The Biggest Mistake Men Make When They Catch Feelings 

Once the respect is gone it's over.

Never chase women, only chase your potential

Don't operate in her frame. Have a world (frame) that she wants to enter. Don't make her the adventure. Take her on an adventure.

Bro had to show us that pump lol

Interesting take. Makes sense actually. She can’t love you if she can’t respect you.

The biggest mistake is to have feelings.

I think the biggest mistake men make is they do not let the woman earn her position. There's been a change lately for the better. It's not your job to put her in such a high position when she's not even trying. Recently I was at the car wash. I parked my car so I can wipe it down. There was a guy who was filling his tires & a female who was parked in the vacuum section. Both of their cars were parked parallel to each other. Mine was next to his but not parallel. He finished. Then he backed up a little to get out. This female honked at him even though she could move easily since she was still in the driver's seat. However, she chose to give him attitude. I was still sitting in my seat about to get out & I see him in the mirror just looking like he's sick of it. I whipped my whole car around for that man. I'm telling you, Brad was going through it. She got out, basic Amy. Looking slobbish. I was weak😂 Lately, I been noticing a pattern of chicks who are rude but aren't even all that. Especially at work. I've had to check some female guests & coworkers. Not so much with the guys. It's been like a 1:8 ratio.

I don’t have feelings for love as I know it’s all a joke. You just get used and walked over. In my 25 years on this place not a single person ever loved me in a relationship. I’m going to live in a tent in the middle of nowhere. Away from humans.

Even if you have everything dialed in and you have your own purpose and you're on a mission, there will still be toxic women like my ex who will use you for all of your resources. And expect the best of you without earning it. And then drop you when they don't get all of the lovey dovey validation that they were expecting. It's tough out there right now, the dating pool is pretty toxic, just got to stay strong guys and keep on going this is a crazy time to be alive. Hope everyone here reading this makes it and achieves and gets everything they've ever wanted

I couldn't agree more with everything said in this video. Why try tirelessly to prove your love to someone when you yourself know that you do love them? if they don't believe you, then that's on them like life is too short to waste your time on people who doubt your love

Be a man on a mission and respect yourself. Do not be a bum.

Scary to realize how programmed everyone is. A lot of people grew up with Disney as an example of how things should go instead of a real mentor. Unfortunately that leads to some soul-crushing results!

The dating scene is going down faster than Kamala during a job interview. Thanks for the advice. Probing my psyche for _imp strain.

Just be yourself and proud of who you are the rest will fall into place.

One thing I finally grasped is that it doesn't matter how good you treat a woman, if her feelings tell her otherwise she will drop you like nothing. As men when we catch feelings we invest alot of time, money, resources on a woman thinking that it builds some sort of rapport and that she'd be unlikely to leave us as long as we aren't toxic; truth is, NONE of it matters. It doesn't matter how many dates, experiences, trips, memories etc you've done with a woman; again she will drop you if her feelings tell her to.

damaged woemen don't appreciate men, good or bad.

The mistake is catching feelings in the first place. That's the woman's job.

Great vid LFA…”are they proud to be with you?” It’s that simple.

6:00 yup "making a difference" is literally all we have as the root of all life satisfaction, respect & mutual respect experience

Some of the realest shit. Proving yourself is actually veiled manipulation, because the desire to prove is a nice-guy people pleasing trait that inadvertently proves your secret self: passive-aggressive. By truly rocking out as a good, solid dude you will win.

I'm just above you in Kansas city and got to sing karaoke, eat barbeque, drink beer and made some new friends. It is a cool evening.

Yea back in the day 30 to 40 years ago the second part was important. Today if u aint part 1 the good looking fboi its over. No woman is interested in ur mission if she doesnt find u physically attractive in the first place

LFA is growin’ world wide baby! You love to see it!😎

Thank you. Feelings are fleeting. What people do speaks volumes. What your coach did for that community earned respect by action.

This is such a simple yet stern way to cut out the silly simp behavior thank you

As a woman this video is so sad to watch. Because Women DO fall in love with you based on how you make them feel, how you feel about them and how you treat them, and that in itself affects how attracted they are to you. Ofc there needs to be compatibility, like humor, physical (if you're both active or inactive), cultures, communication styles etc.. And most importantly is there an emotional connection there, and has the guy embraced his inner child and let go of all the shame related to having feelings outside of rage. Please allow yourselves to feel guys, there is a woman out there that is your match. But in order to have a healthy relationship, you need to first create that with yourself, and more often than not that's doing attachment focused therapy, and figuring out what makes it so hard to connect in the first place. Much love to the creator of this video and anyone reading this

Those effin love songs, whether Power Ballads or R&B songs got many of us men effed up.

Once you truly understand women, you will never ever are able to love them anymore

Be THAT guy 👍 💯

Thank you for the video LFA. Damn this is good. 👍🏿🔥

She's not playin me, we were eating at Taco Bell

Yeah high test angry stocky guys of the 90's seemed to pull broads as they were so intense and high energy combined with confidence and passion.

So much wisdom and good advice in just a 15min. video. Every man should hear this and about the kind of man your coach was. It perfectly Illustrates what we should all be striving for.

It's nice to see you. Whenever I see/hear certain male RU-vidrs - you included - I feel a bit more powerful and masculine, and therefore, a bit more confident in the way I am supposed to be in life. Thanks for it.

Thank you for thinking so deeply, This message is making it clear for all men out there what is their actual position should be. We can now pick our best position (Exciting or Respectful) and improve life.

Everything you said in this video is SO true and important! Appreciate it.

I recently started to just be flirtatious and be exciting. Shocker I got better results in text and woman saying they want to hang out. That was my missing link. The RP made me hyper analyitcial instead of displaying my positive up beat emotions. And yes, some woman are going to be annoying, you just move one.

13:21 "respect & admiration is at the back end it is what really matters" yes the wolf bond, she probably treated him super well & it was easy for her & he knew that & wanted that it was easy for him to treat her well just based off of that chemistry work & knows how rare that is so he kept her glowing & that energy spread into the whole community

Subscribed earlier today. You're probably the most intelligent RU-vidr that I've ever listened to. Keep it up. You're doing good work here.

You're one of the coolest , wisest men I know of. Thank you brother

I am glad to see your channel growing over 100k it took long time but your channel is one of few manosphere channels I'm stil watching. You have valid information.

This was a great video!!!

That’s really good what you’re saying.

Great video, very well put

Thanks for the heads up on that attitude put me back on track.

I’m pretty much done with women or dating whatever it’s simplfyied my life so much tbh giving me time to focus on writing I don’t even know why we need em 😊

By coincidence ran into this video, very informative and enlightening, straight to the point and no bullshit. Great video thanks man!

Im guilty resently she gave me the silent treatment and i fkn walked it was hard really but its about your frame and standards men

Is this a Clint Eastwood version of Rich Coopers videos…?! 😂😂😂

Yeah man dated girl three months she liked me very much until I got feelings and it went wrong in 2 days lol

I absolutely unequivocally LOVE this video, all facts purpose out does looks all day long for women, respect is where it’s at ! 💯

When I first saw your thumbnail, jacked dude with sunglasses, I thought this was gonna be super superficial but from the moment you started talking i knew you were a real one. Great video, and I completely agree it’s definitely all about being a high quality man for yourself with good intentions and sense of purpose in order to make a high quality woman interested in you. Thanks for the advice KING 👑

love yor intelligence on the subject it all makes sense!

Best video he’s ever done

Thank you bro! ⚡👊⚡👍

Good stuff

Very interesting analysis this time, well done.

Thank you LFA

Even if you don’t like people, you still need to communicate. You may not like them today, but later on as you grow you may change your mind set and you become in agreement with what you didn’t agree on before so Chill out! Living the rest of your life because you haven’t found the right partner will not provide stability inside of you ever. Doesn’t matter you are rich or poor. Stay strong 💪 Human are wonderful 🎉

7:30 + "& he was about to change her sons life right?" awwww just gold angels, angel work :}*

Thanks brother!

Another great video LFA .. simple and clear , not like all the red pill bs .. thanks for sharing these thought’s … excitement is the first part , but respect and admiration is built over time with consistency and courage. Saludos desde Mexico

Great video. I never encountered anyone like the man you described...Im striving to be like him

Tis be true. Remaining alone is better than to be around those who make you feel alone.

You are giving these men very good advice right here keep it up. You have to have a real purpose in life. A purpose in life could be helping people during the coming events that are going to happen in the near future.

I find it helpful to accept i don't have much to offer in terms of admiration. Working, doing what i want, and committing to a religious life is not going to turn heads, and I'm not very willing to do more than that. It is what it is.

That line about fighting for a ladies honor and another man getting up on her has me cracking up 😂. Great video as always! You should do a video on LFA Powerhouse about your current nutrition plan and supplement regimen!

Hell nah I made my heart as cold as ice years ago. Never come back to a lovey dovey romantic. Been getting mad 🐈 ever since

We're all gonna make it brazzz

LFA…100% on point. That’s how I originally met my wife

Excellent. Lived Experiences. 100%.

Thank you bro

I genuinely would love to hear LFA just start with "snap into a slim jim !!".

good vid ma g 😎

great great great!

11:40+ yes respect is the language that builds life satisfaction & meaning with the tools that you work hard for the tools alone are nothing without respect respect cannot be fake in any venture or it will fly in our face

I search for sources of power everyday , I'm never disappointed

13:00+ yes "none of that means anything" mutual "respect" is how inspired by each other they inspire everyone else too passively discreetly & directly like your mentor friend & his core life experience with his partner & daughter spreading the self respect & the mutual respect to weave it into life gold & life satisfaction & health

That's the ONE key to happiness 😪

Men get punished for their emotions , others get justification for theirs…….

No homo, but I love you LFA. Thank you so much

2 of the biggest mistakes most guys make. Having kids and getting married and buying a house together. The house always wins

I would teach this to my son 😊❤👍

You boys better think about money. And how to get it invested. Because when you get old nothing else is going to matter.

Great talk. The big issue, I believe is men get too comfortable. We need to be seen as driven, strong, no petty, on the run with life beings. You mix that with being loving, caring, there for her.... you're a drug! But it all has to be there. As men, it's true, we have more tension of being seen as attractive to women than they have of us seeing them attractive. To be seen manly and a kind badass at all times is fuckin hard! That's why single life is easier. But if you want marriage or a relationship, that thrives at least, there needs to be continuous strength and love simultaneously. Yeah, not easy. At least I don't think.

Be distinguished and if someone puts you down dont f..i.n take it

ALL vídeos yours that i watch learn mutch, i am your fa,This is true, i am the guy that exicite but no porpuse

Guys, if you have bad teeth and or poor oral health, that is your # 1 priority to fix and go see a dentist on a regular basis or you will always scare the women away no matter what. Then start working on yourself: heal trauma, clean up your diet and exercise and hydrate, get on a simple skin care routine, grow as a person for yourself first. If you have insurance/dental insurance and a wage, you have to prioritize those dental cost over dumb “stuff” such as smoking, gaming, and so on. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@LFA yo man sweet haircut, but hope you're doing well man. Missed your live shows to watch

"Indifference is the way to a woman's heart." "Treat 'em like dirt, and they'll stick like mud." I wonder....after how many decades of marriage is it acceptable for a man to let it slip to his wife.... that she means something to him?

Vice versa too. Just as she loves to see me doing unprompted handywork around the house, I love it when she tries a new recipe for dinner. If I come into the kitchen while she's working her magic, she'll pause her show and shoot a death glare until I leave. 😂 Passion is attractive. Find a partner whose passions compliment yours!

Haven't checked in in ages. Hope all is well!

There are plenty of loyal women out there...but that doesn't mean that they are also faithful. There's a difference. Plenty of women that stay with their man and don't go anywhere...but still b*ng other guys on the side from time to time

I never said to a woman to break up until second relationship after my marriage. It was the first relationship that i broke my own feelings because i cared but i was already starting to feel the first signs of disrespect. She told me thst if i loved her i wouldnt leave her. U see at that point that u r able to see the future life while she was stuck to an addiction. Remember: After explaining u first go for respect, the first destespect sign vanish from her life. Never come hack. Its a bad seed. If its there it will grow. U cant be therapist

I'm LOOKING for a deeper, more heartfelt purpose than just chasing the bucks or visual beauty. At this point, it's just being a loving, crazy uncle to my nieces and nephews. I'd make a wonderful husband and dad too.

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things”- Albert Einstein.

The truth stated here is often easy to forget

Great video, you made some good points. But @brianmeen2158 also made a very good point. He said "Good luck trying to keep that respect over the course of 30-40 years ." in response to @MidwestMoney pointing out that "Once the respect is gone it's over" which I also agree with. Once the respect is gone she's off looking (and trying) other options behind your back, as we all know (most) women are guided primarily by emotions, some rare exceptions at times where it's more balanced but we can't think based off of what is most unlikely to happen. Maybe you can do a video on that, this issue with many (not all but maybe the rare ones not in this group are the only ones worth a man's time) women where they seem to need you to constantly do more and do new things with them to keep them interested and maintain that respect beyond having a purpose. Because there are various forms of respect. And I'm sure you've heard the phrase "spicing things up in the relationship" a fairly common complaint from women, likely due to men becoming complacent in life, same old thing every day in the household, which to the average man is totally fine but the woman is quickly getting bored of the relationship. And many women themselves will proudly admit that they have short attention spans ("I get distracted easily" etc) to make matters worse, it just seems to last longer in a relationship in an effort to salvage the relationship, some emotional connection still there. Because while listening to this video and reflecting on the many instances I've observed of married women cheating on guys even though the guy seemed to be 'on his purpose', they get married and he gets cheated on down the line. For example I've seen even cops getting cheated on, the people you would think most women would respect the most. They're protecting the community and whatnot, definitely something admirable and respectable, meanwhile his wife is cheating on him when he's at work, this unfolded on RU-vid right before my eyes. And that's just one of many examples, we hear it with even "celebrities" and other very successful people all the time. And if not cheating, the relationship/marriage just doesn't last that long, marriages lasting 30+ years are a rarity including ones where the man is 'on his purpose'. And I think this may have a lot to do with the woman not having respect for the man in other ways even though he originally excited her and has always been on his purpose. But you can let me know what you think, this is me just brainstorming and theorizing based off of what I'm observing in the world. Could make for a great video but obviously these things can be very complicated with women. EDIT: I just noticed what @brundamian5338 said which is " Once you truly understand women, you will never ever are able to love them anymore". And this is pretty much what I'm starting to realize as well. Because women are like cats, they'll be interested for a moment, could be a couple years but then they get sick of being around the guy for so much of her life. Same way a cat might want a little attention from you for a moment then they just want to jump off of you and run away and do their own thing. Then the emotions come into play, feeling negative emotions with you due to being around you too much, they run off to wherever, to 'have some space' from you, meet a guy who is now creating positive emotions for her and cheating happens easily this way. This is not all but definitely going to be the majority. So relationships, at least in America where the attention spans are so very short these days, are seeming to be pointless. Unless you get lucky and find one of the very rare ones who are the total opposite of this.

Being respected by lots of men tends to make the women Curious and what he is as a man

Dear LFA, I am 23 yo men I workout 4 times a week I study in a prestigious business school in Paris and next year I will get my first internship in corporate finance. My Life is starting to get shaped, for now I do not have a lot of money and 80% of it goes into my nutrition. This year I cut binge drinking and going to parties. I wanted to know what advice would you give me to stay in this mentality and stick to my routine untill 30’s. The goal is at that age I will gain money and maturity.