agreed! reminding me i need to do smthn for smthn else to not look weird or noting to me (as an audhd person) that what I'm wearing might not be appropriate is literally a blessing
@@sigasaurusrex YES i can’t handle a “wear whatever you want” person, i never guess the right outfit vibe. why are you keeping it a secret hahaha you know i don’t know
This is productive brutal honesty because instead of saying it to bring her friend down, she comes up with solutions to bring out the best in her friend. Love it
@@Denise-dv3ps…no? She literally only said “smell like me” about the perfume. Everything else was trying to bring out the best in her friend, not trying to make a clone
@@gothic_xombie so what. blunder if you want. People are always have something to say. Some people get color analysis and adhere only to it. Others take that info as advice.
@@filmsfoodie blundering is not a positive experience. i make judgement calls. but as much as people want to act like it’s all easy being an island it’s not. people can be petty that supersedes “people will always have something to say.” it’s less about supporting social compliance and more protecting my own self interest
Bro y’all seriously acting like a english teacher,like why don’t just type “it’s you’re btw but mistakes can happen” Like🥲leave him/her alone,we are not in school like Ik it’s confusing but come on,you all are cold “you’re” how cold can you be🤨*don’t come after me because then I will be after your family* *this is my opinion,so don’t start a war but I’m honest with my reaction.*
I love these people because they want you both to go out in public as a dynamic duo on the same level of slay. They do not want to outshine you. They know you can shine insaanely bright, and they want to see you do it.
@@deehydratedfacts! everybody just always wanna take it as competition. 🤣👏🏾like your mom or sisters didn't do it to you as you grew up, and you now love them for it😭
My best friend likes to say I bulied her into loving herself. We're out there, we just don't go outside much cause we focus all out energy on our like 4 actual friends.
Omg we should make a subreddit to post outfits or looks we are unsure about and everyone be brutally honest (but still nice). For the ppl that don’t have friends ❤️ I’m that brutally honest friend haha
It’s my sister lmao. She will drag me to her closet, pick out clothes and then do my hair before we leave. She regularly says “don’t embarrass me like this”. 😂😂
man i wouldnt even call friends like them brutally honest, theyre coming with SOLUTIONS theyre called lifesavers. not just saving you from whatever event youre attending, but also any future bad purchases
She was usually parentified as a child, and now she’s exercising her free will to influence the people she actually wants to influence and not the stinky kids she had to raise whilst being a child herself
as someone whose sister is like this, reminder to everyone that "honest" doesn't mean "true" 😅 you're allowed to be confident in your style even if the person who "means well" doesn't like it!!
100% true! I honestly cant believe how many comments are just saying how nice it is to have an honest friend like this. If you as the friend wasnt complaining about being lost in regards to style or asking for help or advice, let them be. Not everybody has the same aesthetics or care about conforming to style rules. And if they have the confidence to do so dont ruin that by being someone close to them who causes them to feel differently.
My sis is like this lady and she got me two dresses for my birthday this year. One in my style that I can wear casually cos I'm a casual girl. And another for dressing up that I'm hardly ever gonna use until the day eventually comes where I would be totally lost without it. She's been taking care of my fancy fashion for years! 😍
BUT we/they are specifically talking about people who ARE honest. I have been this friend for my friend and it is honest. So there are people do it to make people feel bad bit some people do it to make their friends, THEIR best self because they don't know how, "have you thought about bringing your foundation down to your neck" instead of "dont you know how to apply foundation?" A friend like this is like a tutor, they want to help because they know their friend can do it, and they have the skills to help them.
@@Goldphool They were just pointing out that someone’s honest opinion isn’t an objective fact or value judgement. Your friends don’t need to approve of your style as long as it’s working for you.
maybe it’s bc I’m not a real girl but i was lowkey shocked at these comments. like, i would totally let my friends pick my outfit for fun, but im an adult and i don’t want constant unsolicited nitpicking and dismissal of my own taste? my friends can wear things that i wouldn’t personally choose but if they’re feeling cute im happy
This is my sister!!! 😂 100% I don't love looking like garbage, but I don't mind it too much and I have a weird complex about spending money on unnecessary things. Being so different dometimes caused conflict when we were kids, but as adults, we really get aling and balance each ither out. Now whenever I visit her, I don't even pack a bag. I take an empty suitcase becuase she is always buying new stuff and handing off her old stuff to me. She styles me, higlights my hair, and makes me feel like a princess. I don't know if I help her as much as she helps me, but she does say I give good advice and calls me whenever she needs grounding. It's truly the best. So if you're that friend, keep it up. A secure friend will not be offended.
This is my younger sister. I'm the older sister who's more into comfort and saving money. I just wait for her to get bored of her clothes or she gets the size wrong.
Nah I hate people like this, had a friend who was exactly like this but didn’t respect the fact I have my own style and basically wanted me to look like a clone of her💀
I love such brutally honest people. From my experience, those who claim to be brutally honest just use that attribute as an excuse to be rude. But the real ones I've met and known won't go around saying that. They just say the stuff as it is but word it respectfully and little funnily too, like Gabrielle here. I love such people and I aspire to be like them 😂❤
This is someone who actually cares and isn’t greedy about products I would do this too for any of my friends that I could share with who wouldn’t want to be a baddie with a baddie friend
Especially when what she's wearing looks like a cross between a paper sack and rumpled plastic bags. She'd better be trying to dress me better if she goes out like that and won't stop with advice.
This approach is extremely hit or miss depending on circumstances. A lot of people *think* they are this person, someone who is trying to help bring out the best in a friend, but in reality their true intention is simply to make you conform to their personal tastes because they dislike your preferred tastes. Theres a vast difference between "this color doesn't flatter you" and "your alternative style is ugly you should dress more mainstream" at which point it just becomes stifling their self expression and true interests which isn't helpful to anyone. Someone truly invested would try to give advice catered to their tastes. A lot of the times people who claim they're brutally honest aren't so much "honest" as they are brutally terrible and understanding social and emotional cues and aren't willing to put in the effort to stop doing things that upset the people close to them (as an autistic person, Yes it is possible to practice and learn social skills, you should *want* to put in effort for your loved ones, all types of relationships are two way streets)
Thank you! I get she means we'll but if I want to wear a colour that doesn't "suit me" or wear a perfume only I like, there's nothing wrong with that and telling me not to do what I enjoy is low key just rude
I think both op and the the response is crazy. Why are you hurt if someone tells you the truth? If you don't like hearing the truth, just don't be around someone who tells you it? But, you're both low key being hypocrites. Sh!tting on someone who is like the character. A character like her wouldn't do it to people like you guys anyway, she would understand you like to be lied to and complimented, so she wouldn't bother... Honestly, the hypocrisy is sickening
I see your point now hear mine. I was this friend (not to this exaggerated level). As a friend we recognize our friends style, I was a dress girl, my friend wore jeans, t-shirts, and a lether jacket with black combat style shoes EVERY DAY. her idea of dressing nice was adding a necklace, not even a dress shirt, and wearing dress pants. When we went out people thought she was my butch girlfriend. I taught her to wear makeup (she ended up doing it better than me!) and that was the only feminine thing she ever did. Her "lack of conformity" has likely caused her to lose job opportunities. She was the most suited for a position, but someone who conformed to social standards was "more approachable and understanding " (not true btw) was given the job. Basically people who don't conform DONT excel. There are outliers but in general people in higher paid jobs conform to social standards.
@Leleche 100% EXACTLY! Real friends would keep things within their friend's comfort range. I knew my friend's comfort zone, and only evert rubbed the edges of the bubble. That's what friend's are meant to do, show you they are there for you always and they can be safe to try new scary things with.
Ngl it really hurts when ur all dressed and meet ur friend outside ur house and she says u dont look good why arent u dressed up Bro i was in make up , red lipstick, a long skirt and a cute little sweetheart neck top. That's dressed up for me. She was in ripped jeans and a crop top which is NOT my vibe . I like to dress modest.Some people have different style and that's ok.
I think it depends on the person on the receiving end. Some people know that they need help or appreciate it & the honesty of a friend not beating around the bush or giving false compliments.
@@vanessag2251 yeah it definitely depends. if you're a mess who doesn't know the first thing about fashion, a big sister friend would really help, esp if you're on the same page about style! but if you're fine and comfortable in your own style this behavior is realllyyy icky..
Tbh if someone told me to not wear a scent that I like, but the scent that they like I would be furious. Girl, I'm not going to the party with a headache due to an unknown smell just because you didn't like mine
It’s good to have honest friends, and to strive to be honest for the benefit of people in your life. But it’s honestly the delivery here that’s off-putting. Even with friends who we’re comfortable being jokingly “rude” or “harsh” with each other, -if we can be honest with my friend: I would have to let them know they’re doing too much in this situation. I love being helped out by people I can trust. But the tone here is critical, even if her choices might be better-suited. But everyone’s comfortable with different ways of relating to each other.
Err...not so much lol, I personally wouldn't have taken it well because I don't think someone with a style I don't even like should try and tell me how to dress 😶 I'd be like "hmm on second thought, how bout lets be sisters and not twins plz" 😂
How was this an example of hurtful? They were being honest and actually offering solutions. It’d be totally different if it were one of those “friends” who just says what’s on their mind and leaves you doubting yourself. There was nothing “harsh” here.
@@paigew6707everything she said was hurtful. It was all about “I know what’s best for you. I’m the height of fashion. Don’t be yourself because you’re gross”
I watched this expecting my reaction to "brutally honest" would be to dislike the character as being too harsh, and am instead sitting here going "how can i get adopted by this person?"
Honestly most of the time 'brutally honest' people just talk shit for no reason. Its good to see a protrayal of someone who actually puts in the effort and helps
I have never, ever experienced this from me or my friends in my life, i rock up looking like me and they say ' now then, how's it going ' people, stop being so superficial
It’s less being superficial and more like, my friends kinda know how I wanna look. There was a time where I didn’t understand how to present myself the way I wanted yet and my friends knew more and knew me! If I didn’t like it, I’d just tell them no. Plus if I already showed up to the club in a t shirt and jeans they wouldn’t judge. This kind of thing was also nice because I wasn’t in the best financial situation compared to them at one point. They’d never judge when I couldn’t afford something and they also made so much effort to make me feel welcomed and included. Whether it be picking a cheaper place to go out or this!
@@paigew6707 yes! these people are constructive and want to help. rude people just want to complain about stuff and want other people to fix whatever they’re bothered by
I DESPISE people like that!! Most of the time they do this for self gratification, they love feeling like they made someone better by intruding their opinions Let me live my unfashionable life omg lol
@@paigew6707nah i'm gonna be honest these people tend to only have one style that they think is 'right'. god forbid you try to do anything out of the box, you'll be dragged to the high heavens and back. some people just need to learn to take a step back from their own bullshit and stop trying to 'fix' everyone around them
Honestly, these types of friends are AMAZING. They tell you what you might not like to hear because they want you to be BETTER, not because they want to feel BETTER THAN YOU. That's the difference. And it makes ALL the difference. I love me some aggressive sister vibes.
As a neurodivergent individual I wholeheartedly appreciate and embrace brutal honesty, I have an ADHD friend who I take clothes shopping with me and she is the only one I’ll go with because if something doesn’t look good she’ll tell me straight to my face in the most honest but genuinely kind and caring way and I love that I can’t stand people who lie and say something looks good when it doesn’t, like seriously just tell me
I hate those people Like, why do you think you know better than me? Who are you to judge Yes, I suffered a lot from that stuff, still restoring my confidence.
Most the time we mean well and we just want to help okay? We’re already confident in ourselves and we are giving advice to you to make you feel more confident too. If they are making you feel self conscious then they are the ones that are trying to put you down and that’s not okay. You just have to find the right one 💗💗❤️❤️
thank you like everyone is praising this but if i walked out in an outfit i genuinely liked and felt good in and someone said “oh you are not wearing that” i’d genuinely be so upset. like just let me live
Nah just say you can’t handle feedback. If your friend says the fit isn’t flattering and offers a way to fix it they’re looking out for you. Now, if they are just saying these things and not offering solutions then they are indeed a terrible “friend”
@@paigew6707 What’s flattering or not is subjective. And they are not giving feedback, they are just saying their opinion. And saying that opinion in a really demanding/ rude manner
Anyone else immediately get nostalgic vibes from the sound of her dresser opening with its creaky wood & the old fashioned drawer handles clanking??? Reminds me of my grandmothers house and sitting with her while she digs in her stuff telling me stories of her younger days & showing me items from those memories ☺️
