My parents divorced when I was young, and I was primarily raised by my mother. The attitudes she filled my head with completely ruined the first 15 years of my dating efforts. I totally misunderstood women's nature, and the true dynamic of the "dating game". I thus ended up learning the truth the hard way and wasted decades of time and money trying to be all women's 'hero', only to find they only really responded to me being the guy they all said they hated.
Most women (our moms) are not self-aware enough to tell their sons the truth about themselves. They look at their 18/19/20yr old sons like we're still 8/9/10 . . . their little babies. Then they get all goo-goo gaa-gaa & telling these damn fairytales about love. But it's real life now & we're grown up now.
My mother drilled "bad men leave women" into me from the age of 7. As a consequence, I spent my whole life staying for YEARS too long in bad relationships, where I'd try to make women happy and secure, and they'd run all over me.
@@SingleMotherAdonis Exactly this, my GF started to disrepect me and it took me months to realize it. I didn't even knew this kind of disrespect was possible by a woman. Sad truth is I feel like we have to through the trial & error for our lack of awareness and it costs money & time..
I was raised in a family with both parents in the house, but my dad was a very quiet nice guy, always working to put the food on the table. He also did not have a clue about women himself. And so I find a lot of similarities between the upbringing men talk about from the single mother household and my own, even though my mother and father is still together. Also, be careful with treating a woman like a little girl, because by accepting a woman into your life who is still acting like a child you may end up with having to deal with childishness all your life. I have seen this from my parents dynamic myself, and this is a living nightmare for me. You want a mature woman, not a little girl. But I see your point of teasing her and not taking her so seriously, having that daddy energy to offer. Just don't get stuck in these roles.
Absolutely, having a father in the picture who doesn't fill the role of that male figure leads to similar outcomes as being raised by a single mother. Very good point on wanting a mature woman - the teasing helps in the initial attraction phase and maintaining chemistry, but for sure you don't want it to be an actual parent-child-type relationship.
Related 100%. Also havee been suffering from aproval needs from others, so it has been an hard journey with all the wrong beliefs. But we always aim for improve! Following
