Okay for those of y'all who hear this. What made me change my approach was the quote "don't count the days, make the days count." I was always tracking progress day to day, striving to achieve a big enough number. It went well until 180something, one slip-up and I fell into deep regrets thinking about getting back to this number again from 0. I don't know how many months it's been since then, but when I started to make the best out of the day in any way I can and focus on what's important to me, it became so easy for real. Part pf it is probably also the fact that counting the days makes you think about it much more than you need
I agree with this. If you just forget about these addictions or bad habits and occupy your time with other things that you personally set as more important, then you will eventually get past it. In those times the thoughts intrude again, you just brush them off and get thinking on something more important.
@@YoshiLikesFate It's alright, there's always a tomorrow. You can restart your streak tmr, but just remember not to use this as an excuse overtime Me and all men are with you, pal
dude.. imagine being the awkward introvert, getting a real loving relationship you thought would never end and genuinely starting to improve your life only for them to drop you. this just happened to me. do NOT focus on girls, you'll just be hurt badly.
@@rrai1999 I’m an introvert too but after having been screwed over I’ve been really putting myself out there I’m focused on my purpose and no matter how fine a girl is no matter how loyal and loving she says she is I will still push my boundaries and get other girls. Keep a rotation. ALWAYS.
same. You need to find something that you enjoy, does the same thing. For me I started weight lifting. There is a lot of science you can get into with health and fitness. IT is a lot of fun mentally and physically. I now view my body as a test subject and I like experimenting on it.
Im stopping it today i kept doing it for so long i got no morning wood anymore i also keep sweating and becoming nervous around people because of it i hate it. Im gonna stop im gonna train more more more im gonna run away from porn and all these distractions it has ruined my social skills and life its time for a change. wish me luck
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I lost my girlfriend to sex addiction. I never had a reason to do this before, so I thought. But now I do. I loved her. So much. And I hate myself every day for it. It’s been 3 days since she broke up w me and 3 days since I fapped. I’ve been doing it over 3 times a day every day for 7 years. I’m going to change.
For anyone who didn't understand, he's saying that you have to use the energy you get from nofap to build healthy habits like exercising, meditating, eating healthy, talking to people more, and even finding something you excel at until you're so caught up in those habits that you forget about nofap.
Literally do this and fap. NoFap doesn't do anything and theres also no evidence to prove that it does. Masturbation is natural and healthy and this agenda towards unhealthy outlooks on sex is becoming very concerning. People should improve there lives inherently, not blame it on a natural act that some weirdos on reddit thinks is a problem.
the irony is that if u find a girlfriend u will have sex with her as often as u masturbate so its really the same thing...finding friends is the best strategy for no fap
@@travisbickle0526 Addiction to anything is unhealthy. But if you fap to open in moderation, I don't see much difference from the physical effects of that to sex.
bro we have to i think we js gotta stay busy with things like working out and action and doing research on no fap and stay focused knowing its for a bigger purpose
lesson here. best way ever EVER is. Get rid of triggers. use your phone less. delete every game+anime+movie or any series that has 18+ scenes and go outside more. and if all of this didn't work. sell your device it's the final decision also i forgot one more thing. if you couldn't have friends or go outside. spend more time with your parents or siblings as possible. it will help like it helpt me
It's not gonna happen if you don't make the effort to actually talk to people. The mindset of "not ever gonna happen" is **not gonna happen** if you don't try.
@@hrydayshah5998 from a realistic point of view i'd say believing that "everyone will eventually find someone" is the most toxic mindset you can have and you should stop doing that.. instead be like "love is not for everyone, and i'm fine with that" learn a *real* mindset instead of being a conformist telling others to "stay positive" which'll only end up making things worse...
Some tips for those who are trying: - never feel ashamed about your addiction. So many people struggle with this. - every day of nofap is a small victory and will gain you something, even if you relapse after. - go live together with roommates (girls preferably): when you have company you cannot relapse. - avoid loneliness. If you are alone, go outside as much as possible - Dont go on social media. Nowadays its basically the same as pornography. Its useless anyway. - If you feel the urge, work out. Work out untill you are so tired you dont have any urges. its absolutely worth it.
Correction: Feel ashamed and associate your relapse with negativity so you feel further reluctance to relapse later on if you ever start feeling urges. Without the negative association you'll get into the habit of simply spacing yourself out but still continuing to use it.
And I know people are going to come here and say: "But there's discord! And other digital forms of interaction!" While that is indeed true, I believe that in the vicious circle that we are living now it just doesn't make the same effect anymore. We are getting more depressed and unhappy even using these new forms of digital interaction, and the circle just continues so we get more depressed and less able to communicate and interact, which makes us more unhappy and so on and so forth. Don't get me wrong, The new forms of interaction that we have are awesome, they are doing their best to help us and even I, a lonely ass introvert who's really comfortable in quarantine, would be M U C H worse if it wasn't for RU-vid and other "friends" interactions that I have, but that does not mean this form of communication is perfect, the effect is simply not the same on our teenage brains
I've been clean for a week. If I make it to the end of the month it will be the longest I've not fapped since I discovered the sport 20 years ago. Stay strong! I'm glad to to say I've also avoided pornograpbic content.
Yeah. The video just made me realize how im a compete fail and how i hate being a human. Being born an animal must be like winning the lottery of life.
@@Westside_69 You know what? you're right, have a depressive life and die, maybe when you get old you'll realize you were not happy becouse you didn't wanted to, I'm not arguing with you, I just want you to realize the truth, if you are not happy is because you don't want to, you have the power of your life, not everyone or everything but you, so, head up and do what you want yo do, stop looking at videos about depression and get up I know u can 👑 you are better than you think
@@hi-zn9bb This is not how it works. It is hard for people to do something they believe they can't. Of course, if you have a strong will, you are able to overcome these internal problems. But the thing is not every person is strongwilled. I'm sertainly not. I am a mentally weak person and I can't force me to do things I believe I can't do. I would prefer to sit in my comfort zone, even if this comfort zone is hurting me. I understand and realize the problem. But, as I said, I'm just not strong enough to change myself. I've been like this for almoust all my life so it is very hard to change anything on your own. And it's completely my fault. And I'm sure there are a lot of people like me, who are just not strong enough to make themselves better and happier. And words like 'i believe in you' or 'you are better then you think' are starting to feel like a joke. Because how anybody can believe in me, if even I can't believe in myself? Some of us are just weak, and therefore deserve to be miserable. At least, I do.
the irony is that if u find a girlfriend u will have sex with her as often as u masturbate so its really the same thing...finding friends is the best strategy for no fap
lesson here. best way ever EVER is. Get rid of triggers. use your phone less. delete every game+anime+movie or any series that has 18+ scenes and go outside more. and if all of this didn't work. sell your device it's the final decision also i forgot one more thing. if you couldn't have friends or go outside. spend more time with your parents or siblings as possible. it will help like it helpt me
@@heathersnumber1fanit absolutely is in the modern dating world. People judge you solely off your looks. Just look at the way dating apps are structured. Being attractive is the first step because it creates a subconscious positive reaction in the person you interact with. If you’re unattractive, people are less likely to gravitate towards you in the first place.
Im stopping it today i kept doing it for so long i got no morning wood anymore i also keep sweating and becoming nervous around people because of it i hate it. Im gonna stop im gonna train more more more im gonna run away from porn and all these distractions it has ruined my social skills and life its time for a change. wish me luck im gonna return to this comment when the addicetion is gone.
@@gumug_ Oh, I think I confused push-ups for something else. What’s the name of the thing where you are on the back and pull your knees towards your tummy/face?
I noticed I act a lot more productive when I have busy days - I don't get bored and don't have much free time to think a lot, so I forget about habits like eating junk or fapping. But when I am home all day and have nothing to do, I let myself relax too much.
Well it's not just stopping it's pulling you back to fisrt square, almost every week Damn it! Cursed the one who recorded their sex activities for the first time and shared it for the first time! But yeah blaming isn't helping at all, all we gotta do is workout more often, eat more vegetable, reduce soda and sugar, find some passion and shape it sharp everyday! And don't sleep late, it triggers you to fap and you'll be on the first fucking square again
I won NNN in 2020 during the time "stay-home" order was in effect. My tip was simple: go to the gym and max out daily, train like an athlete. This should be enough to burn out my excessive testosterone. The most difficult part of NNN was actually from Day 7 to Day 18ish, I could actually feel the urge to rub one out, and this urge came up almost every morning. This period of time should be the time when most people failed the challenge. After Day 20, it gets better, but always remember: DO NOT EDGE!
This reminded me of something that happened to me a few years back that I had forgotten... One of my homeboys was dating this girl from Florida. (I live in Texas) she came out here for a week to spend time with him and she brought a friend with her who I managed to spend some time with too. Everything was harmless and fun between us. We didn't do much talking after they went back home until about a year later and our conversations got more and more frequent. Eventually we left the door open for a relationship but nothing was established. As time went on and we were kind of feeling each other out I would view porn less and less to the point where I went 2 1/2 months without it. The longest I had ever gone! This video brought that experience back to memory and made me realize that keeping yourself in a social environment (though introverted you may be) and staying connected with friends is an important key to overcoming pmo. Addiction resides in the darkness, keep yourself in the light.
I know how you feel, man! I got a girlfriend at the start of September and we we through by the beginning of October. I felt like something changed inside me because I let a lot of myself out to this person that I usually don't show to people that aren't closer to me, and it had been a few years since I put myself in a serious relationship. I just stuck with my regular routine and that structure gave me balance which helped me overcome that sadness that filled me and now she's completely out of my head besides the memories we shared. This is obviously easier for me since our time together was so short, but don't let it consume you! You're still you're own person and you need to be focusing on your needs and can't spend time caught up on something that was. Best of luck to you, brother. The world is a small place, so you're never alone.
So to summarize - release energy in healthy habits and a social life - don’t shame yourself for failing bc it only causes you to fail more (forget no fap) - have accountability for building habits
My problem is small talk. All my life I've tried all the "nice weather we're having" or "nice day today huh?" But It always ends being awkward. Maybe it's because I just hate people(crowds).
I struggle with that a lot too, but mostly just with girls lol. What I found helps is trying to find common interests, like maybe someone you're sitting next to on a bench plays a mobile game you also like, or they're reading a book you like, something like that can make it easier to start a convo.
Just skip the small talk and start with something you really want to talk about. It might seem awkward for you at the start, but that's just your fear of something new. If you talk about things that are important to you, you will find real friends much faster, build way deeper relationships and you will see right of the bat, if someone is compatible to you or not. Most people actually want to go deeper than Smalltalk, but don't know how to initiate that, so you starting will make you seem more charismatic.
Day 2: I jogged a mile. Day 4: I cracked an egg with one hand Day 10: my dog ran out of the house, but I caught up. Day 20: I read the odyssey in Braille Day 35: my sex appeal formed an aura around me Day 40: went to the gym, all the squat racks emptied. Day 60: I learned to speak in Hieroglyphics. Day 70: my phone held a charge for 10 days. Brightness at max. Day 90: I tickled her G spot with my voice Day 100: my wifi works wherever I go. Day 150: I resuscitate my grandfather. He died in 1994. Day 360: I mine Bitcoin with my subconscious. Year 2: I am energy
You just need to keep trying to talk with people no everyone is going to be your friend hell at lot of people are going to treat you like dirt and when they do just know they are human trash not you, just talk to people wearing a shirt or having an interest in the something you like and go from there
@@napppann3486 I know that family puts a label on our face that we have social anxiety. Even if we try to talk, the first thing they will say will be -"I thought you were shy" and thus this makes us more awkward and thereby discourages us to speak further. Personally I will suggest you to talk with strangers, everyday when I go to school, I make small talks with anyone even if it's really awkward!
I found a weird strategy. Whenever I have the urge to give in, I look at a photo of my crush, and my urges are instantly gone. Because I want to have the confidence, and I want to be a higher value male in order to talk to her and not act awkward around her. And it scares me to go back to my old awkward self
That bit about forming addictions when other desires/needs are not being fulfilled is very relevant to me atm. I feel like I'm obsessed with gaming because I'm not getting enough social interaction.
@@jacobusgodfrey4124 hell yeah they are. It's not just substances like alcohol and drugs, it's other things too. Porn, video games, social media, these are all things that I've had a bad obsession with at one point.
@@ArkansasGamer It's all about moderation, my dude. Video games are fine, but if you play for like, say, 10 hours a day, then there's a problem. I wouldn't say the games themselves are a problem, though. They aren't the root cause of unhappiness in your life. Same goes with alcohol and such. High consumption of video games, alcohol, social media, etc, are all symptoms of a problem. You only play so many video games because, or drinking too much alcohol, or spending too much time on social media because of some underlying issue that you would've failed to deal with. Once you find that root cause of the symptoms, and treat it, the problem itself will be cured and dealt with. Once that happens, your consumption of things like video games and such will have gone down to healthy levels. You will start to have a healthier relationship with things such as these.
It's so fucking true as well. Half the time I gorge on snacks just because I'm bored, if I could find habits to actually fill my day I'd not even feel hungry. Enviroment also plays into it. If you eat in your bedroom your brain might just associate your bedroom with eating, and it'll make knocking the addiction even harder.
I can attest to this. When I was serving a two month period at a county jail, I found it super easy to go noFap within that time period. This was because I was constantly hanging out, connecting, and exercising with other inmates. When I got out I was super buff, confident, and women started noticing me more. It's still possible to go noFap on your own but it is insanely harder, you would need to jog a lot more to keep the pain of lonliness at bay.
I love that people are waking up to this. My closest friends were super porn addicted, i was also. Then i took it as a topic and me and my friend allways was like: you still on no fap? and if so we hit rocks or somthing so there was sense of Accomplishment. It was amazing that we detoxed out of it with each ones support. CHAD AF
After trying and failing many times before, this video hit me with something that for the first time actually felt like it gave me the most positive reason to quit. Ever. Every other time before has been a focus on the negative effects. Now I have positive results to think about. Wish me luck, brothers. My journey of a thousand miles begins with this very first step.
Day 20 and relapsed. Back to day 1 but this time I am implementing this socializing. I have been working, studying non stop everyday for 6-10 hrs. I know I can do it! 🙏 I have been more active and energetic everyday and started to make new friends but somehow I relapsed, i’ll make sure that never happens again!
hey man how is your journey going ?? i came across your comment and the funny thing is that i am on day 20 and i working everyday real hard and making progress in life but today i felt an extreme urge i never felt before and i almost relpased but i didnt so i want to let you know that day 20 i think is dangerous day i hope i never get this feeling again let me know how youre doing or update me plz
@@Hitleraberham fap with your imagination when the urge is coming. Porn is the real enemy. Defeat your urge to watch porn, by fapping to your imagination. With time you'll gain more control, because it's not porn that get's you to fap anymore.
@@Hitleraberham For me usually is After 1-2 weeks is the most dangerous when it comes to progress. I've stopped counting the days I did semen retention because counting it makes me relapse. I've been meditating everyday and incorporated working out during breaks. I also learned how to break my bad habit of having random thoughts that are pornographic. I learned to bring my awareness to the areas / sections in which I want to focus on or practice that requires deep work and I can focus effortlessly now.
The key is to stay consistent. It's human nature to fall. But it's also human nature to rise and never give up. It's ok if you lose the streak. Winners are those who never quit.
Amazing comment. Especially for males. Its so easy to open a browser and fap but the end results is nothing but regret and shame. But when we see things in the positive way instead of the negative, we tend to be more confident in wanting to change and comments like this hit the soul. Thanks man.
I was liking it untill the dude started getting me back into the depression cage when he said "yoU neEd to gO fInd YoU a pArtNer". He says it like it's fucking as easy as just going outside and finding a penny.
Well obviously it's not going to be easy.. building a relationship doesn't happen in the first interaction.. one has to constantly work upon it. You cannot just go outside, pick a random person and say "hey you're my friend now."
I'm sorry Sam, I know its not that easy. For me it hasn't been. The narrator is definitely jumping from step 1 to 100 like it's nothing. Strategy is key. I would start to try and find minute details in your life that you would like to change that would lead to a better YOU! Changing yourself in ways that you could perceive as healthier is the best way to start, and I believe the rest will follow suit.
I am on Day 69,and I am not going back ever again. My best till now was 38, but now I am not bothering about the record because I am just not going to do it anyways again. The changes I can feel by now: * Better Mood * Better Self Control and Will Power * Massive change in Energy * Less Brain Fog * More Confidence in talking to People * Better Bowel movements * Dense Beard Hair It is an addiction, as bad as any other.
@@ImprovementPill few hours ago, I watched your earlier NoFap video. There so much difference I can point out with this video. So basically I just wanna ask you, have you been practicing these technique? Because you have improved a lot. 👍
46 day steak. Gentleman, get yourself a journey and be accountable. You are your best ally if your program works and you are your worst enemy if you fill the void with nothingness.
