I’m 51. Yesterday my 12 year relationship came to an end because I decided I couldn’t keep focusing on a one sided relationship. I finally got to the root of our issues and she was turned off by me as I’ve become bitter at work and I’m always negative. She’s 💯 correct. I went from positive and enjoyed playing rugby to being miserable and on the couch. I hate my stalled career and was trying to keep her through acts of service when I knew she had no desire for me any more. The good news is I’ve picked myself up after much worse places in my life and will go back to the gym and a regiment from my military days and start studying more to kick start my curiosity again and travel solo to where I want to go. I never got the kids and happy marriage I always wanted but have accepted that life can still be good when a person decides they want to change their mindset. Never give up on life. Fight for your happiness to the very end.
Best wishes to you in your next adventure! I’m 50, have been with my wife for over 31 years and in the same situation (with exception to rugby.) The timing of your comment is strangely perfect and exactly what I needed at this very moment to motivate the quiet resolve for balance. Ray Dalio mentions leverage in this short video. In a healthy, balanced relationship, the fulcrum of leverage is approximately in the middle. That is not the case for me and her. I need to find happiness and discipline for myself towards that end. When I can regain my own balance and happiness, only then can I seek the same with another, if that is what brings more happiness and balance.
Did she really have better options than trying to work things out with you? If so then fine. But I think we failed to defend our women from (((media))) and society-induced mental illness. Hope you at least let her have the cat.
So your Ex, after 12 years, has better options than you right now? If so fine. But I suspect you didn't honor your obligations. We need to take care of our women and the mental illness that is inflicted on them by our society. I hope for her sake you at least let her have the cat...
Im 43. I have no kids or gfriend. I have a good relationship with my Mum. I set myself goals all the time to give my life purpose. I try to help people where I can, without it hindering my own happiness. I have managed to start loving being alone and spend a lot of time running or hiking in the mountains alone. Its very liberating and highly addictive. I used to chase girls and spend all my money on them, but now its just all on me. Lifes so much less complicated this way. I should also add that I am a big believer in quality of life. Maintaining good mental and physical health greatly enhances this, with deep sleep (when your body repairs itself) being critical to successful health. Having a decent diet with minimal alcohol and lots of water also greatly helps too.
True that. Health is so fundamentally essential to us all (imo) throughout our life, no matter a baby or a senior It's like we can't even live proper life without health
@@ej7052Yes, absolutely. Long term good health should be a foundation goal of all humans in my opinion. But this is getting harder to do in the western world, because we are dealing with a mainly contaminated food supply with all the bad food out there readily available and constant adverts for it, its not easy.
I'm 54 my tips are #1 health maintain it as much as possible #2 share your life via a spouse, friends, charity don't fade away with nobody to remember you.
I'm turning 49 soon. I was sick my whole life, until about 3 years ago. Managed to have two beautiful kids despite the constant hell, it made it worth the struggle. Now I have almost nothing, but yet I am the richest man alive, living a simple life in a cabin in the woods, content with the present, which is all anybody actually has. Philosophy, breathing techniques, psilocybin, and getting back up every time you fall, that's one answer for some, it was for me. I hope to help others in my remaining years, because it makes me happy✌️💚🖖
I’m 53 and I am totally in that not enough hours in the day to get things done. Had kids a little later in life so we dealing with the early teenage years, we have a special needs kiddo (mental health) so that involves therapy time, social service’s time to name a few. Add this to all the other day to day normal stuff like holding jobs down, running a household, 2 dogs to walk, feed etc and before I know it I’m done for the day. I never thought of meditation so I’ll give that a try. Thank you for the advice.
I'm 10 years ahead of you - 62 and the kids are 18 and 20. Special needs and LGBTQ. Pets. I'm single now and have my own business. Sadly, when people tell me to meditate (which I have tried many, many times) I just want to slap them. : )
I guess I'm kind of in a similar boat. I walk almost daily for 1 to 1.5 hours. This is my personal time, get to meditate, some physical exercise. I'm getting calmer and feel like I'm gaining the control back. Hang in there!
My advice for those in their 40s and 50s is to just stay physically active if you want to look good as you age. the less physically active you stay, the fastest you age and your flesh and muscles become flabby (hanging down). Go out there and enjoy the outdoors. staying indoors the majority of your time doesn't do any good at all and it just leads to a state of depression and laziness.
Im turning 50 next year n i wud lk to tell young ppl out there it does get better.. ur life will improve.. its just a phase.. not everyone move at the same pace.. just one little step at a time n keep pushing forward.. The key is not to give up
Thank you for providing guidance in your books and social media. I am in my 40’s feel totally different challenges than my early years with in-laws, parents, kids and work.
middle life is like middle management: pressure from all sides. definitely feeling this. have to learn how to triage and outsource many things as you can
My life start from zero again at 49 after my mom and brother have been scammed their whole life savings. I hate them so much, life is tough, but luckily I have a gifted Mensa daughter giving me mental support. Now i have found a new job, hopefully things will get better after 50!
Ray more concretely advise-1-Should you help your children whit money? 2-Are you happy whit your life? 3-Pay your debts and dont mess whit banks! 4-Shold you enjoy life or keep woking hard? What about adictions in life- sugar, cigaretes or alkohol or the big one-loans?
Ray is just an angel.. such a wise guy. Weather or not he knlws it, he is one of my mentors. He is so sensible, and truthful, and I love to learn from his experience...
That little little Laugh of Uncle g in between while explaining the Midlife Crisis...My father does it and I get to know the SCARY PART is yet to come😂😂😂😂😂
Ray you are my hero. You teach me so much. But I must say you make the mistake most American men make. They talk like there is no difference between men and women. But this difference is huge, men and women deal with very different problems in each phase of their life. Women bloom in their teens and twenties . Men dominate in their 30s and 40s etc.
Mathematicians and economists will tell you: happiness is U-shaped. As a general rule, people are happy when they're young, becoming increasingly unhappy into middle-age, and then once through middle-age, start getting happier again. Apparently this phenomenon is so widespread, it doesn't just apply to humans - chimpanzees experience the same 'dip' in happiness in mid-life.
I am 53 years old , and just starting over with nothing . Because of a terrible marriage , I had a wife wich I still love but financially it was a nightmare. Now with no skill I am working a normal warehouse job . Any advice wi be appreciated
I would suggest reading Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle and building a relationship with our higher power Jehovah God. Also build good friendships and become a forgiving emotionally intelligent person. Eating well, working out and working on staying away from negative people. At 31 Im such a happier person since doing those things.
Mr Dalio. You are talking about leverage. In financially what is your rule of thumb? 20/80; 30/70: 40/60 So what is a good leverage which benefits you and lowers your risks. How you are making these decisions? What are your principles? Can you talk about this in one of your videos?
I am inventing a new meditational technique. It is a combination of technique that are out there. I would like you to try it out and let me know if you notices any changes. It is 12 mins long The first 3 minutes: You would listen to your internal thoughts with compassion, non judgmental non critical, like you are listening to your friend talking to you. but don’t get involved with your thoughts and idea. You are listening only. The second 3 minutes. Bring a feeling you have and wish to have for the day. For example calmness, peaceful. Bring that thought up and watch your feeling come and goes. Try to have that feeling come up in your mind and imaging how that would feel. The last 3 minutes. Place your thoughts on your breath coming in and out. Any thoughts come up thanks it and let it goes and refocus on your breath. All up 12 mins do this. Give one week and see how it goes. I am trying all these variation of meditation and it really helps
The phrase 'life begins at 40' is often misinterpreted as being the time for freedom and fun, when in actual fact, it is the time when the real slog begins and you are no longer coasting through life.
My biggest takeaway, Ray Dalio is a billionaire. He could have done anything with that 30 minutes to think about and execute this RU-vid clip. But he chose to help others. Has me reflecting how can I help others.
@@TimberXX It amazes me how many people don't realize that youtubers get paid directly for their videos. RU-vid is not what it was 15 years ago, it's monetized now. With a few hundred thousand views, he gets a decent payout from youtube for 2 minutes of saying nothing concrete.
I think when you reach 50s having a loving family and earning enough that don't need to skim the savings for the rising living cost, then take that as a win.
In 2024,don't set new year financial goals without consulting a financial adviser.there expertise ensure a solid plan for success.Building wealth involves developing good habits like regular putting money away in intervals for solid investments.
Thanks for the advice! I'm new to financial planning and wasn't sure where to start.Any tips on finding a reliable financial adviser or resource to guide beginners?
I agree, based on personal experience working with an investment advisor, I currently have $650k in a well diversified portfolio, that has experienced exponential growth. It is not about having money to invest in stocks,but also you need to be knowledgeable, persistent,and have strong hands to back it up.
How can I participate in this?I sincerely aspire to establish a secure financial future and am eager to participate.who is the driving force behind your success?.
Ray write them down,,keep the best discard the ones that are too difficult to explain,until you can word them better,but fo not give up trying to teach.
Sometimes, I can't meditate. That's when I run until it's hard to breathe. And then my mind and emotions become clear. I know what I need to do and what I can let go of. I'm not afraid anymore. I have come to realize the importance of having faith in my choices. Thank you so much. 🙂↕️😌
*Hallelujah!!!! The daily jesus devotional has been a huge part of my transformation, God is good 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻was owning a loan of $47,000 to the bank for my son's brain surgery (David), Now I'm no longer in debt after I invested $12,000 and got my payout of m $270,500 every months,God bless Chloe Linda Henderson🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸..*
After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.
Wow that's nice She makes you that much!! please is there a way to reach her services, I work 3 jobs and trying to pay off my debts for a while now!! Please help me.
I will give you best advice ever. Become free, look for a peace in life, create your own life, strive for the things you want, listen to your intuition and yourself not others, you know the best how to get that thing you want, stop listening to that nonsense from the internet.
Telling people to start meditating in their 40s or 50s is not a epiphany. Lol There are so many different forms, levels, and reasons to meditate. Most who haven't done internal work by these ages can't even find a starting point or purpose to really meditate effectively.
My youth was spent nearly on disability - But nobody has an easy life. Due to that I feel out of touch with any version of normal. But overall - our culture is weak and stupid. Strength is about remaining calm as possible at any age and circumstance
It’s not an advice for the average Joe. We are stretched too thing. The unhappiness levels, aggressions, etc. are through the roof as a result. The need to make more and produce more for less has killed us.
I don't believe meditating is truly going to help anyone as our currency & Empire currently collpases. Peoples problems, the threats they are currently facing and will be facing in the future, is much bigger than the normal historical midlife issues in years past. I assume meditation wouldn't really do much for people in Weimar Germany, Venezuela or Zimbabwe, not really.
Knowing Jesus is love, joy ,peace like none other. Eternal Life is in Him and none other John 17:3 And this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent. John 3:3 Jesus answered and said to him, “Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.” Jeremiah 29:13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.
I like Ray but like most of the wealthy that give advice, he only focuses on this life when it's short and ignores the next that is eternal. Read the Final Testament of Allah, His Qur'an and insha'Allah He will guide you to Islam. Those are the truly successful.
