You are completely right its hard to change that. I still struggle to believe I deserve more. And will sabotage myself. I am happy to be clean now, though. I know I deserve that!
And everyone else will continue to oppress her lock her in and drag her away from safety and happiness. I know from experience as I experienced much like this and didn't want to be involved and was attacked by these gross malformed G's and brothers until they nearly killed me together. They're HONOR CULTURE. They're seriously mentally ill people. They hate to see others happy, cannot handle rejection and many of these people are severely mentally ill narcissists who live shit all over they didn't do anything at all to anyone and everyone owes them something. I'm so entirely used to it.
please that excuse is just lame, she is scared and has nowhere else to go , she has a warm place with two friends , she wants easy fix .yes i feel sorry but she’s not dumb
When you enter a cold room, you either put on your big boy jacket or get out. The cold room/hostile environment could be the workplace, home, neighborhood, even church or place of worship.
I was really bad in my addiction. I broke my back, my nose, I died a few times, over dosed, ect. It took me a while to finally get sick and tired of being sick and tired. Now I'm over 3 years clean. Recovery is possible.
@dannydarkense5500 i always wanted to be a drug counselor, but the self-doubt and self sabotage have really affected me. Now I just make videos and go live to make connections with like-minded people. Thank you!
....the list of things that happened....died a couple times, etc...wow. the Lord loves you, He surely wants you to have something out of this life besides the pain and struggle. Put your trust in Him, keep going, don't worry about anything but putting another foot in front of the other. Love ya.
Lily get out of there. I have been working in the streets since 16 and just got saved and now that whole life has died for me. I’m 23 now, It’s a blessing we’re still alive & we have to thank God for keeping a hand over us while we were blind. Please get out while you can .
I hope Lily sees your comment. I was heavily into my Xanax addiction when I became saved. After that, I never had another craving for Xanax. I didn't even have any withdrawal symptom! God even took away the social anxiety which had plagued me for 50 years!!! Social anxiety was the reason the doctors put me on Xanax. Jesus freed us from addiction, and he can free Lily, too! And she won't feel empty inside, anymore! She is in my prayers. May God bless her, in Jesus name, Amen!❤🙏⚘❤
@@candi4202 lol that makes no sense. She said she was showering at a friend's house and fell asleep there. I don't know why she would need to lie when she's been brutally honest about everything else.
drug addiction is crazy, i find it hard to feel bad for people making poor life choices. she is good looking, already has life on extremely easy mode. the fact she can't take advantage of that just proves how stupid she is
Mark, I sincerely appreciate the effort you take in interviewing and encouraging these men/women. You always provide a unique perspective and encourage them to do more/better. God bless you and continue to be a light to all of them!! Thank you for this channel.
I’m pretty fluent in addiction, and “fell asleep at my friend’s house” really means: I nodded off at my dealers or trap house. I really hope this girl makes it out and her loved ones haven’t given up on her. She’s only gonna get so many chances though sadly.
You just can’t put this girl down. She’s in denial about how bad the situation is. She’s so young and and so beautiful. Just one or two more bad experiences away from being lost forever. I wish this girl all the happiness and a massive dose of luck as soon as possible.
She's not an "adrenaline junkie", those do things like skydive, and base jump. She's a "danger junkie". There's an overlap in the terms, but she's more into just putting herself in danger. There's usually some sort of reward for adrenaline junkies, but not for danger junkies.
It's a different kind of reward - "I can handle it". (Until you can't.) Maybe she'll figure it out, but I don't like her chances. Until she (or someone) figures out why she couldn't be comfortable in Texas, she'll probably never go back.
I'd like to hear more about this perspective. I've always been an "adrenaline junkie" but as a teenager I definitely put myself in danger or whatever. I was just the toughest friend to be in whatever situation. I liked fighting. There were a couple different non white bars. One would jump whoever. The other was cool. We could go outside but go back in and share drinks. I'm not trying to sound tough here. I'm not anymore. I have 2' of metal holding my 6' body together. Haha. I guess that's part of the adrenaline thing....
I've tried to help people like her. Eventually you realize it's useless. They know they are messed up, they agree and seem to want help and it's not gonna happen. I hope her dog is safe at least.
Drugs are everywhere tho! She could literally go anywhere and use what she is using to get the drugs. I've been clean 8 years now Honestly been there and done that
Lily, you are 20 years old and have so much more life ahead of you. If you turn things around now you will hardly even remember/recognize this version of yourself by the time you are 30. Since you have an adrenaline seeking personality maybe you could consider a public safety career. I’m a dispatcher and definitely enjoy the rush when we have high priority/in progress calls. You also might find success in the military. The options are endless, you can do anything. I wish you the best on your journey.
I was a Methamphetamine addict for several years, at which point my life started to erode. I was able to be a functioning addict but my mind had changed and been destroyed by daily meth use. I had just ruined a 9-year relationship where i had it good. After it ended, I was in therapy, still using when she asked me why I thought my life was at that point and I told her in tears that I self sabotage and whenever i have something good i instinctively throw it away. She said with a straight face that it wasn't the case at all, and I was just using that as an excuse just to do what i wanted to do. I never went back because it was the truth and I was angry. I am clean now and have been for almost 2 years. This girl reminds me of me and what Mark said to this girl reminds me of my therapists advice. She told me the truth and it hurt but she wouldn't know but that confrontation helped get me clean. Good luck to this girl.
I appreciate the kind words, but I believe putting myself first is what ended up destroying me and others around me. I had to learn how to put others first. I give all thanks to God for putting that truth right in my face and offering me a new life and a way out.
Mark, I’ve never written a comment on any RU-vid video before, but your videos are so helpful and interesting! Understanding how we work as humans is just fascinating. Please don’t listen to those who say, “Mark, don’t give them money,” or “Mark, they’re taking advantage of you,” etc. GUYS, he’s a fully grown man and clearly intelligent! Just sit here, watch his videos, and let yourself learn something, gain appreciation, and develop more empathy as we see the world through his videos. Thank you for existing! This keeps your original enthusiasm while enhancing readability. Great message!
I like this channel because the interviews make me feel uncomfortable. There’s no sugar coating, just real people experiencing a completely different lifestyle than myself. It also makes me feel more fortunate that I have a strong support system around me and I try to be there for others.
I’m a trauma therapist so I think a better way of explaining her situation is that she has become so used to being in her fight/flight response that it is normal to her. She doesn’t see the issue and she’s not used to feeling safe or seeking safety. I agree that there are things she can do to try to protect her safety but do not victim-blame her. Yes she can do things to be in safer situations but if she is somewhere not good it still doesn’t give anyone the right to beat and rape her. Stop putting blame on victims, particularly traumatised women. Traumatised people sometimes cannot see danger the same way others can, and cannot see ways out, and cannot see their right to safety or value as a person. I hope she gets to a place of safety. But don’t put the responsibility of her rape on her. That’s not right
Unfortunately she would likely fight tooth and nail anyone who cares enough to drag her out of there. You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves.
It’s scary how she keeps saying I’m working on it. He and the other lady offered to take her to the airport and pay for her ticket. She’s playing Russian roulette with her life. Lily take the advice and the help before you wind up another statistic. You’re smart and beautiful and worth so much more. Not to mention capable of so much more. 🙏🏻
Not just Russian roulette with her life, but poor Biscuit's life as well. As with herself, she just doesn't care enough to realize the harm being done to him and the harm waiting for him.
Oh Lily, if you're reading this, please, please dear child go home if you can. If you can't, please call a women's refuge, call the Salvation Army, call the cops....call someone. You just can't do this alone. You're not hard enough to fight out of where you are. There's a whole beautiful world out there. Get your dog and yourself to a safe place, somewhere you can decompress. You're sweet, pretty, well-spoken and I see you're kind. I wish only the best for you dear, please, please find help.
This girl has soooo much more life to live ahead of her. Praying & rooting for you, Lily. You seem like a beautiful soul & I feel you deserve to live a life full of true joy and peace. ♥️💯🙏🏾
My sister was exactly like this girl. Nothing we did to help her mattered, she would cry for help just long enough to get back on her feet then she would run right back to the hood. She died of an overdose in 2015. When she died her eyes were black blue from her gang banger boyfriend, who she, at 5’ 100 lbs almost knocked first, then received a beating in front of her 3 kids, pregnant with her 5th, 2 were taken by the state.
@@Amesimov I'm no psychology major but I've experienced aLOT of life. From my perspective there's 3 reasons but I'm going to make it 4 so I'm not including adhd in mental illness. I'm adhd but it wasn't a thing when I was a kid. 80's, 90's. I'll probably have more reasons now that I'm flapping my thumbs. 1, single parent home. One or likely both parents suffered from some mental health issues. 2, mental health issues. Good luck getting treatment. 3, adhd. The only way I know to explain is... get in your car, start it, floor the gas pedal and try to control it. The brakes don't work. 4? I'm not sure what number I'm on. Addiction. I tried meth in 1997. I didn't like it but I knew I couldn't keep doing it. Wish I could say the same for alcohol. 5, absolute lack of medical care or attention. Honestly, I don't remember exactly what your question was now but u hope this answered it or gave you a different perspective.
Lily! You are so beautiful! My heart hurts for the pain I see in your eyes. Please PLEASE take your furbaby and you home before this lifestyle breaks you completely. All you need is someone to show you how worthy you are of being loved. You ARE SO WORTHY! God loves you Lily! Sending you prayers for healing, hope, strength and protection 🙏
This girl goes up on vid and literally in the first 5 minutes talks about be assaulted and your conclusion is she's not taking life seriously? The girl is traumatized and wants to die. These are some of the most unempathetic and dense comments I've seen on this channel tbh.
Yeah, she honestly has no idea where this is going. This is a bad bad path. She like an alien in a foreign country. And that country is hell! Better get her head straight quick
I really hope this young lady makes it out of this situation Alive. As a former opiate/meth IV drug user who was homeless for many years, this doesn’t usually end well. Most people who regularly meth only hang around other people who use meth, and they wonder why they don’t meet “good people”.
Knew she’d be back, but didn’t expect it to be so soon. Poor girl, that city is chewing her up and it’s going to spit her out just as quick. The worst part is after what she just said happened to her, you can tell she still hasn’t gotten it into her head that she should go. Really hope she can get tf out.
She gets a kick out of telling people how she gets into trouble or what happens to her. Doesn’t listen when Mark tries to give her advice. She glows up when she starts talking about how she got beat up.
@@FinalCurse Means that the path she's on right now in life, if she doesn't make a change, ends with going into the drain, i.e. skidrow, overdose, death etc.
When I was younger I was heavily into board sports and biking. I'm not the adrenaline junkie type and often found it terrifying but I recognised what a healthy outlet it was.
So sorry for what happened to you, so sad and you are so lucky to be alive. You need to not compromise on your safety in any way, you need to become ruthless when it comes to your safety, and take extra good care of yourself. The person who assaulted you this way should be in jail, what a horrible thing to do to another human being, he is a really sick person.
This girl needs an intervention! Serious deprogramming needs to happen. She talks of the R with a smile on her face, as if it’s a normal day in the life for her. 💔 But, her attitude leads me to believe she’s not going to change until she herself gets tired🥲 of that life. So sad.
Absolutely! That story made no sense! Falling asleep at 2 PM on a friend’s couch. And being assaulted by his relative who’s banned from the house because he does “weird stuff.”
When women are drawn to sexual danger, PLEASE start asking about childhood molestation first. I'm a 14yr therapist. I knew she'd been molested within 5 minutes, and it was likely someone close to her in Texas.
there is good intent with this comment but PLEASE don’t use your position as a therapist to push these assumptions in a parasocial manner. you’ve never had a session with her one-on-one. there’s a LOT to comment on in this video but speculating on that probably isn’t one of them.
@Laqqy I'm not being rude, but I'm also not going to pretend not to know what I know. Sitting on the info does nobody any good, and she confirmed my suspicion. I said "you should ask", to avoid giving people dangerous advice.
theres nothing happy about this Event when so many children are being killed in rituals TONITE, and many other days around this time of year, and no one does anything about it.
Do it for your dog - you OWE THIS TO HIM. Or rehome him in a good loving home … cos he doesn’t deserve this life. It’s YOUR CHOICE not his. - be responsible or let him go to a good place !!!! - god I hope she reads all the comments!!! And listen !!!!
Me either. My guess is she maybe didn’t make enough money. You can find jobs that give variety. It’s too bad Mark can’t link her with that nurse he had on. As a mentor. But a person could be wasting their time to mentor her. She might get bored.
Mark has repeatedly warned this girl to get the hell out of there & here she is still getting beat up. Please 🙏 leave!! You will lose your life. Mark would even help her relocate. Mind blowing!! Another fire 🔥 interview. Great channel & interview.
Damn it, I kinda have a soft spot for her. Girl, 9-5 sounds boring? couldn't agree more! but you haven't even tried living. there are so many difficult and exciting jobs which are actually rewarding. please try before giving up, this is such a waste. listen to mark when he says you have potential. you are in LA and you've never been anywhere else, you don't know what the world even looks like. you are smart but you don't know anything
Don’t even need to work some job for some corporate etc. There’s many ways to make a living. You can find a craft and sell. For example I make candles and personalized ones etc. Could start a dog walking business. Etc etc etc. I used to work for a casino and I’ll never go back because I felt like a slave to billionaires. Anyway there’s many ways to earn money and still enjoy life. Life shouldn’t be centered around work anyway it’s too short. That whole thought process of people being obsessed with work always confused me. Sorry I rambled 😅
@@rumham7466 oh, yes, I couldn't agree more! But since she's an adrenaline junkie, she can work various jobs from working in the ER, working with rescue animals, as a wildlife veterinarian to rescuing people on difficult hike trails or from earthquake affected areas. I agree with you on not working for a corporation. Hell' I'd sell everything I own and move to the mountains to herd sheep or cattle somewhere. I think she didn't even try. BTW, I love that you have a candle making business. Such a big potential there, from scented waxes to themed candles for every occasion. great work!
Mark as a photographer myself, I would love to see her model, she has everything, the looks, the charm if only she could quit tripping over herself.. thank you so much for your studies in human nature..we all can learn at bit..God bless you and your work and God bless Lily she has so much to offer..I hope she finds her way home and finds a better path for herself..peace
Seeing you like this breaks my heart. I hope you can get your personality under control❤️ You are a lovely human being, always smiling, there is something really positive about you. Just please think more about your decisions and everything will get better🙏 Life is not easy, but it can be nice and exciting... even without too much danger.
I think she hates her beauty but she can use it like a tool to get wherever she wants in life. She can just pick a crazy goal. She doesn’t have to pursue the conventional life people expect of her.
Sweetheart, please go home to your family. You are worthy of love and you are not responsible for that evil man beating and raping you. He is an absolutely horrible person. You deserve respect. Please love yourself enough to chose you 💜
Everyone criticizing mark for “putting her down” you have to see the whole picture - mark has offered her a plane ticket and to GTFO of this situation, but she came back. Only you can change your own situation and until you’re ready, nothing changes. Some peoples rock bottom is worse than others…mark has done more for people on this channel than anyone can understand…
btw in germany a girl in her situation would get her own appartement paid and a mental health advicer and someone who tries to bring her into the workforce.
Wow! That is amazing. The need for order for all and leading a more "tidy" life, sometimes is a very admirable trait of germans. I live in a city that had a lot of germans living before the world war, so by learning the history and seeing the progress they made it gets a bit sad knowing all of them had to run from the soviets. Because they influenced the culture only in the best of ways mostly.
God bless this young woman…lily .. I can relate to so much of her story. I have been clean and sober from drugs for 18 years now myself… it’s doable. Getting into a better life, and counseling weekly regaining your self worth. Just by watching her talk… I can tell she is strong and capable to make her better life possible. She’s intelligent. I can relate to this sweet girl. She deserves better. It takes a very hard steadfast drive and will to get and to see positive results. Hugs to you Lily. God BLESS and keep you safe.
here’s some good advice for all young people: 1) don’t do drugs, not even mayjane 2) stay in school through the end of high school if not more- don’t cut class 3) do something athletic, it’s a positive way to burn off energy and make you healthier not too complicated
I couldn’t sleep at night knowing my daughter was living this life I would never give up trying to save her I feel so bad for her I hope she knows even people that don’t personally know her care about her and want better for her
I've been clean for almost two decades. Watching these videos is like a glimpse into a former life that is sometimes hard to remember. Lily, if you happen to read this... There is a good life waiting for you if you want it. There was a time that I believed I was incapable of being a decent person. I wasn't much older than you when I got clean. Today, I have a wife and kids. A nice home. The first thing you have to change is the people around you. Get far away from anyone who doesn't want you the best for you. You can make your life today a distant memory, and be happy.
I wish I was able to get back my younger years from drugs and turmoil. You CAN do this. You will find your support and sometimes it will get tough but it will be rewarding.
Thought the same thing. I almost thought it was her trying some acting experiment to see if she could pull off some role where she plays this character.
If she doesn't have one....she is the perfect example of someone that needs therapy......among other things.....If she stays on this path ...I'd be surprised if she survives another year
This channel is a research study on implicit bias. I wish every person was given the same empathy as a young beautiful girl. She’s not the only one who deserves it.
So, all the videos that don't feature pretty girls don't get empathy? Well, that's absolutely untrue. Just go look at a few other videos. The comments are mostly supportive to people regardless of looks. Saying that, don't you think it's natural to feel it's extra tragic when somebody so young, with so much potential is basically on a path to being unalived?
It also proves how empathy doesn’t really do all that much if a person doesn’t take the initiative to make changes in their own life. I’ve seen people who were favored take it for granted and people who were targeted use it as their motivation.
@@GhastlyCretinno, thats not what they said. You’re straw-manning. They didn’t say unattractive people on the channel get NO empathy, just that it’s not nearly as much. Which is UNDENIABLY true. You can pretend all you want that the comments on this video are the same as the 50y/o cracked out zombie looking people he’s got on, but it’s not even close. Anyone who has been following Mark’s videos for more than a week will know you are absolutely full of it. It’s an order of magnitude of difference. I know it sucks to recognize society is that shallow, but it is. Most people don’t think they are…that’s why it’s implicit bias.
5:36 you are 100% right Mark in recovery we learn to realize what part we played in every situation. Its hard to do sometimes, especially when it is a super traumatic situation. But we must take responsibility and realize our part.
@Blu702 Yeah, I’m like adrenaline junkie? I see a girl who is in an environment where she has access to the drugs she wants. Seeing the negatives and still pursuing drugs is literally the definition of addiction.
this is one of the best ones the way she speaks so freely is captivating and her facial expressions when she is contemplating an issue, and I have never heard Mark so engaged and on point, fantastic interview, I hope she gets out of the whole scene.
Mark tells her - it’s her fault yet with Asriah he says nothing is her fault. So many people come from horrible situations yet not everyone is on the street or making poor decisions. Mark is an enablers to some but I’m glad he is giving this girl a shot by saying “it is your fault” aka “you are on in control of your destiny”. She will hopefully turn out better than Marks side enabling project Asriah.
Asriah was raised by the system, parents were/are deadbeats. She's been on the streets since she was TEN. This girl has family and friends who literally comment on this channel and beg her to call them and come home. Completely different upbringings too.
Tbf Asriah was born into the struggle, no parents, a product of the system, she didn’t really have much of a choice. This chick on the other hand, was born into opportunity but decided to rebel and put herself in the situation she is in. I have much more sympathy for Asriah than this game player.
