Regina (to Melody): ''You are not in my body. You do not know how I feel. And if you really think that I am not trying hard enough, you are most certainly not my friend.''
It wasnt just about signing tho. She used her hand a lot more than most people do on a daily basis. Signing, painting and doing hair. Doing hair alone could have caused that.
This is a very common problem. My father he played piano and he is a teacher so he write a lot. So he had what we call LE and this mades his hand hurts like hell for a long time. He could only play piano know 20 years later without being hurt
@@nickbezdek2847 Sure, she can sign and then get arthritis so badly that she's in constant pain and can't really do anything at all. Melody could possibly get cochlear implants. Bay could puncture her ear drums to better fit in at a Deaf school. It is all about choices, but some choices don't make a lot of sense.
Yup, her problems are real. They're not just for the show. She really did get tendonitis [in real life] from signing too much. She learned so many signs at once (plus she began learning as an adult) and it was just too much for her hands to take.
Did Constance -- and Regina ever recover from this? It was really rude of Melody to react the way she did...but Regina could maybe try to modify a lot of her signs...hmmm...maybe her hands were too uncomfortable :''(
@@sweetlife031 people don’t understand what it’s like when your body starts failing you and there’s nothing you can do to fix it. If there was a cure to heal her hands Regina would gladly take it.
Precisely. Apparently, this kind of health issue is more common than we knew. Actress Camryn Manheim, who was an ASL interpreter as well as an actress, developed arthritis in her hands and arms and had to curtail, if not give up entirely -- her career as an interpreter. The character of Melody is irritating as h-ll. It's one thing to be upset that a friend can no longer communicate -- it's another to ACCUSE her of doing it for "sympathy" or "attention." That's taking entitlement too far. I'd have been angry too -- and it would have meant a permanent end of the friendship.
Melody was obviously worried that her best friend not signing anymore meant she was going to lose her. She didn't express herself very kindly in this scene. But it was clearly what she was upset about.
aaliyah griffin imagine your best friend suddenly speaking Spanish or another language you don’t fully understand. That’s the position here. They are now forced to read lips and struggle to be involved in a conversation with Regina...talking to her becomes “work”. Beyond that ASL is more than language its culture it’s...everything... to think walls wouldn’t be built bc of the lack of language would be a mistake... :(
Jasper Hardin Melody is a prejudice bitch I get that being deaf she must have been discriminated against but that does not give her the right to lash out at (in her terms) “hearing” people who haven’t done anything to her and are even trying to learn sign language remember how unfairly she treated Bay even though she was genuinely learning how to use sign language? Now she says that Regina is just using an excuse not to sign anymore really it’s surprising no one slapped this chick
Melody bugged me in this scene. Does she really honestly believe that Regina wouldn't of found some way to sign to her daughter if she could? Regina has sacrificed so much for Daphne her entire life and she loves her daughter with all her heart. Melody is pretty level headed most of the time but this time I could not see where she is coming from because she is wrong.
@@BlueDauntlessThey showed her consulting multiple doctors that season. She had to give up her career. Yeah, she stopped signing because medical professionals told her she needed to unless she wanted her hands to continue to deteriorate.
@@BlueDauntless The fact that she had to stop signing so abruptly shows how much pain she was in. Plus her doctors had all told her that doing any kind of signing would worsen her condition and reduce the chance of recovery.
Melody would hate it if anyone treated her the way she treated Regina. She was ableist and I hate that she never truly learned from it. One thing I’ll always give daphne is that daphne learned to coexist with hearing people. Melody continued to hate hearing people even in the end.
Um, okay wow. If I had just learned my mom was going through such a painful change in her life I'd be hugging her asking what I could do for her. Sometimes TV teens make me mad.
Doris Barkler I mean you’re right. But it’s really for Daphne to realize every time she’s going to speak to her mom, she will have to focus to read her lips.. it’s like if you couldn’t hear your moms voice anymore and would speak to her only by writing u know. She’s kinda lose a part of her mom. All day long she has to focus on everyone’s lips and when she comes home she wants some rest
@@Marie-hq3yx As someone who is HOH, I second what you are saying. The strain to try and read lips and hear is exhausting, and if that strain continued at home, I would become extremely tired. On really bad days, even talking to my own mom is exhausting because her voice falls into my worst ranges. If I were in Daphne's position, I would be upset too, especially since Regina doesn't even look for other ways to compensate. She leaves Daphne to read lips all the damn time without thinking about the strain. This problem is much more of a contributing factor to Daphne's meltdown against Regina in season 3 than anyone wants to admit. Between not signing to Daphne anymore and potentially contributing to the rupture of Angelo's aneurism right when he was about to become a signing parent, I don't blame Daphne in the slightest. Yes, there were other factors, but Regina, whether she realized it or not, pushed Daphne to the limit with her behaviors around signing.
@@SopranoRocker2010 Daphne is being a sh-t. Has she had it hard? Sure. Struggled? You bet. But if your mother is suffering from a serious medical issue that prevents her from communicating, you don't pitch a fit. You get upset, and then you deal with it. My mother got oral cancer. After her surgery, where they slit her from ear to ear, took out four lymph nodes and half her tongue -- the only way she could communicate with us was with a white board and marker. She was likely NEVER going to be able to speak ever again. Forget speak -- we were told she probably would never be able to swallow either. We had one week with her. Then she had a heart attack, was revived but suffered brain damage, and died a week later. Life isn't fair or equitable. I learned that. And the writers of these characters need to learn it too. Life doesn't give a 💩 about your high horse.
But it's not just the signing Melody!!!! The doctors said after years if using her hands to work as a hair dresser and an artist and whatever else she uses her hands for. Just because you have 't heard if it happening doesn't mean it can't or doesn't!!!
This. Also, some people are genetically predisposed to carpal tunnel. I got it after a year doing factory work. There were people that had been there 20 years that didn't have it.
@@goddessmelanisia Lots of people get carpel tunnel. I did. Not so bad that I needed surgery, but bad enough that I have lasting pain and my hands and wrists ache or go numb. Depends on how much damage was done with repetitive work and strain. I see it all the time. At the grocery even, where more and more I see cashiers wearing braces.
Re-watching this scene after the Oscars made me think of Troy Kotsur's acceptance speech about how his father was the best signer in his family and after being paralyzed from the neck down, he couldn't sign anymore. I can't even imagine the devastation that would cause a family, but especially a parent feeling that they've let down their child even if it's out of their control.
But it's not just signing though 🤦🏾♀️💁🏾♀️even my old hairdresser has arthritis after years of doing hair, the fact she can use her hand is a miracle. Melody failed as a friend.
Something to do with her hand. The doctor said she can't sign anymore or it'll get worse. They said (in the show) it's because of signing as well as being a hairdresser and stuff. So she can't do hair anymore either. (In real life she got carpal tunnel and tendinitis from learning and practicing so much ASL as an adult for the show, so she needs to stop signing until it heals, which takes a long time.)
Yes...Constance Marie suffered nerve damage, CTS and tendinitis in her hands cuz she learned sign so fast. This was written in to give Regina a break too...I'm assuming this is from the same episode that shows how Regina's injury affects her relationship/communication with her daughter, Daphne?
My mom can never sign again. It was easy for me to accept it as I saw firsthand the damage and pain she endured. She had two surgeries a year apart on both hands to maintain any sort of function and I had to help care for her. It was long hard road. She gave up her career as interpreter. It absolutely can happen and it's real. I'm glad she doesn't sign anymore because she's not in pain from it anymore.
Poor Regina, she has worked so hard for Daphne and done everything she can to put her first! I also feel bad for Melody and Daphne, Melody because she feels like she's losing her best friend and Daphne because she is no longer hearing her mother's voice, instead she has to read her lips all the time now just like with everyone else. 😥😖😭
I can see why she always has a wall up...when she goes through things everyone walks out on her or makes her feel bad in the process.no wonder she went back to drinking being strong all the time takes a toll on you.
@@hotinmybags So that justifies her (someone who has experienced shitty treatment because of her disability) treating her friend poorly because of her friend's disabling medical condition?
I don’t like that Melanie was pretty much saying that Regina was faking it with her hand because she wanted attention and wanted people to make feel sorry for her that is not a good friend there I don’t like Melanie
I kind of feel bad for regina in this scene. I mean Arthritis is painful. If she actually did sign all for the sake of communicating with her daughter by the end of the day she would be in chronic pain. She would cry because of that pain. Oh but daphne gets to communicate with her mom. She told the truth and melody and daphne get upset over it? Yeah a true friend would be like "What can I do to get you through this? Same with daphne. They have to realize that life happens and sometimes you can't always control what happens. This actually could possibly happen in real life. Arthritis may run in her family and she used her hands a lot. Painting, cutting hair, and all the sign language can easily make your hands be in pain. It's a muscle worked over and over and over. She could possibly use one hand but every time she would sign she would cringe in pain. That's not worth it. I'm sure it hurts regina that she cant communicate with her daughter but if that was my mother I would cry for her. I would understand. Teenagers 🙄 I am so glad I'm not that age anymore. Where you dont know what being an adult is like. I'm proud to be 29 years old. I also can understand that this really is an emotional written scene but lacks the realization of daphne realizing your mom is in chronic pain and shes fought for her daughter everyday.
Daphne being upset I understand, but it doesn't appear (from this scene at least it's been a while since I've seen this episode) that she blames her mom for it. She's hurt, but as long as she's not blaming her, she's not reacting wrong. Of course it's upsetting for her! I actually took Daphne's reaction as needing to go cry because this does affect her, but not wanting to make her mom feel worse about it, because it isn't really her fault. Melody was awful to her.
It did happen in real life. Constance (who plays Regina) started developing arthritis etc. from signing and so they brought that into the story because she couldn’t sign any longer in the show.
Melody as her friend was awful to her. Just because she isn't aware of it happening to anyone else doesn't mean it isn't true. Daphne's reaction is more understandable she is upset and probably scared but showing it in the wrong way. She has always been able to be herself in her own home at the very least and be comfortable because there is a two-way communication of signing. She can lip read but - I'm not deaf so i'm just guessing -that takes more effort and is probably quite straining, figuring out what word a mouth is forming. It was a shock. she was still adjusting to the switch and all that entails and now her rock is crumbling
N.J Boltz lip reading is really hard and completely inaccurate. I’m not profoundly Deaf, but I’m HoH and people always assume I’ve managed because I can lipread, but lipreading mostly works on a mix of body language, guessing and hearing slight sounds and trying to work out what makes the most sense. I also developed a chronic illness that has left me in a wheelchair and both those reactions broke my heart because I’ve seen both aimed at me. Her daughter was clearly processing and walked away to try to find a way to cope and come to terms with the changes. Melody’s reaction is what from my experience is the most common one, suddenly everyone is so angry at you for the changes that they blame you for it, tell you that you’re not doing enough even tho the changes impact you far more than anyone else and blame you on faking it for attention, as if all the horrible things that come with such a disability don’t make it something no one wants to fake. No one understands me when I can’t use my hands because they have tremors so hard I can’t move them, I can’t imagine how much worse it would be for her with it being even more invisible to everyone else.
To be honest, after rewatching the show Daphne just got so bratty over time. She would mouth off to her mom, blame her for her troubles. Then all she had to do was come back with some crocodile tears and all was forgiven. She did the same thing with the Kennishes. Kind of annoying.
Yeah but the actress herself was suffering from the issue and so it would be been kinda weird if Regina just stopped signing with zero explanation as to why.
I had this feeling that maybe I'm right about that the actress REALLY had this condition and couldn't sign anymore so they wrote it into the show. But melody reaction to it just confirms how much I hate melody as a character. She is so judgemental about EVERYTHING with it being her way to live or no way to live. Honestly I think regina should have slapped her in the face.
1:23 that face reaction Marlee Matlin did. about to go down. like she wanted to throw hands. or take every jewelry off earring rings after she took every piece of jewelry she has on take all jewelry off took that when she about to whip your ass.
Imagine if you couldn't communicate with your daughter on a deeper level anymore. Imagine if you had to struggle to understand your own family and express yourself. It would cause a huge rift in your relationship. It's very serious.
That's too bad that there's no gay love storyline in this show but I love the idea of ASL being CC by ABC 😁 for some who does not understand ASL and for others who are learning
There's several TV shows that do just like Hispanic, afroamericans (from North, Central and South America) and among others minorities. Plain and simple.
In really life, the actress was told not to sign anymore by her doctors because of pain and stuff. So they added it to the show exactly how it was happening in real life. All the movement was too much for her bones, joints, muscles and nerves.
+tina garza Also people will not be looking directly at her while speaking but be a foot away and she still can't here them. So I don't see why she uses them
I don't know, to me Melody always came across as really hostile towards hearing people. Understandable given how she was treated by some of them, but it was always guilty until proven innocent. Definitely in Bay's case.