год назад
Be glad you don't understand.
@poo23414
@poo23414 Год назад
It starts because they mistreat you so badly, lower your self esteem, get mad at you for every little thing, control you, degrade you, make you feel bad/shame/guilt/dirty then they are nice to you out of no where. Usually because they want something. The push and pull, push, and pull is literally brainwashing. You go mad craving, needing to please them so you get the nice version from them again. When you are left without it you literally go through withdrawals like a drug. How they get to abuse you in the first place is by smiling, winking, charming, and joking like they are seducing you. This makes you feel special and loved. When you explain away abuse as love you hold tightly to that idea of love. It's a lot of extra attention too, usually people don't get that much attention from someone, especially not already neglected/abused kids, which are the most targeted. If they are not giving that special attention you don't feel loved, if you don't feel loved then they don't love you anymore, they don't love you then why did you "let" them do all those things to you? Was it not love? Did I do something wrong? Am I not good enough? You spiral your entire belief system and thought process you created to adapt to abuse. Those things combined when you see the person who gave you extra special attention and love no longer give that to you and not be nice to you anymore (push) because they are juggling new victim(s) you're going through trauma bond withdrawals and spiraling. You want it to end and go back, you feel jealous, you want them to make it better, you don't want to see someone else get that love.
@floweranimation8866
@floweranimation8866 Год назад
its nice to know that we're alone in trauma and that there are people who understand and are willing to stand up and talk
@luigil8439
@luigil8439 Год назад
I don't understand one thing specifically: at one point she says that she totally removed every single memory of her abuse. But still she talks for more than an hour recollecting a lot of situations of the said abuse. So, wtf? Have the memories eventually returned?
@cynthiarapp4966
@cynthiarapp4966 Год назад
a lot of points she makes in this story are very contradicting.
@luigil8439
@luigil8439 Год назад
@@cynthiarapp4966Yeah honestly a lot of stories in this podcast always have some weird part, some contradiction. I guess it's because of course there is only one party saying their truth and the "interviewer" doesn't really interview but just listens. Like there is a story of a girl who says she has been groomed since 13, but still continue doing really weird things even after police stopped everything, and continued doing escorting even after 19yo. Or extreme BDSM stuff. Or even the fact she kept in touch with the supposedly "groomer", even after he literally an*lly r*ped her. But the interviewer never said "why is that? Wtf are you still doing?"
@eyeThink11
@eyeThink11 Год назад
Yeah lol... at the beginning she said that the personality she is now is the one that holds most the memories so there's that. The abuse is horrible but idk about the multiple personality thing with her
@luigil8439
@luigil8439 Год назад
@@eyeThink11 But didn't she also say that the personality that holds the memories can't talk easily like that? That the "alter" was created to protect her and make her function better removing those memories? Dude it really doesn't make any sense btw lol
@eyeThink11
@eyeThink11 Год назад
@luigil8439 yup she sure did say that. Yet there she is going on for over an hour remembering everything no problem. It kind of detracts from how crazy the rest of her life story is. Having threesomes with your dad and your friend is crazy af
@Sam-mb6mg
@Sam-mb6mg Год назад
Thank you for telling your story. You are right that there are so much more ppl who experience stuff like this than the world wished to touch on. Wishing you the speediest of trauma healing
@Bridiebri
@Bridiebri Год назад
Thank you for sharing and for being so raw and candid about your experience. The information people can use from your story and apply it to their world is priceless. We need to trust less people
@uptone12111
@uptone12111 Год назад
WTG Devorah!!You got something special going here! Man this could really blow up
@Megan_Unknown
@Megan_Unknown Год назад
33:15 … listening to this story and hearing what was shared here … it’s something my abuser did. While what I experienced growing up into young adulthood was “just” emotional/verbal/financial type abuse, whenever they thought they were losing control over me, they threatened suicide. I’d turn to mush and try to comfort them. Cycle would continue. It stopped when my own life was threatened and I got out … 🫂 Sending love to your system Thank you for sharing your story, love ♥️
@laurenvanderske4763
@laurenvanderske4763 Год назад
Thank you so much for sharing your story... Being raised as a Jehovah's Witness, knowing that they protect abusers, protecting my dad, aunt, cousin, stepmom, stepdad, mom, grandparents.... all of it. Thank you for making me feel seen and not insane.
@AlanaWaffles
@AlanaWaffles Год назад
Abigail saying she loves her little(s) heart and soul and describing them was so lovely.
@crazyperson1950
@crazyperson1950 9 месяцев назад
Hearing her break down all her different personalities that came from the abuse is just wild. That really shows how these types of abuses can damage a person beyond repair and at such an early age.
@brighteyedangel6559
@brighteyedangel6559 Год назад
My mom was a survivor as well by her dad. He also unalived himself. And only a few people knew: me, my dad, & my uncle. My uncle found out in his teens & was kicked out for trying to protect her. They even lied about how their dad unalived to the rest of the family. Now me & my dad are the only ones who know aside from my siblings.
@jayford4589
@jayford4589 7 месяцев назад
I was also someone abused in a disturbingly similar way with my own father. Thankfully I was his only victim, and I had a brave friend who told the police what was going on, and he fessed up to it, but listening to the trauma she experiences, and the system that was made to protect her, it hits close to home. I don't have DID, but I was left with a whole host of mental health issues because of him and the woman I have to call my mother that I was left with. It's definitely not easy, and the fact that the system didn't fail me is a blessing I'll be thankful for every day. God I despise how the system handled her and that disgusting man's other victims. I hope with everything I have left that she's able to fully heal one day. Good luck to her, and for anyone else in similar circumstances, you are not and will never be alone. Never forget that.
@stephaniedeanne92
@stephaniedeanne92 Год назад
I just found your page the other day and I’m addicted. These stories are heartbreaking but completely eye opening! The women I have seen are so strong and amazing!
@Nicolelynn1217
@Nicolelynn1217 Год назад
Shame on her “Mother”. I don’t care if you were my husband, mother, child, or God himself if you dare touch my child in any inappropriate way if I can’t unalive you myself I would take my kids and run far away!!
@Alexa-ky7lj
@Alexa-ky7lj Год назад
Don't get me wrong I loved the old podcast format but seeing Dev having discussions like this while also asking respectful and comfortable questions is so interesting.
@evasmojang
@evasmojang Год назад
thank you for providing such an amazing platform for all of these amazing people to share their stories.
@anneko6842
@anneko6842 Год назад
I wonder if the mom was being abused in some way to behave like this, or what could cause someone to be like this. I just can’t imagine or believe it
@hufsi6369
@hufsi6369 Год назад
Thank you for this. There are things about myself in my early twenties that I’m only just understanding based on my childhood experiences.
@havok8570
@havok8570 2 месяца назад
You're so brave for sharing your story. Im so sorry you went through something so horrible.
@tesseractsystem2825
@tesseractsystem2825 Год назад
it's so nice to hear another person with did being so authentically themselves tbh.
@psychinteresting727
@psychinteresting727 Год назад
The fact that she didn't even get respite at school because he would keep her home to abuse her... wow... just wow
@mmmmyaaaa
@mmmmyaaaa 8 месяцев назад
one of the most captivating interviews I've watched. Sammy, thank you for your courage and sharing your understanding of this position you were thrown into. I dont even have words, she is a special human and I hope we can normalize these conversations no matter how taboo people think it is. Incest is more rampant than we would like to think. The horrifying act of incest is continually misconstrued through being prominently associated with joke culture, leaving many innocent victims to engulfed in shame, repression and more vulnerability. Yet where are the discussions of the reality that there are more victims than we would like to acknowledge .... the reason people even joke about incest is because it is objectively perceived as overly ABSURD and shocking that it is hard for people to conceive the idea as real since it is far from there reality... there needs to be more sensitivity and openness to help others free themselves and others, so lets regularize the conversations around incest like the podcast by normalizing proper sex, abuse & mental health education for the people living in it. This experience is dissociating in itself by hearing what that reality must have been like, DID is very real and another issue that seems to breed ignorance from outsiders listening to another's experience with trauma and their mental health which are very unique combinations that transform & present themselves accordingly to the situation(s) / stimuli one experiences and are different across each board. I am glad she has been properly diagnosed, is healing in her own way, allowing her to begin finding herself at her core and freeing herself from ingrained restraints. This is only her beginning.
@ibelieveinyouyourmagicisreal
@ibelieveinyouyourmagicisreal 4 месяца назад
You can see how she still has the brainwashing from her family about her half-sister, the way she differentiates her abuse as incest and her sister's as not, when he was seen as her father, the role exists somewhat equally even if people are not related, but you can see how she downplays her sister's abuse by differentiating it from "true" incest, which all makes sense and seems normal considering what happened to them both
@MajinErick
@MajinErick 6 месяцев назад
I think....if a father replaced their wife with their child for acts of sexual services, then he should receive the same things in prison. This breaks my heart, because she never experienced unconditional love that she should receive.
@roxyroloff2155
@roxyroloff2155 Год назад
Heartbreaking 💔 what goes on in some families and the fact that they use religion is pathetic. This is NOT at all about religion. Nowhere in the Bible does it say this is okay. Thank you for sharing your very personal story. I’m sure you will help others. ❤
@jayvincent1865
@jayvincent1865 Год назад
Sadly I think these predators opinion is that the bible doesn't specifically condone it.
@roxyroloff2155
@roxyroloff2155 Год назад
@@jayvincent1865 then they obviously don’t know the Bible or Jesus
@barbaranaiman9783
@barbaranaiman9783 Год назад
True true true you got that right that’s for sure👌❤️👍✝️🙏🏻
@itskarl79
@itskarl79 9 месяцев назад
22:45, I never thought about how locking the door 100% was tied to it. Wow, I’m finding myself thinking about what else is an unbroken habit from childhood. Geez, this blows my mind.
@brandikayy
@brandikayy Год назад
Why didn't CPS take the children from the home as soon allegations or at leasts him being charged/convicted?? Like how?!?!
@duhnoticed
@duhnoticed Год назад
she is so nice & likable with all tht shes been through! i love her & i will wish her the best every time i think about her. she seems like an amazing person & she deserves the world.
@cloud-su3lp
@cloud-su3lp 3 месяца назад
I can't even imagine how GRUESOME the abuse was to the point she HAD to develop 8 whole different personalities. Crazyyy. If i was her i would be now in a mental asylum. Great props to her for surviving. Such a tormented reality to live in for your whole life just to realise it was all fake...
@bbutler8977
@bbutler8977 8 месяцев назад
This girl should have done a Ted Talk. She didn't allow the interviewer to ask questions, she just do a running monologue, I have empathy for her plight but wish I could tell her to breathe and pause.
@RibbitRibbit-j6p
@RibbitRibbit-j6p 6 месяцев назад
This is the general format for this podcast. The host typically just lets the guest talk and only occasionally asks things or interjects. It’s actually an incredibly respectful way to let people tell there storys. I wouldn’t really refer to these as ‘interviews’ and more as a platform for people to tell there stories 😊
@victorpok1624
@victorpok1624 Год назад
I feel so bad for everyone involved and it’s just crazy how the mom was just playing along. I wonder how her friends and other victims view her and if they have any anguish towards her for going through with the story her father told her to say.
@wiadrogonsmith4006
@wiadrogonsmith4006 Год назад
this is horrifying how much mental abuse you can do to someone
@tacoluver69
@tacoluver69 3 месяца назад
i was a victim of molestation by my sister and father, and it took me OVER 18 years to realize it was abuse. its never easy
@danielevensen5539
@danielevensen5539 2 месяца назад
Thank you for posting this. I agree with the other commenters. We should talk more about this and not allow these crimes to hide in the shadows.
@jenniferrose2360
@jenniferrose2360 8 месяцев назад
It breaks my heart for this girl, especially regarding her mother. If I found out someone hurt my daughter in anyway even my twin, they wouldn’t live for the police to find 😢😢
@destiniarena
@destiniarena 9 месяцев назад
What a horrific trauma to endure, yet a brave young woman to share the details. Sending healing to her and anyone reading this who has experienced anything of the sort 💗
@ivette6140
@ivette6140 Год назад
You are so brave ! Thank you for sharing your story, you are such a strong person. You deserve the world.
@minimak9501
@minimak9501 Год назад
i don’t understand why predators are allowed around children at all once they’re on a list. they shouldn’t be allowed around any kids unsupervised at all, even their own kids bc they will go as low as messing with their own. it’s sad and gross and the justice system in america is a joke. i feel so bad for her :(
@diz64
@diz64 Год назад
wow, your bravery is outstanding, thank you so much for sharing. I think if I had heard this when I was younger I would’ve left sooner, so thank you so much for sharing this
@ivonnemata4335
@ivonnemata4335 Год назад
I rly needed to hear this especially the part abt not putting your abuser first but I don’t think I’ll ever be able to tell an authority figure abt it. I’ve told my sister but she only cared for one day then moved out the next month leaving me suck in my house with my abuser. She still acts like it was nothing tho so I kinda don’t want to have to relive it by having to retell it to anyone else.
@Mila808g
@Mila808g Год назад
The number of times I had to rewind the video and rewatch 30 seconds of footage because I got distracted by the cat is unreal
@madison3053
@madison3053 Год назад
So right about the abuse feeling like love. As a survivor of incest myself with my grandfather it was always masked as love and that’s why it’s so damn hard to admit to yourself sometimes that what happened was actually so so wrong. Thank you for sharing your experience
@yujinpark8660
@yujinpark8660 Год назад
@@Slava-p6ntbf thats how the royal family rolls
@michaeldes1800
@michaeldes1800 5 месяцев назад
My ex was the same way, it was love
@ettaetta439
@ettaetta439 2 месяца назад
My grandfather would always treat me differently, would give me candy, my brothers thought I was his favorite. I hated him with all my heart. I didn't understand why I was supposed to love him, when his "love" came with pain.
@stephaniesaslut12616
@stephaniesaslut12616 Год назад
I am a survivor (8 yrs of hell with my bio brother) aswell, thank you for speaking out, I know it's so hard.
@alishac5096
@alishac5096 Год назад
❤❤❤ I hope you are in a safe supportive environment and getting emotional support. 🌈✨🦔 You are valid and deserving of the world. It’s important for these stories to be shared for children’s safety, in my opinion.
@stephaniesaslut12616
@stephaniesaslut12616 Год назад
@@alishac5096 agreed, oh yes I moved out at 18 and have never looked back. I'm 32 now. Ty🖤
@normalizrd
@normalizrd Год назад
i was also molested by my bio brother and recently went no contact with my family because of it. proud of your strength ♡
@TheBlubunni
@TheBlubunni 7 месяцев назад
No words!!! Truly sorry for everything you and everyone else went through. 🩷
@cerealucenthusiast6416
@cerealucenthusiast6416 Год назад
The system really failed so many of us, I was a victim of my brother on multiple occasions, I was separated for him from no more than one week before I was placed back in the home with him. I can still remember the day child protective services and the police came to my door, but what did they solve? 🥲
@shearoberson2852
@shearoberson2852 Год назад
My father raped and SAed me for years and I remember feeling so ashamed and alone. I would search for videos like this just so that I could know that I wasn’t alone. This video would’ve been so helpful. Thank you sharing your story
@sweet2sourr
@sweet2sourr 11 месяцев назад
Were you ever angry? I experienced SA by my father too and I internalized my anger after my mom said it could have been worse.
@iluvsubliminals
@iluvsubliminals 11 месяцев назад
​@@sweet2sourrWTF
@Zharoze
@Zharoze 10 месяцев назад
Hearing these stories are trigger and helpful for me. I moved out of my family's house at 17, due to emotional abuse and sexual abuse. I'm glad there is information out there to help all of us know we are not alone. Thanks for leaving your story here ❤
@stellar1526
@stellar1526 8 месяцев назад
i hope you're doing well
@Moon_lulu
@Moon_lulu 8 месяцев назад
Same here. I went to counseling after my mom knew about it
@applecc-wz3ob
@applecc-wz3ob Год назад
the way her mom said "love can prevail" while she herself proved that wrong by abandoning her own daughter to be treated that way is insane
@carriebell3566
@carriebell3566 9 месяцев назад
It makes one think that this was due to JEALOUSY! The mom was jealous of her husband being attracted to her own daughter. This is the so extremely sick that is unfathomable 🤮
@masterturtle-duck
@masterturtle-duck 9 месяцев назад
@@carriebell3566unfortunately this happens to a lot more of the wives in this situation than one would like to think
@Omnihilo
@Omnihilo 9 месяцев назад
@@carriebell3566 It’s actually quite common and, unfortunately, underreported.
@chibill467
@chibill467 8 месяцев назад
@@carriebell3566 that happens very often even during pregnancy
@krillin6
@krillin6 2 месяца назад
Most humans are extremely delusional
@gabrielarey4125
@gabrielarey4125 Год назад
Seeing how empathetic and kind she talks about her mother makes me furious about how a mother could just allow their child to be abused this way
@precilliasoekhai4537
@precilliasoekhai4537 Год назад
Coping mechanism...
@megantibbott7714
@megantibbott7714 Год назад
RIGHT!?! My mom didn't do anything and denies she remembers anything. Self preservation is too important
@janettpenas
@janettpenas Год назад
Literally I would have gone to jail 😔
@SolSkinn
@SolSkinn Год назад
Most of us who have been through this were parentified children and did so much to protect our mothers. Even if they completely failed to protect us. I'm 47 and I still protect my mom.
@sarasvensson6026
@sarasvensson6026 Год назад
I think she has spent a lot of time trying to understand her mother's actions and what she must have been thinking and feeling in order to ignore the abuse. Understanding who someone is and why they did what they did doesn't mean you forgive them though.
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