Talking To My Friends vs My Therapist 🙈 - Dr Julie  

Not just me that does this then!

can you cure anxiety?

Same with me , how would a therapist understand me & what I'm going through , not able to reason Low self awareness about me & issues I'm facing with

​@@mistyicsNo, but also yes. It's about managing it. Focus on a goal(job hobby, etc.) Anxiety comes from having lack of purpose, give yourself purpose. Once you have that focus anxiety usually fades away. If it doesn't then well, ask yourself the hard questions and what you can actually do to solve them, you'll probably realise that what you're anxious about wasn't really that bad to begin with. Stay strong even though you may not feel comfortable, that's life, I believe in you.

Do a video on why some people shouldnt be therapists

I understand that so well I faced this over and over again Makes you feel like no one understands and then you feel all alone Best to just get good therapy and accept that your situation is neither unique, alone, or hopeless, many people are suffering in the same way and you can and will make it out I of course don’t know you or your situation, but l do believe with good enough help that doesn’t have to be perfect (nothing has to be) anyone can make it out to a good state Hope this wasn’t too platitudeish and l hope you well

@@saikawa2024 thanks..... Thank u for comforting me.... But there's one thing for sure that I'll never get a single therapy session..... The situation with me, kinda holds back every lil help I could ever get, and the pressure to perform not well but Best just worsens everything....

Hello Riya. I can relate with the situation you're talking about because I'm (still) experiencing it too. It sucks yes especially when we are introverts. When I started talking about my problem, my mom always replies with her story or what she did in the past or "if it's me.." always about her and not trying to focus the problem I'm having or to give specific advice about how to solve it, only talks about her life. And my dad he only replies with "oh" or "hmm". Is this what you're talking about Riya? That's why sometimes I just don't wanna share to them because it hurts more to see that kind of reaction, how much they don't actually care. But Riya idk if this will help you but after I learned stuff about mental health, I realize that: 1. We can't make everyone to understand how we feel because they're never been in our shoes. 2. Every person has their own background which raises them to be that way (careless, not emphatic, etc) 3. Every person has their own character and we can't change that The only thing we need to do is to support ourselves, let them be them because that's how they are build. And put in your mind that you can do it even without them listening, criticizing or caring about you. Get up and be independent towards them. And only share to positive people who really cares about you. Maybe your Auntie, old friends, or even therapist. When someone is toxic to you, it's just them, normal people don't do that. Let's get stronger and rise Riya 💪🏻

Hey girl! You should totally tell them that this bothers you because it's definitely annoying. Sometimes I do it too to others and it's just happens unconsciously but since they've also done it to me I realised there was a problem. Once you tell that it's not nice to tell your problems when someone else is doing the same they will keep that in mind. It'll take some time until they're used but please give it a go and tell them!

That's called being emotionally invalidated and dismissed. Those aren't true friends. Sorry you go through this, but I'm glad you have a therapist to work through these issues ♡ sending much love and light to you

u rly just called me out there

God is always willing to listen. And He will never tell your secrets. You can trust Him.

Do u also feel chest pain doing this ? Pls reply

​@@PrakritiSharma3 I always do this and dude I've suddenly started getting random chest aches that last for like a min or so... Idk what's wrong with me 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

@@yummybagels sme!!

Great for you ❤

Yea ❤

There are also a lot of really bad and underqualified therapists out there.

Ooopr maybe you just don't know how to manipulate them yet and it takes you a while and once you understand their personality you can understand how to lie to them better....

Then there's me who physically CAN'T talk to anyone because my parents keep me from getting a therapist and basiclly nobody else understands me so.. yea

@FuriousCalel same

I thought I was the only one

I feel you bro

I need to be my therapist because i don’t have friends

That's a recipe for disaster.

@@racecarjonny8460 actually, being able to trust and receive comfort from friends is one indication of a healthy individual.

Not me because my peers won't listen more carefully

Clap clap clap...👌🏻👏🏻👏🏻🤗

until you get a shitty therapist lol

If you don't understand diagnosing like kind of judging.... 🤷‍♀️

True !

I think so...

How did that go

😢

Same💀

Real

I think I am the one who can understand you, no one listens to our problems, friends and parents too think if we are getting good grades so we are totally fine, i am not even dare to tell my mom what I was going through because when ever I tried to do so she was like, you do not talk with people and was telling me why I was bad At that time I was in school, crying daily more than once , intense headaches , but now my school years have completed and i chose online mode, and broke contacts with most of my friends And after many years i think i am getting out from it, it was my school who made me feel depressed

@@Person-dw6fk damn i hope you get well soon

try to give yourself apreciation, but not enabling yourself. like buy a nice clothes, going out with friends and cut a social media. In my case I cook and painting when I'm stress out and still have a common sense. But at some point when I really depressed and can't think I'm going to psycologist, online.

@@resyahusaini6641 Thank, you. I’ll try that.

Same here

I don't have friends at all

@@aleaaerktyka1052 same :’(

Cut that friend out. That's pretty mean.

Not a friend, but my self doubt

I am genuinely so sorry. That is AWFUL.

Find a new one!

Pls find a trauma-informed therapist. You deserve the help you desire. Also,pls look into CPTSD. And educate yourself on narcissism, NPD, BPD.

As a Therapist I would never say such a thing to someone. I am sorry that was your experience but hope you are on a better path now. God bless

any issues, trauma, toxicities, Abuse is a big problem to be addressed. Any abuse is a crime as soon as victim start to voice it . but comparing such experience with worst scenarios can never be any excuse nor any encouragement for the sufferer. Sad part is Even people around us act as if Abuse is nothing specially unhealthy, unlawful, wrong and violence. talking one sentence bad for any one in public forums triggers media trending news and Act of Harming goodwill or so. but in closed doors or even malignant verbal or physical abusers are avoided. but a thief found sighted is excitedly caught and beaten up with out asking and investigating his or her reason behind that act in case of any Chance of forgiveness and solving real issue like employment, etc. a regular thief vs a person in need doing these for multiple times may be seen as a difference and should be made rehabilitation of any degraded state of life by people, communiies, and society at large local levels.

Time to find a better therapist

A trained therapist is not just a sounding board like friends. They have the education that can bring about healthy growth. My life is better for entering therapy.

@@maryann7619 yes i know all about that, but i still dont wanna do it

Who is we? A lot of people are more comfortable with friends