1. Be direct. Figure out a fun activity and the logistics, then say, "Join me." 2. Do NOT double text. She got your initial one. Give her space; that's how she knows your inner strength, which makes her more attracted to you. Double texting can ONLY lower her attraction. Waiting can ONLY raise it. Maybe 1 week later is okay. 3. Send her ONE SIMPLE TEXT after a great date instead of texting all night. That one text is very powerful and says everything you want to say: "Hey ____, I had a great time." Use fewer words. 4. Let her's be the last text. - also, try to text her a little less than she texts you. Give her a chance to chase and be attracted. - try to keep them short and clear. No paragraphs when an emoji will do! 5. Don't try to build rapport / relationship through texts! Nothing deep. Few questions. These should be in person. Just be playful and use texts to set up the next date. 6. Keep your texting light and playful! Use emoticons to soften when teasing (men who do are more successful). Very easy to misinterpret a text message. In-person contact provides context. - do NOT use "j/k" or "sorry" or emoticons otherwise, or very much at all. It's weak. - do not escalate relationship, give ultimatums, show a ton of interest or emotion, etc. - don't use all caps 7. Send text and then go do something else. - waiting for her text will erode your self-confidence 8. Do not text her something like, "Good morning, Beautiful" every morning. Especially before you're her boyfriend. She'll just show that to the guy she's actually dating. - kills interest Don't worry too much about this. Don't worry about being super accurate. Just follow the general guidelines. Texting is a only tool to arrange the next meet-up!
@@thechaz83 - If only it were that simple. A lot of women don't like talking on the phone. And most women will text you inbetween dates, even if you have a date set up. This advice is a great way to handle texting.
Tried that but maybe I was to needy I doubt it since we both were vibin,but it's hard to see when timing is everything she could like you but be busy or say she's busy when really she has Chad on the side.i can't play these society games of like me but oops to much, I am the last human being, it's easy to smash when so many give it away where it has no value so sad society...
@Nic777 i agree with what you said, but not the bit about us not caring about your feelings. We do - very early on, even before we meet you. Well I guess some girls don't but I'd say most do.
As a woman, I can confirm ESPECIALLY the "good morning beautiful" daily text. DO: 1) Be direct with your texts. No vague "what are you doing this weekend" if you're asking her out. 2) Use texting to set up the next face to face meet, not to have long drawn out "conversations" 3) Choose the logistics about your next date (Jazz club 7pm wednesday) and invite her 4) Don't double text 5) One simple text after the date rather than text all night 6) Let her be the last text of the night. Resist the urge to respond to her winky face. 7) Text playfully and light (it's very easy to misinterpret tone on text) 8) Send your text to her and then go do something else. Take your mind off it. DON'T 1) Be ultra vague like "WYD" instead of asking her out on a specific date and time 2) Ask her out without having something specific in mind 3) Make her decide and plan the dates 4) Don't build your relationship over texting 5) Ask "get to know you" over texting (it's very easy to misinterpret tone on text) 6) Be overly sexual over text or on the first few dates 7) Over-escalate the relationship (so are you going to be my wife or what?) 8) Use all caps when you text 9) Don't text the same thing every morning (good morning beautiful)
1. Be direct when asking her to meet up. 2. Dont double text her. 3. Send her one text after your date. 4. Let her text be the last one if you can. 5. Dont try to build rapport via texting. 6. Keep it light. 7. Send a text and then go do something else. 8. Do not text her, " Good Mornimg Beautiful" every morning =)
These are always on point. Trying to crack girl code never ends. There are no one size fits all solution’s, and whenever I have a challenge on my hands, I always end up back at this channel.
So I will help money ,mind,body,knowledge, power, then you can crap on all these women and they will love it be a Chad or Tyrone they do not do any of these silly games
@@mikeknight1926, you might just want to work on your grammar and punctuation a bit. It seems to me that women like guys that can read and write. You may increase your income level as well. Just a recommendation.
Keep trying. Not every girl is the same! I personally would adore double and triple texting with a man I like -only offputting if he already didn't have a chance.
My Cloud - He's not copying Corey. Corey encourages us to ask when the girl is free, then arrange the date by being direct. This guy says be direct by picking the day, time, etc. first. Corey says NOT to send her a text after the date, to let her wonder. This guy encorages us to send just ONE text. Also, in another one of Jims videoes, he says to not ask a girl out again for several days, even if she texts you. Corey says when she reaches out assume she wants to see you and make a date (unless it's the same night after the date). So quite different.
You’re on stage 2. Stage 1 sadly consists of these games to increase your chances of success. Keep in mind, it works both ways. Some women have been way too needy and has made me take a step back.
This is extremely comprehensive video on texting. Good job. Oh! One caveat, I do not add emoticons or “ha ha‘s” or “LOL”. It has led to me looking like a cornball a goofy guy a nice guy. It’s important to remember that women form attraction/feeling through wondering about the guy. We think that giving the woman reassurance, comfort, and stability will lead to deep attraction from her. The reality is, they form it through anxiety when you’re away and cool calm masculinity when you are with her. Seriously, it’s freaking weird. Women require all the emotions to feel alive/ in love. They need the roller coaster. Also, put a girl you have high attraction for on silent mode in your messaging app. This will keep you from texting too quickly.
The anxiety when you are away will not keep a high value woman attracted to you though just FYI. Our feeling of safety comes from knowing you are interested but you are self sufficient and not reliant on us. If we feel anxiety when we are away from you, that's not a good sign.
Dont worry about it. Do you man. just don't be a "creep" If shes interested, chase it. If not, leave it. half of this video is just BS that should be obvious.. If she texts you, text back, if you want. If she wants to text you, and see you.. Text her man haha
When first starting a friendship with someone you really have a connection with and want to go further? Yeah,you do need to follow by these rules. Never bombard with text. Try to make it even,back and forth. One maybe two at a time and not every time during a conversation.
That's why there are so many single people! All these darn games! You have to know the person your dealing with, because all these moves and delayed text can and have signaled that the person is not interested, and frankly it very frustrating. I personally find it a turn off when people don't respond.
I rather u just say u not interested or im not feeling u...i ganruntee nobody will ever being confused or needy...ganruntee u nobody will be over pursuing or wandering where u stand..but no people cant do that but everybody so real
A lot of GAMESOME LIGHT HEARTED Fun loving girl players. Darting interests : here today gone tomorrow. Shallow CARE is like the boys light hearted games for simple shallow ENTERTAINMENT. Right?
Well this has been eye opening. I've been texting a couple of girls this past week and I've been making at least half of these mistakes lol. One of them has agreed to meet up but flaked twice already (giving her one last chance), and the other is keeping me hanging and won't say yes or no when I ask her out. I'll try to implement this advice more.
If she text me a week later I probably won't be interested in her anymore and I won't be excited to see her I don't care how busy she was because when you are interested in somebody if they send you a text you will respond. Do you have a remedy for my statement.
You're right. Someone's silence says a lot. Even girls who work 2 jobs and go to school usually maintain a social life. If a woman doesn't respond after 1 or 2 texts over a week then she doesn't really care and neither should we.
I smell feminine manipulation 🤣🤣🤣🙈🙈🙈🙈 they always good at it,some guys are on the move so why waiting on wasted effort ,if u show interest that's enough ...ain't waiting for tomorrow s having own troubles, next
I don't agree with sending her ONE text after your date. It is not necessary. If she sends you a text after the date, then yes respond, but you should be letting her reach out. She has to wonder about you, wonder whether you liked her or not. If you text her you decrease that uncertainty. You not texting her after the date will create uncertainty, and a womans attraction increases when she is uncertain. Besides, most men will send her a text after a date, so if you don't you're seperating yourself even more. Also, your text CAN be the last one in the conversation as long as you are ending the conversation. For example, "I had a great time too (nickname). I've gotta go (reason) Talk soon". Telling her you've gotta go or just not responding are the same thing, although in some cases not responding can come across a little cold in my opinion.
I concur. The only way you send a text after a date is when you reply to her text if she sent you one after the date. I sometimes even wait until the next morning to text her back if she texted me the night after the date.
David Arbelaez - It's all a fucking game. It's a game of who cares more. Who needs who more, etc It's just the way it is. Women respond to what they respond to, so if you don't want to accidently fuck up with them due to all the shitty movies and love songs that have brainwashed us, learn what they respond to and do it. Even if someone happens to fall in love with you because you simply do it for them, i gurantee you'll fuck it up down the road.
this is why i always end up regretting dating.. there is too many games that i just find draining. ive had amazing dates with girls but then it just falls apart because no one knows who to text who out of fear of ruining it. over it.
Someone needs to make a children's show about Captain Sabotage so little boys will learn from the beginning how to efficiently text girls. They don't learn that stuff at school anyways. They should watch that instead of crap like Lego Ninjago or My Little Pony.
How do you get to the point where she feels comfortable meeting you if you don't text enough to get to that point? Seems like a difficult balance. How long should you text with a girl before asking her out?
Sir listen if she is not attracted to you move on stop simp there are more fish that will. consider that people are more going for other things so more women are available ..and the lack of men dude keep going forget those that want less of you. Stay strong money power you know the rest
Thank you! I was lightning at the dates, but was about to be too needy in the text, because she was into me and I got some 'seeeexy time'. Thaaaaank you! :D I wonder if it's too late though.. She wrote, she wanted to take it slow.. Facepalm. But! - At least I will not screw up the next date haha.
I like your style but I don’t agree with the part about not building rapport. I always build rapport before I even meet up with her the first time. My last relationship started over texting. We built so much rapport for two weeks that when we met, I didn’t have to do much. It was on. Women like funny guys and humor via texting is great for this and increases attraction ten fold, as long as you know what you’re doing and not writing something dumb that could put her off. Besides, it gives you a lot of material to talk about during your first date that you both can laugh.
I agree. Especially if u meet a woman online. You have no choice but to build some sort or rapport which translates into some form of trust on her end and evaluation. Now I would say watch the content that is being dispersed via text and don’t text too long before meeting up
@@asushomie4387 how far away is she from you bro? If within a few miles & you drive dont wait too long. I dont like entertaining women over text as it bores me & I got better things to do. Connection in person is easier anyways
DO NOT use loads of emoticons in messages and especially NEVER use "lol". Over use of emoticons comes across as very feminine and weak natured. The use of "lol" generally gives the impression of insecurity, or being unsure of what you've just said, and also seems feminine. Use "Haha" if you want to show you are amused or are joking. Personally, I find over use of "lol" even from women seems immature and lacking intelligence.
Yes you're right about the double texting thing - it's very pressurising. Saying you're going out for a meal anyway and inviting me to join is kind of odd and unnecessary though. I would feel like you were afraid to take risks, which is a big turn off. Just ask us on a date.
Hi. Would you prefer the man to just say something like "hey lets grab a drink. When are you free?" Then after you tell him he then decides on a place and time?
Very good! But, what if the girl is in another country for now, and the only way to communicate is by texting and obviously you can't invite her out or something. So, you talk everyday for a month without knowing her in person, and then she stops replying. I've been thinking it could be cause she wants to go slowly, cause everything is by text, or maybe she is just dating someone recently, but, I don't know. It's tougher when you can't meet her, lol. Hope you can help. Thanks
In my experience, one should take things by ear. every woman i have met we would spend the entire night texting back and forth. I do have to admit that it does get boring because after a while one runs out of things to say and it become tiring to have to think of answer
Oh, noooo!! It’s true that women is attracted when men seems not to be interested. All the time man chased me and I didn’t like it, but this man I have was different. I was thinking, why is he not texting me or calling?? Man, I really like him because I was the one putting the interest. Woman also likes men to be a little difficult. 😆
Not texting her at all and petitioning her drove her mad for me....which is strange because eventually after years of hell...I worked out she was hiding a form of madness anyway. Her mask of madness slipped in front of me one day when she drove at practically 70 mph in a 30mph area and refused to slow down or stop and let me and two children out. That was the day I should have petitioned her. It is an N.P.D. SIGN. I WENT THROUGH ANOTHER FIVE YEARS...one of those children was from another family...I refused her driving after that.
Summarry The point of texting is to setup your next meet up with her.. 1. Be DIRECT when you are asking her to meet up with you. Eg. " i am going on a hike will you join" or " hey, lets meet for coffee at 7:30 am monday morning". Don ask her things like, when is our next date, when should we meet.... 2. Dont Double Text Her.. one text per time, and in that case just wait. Dont give too messages at a time. And do let her text always be the last. This will make her feel that you are freaking out or over obsessed about her. Just incase she doesnt reply, may be a weak later, you can send one more text. This is to keep her interest high in you. Remember Captain Sabotage will love to send her 1000 text.. 3. Send her ONE text after your date.... do not send more than one simple like text. Eg. " I was a nice time with you ......." remember keep your text within base and let the relationship be physical and text being just a means to meet up. 4. Let her text be the last one if you can...... try to keep your text a little less and a little bit shorter. Be clear, simple and short. Don't send a lot of text when a smilies images could do. Simple, clear , straight forward and concise. 5. Dont try to build RAPPORT via texting. Let those be in person. Dont ask her questions over text. 6. Keep it LIGHT. Let her know if it is a joke. It should be followed with an emoji and dont be overly sexual or important matters over texting. dont want to escalate the relationship over texting. Reserve your emotions and judgements over text. Keep it light. 7. Send a text and then go do something else. Dont keep the phone waiting for her reply. Go continue your awesome life and come back later on her. This will help you with your internal strength and make her feel you are good with or without her.. 8. DO NOT TEXT her, " Good Morning Beautiful" every morning =) she likes you because she likes you.. Dont send sensitive messages online.... TREATING TEXTING AS A TOOL TO ARRANGE YOUR NEXT MEET UP WITH HER..
Even when talking to her in person let her say the last thing. Women build up emotions in everything men do not do that. Letting her get the last word is letting her let her emotions out. That's pleasant to her and she is more likely to choose you to talk to again if she feels pleasant.
I have been guilty of the good morning beautiful text every morning. But that was before I knew anything about this. I feel like such a dumb ass . And I that said I ended up losing her in the process. But now by watching this video has increased my knowledge. Thanks for the info
Vincent Cuneo she also may have ghosted you because she’s a piece of shit human, and also that she wasn’t really interested in you to begin with. Move on. Lots of bitches out there.
Just be yourself and stop stressing over wtf she thinks of you. Every woman is different you can't group all of them together. Some like double texts, some love long texts, some prefer to keep it short, simple, and to the point others hate it completely and prefer you to just call meaning what might work for one girl may not work for another. If she is genuinely interested in you she will reply regardless of your texting style. If not than check her off your list and move TF on. Life is too short to be stressing over what everyone else thinks of you, never give anyone power over your peace of mind. If you're constantly second guessing yourself and the way you text, it would probably be best to take some "you time" and work on your insecurities first before trying to date. Idk why people complicate things specially in the dating world we're all just humans with our own personal preferences their isn't any instructions or shortcuts to dating when it comes to women. Just find one that doesn't completely annoy TF out of you, and shoot your shot and hope for the best. If by chance it doesn't work out than consider yourself lucky because you now have another opportunity to find someone even better that actually fucking deserves you.
Mike T well said man. Took me some time to figure that out but that is the best advice. He makes good points but really those points are for those who are worried about what others think. Just be yourself.
Hopefully these rules don't apply to every woman on this earth. Surely it can't. If a woman seems interested enough and you start with a few good things, hopefully she will give you the benefit of the doubt. A severe case of hope, or maybe just not worry so much. But often for some its bloody hard not to. Or to have a million things on your mind every day which gets very tiresome and just makes it so much worse.
@@JH-nv2ue hopefully what is said in the video. If women know what a lot of men are like they won't be fully put off, or not always put off by double texting. We are only human and make mistakes. Everyone does. Noones perfect. To do every single thing right all the time, pple make mistakes in their lives
If a Woman doesn't respond to a text that you sent her until the next day, make sure not to respond immediately, don't text her for at least 3/4 of the same time that it took her
Thats playing games and looking too much into it. Just text her back whenever you get the text if its convenient it shows you aren’t bothered by trivial stuff. But if she makes a habit of it then she doesnt care and move on
Are men who do not use social media or texting out of loop and seen as ineligible by women who use texting almost as much as they use any other appendage? What is a work-around for men who prefer "skin space" and/or talking via cell or telephone?
I just lost a potential meet up because of the double text actually i tripple text not because i didn't think she seen my text but because i genuinely got excited about having a conversation with a. Woman it wasn't sexual in nature i just didn't know how to be patient
jposco it's how people are letting the media and their children's peers influence/raise their kids lol listen to me I'm technically apart of that generation being born in the early 2000's and all and I sound like an old man I really do have an old soul lol I don't understand why women raise their daughter that way or let the media raise them that way but it's sad because they will forever miss out on a potentially good spouse or relationship because of a standard or unintelligent rule that the female society made up Smh
Ari Zone Gaming, I was born in 1980. Times have definitely changed. I have a woman that was texting me constantly. She even offered to take me out. I told her ONE time during conversation, that she looked good. Never heard from her again after that.
jposco its like no one can take a complement anymore it's all eww he's grose for saying nice things about me or oh I see he must be trying to have sex with me. Honestly, I hate today's women they assume you are a dog and nothing more. Yes their are men out there like that but I'm not one of them yet I get treated like I'm less valuable or a dime a dozen or just straight up ignored. This is what happens when society tells women you can have whatever man you want to females they actually believe it!! And thus turn down or simply not give a great guy the time of day instead go after tools and jerk offs that treat them like complete dog crap. And then say all men are the same then wait until their in their 30s, or 40s to tell their friends and co workers girl I need a man nice young fine man. And I'm like but your worn out!!??? Used and have 3 to 6 kids from multiple deadbeats You had your chance!!??
Texting now days in our social dynamics become something if I’m not mistaken as a stigma even with members of family! I can be more so that the majority are holding the device in their hands at least 15-16 hours a day but what the pursuant of individual’s who text organically and without any Afterthoughts? Very few sadly
What if u text then realize u showed needy/creepy etc.... and you want to fix it and you send her the right text and showed the opposite, What then the damage already done!??? Because guys always tend to mess up at the aftermath And it really effects the guys self esteem once he ruins it. By all means he's a genuine guy and worth your time to get to know her. This is big issue with guys no matter how old. So I advice women To help out guys and give another chance. Otherwise you may loose a genuine guy to die for.
Yes I severely hope so in my case but I after some videos I've watched I'm going to go quiet on texting for a few days. Since this woman I really like is just the friend to start with, it hopefully might get me out of this horrible feeling that she won't reply again. I've just got to be bloody patient. But its definitely harder when your a bit older and had very few relationships but you meet one that seems interested enough and no matter what other guys think , she's the woman of your dreams, mostly on looks first. To find out as a person what she's like, the trust caring honest loyal, that can take ages. I'll just have to keep busy for fee days to distract myself, and keep away from that bloody mobile. Or in the end chop my bloody fingers off lol
Dude, that's what I do always. I have been with alot of girls and do not have any of those girls phone number in my phone book. Drop a text and delete her number, if she responds positively, initiate the conversation. If not, boom, u gonna look for another chick. That's what an alpha male do. Cheers
@vishnu ghimire good job mate but I'm a sigma, I have had women. Come to my house unannounced, but it's hard to find someone to talk and grow with it's all about smashing that's easy try staying in a relationship another story out there
what if she was clearly interested in you and you took a long time and it kinda disappointed her and you text her and its been 3 days and she hasn't responded?
Early on before her and I are in a real relationship after every contact whether phone call or text I delete her number and anything else that will enable me to get in touch with her. That unknowingly to her makes it very easy for her to get rid of me PERMANENTLY. Makes her life easier AND MINE. Of course by the time you're in a real relationship with her you'll know her number by heart. Whole different set of rules then!
hmm... "my current girlfriend actually got 95...", the word "current" does not sound that convincing that you have found the one that you want to be with for a long time. Other than that and in general I find your way of thinking about these subjects very interesting and helpful. I f you respond to this, I´m going to "let your text be the last one, if I can" =) (smileyface, as you can see) =) (and yet another one).
Very important to listen to this I've fucked up multiple women over texting too many and too long of texts including clarity .... looking needy and crazy
I have a bad habit of double texting if the first text was spelled wrong or use improper grammar because of voice to text using words I didn't say. But it probably looks bad and I guess I just need to cut the s*** and let whatever happens happen
I am so grateful to not be part of this dating app crap. It's a completely inauthentic and unnatural way to look for love. I definately see some benefits, but 14000 unanswered messeges? How many did she did respond to and how many of those guys did she go out with? I think it's lazy and you will completely miss out on that unscripted and spontaneous attraction. There will always be that disconnect from nature and the vast accessibility to vulnerability and temptation is overall disturbing to say the least. Some will never know natural selection.
#1 This doesn’t make sense. I thought you weren’t supposed to mention a specific date and time, rather do a soft ask and then ask her what her schedule is like
Hey this the 2nd video I watched on your channel. I was just wondering you keep emphasising about working to an actual date where you can see body language and interact. But how do you text a girl that's permenantly abroad? (if anyone has any input I'd be willing to listen too).
I am too eager to find about that. There was one girl we meet severela times with there was atraction, we kiss we made out but i had to move abroad after that. And only communication left was via technology. In the end i failed miserably but i would like to know how if it is possible to maintain that kind of relationship for some time. Or basically how long distance relationships work. I know it is possible i've seen people doing it
@@sedatmehmed4371 To be honest I've been in a long distance relationship for four years. I managed to keep contact but it goes exactly against what these videos are saying because you do not have access to real life interaction. I switched to deep convos and other aspects because basically you just never really get to a date. My question though was how maintain this social construct while trying to implement these "win attitude" because I know this works but I want to figure out the path inbetween my experience and this video.
@@Radoganer Well i think if a girl is attracted to you, she is more likely to forgive you a lot of those mistakes. I've done a lot of those mistakes - like we were texting every day for hours. I always was sending her "good morning" messages and so on. I was sometime jealous when she responded to some other guy's comments in her photo. But she was very forgiving until the point I've become too needy.. So i think it is okay to build rapport and attraction too by text and phone/video calls. Probably the golden rule is to not suffocate her with attention and from time to time be unavailable and let her some break from. I have noticed this in the early phase of our long distance relationship that when i couldn't reply or call her for several days she was looking forward to hear from me. Balance is the king i suppose
