Tami Roman Reveals She Suffers from Body Dysmorphic Disorder: ‘My Self-Image Was Annihilated’ 

Thank you!

Yup and it can lead people into getting mental disorders because they're so mentally damaged from all those judgements. No one will ever understand unless they have dealt with it.

Yes. You don't have to be attracted. But to attack. And yes I believe that is an attack on a persons look. That's when it is wrong. It took me 31 years to accept myself and love myself. Words do hurt and it doesnt mean you're weak it just means that we are human and we have feelings. Love this comment.

Right

Yes.

I'm 58 been dealing with my weight since I was 8 yrs of age.

@@glchild251 You're beautiful ❤️ Hope you are better

@@vudulove9345 thank you, we are beautiful and getting healthy ❤

Thank u Tammy, i thank my grandbaby is going thru this sickness from looking at small girls and other girl comments about her breast size and but and she only 14, and its a focus off her hurt feelings from the lost of both parents.

@@debrajones6317 I will keep her lifted up.

Why isn’t Adrian not getting pregnant?

@@2jcward Hollywood womb probably. She may have to buy one like the others.

AMEN

@@2jcward why is that your concerns or business. Leave that alone.

Words are triggering. It was always shaming me for "you're too skinny" when I was younger. When I put on 15 pounds after a sickness, I wasn't used to it and stopped eating for several months. Now all it takes is some asshole on the internet to randomly call me fat and I am back to that.

I always wonder why adults choose to Target preteens cuz they used to Target me and call me big and snakums when I was a preteen and it was mainly from adults sometimes the kids but it was the adult females that did majority of the bullying!!!

My God! I am so sorry to hear what happened to you. People really does not understand the weight of their words. God made you beautiful, period.

To be 35 years old and never had an adult bP cuff… I know your struggles! I’ve just never was able to gain weight and because of all the name calling, ( olive oil, skinny Minnie, etc) and the fact that the women in my family are natural “stacked” both boobs and butt everybody still tells me I have an eating disorder. I had to convince several doctors all my life starting as a child that I’m not anorexic balemic or any type of eating disorders! Everyday part of my prayer is to gain just enough wait so people won’t say I’m sick or I don’t feel like I have to over eat when people are watching! I’ve had nurses and doctors laugh at my face and tell me to just eat more!

@@jumokabward7450 People are so negative and could care less how it affects us. The upside about this (if there is one) is that sometimes karma does hit those people where it hurts. I witnessed it happen a time or two with some people who really had it coming to them. I just wish that I could see it come back on everybody who has done me dirty. I think my depression would completely go away if that were to happen.

Exchange her for Jeannie

@@jonnydavis6066 I concur.

@@jonnydavis6066 hell no

Made me tear a bit☹️

She is good as a guest host. Permanent is a no..

Calm down, grandma. She is weak.

@@carlitosway1330 idk what that comment is supposed to mean pls elaborate

Same!

@@tuesdayabdullahi1278 She's all, "Oh, boo hoo, someone called me fat 20 years ago. I'm a victim!" Miss me with that.

@@carlitosway1330 this is why people don’t open up because of bums like you

But on the show she said it’s because she was sick, so she lied.

I follow her too and my mom and grandma are diabetic when I talked to them they said your weight can drop dramatically and now that I seen she has body dysmorphia on top of that she a strong and brave woman and hope she can find peace within

She looks 😍 just fine female!!

@@2jcward I'm going to let you slide with this comment.

She looks so sick..I hope she gets better

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Right!!! Reminds me of the time my "friend" laughed and pointed out my knock knees while I was wearing a short skirt and she was walking behind me. Also, there were 3 of us walking so she could care less of how humiliating that was. Then when I came back on her by telling her to look at her own knees that were not only knocked, but skinny as hell, she got mad at me. Then she said "But I know how to stand so that it doesn't look like it." I told her something back and it was over, but I never forgot that. She also said some other mean things that I had to check her on but that was the most memorable. Her ego was so big that she really felt like she could just tear me down but was not supposed to get checked for doing so. Also, she did this to others as well. I stayed "friends" with her just to be able to witness her karma because I knew she had it coming. And I was right!!! Over the years, she has gotten dogged out by numerous guys, was publicly dumped by one, left by her babies' daddy, had numerous fallouts with female friends and fell out with her 2 sisters who were the ones who always had her back when she was in a jam and was talked negatively about by her boss at her new job after having just moved from Minnesota to South Carolina for it. The funny part to me is that she tells me about every downfall in her life. She has no idea that the only reason I decided to stay "friends" with her is because I knew she would get thrown off of her high horse and I didn't want to wonder if she ever got hers. I wanted to witness it.

Wow me and my coworker just talked about this bbl situation this morning.

My Black Gods the true and living Black Gods which are my parents, my grandparents, my great grandparents & all my ancestors had me to have no sympathy for Tami Roman's body dymorphic due to her being so constantly disrespectful towards others throughout the years of her life.

Amen

It definitely made me cry as well because I was concerned when I seen her then to hear why she is so thin it broke my heart this is exactly why we can't judge people 😢

Wow ladies this was deep. I don't have the level of her situation but I suffer every day with not over eating. I understand her and hope we can reach a healthy at least medium.

HELLO !!!!

Adrienne was annoying with her interruptions. She's always trying to be relatable, but that wasn't warranted here. Tami needed to share her personal story at that moment. Tami is highly intelligent and well-spoken. Loni was trying to encourage her to seek therapy right now even though she has had therapy in the past. Let's just continue to pray for Tami as I hope she seeks the professional help and support she needs.

I know right! I wanted to know what she was going to say.

I agree. I hope that she saw her mistake and learned from it.

I felt the same way - I was like why did she interrupt

Adrienne's always been a talker.

Ever person praying for you does not have good intentions.

She's rejecting their intentions and there's nothing wrong with that. Even the old school church mothers tell you not to let any and every person pray over you for that reason.

@@roseamberzine5846 she said some thing that is so Facts , all Prayers aren't good ...

At 50 there’s not a lot of hope for natural fertility. But everything else you said yes, she has been through a lot.

AMEN

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It's sad. They need to grow up. "Oh, boo...someone called me fat 20 years ago." First world problems.

@@carlitosway1330 lol I used to be like this. Telling people to get over stuff bla-bla-bla. It’s insensitive. It’s her story and her life. She can take her time to deal with it.

@@ornellabasua5752 😂🤣😂🤣😊

Outstanding conversation 🙂

She will always be a victim.

@@carlitosway1330 right was a whole bully but want someone to feel sorry for her

@@titlepending1302 , I thought I was the only one who remembered Tammi.

@@titlepending1302 You people are sick

@@shanequaaustin8908 aren’t we all sick 🤷🏾‍♀️

Here comes the Karen's being negative I'm so happy she shared her story because I was Geniuwenly Concerned about her

Agreed 👏🏽👏🏽💯💯😢

@@shanequaaustin8908 As a 42 years old Black man who is extremely pro-Black Tami Roman does not get my sympathy despite her suffering from body dysmorphic since she was 11 years old due to her total disrespect of others throughout the years.

Yessssssss

Facts 💯 would love to see how the lady looks now ... she probably a old hot mess 😳 Tammy probably looks 10xs BETTET THAN HER NOW. FACTS 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯

It’s probably more than than one person that’s said negative things about her looks and weight? This person was just the catalyst for her justification that she’s not worthy. When I was in HS a doctor told me I weighed too much (I only weighed 135 lbs)...I was ashamed of my thick athletic legs because people made remarks about them. The skinny girls didn’t get the negativity i got, it seemed. I became anorexic. I still thought I looked bad even though people were saying that I look like I’m on crack!

Yup damage on top of damage

I was bullied a lot growing up, mostly by peers, but I remember an adult or two, saying something negative to me. Over the years, I would act like it wasn't a big deal and try to forget, just to be able to live. But it seems that since covid hit and I've been home a lot, having time to really just sit with my thoughts, I can't stop thinking of those negative things. It's like I'm having some sort of delayed anger issue. I regret not standing up for myself more than anything. I think of all the things I could've said and how those things would never fly with me now, if they were said to me. I even stopped talking to 2 friends this year for things they said over 10 years ago that I didn't check them on back then. It's like I'm doing a review of my life and realizing who I should've cut out of it years ago. So since I didn't do it back then, I'm doing it now. I'm sure they are confused as to why it's been a year and I don't return their calls but I don't care anymore. It's like I'm getting revenge and thinking about me for a change. Suppressed anger/humiliation is a hard pill to swallow and really does follow you for life it seems. I guess for Tami it manifested itself in the form of body issues. For me, it's am ongoing, "functional" depression that has been with me for decades.

@@OldskolFan I can relate but I was told negative things across the board because I was an introverted person in school. It's like once they labeled me as something, that's all I was in their eyes. If I did something out of the perimeters of that label, they'd make a big deal about it. So I stayed in that box just so I wouldn't be called out if I did something that was extroverted. I think about those times and my hate for those people is deeper now than back then. People really can do damage to you in ways they don't even realize. I've suffered with depression since I was 11 and just learned to live with it. All I can hope for is that karma has paid them multiple visits over the years.

Grow up.

You're absolutely right.

I understand feelings are very important but i think after a certain age, everyone should get to a point in their life when they don’t allow they’re feelings to take a front seat in their lives! Like come on, if someone’s concerned about you and speaks on it, although your feelings may be hurt, you need to also consider the entire situation and know they care for you hence why they’re approaching you with their concern. I think the worse situation is when someone notices something wrong and ignores it (doesn’t approach you about it) just to spare your feelings? That’s terrible. Obviously wisdom needs to guide their method of approach, there are bad/disrespectful ways to confront a situation but if someone’s saying they’ve noticed that you’ve gotten skinny and asking if everything’s okay or saying they’ll pray for you, I personally don’t think that’s means to be mad or annoyed at the person. Because in the end were their concerns even wrong?? No. It may not be cancer of the body that she has but she does have cancer of the mind because any type of mental disorder is draining, exhausting, and hard !

@@MsSugarlips21 Absolutely right, you can’t get angry at people who care being concerned. And people aren’t wrong for being concerned so that’s an unreal expectation.

@@MsSugarlips21 Exactly! Then if you don't show concern and something happens to that person ...then what? You stay silent to spear their feelings , that's ridiculous .If you genuinely care for someone and you see them struggling or looking a bit off you address it period. Now that's Love! Fake people will avoid telling the truth and just pacify you , but it's the real ones who will address the elephant in the room.

I remember this too. Lord.

I thought of that too. I kept asking why someone would do that

As a women who want s to loose I'd rather have my mouth wired shut than the other surgeries. I am going to look into it ASAP

They did the same thing with Chadwick speaking on peoples bodies and weight but don’t know what they going through behind Close doors ….just like they keep asking Michelle why she don’t have kids 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ don’t like people

@@blossom7464 it’s just beyond sad and ridiculous.

did she not say that she has help outside her cirlce?

@@boujee_bridget no she said in the past she was in therapy that's how she was diagnosed but the way she's dealing with it right now is by talking to her family, friends and those closest to her she said at the end no she's not in any professional help but struggling and kept repeatedly saying "I'm ok, I'm fine."

Definitely. It’s just as serious as anorexia

And her fans are the problem telling her how she looks amazing and that she looks 20 years old when I’m reality you can see that she is not well.

@@longbranch11207 her fans can tell her she looks sick but she’ll warp that into a positive. There’s no winning.

Agreed 👏🏽👏🏽💯💯 :(((

Me too! We all need to see her feel so we can learn to feel again and be empathetic towards others. The world has lost that trait. I’m always called sensitive and I’m going to stay that way instead of losing it.

It’s sad how she tries to be her honest self and people criticize her for anything. You can tell she has such caring and honest energy and people just tear her apart.

Yessss cause I was Loni, I respected Tami too much to be negative and say anything , but I was so scared like are we watching her disappear . Managing herself without therapy , o nooo

Me too

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Yup. This is why we have to be kind

You're so right!

Jacoby yall need to be reminded all thee drama ,traumatics she caused others..it's bad how a person can talk about the motes in someone eye, but a logs of motes in their own eyes, wolf in sheep clothing

Respect!

Amen

She talks too much

Same! I wish she would let her finish

Omg! I thought the same thing. Adrienne always does this! Cuts guests or other hosts off when they’re about to reveal something deep. Love her but it’s so annoying! 🙄

Same! Interrupts way too much.

Right I also felt like she compared random insecurities to an actual health issue. Sometimes it is best to not try to relate but just to listen.

EXACTLY.

So true

Or are you pregnant

Not commenting on a person's physical appearance in a positive way is something that I have to unlearn. I have been wired myself to compliment people on their physical appearance not understanding how it may hurt them. But I get it, it's just best to speak on other things. So proud of Tami.

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Sorry you are going through this. 🙏 I feel for her. And you.

How can u be born with it? My sister is big..loves herself..loves being a big girl..me ?nooooo, we are the same size most of our lifes..we are 5 years apart..She wears stuff that if i had on i would pick myself apart

@@michellecox8538 You can be born with it we need to do everything in our power to do research and at least try to be understanding you are so cold hearted

@@shanequaaustin8908 How am i cold?i said NOT on rude or mean thing..so, im very confused..can u read 👌?

@@shanequaaustin8908 One*

What's best for her is to accept professional counseling!!! Thought her childhood she had been abused sexually. Because of the extent of the abuse she need professional help. Obviously she couldn't do it on her own. I have a problem with her failing to seek professional help. Can't she see that she's not capable of doing it herself. She really isn't trying to help herself. She wasn't that frail when she and Shaunie O'neal were acting together. She was a healthy size .Just lately since she married Reggie she's start getting skinny. She wasn't that skinny. actually looked real healthy. Tami you have to make it make since. Only since she been with Reggie has she begun losing weight!!! She may be going thru a mid-life crisis. Something is going on with her but definitely not body dismorphia. She married this younger man and now wants to be a Twiggy. She know damn well that looking that frail ain't attractive. Tami make it make sense. Does she feel that she needs to make Reggie feel that she's sickly he'll stay with her since she is older than he. If she believes he truly loves her than let that be so!!! She didn't feel insecure about her appearance until she got with him. It just don't add up!!! It sounds more like a mental thing where she is going thru a mid-life crisis episode. Maybe she doesn't want to really be with him anymore. She appears to be wanting attention??? Everything she says isn't adding up. ...... That's my opinion.

@@bettystephenson5948 “She knows damn well that looking that frail ain’t attractive.” “She didn’t feel insecure about her appearance until she got with him.” Wow, did you even attempt to listen to what she had to say?

What a long Episcile/opinion...hope it matters to her.

@@gaila.9852 🤣😂

You have a point. I was bullied a lot growing up because I was/still am an introvert. Plus, I've dealt with negativity from others as an adult. I always wondered what was going on with them mentally to be so mean for no reason.......at least on the surface there seemed to be no reason. I never felt the need to bully or be negative to someone just to do it. But some people seem to get pleasure out of it which always made me think they had to have underlying issues. Now, thinking back, Tami had a very dominant/bullying type of personality on Basketball Wives. So maybe that's how these people end up like this. They go through things that they feel like they can't control and then unleash on innocent people to feel like they are superior or have control. Hence, bullying is born.

For sure

Facts!

Yes!

Sorry to hear about your suffering. Wishing you well and you too Tami!

Sending you love and encouragement! It’s a journey, not a destination, so take it moment by moment and applaud yourself every step of the way for wanting to be your best self💜

Yes me too. I have struggled with an eating disorder my whole life.

Same

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I caught that too… 💛

Seemed more like she just didn’t want her to speak about the industry…..

It always puzzles me when certain co hosts aren't on the stage because I would liked to have them all there for this conversation.

@@ImJustaWill I know, but it looks like they're both absent and she's co-hosting.

@@olamiduno.3571 I just read that after I typed my reply lol

I think they don't want to crowd the stage and have everyone talking at the guest all at once. So it's easier to bring two host out get a more intimate interview.

@@ImJustaWill I think that maybe Jeannie and Garcelle are out on vacation or sick/medical appointment or whatever, so they needed a co-host. They probably don’t have all the hosts plus the guests on stage at the same time as a COVID precaution. It’s better to have less people on stage and lower the chances of spreading COVID.

THIS !!!

Daily Personal Development...for some reason that stuck! Thank you for saying it this way.

Yea but it’s not so strange when you realizes people aren’t “born attractive”. A lot of insecure people turn to “getting attractive (make up, diets, lifting weights etc)” and think once they get attractive, at least to societies standard, they’ll be happy. It’s kinda like “money doesn’t buy happiness” but in this case “attractiveness doesn’t buy happiness”

Because people are constantly scrutinizing their looks. It's as if people see no other value in them beyond their looks, so they begin to obsess over the way they look to try to avoid being criticized.

This makes me think of lil Kim. She was already naturally beautiful.

It is so crazy that today afternoon; b4 I saw that everybody is concerned, like me,i thought about Tam because I saw a picture of her last month and it ate me up i was so saddened by it because i tend to be hurt by peoples problems sometimes so I thought somebody needs to tell Tam that she is the ish and has always been the ish

She's always been pretty and a trailblazer

I'm glad I wasn't the only one who read between what she was saying. I'm sending prayers and love to her as well. 💜

I also caught that. This is why I don’t compliment her like that. She is a very beautiful woman, yes. But I will never say to her she’s thin enough or anything like that. It can be taken too literal especially with this disease. 😕

Exactly....She knows the comments hurt her she's human. She's never been my favorite person but I respect her honesty. And also I hope she continues with professional help not just her family

It's killing her. I pray she gets what she needs. Sometimes when we are our own counsel we actually are hurting yourself. She is hurting even though she is telling herself different. Tam I live you but you are not ok Please get her some help Loni.

Wow. :((( 😢

Well said, especially "We all need to work on finding an inner peace that no hate filled human can penetrate." I'm going through this right now. I've been thinking about all of the degrading, inconsiderate, humiliating things people have said or done to me from childhood to adulthood. Going forward, I vowed to never let anyone else ever get away with just saying what they want without me checking them. That feeling of not sticking up for myself for most of my life is now haunting me. So since I can't do anything about the past, the only thing I can do is catch the negative people in the moment from now on. So far, I've done just that. I still get pissed and depressed when thinking of how low I felt about myself to just let people walk all over me. I didn't realize just how low my self esteem was. So all I can do is try not to let it happen moving forward and accept the past, no matter how pathetic it was for me.

It's definitely possible

It’s called Heaven 🙏🏽🙌🏽

Can we just love our own self. I really don’t understand needing approval from others. What happened to our own self confidence.

Bad interviewer for REAL.

Exactly! I was so mad that Adrienne did that. Like let her speak.

yeah,I noticed that too 😫

Agreed.

Yes!!

I was just about to write that when I saw your comment. She’s so annoying

Thank you!

Thank you! I really wanted Tami to finish her thought. Hopefully they stop interrupting others during their vulnerable moments.

Get a life.

Fuxx u Big Time@Carlitos Way😬!!!….

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@@carlitosway1330 what is so funny ?

@@Rosesjournal. First World Problems are hilarious. Imagine how blessed we are to have eating disorders. Nobody in the Sudan worries about getting fat.

I too see a therapist for this

@@carlitosway1330 You are a sick, and cruel person to mock anyone's pain, seek help smh

Comments like this DONT HELP.

Thank you Myronn ❤🙏🏾

Thanks for the update boo ❤🤗

Thanks I was wondering!

Hey thanks for the update 👍👍

Thanks for the heads up. I was wondering.

I remembered when her mouth was wired in the early nineties. Now I'm aware of Tammy's condition. I wish her well!

This

No way. She needs a psych evaluation

no. she doesnt need to be a 5th host. yal always want someone to be a host. just let them be a guest and keep it moving.

@@heyheyhey40 plenty of ppl have body dysmorphia, especially in Hollywood. Actually, frigging Jeannie mai was anorexic with bdd until a few years ago and shes like 40 something. Adrienne hinted that she is too, or at least showed tons of signs of it in the first few seasons. How she was always like "no guys, im fat" when she actually looked good.

Amen

I wished I can heart this ❤❤

Wish you well. 🕊

@@enjoythemoment6596 Thanks and likewise ❤️

Yeah this made me break down because people don't understand what this woman is going through 😥

I agree.

@Melvenia Gray- I totally agree with you. Also, your comment was on point and so eloquently stated.