The Sign You're Truly in Love | Macken Murphy 

😊❤🎉 yes!!!!

Agree

I actually prefer this answer.

You are correct 💯. (This guy in the video is talking about obsession or limmerance) the Greeks have a wonderful set of definitions for the different Types of love.

I disagree. That’s someone who knows how to love and can love a particular person but not necessarily someone who is in love. But it says there are 3 and he only mentions 2-obsessive thinking and special meaning…?

Exactly wht i felt when I met my husband of 30+ yrs

That’s amazing. ❤😊

That’s why I love Billy Joel’s song You’re My Home!

That’s how my husband described the moment he knew he loved me. He felt home. Like I was his home. We had been dating for 6 weeks, (just dating!) And he knew! It took me 6 months! 😂

That's perfect. Lucky you❤

He says romantic

Ehhh I've dated alot of people. Think there's some truth to this. Maybe not the second part but thinking about them non stop is 100% accurate

After hearing this, I thought - didn't he just describe infatuation? 😳

​@@feelthepeaceI hear what you guys are saying and I totally get it but I think the nuance comes from the specifics of the question He asked what an indication that somebody is in love with you is so he's saying what can I notice in their behavior that will let me know they're in love with me Not what the love consists of cuz obviously real romantic love is deeper than that theres more meaning to it and a consists of so many things So I think it's two different things that they are talking about and that some of the people in the comments are thinking about

When you'd do anything for them. Even die for them.

exactly.

Yeah I don’t think that’s a bad thing .. that’s the point

Agreed 👍

Funny. Obsessive thinking is seen as fine if love is reciprocated, but seen as creepy if it's unrequited.

Exactly

Appreciate you for this beautiful sharing!

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the same as with meditation or any business.

❤👏👏

Yeah that's being in love. Love is a verb like you described but it starts with a feeling like he described.

That ain’t the point. Stop being so strategic that’s why you’re single

Yes that is "love". He said that he is describing "in love".

Nah that's called the friendzone.

The topic is “In Live”, which is kinda different.

​​@@armbsecureNope - that's love. If the person for whatever reason is not with you - you can love them by wanting what's best for them.

@@hannayaya7413 Yeah that's true love in the friendzone. Lool

@@armbsecureWell, I'm going to have to disagree with you on this but for clarity and because I'm curious - how would you define or describe love "outside of the friendzone?"

Well, its reported that the reason successful marriages last so long is because they constantly do nice things for each other day in, day out. In a way that's a form of obsession. What some call love for such long marriages. Its a mutual interest in the well being of the other person because their well being and presence brings you well being.

Or a stalker! Hello elephant in the room!

Fact

That to me sounds like the best way to define it. I'm stealing this!! 😊😊😊

Yeah LOVE is that. But being in love and love are 2 different things. “In love” is just code for the beginning high of the chemical rush that makes people think they have fallen. From that perspective, the video is right. Love is everything that comes after you’re not “in love” anymore because the dopamine and oxytocin that created the “in love” feeling will end.

Right. He describes infatuation. Real life takes time, & it’s something you actively do, over time, w/ dedication, & sacrifice.

@@JesusIsKingForever77 I couldn't agree more. Thanks for sharing.

You just describe my husband and myself 😊❤

Disagree.

Agree with you, infatuation tricks, obsessive thinking can be dangerous and can be a sign of narcissism and control

Thank you

limerance

Right! It's limerence he's describing. He really didn't even address the actual question that Louis asked him😂

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Hahaha I wondered who too picked up on that! That was so obviously planned.. sad 😂

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Right? 😂😂

He tried so hard, then failed with his garbage answer. 😂

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My thoughts exactly

This is totally limerence.

Yes but limerence has little to no (loving) interaction withthe object of the obsession.

Agréé with you! This happened to me last Year with a womanizer. Knew him only 3 months, seen 5 Times. 6 months heartbreak!!!!!! Emotonal dependency! Much Love from South of France

What is this?

same

What you experienced must’ve been Limerance.

Never heard about "love at first sight" ???

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Seriously. The biggest pile of rubbish I’ve heard all month!

Exactly..stalkers can think obsessively..

Thank you 😂

Seriously 🙄😆

Furthermore, the question was how to know that the other person is truly in love, not how to know if you yourself are in love 🙄

I always thought obsession was the sign of infatuation, not Love!

I'm glad you see right through it

I know the glasses thing😂🙄

I said almost the same thing.

Good observation!

😂

Right!! He didn't even answer the question Louis asked him😂😂

I'm so used to these RU-vid videos being mislabeled I didn't even notice this time

Just wonderful! I am so touched! I met a man when i passed by a restaurant, WE shared a moment of pure delight, our êtes climbsed one in another like suns! Saw him again and it was the same attraction. After 6 months heartbreak because of an 3 months fling with an emotionally non available player it was so soothing, comforting. I dont know what to do. This sunshinenis again younger than me... I am 73... Lived 12 years alone. I wish Love and sensualité in my life... time passes by...? Much❤ from South of France

Never pursue a man.

Amen🙏 Hope it occurs to me.

The best thing to do is not wonder why that is. It could be their capacity to love, it could be your lifestyle. Either way all that matters is you deserve the person who will be in love with you. That persons feelings about you do not.

I know what it means. When you are in love like that and everything about them seems special except the fact that many things about you irritate them and no way you are special to them as they are to you. I call it torture.. it really hurts so bad! Plus add the fact that none can leave the other brcause of so many reasons.. double torture..

@@The_Real_Casey_Timmins this is spot on. It really is a reflection of their inability to Love...they don't love themselves, so they aren't able to Love anyone else either💝

@@MahasSaham79 experience taught me this. It’s hard to accept. It’s hard to not want them to over come their inability for you. It’s a selfish thing that will cause you more harm than good.

I’m out

100% right.

Agree. For years I thought I love my husband. Then one day after 16 years married I FELL MADLY IN LOVE with him. Totally different feeling. Before I loved him as a companion, a friend, a lover, but now I'm IN LOVE it's obsessive and magnetic and desperate and overwhelming. It's a need not a choice. He is the love of my life and that is not the same thing as just loving someone. At all.

Can’t study love? And why on Earth couldn’t you? Is it impossible to find more than 2 people in love on this planet and compare their action and brain to people who are not in love?

I heard that! ❤🎉🐶🐕

I love that. Such an important balance for that mix of temperaments.

Yes !this is true😂

That's a good one😃😃

I do this with everyone 🤦‍♀️ I'm a happy goofy person.

I'm glad you have put the word "stalker" to the conversation. These days you need to pray before you leave home that you don't cross paths with certain people. As such an encounter may turn out to be very dramatic, to say the least!!!

yes exactly and I guess I shouldn't date or hangout with guys I've called stalkers, yea just went on a date with one , and he's wanting me to spend the weekend and saying we need to make it official and oh talking about buying land oh damn no joke happening now In Dallas Tx

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How do you know they weren't in love? Because they were angry? You can be angry with someone you used to be in love with.

No. Difference. It's the same phenomenon. Love would have to have manifested in a happy life together and progressed to real love. You know, with commitment, loyalty and sacrifice. Without that it's just an obsession bordering on the unhealthy.

The question contains an error because it is actually self-contradictory. It asks both "in-love" and "really loves you". Those are two different stages. The former stage most often doesn't always transform into the second stage.

Exactly!!!!!

Yes this sounds like attraction, not love

What is an LD relationship

@@saltandsriracha “Long Distance”

Thank you for sharing your thoughts!! 🧡

So right.....are the hormones....

Thank you for watching🧡

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

Good question😂

Oh no I don't think 😕 so

Stalker is more of unhealthily obsession, chasing you aggressively, exuding unwanted attention that could lead to harrasement and fear threats but true love is meant to be harmless, healthy and looking out for person's wellbeing .

Love is not hurtful and disrespectful.

Stalking is sign of mental disorder.

I mean it kind of is, but in my experience the times I've ever felt like this this strongly, the other person did as well, and there wasn't an issue. This person would text me constantly and plan things, and I couldn't stop thinking about this person and respond in kind, give this person gifts, etc. There were times the texting was out of hand from this person, but I didn't care. We thoroughly enjoyed each other's company while the rest of the world sort of was in the background. And we were always happy to see each other after we'd been apart for a few days, or even a day. Especially midweek, after getting off work, etc. I would visit this person, and sort of cocoon inside, away from the world, just enjoying each other in every possible way. I felt comfortable and at ease when we were together. Truly I much prefer that than being alone going through the banal average motions of life.