The black cat golden retriever dynamic: the chaser vs the chooser 

As a man who tries to handle all my relationships in a very healthy way, leads with good intentions, emotionally intelligent, but refuses to be run over or used by anyone, you are actually giving very good advice. No man wants to pursue you to the ends of the earth and you are not giving any energy back.

As a golden retriever married 28 year old. Yes, you need to show interest but if you show it in a game you will get a player. If you are real and upfront about how you feel you will get the real ones and you will save your energy from these players. So learn to know what you want a player or a husband.. so how can you be upfront. Ask if they are single or looking for someone first. Don't approach with that question, always introduce yourself first. Then ask them that. That will right away put your interest out there and show then that you care for loyalty. Then depending on their answer. (Be careful with liers, dudes who lie may go around the question, hesitate or look over their friend first). When they answered just be like cool I'm asking because I think you are handsome or my type or cute or what ever just complement. They will probably say thanks and laughter in nervousness haha. But as soon as you do that ask them if they would be down to talk and see if you have similar interest. From there I suggest you leave get their contact info for a first date. Like a said a real man will appreciate the effort and recognize the honor cuz we all know how hard it is to approach and feel rejected so you already have extra points. So if they are interested and they are confident enough on their masculinity and their self steam they will show it with their following actions. If they are insecure and immature it will show as well because they won't know how to behave.

This is a great explanation of this new "catchphrase" that's ALLLLL Overrrrr rn 👏. I have listened to many ppl discuss this, and, although a great way to emphasize being in your "feminine energy" it strikes me as something that you can't keep up with long term. Your point that any high value masculine would eventually be turned off by this is so on point. Just as any high value feminine should be if always having to chase. It's always been super difficult for me to play games in relationships, and I've always presented my authentic self, maybe to a fault lol. Keeping up any facade you lead with in a relationship will prove to be difficult, and once you do, it may lead to significant change in that relationship- and is kinda on you if you've been hiding who you are🤷🏼‍♀️. I'm a new subscriber as of last week, and am amazed you don't have more likes and such😕. Although considerably older than you (🤫😆) you offer insight and wisdom I truly appreciate❤️ Thank you!

Whatsup Way Too Wifey, Im dating a Black Cat and Im def a Golden. I would love to get you on a podcast one day with her to talk about this dynamic!

I don't think this is a thing...