"The Blind Side" didn't tell all of Michael Oher's story. Now, he tells us the rest.

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“The Blind Side” only told part of Michael Oher’s story. Now, he tells us the rest.
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You might know Michael Oher as the subject of “The Blind Side,” the 2009 movie starring Sandra Bullock and Tim McGraw. The film was based on the true story of Oher, a young Black football player, who gained a second chance at life after being adopted by white parents.
But Oher’s version of the story is a lot different, and it starts long before the Tuohys entered the picture.
In this interview conducted with our partner Unlikely Collaborators, Oher paints a picture of the crack epidemic in the ‘80s and ‘90s, a broken and tumultuous family, and a young boy determined to climb out of it.
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About Michael Oher:
Michael Oher gained widespread recognition through Michael Lewis's book "The Blind Side" and its film adaptation, which depicted his difficulties in early life and time playing college football. After attending the University of Mississippi, he played in the NFL for the Baltimore Ravens, Tennessee Titans, and Carolina Panthers, winning the SuperBowl with the Ravens in 2013.
Michael has also written two books: I Beat The Odds and When You’re Back’s Against The Wall, which detail his struggles and successes in life, imparting wisdom on how to overcome adversity. Michael has also contributed to the book Blindsided, where he outlines his experience of early-stage CTE, how he walked away from the NFL, and his urgent recommendations to reform football and make it a safer sport.

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@diannhall7564 10 месяцев назад

“Be comfortable with that separation”. Separate yourself from things that don’t benefit your life! Thank you for this post❤

@sxt4447 10 месяцев назад

I love that Michael is finally reclaiming his own narrative ❤

@aldoabruzzi6417 10 месяцев назад

He says this exact same stuff in just about every interview he does. It has *always* been his narrative.

@BloomingRose60 10 месяцев назад

❤❤❤

@Richard-hv5hh 10 месяцев назад

I don't mind anyone claiming their narrative but not at the expense of others. I think the Touhy family was incredibly good to Michael and he has repaid them with nothing but ingratitude. I see nothing whatsoever they have done to deserve his attacks. I think they will be totally vindicated in court.

@aldoabruzzi6417 10 месяцев назад

@@Richard-hv5hh Even when the Tuohys are totally vindicated, it still won't change the minds of his supporters. He will *never* be cancelled like the other liars and false accusers. (e.g. Jussie Smollet and Amber Heard) His lawyers knew perfectly well that all they had to do was to throw that word "conservatorship" out there, and the mindless masses would immediately see Michael as the victim... and the Tuohys as the villains.

@elizabetht9734 10 месяцев назад

Except he lied

@gocivic99 10 месяцев назад

Great animation. Inspiring story. I'm adopted and I can relate to the difficulties of letting go of what was anchoring me to the past. I'm now married, have a successful career, and with a kid on the way. Thank you for sharing your truth

@iiiiilllllllll 10 месяцев назад

Props to the animator(s), great job!

@rossandrewlaurente445 10 месяцев назад

(2)! the animation is immaculate!

@audreywitko1445 10 месяцев назад

Michael, thank you for sharing your inner story with us! You are an amazing inspiration. Love, Peace & Blessings in Absolute Abundance!

@MichelleCarithersAuthor 10 месяцев назад

Thank you brother for your story, your narrative. You are inspiring and valuable to this society and the depths of your developing, reflecting and your willingness to move forward despite your situations or experiences

@themasstermwahahahah 10 месяцев назад

Dudes extremely eloquent, i think they dropped that in the movie too

@patriciazaragoza3269 9 месяцев назад

I loved the picture and always had the sense of something more behind the boy-teenager-young man this family adopted. The gentle giant. Love it to know, yes, there was more and was really inspiring. 🤗 Brave man.

@harrynutzach307 9 месяцев назад

A gentle giant..... stabbing you in the back.

@patriciazaragoza3269 9 месяцев назад

@@harrynutzach307 hahaha....Giant or dwarf áre on our SIDE..just be good with them. ☝️😊👍

@harrynutzach307 9 месяцев назад

@@patriciazaragoza3269 They were good to him.... and he *betrayed* them.

@patriciazaragoza3269 9 месяцев назад

@@harrynutzach307 ouch...I ignored that. This is sad.

@signalfire15 10 месяцев назад

He has a very pleasant speaking voice

@sharongillesp 10 месяцев назад

Actually, I was wearing my AirPods and I heard him before I saw him, thinking he sounded like a white southern man. Oops,

@angelagraves865 10 месяцев назад

This man's inner strength, discipline, and determination are all very inspirational to me.

@aldoabruzzi6417 10 месяцев назад

Wow.... you must have extremely low standards.

@auntyshakira747 10 месяцев назад

I hope we get another movie made, from this perspective. Being born into a family of drug addicts and the hard work it takes to break the cycle. Thank you for sharing your story Michael.

@aldoabruzzi6417 10 месяцев назад

Wait... you think that Hollywood would actually make a movie about his childhood and his life before he met the Tuohys? 😄😅🤣

@PiePye 10 месяцев назад

@@aldoabruzzi6417yes they did the blind side so….

@aldoabruzzi6417 9 месяцев назад

@@PiePyeThe NFL has a number of other players with "ghetto-to-gridiron" back stories. Has Hollywood ever done a movie about them? NO The only reason the Blind Side film was ever made was because of what the Tuohys did. In fact, when 20th Century Fox first bought the rights to the story, they wanted Julia Roberts for the part of Leigh Anne Tuohy. When they couldn't get her *they shelved the project.* The role was that important. CAA sent the script to Disney... they turned it down. Finally a year later, tiny Alcon Entertainment buys the rights from Fox. That film came a breath away from never being made at all.

@chinookvalley 10 месяцев назад

I do dog rescue. The cruel things I see humans do to each other is multiplied exponentially when it comes to how people treat other lifeforms, our brothers and sisters in Nature. Until humans can treat ALL life with respect and at least TRY to help them live in the best circumstances possible, I don't believe there is any hope of us helping the homeless, elderly, disabled, disadvantaged, or those simply in need, to the point of being healthy and happy. Humans don't belong on this amazing planet.

@sharongillesp 10 месяцев назад

Ultimately, you mean respecting and helping everybody:)

@PositiveEnergy733 10 месяцев назад

To everyone reading this, I sincerely pray for that whatever is causing you pain or stress will pass. May your negative thoughts, excessive worries and doubts disappear, replaced by clarity and understanding. May your life be filled with peace, tranquility and love

@JaimeNyx15 10 месяцев назад

Glad to hear his own perspective, rather than a version filtered through his guardians or Hollywood

@johnmay3266 10 месяцев назад

Still love you, man!! From a supporter (and a fan) near Baltimore. I'll never forget you.

@RyanPerrella 10 месяцев назад

Michael, i hope that a most wonderful woman makes her way to you and that together you may both start the incredible family you always wished for. Blessings to you friend.

@mstoi38 10 месяцев назад

He's married to his college sweetheart. She's probably the reason he fought the guardianship (just my opinion as a wife). She saw something was wrong with the paperwork. As a girlfriend, you don't have access to such info, but once you become a wife, u can see what you need to see to fix it.

@bootstrappedfriend1752 10 месяцев назад

Thank you for this.❤ I never watched the movie as i sensed the underbelly of the situation. And I dislike when things are whitewashed for a feel good pic. I always felt deception from those 2, and it made me sad. I am so happy the truth is out. I would love to see, Blindsided...the rest of the Story. Part 2. Much respect. You Sir, are a Spiritual Giant.

@Clover_9777 10 месяцев назад

wow, I love the animation and also the inspiring story.

@Anubis10110 10 месяцев назад

😢man you made me cry

@lovethatagave 10 месяцев назад

Wonderful and inspiring video - thank you, Mr. Oher.

@Richard-hv5hh 10 месяцев назад

Interesting to see what happens in the court case. My instinct is that he has been terribly unfair to the Tuohy family. We will see!

@elanorwainscott 10 месяцев назад

I agree.

@Richard-hv5hh 10 месяцев назад

@elanorwainscott Elanor I was being too kind. I think what he has done is just awful. I have met people unfortunately like this in my own life. People you take into your life, kindly even call them your own child, accept the social embarrassment they can bring, and then have them turn on you after years as if you never did a thing! I think that is the case here. I see nothing that the Touhy's have done other than to try give someone a better life. If I am right it sets race relations and foster parenting back because who wants this ingratitude and aggravation.

@harrynutzach307 5 месяцев назад

*_>>"It was gonna be up to me... to go out there and chase whatever dream I wanted to chase..."_* In other words, to latch onto and USE whoever was going to give you the most, and take you the farthest.

@arvinbuenaagua5161 10 месяцев назад

This would have been a better movie

@aldoabruzzi6417 10 месяцев назад

Obviously not, or Hollywood would have included that part instead of making the entire movie about the 3 years he spent with the Tuohys. A story about his childhood would have never been made into a film.

@t900badbot 10 месяцев назад

What he's not saying, is that after being alone and betrayed by everyone, feeling love is uncomfortable. I know bor, I know. Cool thing is being comfortable alone is great too.

@sharongillesp 10 месяцев назад

It is. Something most people can’t appreciate. Although, that appreciation of aloneness can’t be found on the streets.

@jamesonpace726 10 месяцев назад

Even though I was white bread suburbia, I lived thru those bad old days. I commend you, Sir, for having escaped what so many, of all colors, could not....

@Kimoto504 8 месяцев назад

I can say the same of alcohol that he said of crack cocaine... Looking at the big picture, I have a much broader and more "complex" sense of things in terms of "success" but on the level he speaks (which is mainstream), he's right. It's clear he's perceptive, as he acknowledges the need for healing from what he went through (much less mainstream).

@JustMe-01 10 месяцев назад

So was he happy with his adoptive parents or not?

@SparrettCrow 10 месяцев назад

Currently society has these types of issues even to this day and yet wonder why crime is on the rise. Society has failed then thus they turn to the dark side

@freedomfinder5196 10 месяцев назад

What a wonderful human being. Bless him and everyone he loves. Thank you, Michael.

@YouTuber-my2ky 10 месяцев назад

Lovely story... thank you!

@douglepong 9 месяцев назад

I love Michael Oher but I'm sure the Tuohy family still helped him a lot. Is the movie really that off?

@harrynutzach307 9 месяцев назад

No... it's not. It's pretty close to the book. It has it's Hollywood embellishments, of course... but they never claimed it was a documentary. _"Tuohy family still helped him a lot"_ is the understatement of the year... the movie doesn't show half of what that family did for him. Being a football nut, I read the Blind Side book when it first came out in 2006. Like you, my wife loved him.... it was one of her favorite movies. So I bought her Michael's 2011 autobiography (I beat the Odds) so I read that too. Based on what I've read in the books.... what he's doing now is *despicable.*

@douglepong 9 месяцев назад

That's .. really sad..@@harrynutzach307

@VictorMenya 10 месяцев назад

Inspiring

@mariapilarme 10 месяцев назад

Much love Mike❤ stay strong 💪

@SenorCinema 10 месяцев назад

He’s a liar

@jodi-bethfelton3696 10 месяцев назад

I'm SO sorry Michael, that the Touhy's did not adopt you and said they were. That is lying. So is setting up a conservatorship just to skirt booster rules for their alma mater..that was also lying. You could of been just as successful at any college. You are a survivor and an honorable man. God bless you and your family of choice that you have created. I'm sorry that the Touhys with all their blessings could not of chosen the right thing in adopting but maybe in the long run, you are better off. I am truly saddened by any additional pain they caused you despite how they did provide what they did ( which was easy to do financially for them ). I'm sorry they did not look out for your financial interests and legal interests for your rights to your likeness etc regarding the movie. This was also unfortunate. They could of hired better attorneys to negotiate on your behalf since that was their responsibility as conservators. It is truly disappointing despite all the good they did. You go be happy and blessed. You are God's chosen son ❤ and biological families are teachers in earth school and not necessarily your soul family who you find later. God bless you for the rest of your days ❤

@aldoabruzzi6417 10 месяцев назад

- He CLAIMS they said it was like a legal adoption. They CLAIM they never told him that, and merely said it made them his "legal guardians". Neither one can prove what words were used back in 2004, so at this point it's nothing more than a 19 year-old "he said/they said ". - The conservatorship was done to keep his college choices open and let him take his sweet time deciding where he wanted to go to school. In Michel Oher's own 2011 book he says they were a family even BEFORE they ever went to court.... so how is making their guardianship legal to satisfy the NCAA red tape in any way considered "lying"? - They DID look out for his financial interests. They just proved that in court on November 8th with all that evidence they provided. - If you read Michael Oher's 2011 autobiography, it makes perfect sense why adoption was probably never really on the table: _"There was just one condition for living with the Tuohys, and this had been made clear to me since I first started relying on them: They wanted to make sure I was going to keep a relationship with my birth family. At no point did they want there to be any kind of a feeling like they had taken me away from my mother, or kept me from her and made me cut all ties."_ He goes on to write about them insisting he visit her regularly, Sean giving his mom a job at one of his restaurants to try and keep her off drugs, bringing her to his football games, buying her what Oher calls _"a nice church dress"_ so she could come to senior night and stand with him out on the field _"as the seniors were escorted out on the field by their _*_parents_*_ "_ Hmm... insisting he not cut ties with his mom. Giving her a job to keep her clean. Bringing her to his games and buying her a dress so she could stand on the field with pride as his *MOTHER* . Oher's *own words* from 2011 make it clear that he fully understood that the Tuohys RESPECTED the relationship he had with his birth mother and likely would have never hurt his mother by adopting him away from her. They were probably sick over the fact that they had to ask her to sign over the *legal guardianship* of her son to them. Michael Oher should read his own book and stop casting doubt on their motives.

@elanorwainscott 10 месяцев назад

@@aldoabruzzi6417Well said. 💯

@kgrimes4934 10 месяцев назад

@@aldoabruzzi6417They told the world that they adopted him. It even said so on her website when his lawsuit dropped.

@aldoabruzzi6417 10 месяцев назад

@@kgrimes4934 Have they ever claimed that they *"legally"* adopted him? Because I've heard *plenty* of people casually use the word "adopted" with children, pets, etc. that they brought into their homes to live with them. Hell, I know parents who constantly refer to their kid's best friend (you know, the one who is always at your house and never seems to go home) as "my adopted son/daughter".

@behroozshahdaftar4209 10 месяцев назад

I respect you, Michael.

@aldoabruzzi6417 10 месяцев назад

The evidence that the Tuohys presented to the court on November 8th proves that Michael Oher is a liar. And you still respect him?

@behroozshahdaftar4209 10 месяцев назад

@@aldoabruzzi6417 Hello Friend. I respect him for suffering tremendous adversity, but finding a courage to move forward. We can respect folks for one aspect of their life choices, and not others.

@aldoabruzzi6417 10 месяцев назад

@@behroozshahdaftar4209 So we now know that the Alcon Entertainment execs were telling the truth back in August when they said the Tuohys were paid less than $1 million for the movie. In that same statement, they also said that the studio offered Michael Oher $200,000 for the charity of his choice.... and *he turned it down.* I'm going to assume they have the paper-trail to back up that claim too. What kind of scumbag turns down $200K in free money to help a charity? All he had to do was PICK ONE, but he couldn't be bothered. He will NEVER have my respect.

@BloomingRose60 10 месяцев назад

We are all we have. If you know, you know... ❤

@epiphany373 10 месяцев назад

Beautiful man.

@aldoabruzzi6417 10 месяцев назад

Yeah, that's exactly the way that uber driver described him....

@thepamela050 7 месяцев назад

It's hard to believe you went without eating cause I don't think I've seen one thin photo of you..

@aldoabruzzi6417 7 месяцев назад

Exactly. How do you get to be a 300 lb sophomore if you're not eating?

@thepamela050 7 месяцев назад

@@aldoabruzzi6417 He's shown to be a terrible liar.

@harrison1671 10 месяцев назад

❤💔❤️💔❤️💔❤️

@Fnidner 9 месяцев назад

Glad he's doing better, but this advice is not very good. Very oversimplified. Just amounts to "do more good stuff, less bad stuff". Wow, so inspiring, amirite?

@harrynutzach307 7 месяцев назад

What else can he say? _"Find the richest people you can, and latch onto them."_ It's not like he actually *worked* his way out of the ghetto. 😆

@hanawana 10 месяцев назад

bravo!

@mactastic144 10 месяцев назад

It’s a dramatization of the events. What did you expect? A biopic? It says based on a true story.

@iliane0vono 10 месяцев назад

Nobody is expecting anything, he’s just telling the true story?

@19songreatt36 10 месяцев назад

Its amazing man

@aldoabruzzi6417 10 месяцев назад

Amazingly evil....

@sharongillesp 10 месяцев назад

The Blind Side was about the white family (commercialized, consumerized, and whitewashed) as a “white savior story,” The Michael Oher’s story is much more compelling. But that would be too right, can’t make it look like Blacks can be successful with just a little help. What’s really sad is the family denying him as a son, which it seems he was in the movie. When I saw it, I was like “ Wow! They’re going to share their wealth with him? At least some of it. That’s wonderful.” But, greed is insatiable, it can never be satisfied. They weren’t giving up anything. They felt like they helped him enough, and saw a very subtle way to use him. And they did. In the end he was just another black boy to them.

@elanorwainscott 10 месяцев назад

Not true. They love him like a son. Get your facts straight.

@RexRichardson-x5j 10 месяцев назад

Remind me why I would never help one of you ungrateful people

@mrdonetx 10 месяцев назад

They might have made mistakes along the way with everything. If you aren't making mistakes then you aren't doing anything with your life that's worth a damn. Everyone wants to call them "white saviors". Did they just push all the "black saviors" lined up to help him to the side? They didn't have to because they were the only people who bothered. Every time I hear the phrase "white savior" I immediately ask where their own "people" were. If their own people were doing something then white people wouldn't have an opportunity too.

@harrynutzach307 9 месяцев назад

>>Blacks can be successful with just a little help. As long as that "little help" isn't from a white person, right?

@johnbuckner2828 10 месяцев назад

❤

@airtrafficman972 10 месяцев назад

Wow they really took that incredible story and turned it into some white knight shit? Jesus

@aldoabruzzi6417 9 месяцев назад

Without their "white knight shit", his "incredible" story would have ended with him failing to graduate and winding up back in the projects.

@deneshbhaskar 10 месяцев назад

mike is trying reqrite history... The truth is he isnt even a highschool graduate without the tuoys. he isnt at old miss playing football.. NFL wouldnt be there...The tuoys took mike in to help him and use him for old miss program.. They didnt buiy hima truck and giv rhimm shelter and all u can eat food and tutor with nothing for themseleves... Do u think they take micheal in if hes 5'5 150 pounds??? HELL NO. He needed to give them something. They took the raw genetic gifts and got himm coaches for training and tutors to get him into old miss. The convertionship was to violate ncaa rules why u got this monster OT in ur house playing for the team u sponspor. Thge Tuoys couldof really ruined micheals life and taken all his money. Guys 37 and has 4 kids and still is under the tuoys control...I think Mike is broke. NFL money is gone. He has kids to feed. U seen his wedding cake? He spent all that cash. Look I would love to direct or write the mike side of the story and make the tuoys heels.''U see that black kid hes huge we could use him in old miss'' Give him soe turkey... Is prob how it goes

@harrynutzach307 10 месяцев назад

Actually, if you read his 2011 autobiography, he makes it pretty clear that his college choice was entirely his own decision. Did the Tuohys *want* him to go to Ole Miss? Absolutely. But did they pressure him or force him in any way to go there? Not according to him. If Michael was 5'5 150 pounds, he would have never left the Hurt Village projects. The only reason Michael ever met "Big Tony" Henderson was because Big Tony showed up at his mom's place to *recruit him* for a basketball team he coached. He met Tony's son (Steve Henderson) AFTER he started playing hoops for his dad. So if he wasn't already tall and athletic... no Big Tony... and no Briarcrest School. The conservatorship was not created to *violate* NCAA rules... it was created to obey them. And that's the ONLY reason they created it. If Michael Oher would have made his mind up earlier that summer and picked some school other than Ole Miss (Tennessee, Oklahoma, LSU, etc.) the NCAA would not have had a problem with it. The Tuohys would have never created the conservatorship... it wouldn't have been necessary. Would they still call him their "son" and would he still call them "mom" and "dad"? As he says in his book... he already knew they were a family.BEFORE they went to court that day.