The Biggest Myths About IFS Therapy You MUST Know (Part 1/2)

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In this video, we're debunking common misunderstandings about internal family systems therapy. If you're considering healing with parts work, then you need to be aware of the myths circulating about internal family systems therapy. We'll take a look at some of the most common myths about IFS therapy and dispel them one by one. Once you understand the facts about IFS therapy, you'll be better able to make an informed decision about whether or not this is the right treatment for you. Watch part two of this video to find out the truth about IFS therapy!
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@healwithlucille Год назад

➡Download your free mp3 guide to doing IFS on yourself: seekdeeply.com/free ➡Check out my IFS mastermind, where you get my 1-on-1 support for doing solo IFS: seekdeeply.com/mastermind ➡Book an initial consultation for 1-on-1 therapy with me here: seekdeeply.com/therapy

@garymuller9771 12 дней назад

it is crazy, i figured this out myself when i started to practiced IFS. It is interesting that someone else came to the same conclusion.

@elizabethcox8180 Год назад

I think myth #1 number one is most surprising because I always imagined that there was a static number of parts but the idea of almost infinite neural networks, situations, and combinations makes much more sense to me.

@healwithlucille Год назад

I'm glad that resonates with you. It always gets more fascinating bringing in neuroscience 🤓🧠

@garymuller9771 12 дней назад

your "Map" metaphor reminds me of the different physics we use to describe nature. I think it is just natural, that our mind can't comprehend such highly complicated object at once. We simply do need multible Theroies to cover it.

@selkrasouza6262 4 дня назад

It’s a really good metaphor for the mind, especially for me since my inner world can be described as a whole world of its own! Definitely a metaphor I’ll keep in mind.

@nicolasharp7 Год назад

The myth that all parts don't need names is reassuring as I wasn't sure about this one!

@healwithlucille Год назад

Yes! It got me thinking about making a new video on whether we need to identify if a part popping up in a new session is the same as one we met in an old session. Is that a question that's popped up for you before?

@manncz Год назад

@@healwithlucilleThat would be very useful to know. I am looking forward to such video

@rikschoonbeek 2 месяца назад

I have gotten so discouraged many times when coaches/therapists ask me what the color of a feeling is or something like that. I don't see colors with feelings, I just feel them, and it made me loose trust in myself and therapist/coaches. Part of me gets angry right now for how much money I have been giving to people that may not have realised the impact some of their questions or suggestions have had on me and how discouraging this has been for me.

@DaveG-qd6ug Год назад

My "fancy" part loves your necklace ! 🥰😂

@healwithlucille Год назад

I love it too! 😄 it reminds me of a pencil drawing of a squiggle turned into 3D

@hlhanlin Год назад

It is so affirming to have you speaking out some of my internal misgivings about IFS. I find the model a very useful map, but I'm naturally an eclectic therapist. The parts that know the things tend to come forward in the moments that they are needed. I also liked the idea of parts as neural networks (neural-nerd here. I found Jill Bolte Taylor's book Whole Brain Living very useful in talking about how different parts of the brain create different internal characters.) The biggest sigh of relief is around there not needing a specific script. I don't use a script but then a part judges me for doing IFS "wrong." I also love the playful way you put together your videos with the little images and emojis.

@Jacob011 Год назад

10:00 I had the opposite reaction. I was actually upset and felt hemmed in by the IFS procedure, it made me inauthentic. I talked to my therapist about that today - first conversation of this kind in my life.

@healwithlucille Год назад

Thanks for sharing this, Jacob. I've seen (and experienced) the same. With such precise wording as the IFS script gives us, it's a dance between being artificial and authentic

@HenockTesfaye Год назад

Excellent. I never liked asking their names.

@MarciPayneLPC Год назад

Feels intuitive & freeing to not have to follow a script. The more I integrate IFS with other modalities, the more I can ebb & flow into what's needed most...and more have some key inquiries in mind but not have to go in any order feels amazing.

@markmoore1018 Год назад

Great video! All the things you said about the fluidity of our systems and not needing to name or track all my parts was huge!! I had started using an app to track mine and had become overwhelmed. The app and the approach are otherwise great, but I was getting bogged down and thinking there are too many burdened parts to heal and more keep popping up. This will take life times to sort out. Now the pressure is off. Your map analogy was great, too! I could say more, but need to get about my day. I'll check out Part 2 soon. Thanks for the extremely helpful video!!

@healwithlucille Год назад

Hi Mark, I feel the relief pouring from your comment! I had the same relieved exhale when I realized these common assumptions were actually false. (But in my case it took years to get there!) The apps can be a godsend but - like you said - can also distort our IFS practice. Anytime we bring in technology it seems to open the door to Manager Parts taking over. Are you familiar with Self-Like Parts, like the IFS Enthusiast or Good Student Part? seekdeeply.com/ifs-therapy-guide-6-most-common-self-like-parts-framework-blog-post/ Thanks for taking the time to comment!

@DaveG-qd6ug Год назад

My curious part keeps asking for part 2. I listen and calmly assure him I will let him know promptly when it is ready. 😅

@healwithlucille Год назад

Good news Dave ... the second video will be released TOMORROW! Are you subscribed to my postcards? seekdeeply.com/

@marklee1960 10 месяцев назад

Thank you. This is the most cogent explanation I've heard yet. My niece is interested in becoming an IFS therapist and she's been trying to explain it to me.

@mjjay3881 17 дней назад

I have the feeling that one part is keeping all my parts quiet, the part keeping all parts quiet is also quiet.. ..grrrrr

@pearlsoffreedom Год назад

Love it Lucille!

@healwithlucille Год назад

I'm delighted to hear that! 🥳

@BrendaMailer Год назад

This is excellent, thank you for making all of this. I’m just starting out and last night started a journal to map my parts. Now I know I can just let them come in shift and go as they wish. The whole system benefits from each presenting itself. And I find it interesting that yes, certain parts show up right when you need them to. I’m going to think of them more as neural pathways than static parts. 💖

@healwithlucille Год назад

Re. thinking them more as neural pathways than static parts - Beautiful, Brenda, I love that! If you want to go more in depth with it you can check out this related blog post I wrote seekdeeply.com/myth-1-ifs-critcism-neuroscience-cant-find-all-parts-blog/

@intuitiveifstherapy Год назад

I love your intuitive painting in the background! I also love intuitive painting. Enjoy the discussion. I bought the Daily IFS meditation and it is very defined but I don't think my system is that tidy unfortunately, I have a parts journal, am on my second one already so I laughed when you showed the ring binder folder, I identify. Thanks for the video!

@vaishnavibrassey Год назад

I LOVE this - such relieving, useful clarity - and also presented with such creativity and humour! I really have a big smile on my face watching this. Delightful! Thank you

@healwithlucille Год назад

Wonderful! Thank YOU for sharing this feedback 🌞 It really makes a difference to help me keep making these

@elizabethcox8180 Год назад

So informative..so well presented u are so good at busting myths and forging new paths for those of us on this journey. Honored to know u.

@healwithlucille Год назад

Aww thank you. This really touched me - I read your comment while at dinner and it was a highlight of my evening. I'm honored to work with you, soul-seeker #mutualappreciationsociety

@ThereseFitzpatrick-y8j Год назад

Thanks for your common sense and making ifs more accessible and less intimidating!

@healwithlucille Год назад

My pleasure. Common sense - I don't know if anyone's ever praised me for that before 😂 I'll take it!

@psychDoodles Год назад

Please make more videos ❤

@healwithlucille Год назад

More are in the works! I'm so glad you found this one valuable. Make sure to subscribe to get notified of my new videos on internal family systems therapy 🎬

@MuffyWeaver Год назад

This was both illuminating and very fun. I am only just learning about IFS and I love the lens through which you look and understand it. Makes intuitive sense to me.

@healwithlucille Год назад

Thank you! We each get to develop our own lenses, and it's enriching when we share them. Ooh, fun + illuminating, what high praise 🎉 I appreciate your taking the time to watch and comment!

@lone-welf Месяц назад

its so fascinating & will likely try it but.. why is it giving self-induced did.

@scotchvelo 11 месяцев назад

My question is one that doesn’t seem to get asked often: can IFS actually result in real, actual, day-to-day relief from serious psychological symptoms: clinical depression, OCD, panic and anxiety, etc. In other words, can IFS help a truly suffering person feel less awful.

@theWaywithWayne 10 месяцев назад

short answer is yes, possibly. Though I'd add it's not IFS but the experiences of loving inner interaction and helpful perspectives and the sense of support and validation, that can happen in a process between people using IFS or someone using IFS themselves. I have had both personal encouragement and discouragement... sometimes it seems like parts are immovable, but then, some things have changed in my life since starting to use IFS. I feel I need to say that I won't rate my level of suffering and distress anywhere near others in intensity. What I have found though, is that there has been some level of relief. Including relief from the idea that IFS "must" work for me, in a certain way, and solve all my problems. Making a start in becoming a little more aware... this already has taken me from feeling totally helpless in chaos to having a sense that there is hope, and I can move a little, maybe in a few areas, towards more calmness and comfort and be able to cope better.

@healwithlucille 10 месяцев назад

Nice nuanced perspective, Wayne.

@healwithlucille 10 месяцев назад

Yes!

@blk2wite 24 дня назад

Having taken level 1 in the year 2000 (!), and using the model with current clients I find myself wondering how motivations such as power and greed can be integrated into the model if at all. Thoughts?

@nicolasharp7 Год назад

This is so helpful and reassuring Lucille thank you!

@healwithlucille Год назад

Glad it was helpful!

@debbielynnsmellowminutesme7909 7 месяцев назад

I’ve been doing IFS for a years now and I do not think there is a set amount. I also don’t think is in any way cult. I agree it’s a good tool but it totally makes sense parts and our mind our self’s are only one that’s why I was so frustrated with conventional therapy super frustrated with therapy until I found ifs especially for ptsd . I do also agree not having to heal each part because that’s too daunting . Yes more relaxed heal a few and less of a list .

@pvpetra Год назад

I'm so happy to see another video on your channel! Thank you for sharing the product of your sweat and tears! It's such a blessing to have some more insight into your wisdom about these topics and available to me whenever I need to hear it again. The emoticons in the background on the right times trigger some happy child in me. It helps me listen to your message, curious how it is for others. Anywayyyss, thank you!

@healwithlucille Год назад

Yass emojis! 😁And hooray it's here for you anytime. Feedback like yours is so encouraging - so thank you!

@amandaraine9272 Год назад

Very helpful and informative - thank you so much - Amanda :-)

@healwithlucille Год назад

You are so welcome!

@itviking1651 5 месяцев назад

I don't need IFS. I have been interacting with my parts all of my life. But I appreciate the value of the IFS framework, especially for people who have not found their inner self naturally. I appreciate your honest & holistic perspective of IFS in the grand scheme of things. I can tell that you are well connected with your inner self.

@DaveG-qd6ug Год назад

no name calling😵‍💫.. my parts thank you for this🤭

@healwithlucille Год назад

They're so welcome!

@healwithlucille Год назад

COMMENT TO TELL ME: Which of these myths surprised you the most?? I'll respond to in depth 😀 to the first several comments / questions

@mishmashmusic8425 Год назад

I resonate with all of these! I’m an IFS therapist but definitely got stuck with my therapist around the : ‘how do you feel towards this part?’ question and several of the others. I felt joy in my system hearing you name that experience. ❤

@healwithlucille Год назад

So glad you felt joy! That can be a tricky question for sure. The beauty of IFS's clarity can be a double-edged sword. In my clinical and personal experience, the question "How do I feel towards the part" can rapidly get ideas of "shoulds" - we "should" be feeling compassionate, right? When that exact language isn't helping sometimes I check in with the heart and/or if there's any softness. But there's no magic wording that always works. Good thing we can always rely on what's authentic! Thanks for taking the time to share your experience 🙌

@RainforestMind Год назад

@@healwithlucille I totally have said 'compassion' before but more like a logical response rather than actually feeling it.

@healwithlucille Год назад

@@RainforestMind right!? Ironically the more we know about IFS, the harder it can be to actually do it. Those Self-Like Parts try so hard to help us seekdeeply.com/ifs-therapy-guide-6-most-common-self-like-parts-framework-blog-post/ 🙂

@intuitiveifstherapy Год назад

I have a client who hates that question too!