The BPD Bunch: Ep 8 - Chronic Feelings of Emptiness 

Thank you for this video. I really think that emptiness is the most over looked symptom but it really is HUGE. Only feeling like a person around other people is something I can relate to so much. Once I'm alone I feel like I'm in space, floating in infinity with no one around, it's beyond terrifying and the word 'lonely' really doesn't cover it. This all consuming feeling causes me to engage in maladaptive actions to try and fill the void. I'm starting DBT soon...20 years too late but better late than never. Sending love to all those who fight the daily battle ❤

"Only feeling like a real person around other people"........ dang

Thank you SO much for sharing this. The feeling that "I'll be happy when..." (Insert next life milestones) and trying to work out who I am without workaholism or perceived prestige or power, that I'm acceptable without any achievements and when I'm crying and lost. My dog has rescued me. I've had so many wins by learning to give him acceptance, encouragement and love ESPECIALLY if he's finding (insert training area or life thing) hard. Love is most needed during the hard times so I try to afford myself the compassion and love I have for him. I've previously struggled to enjoy creative endeavours because there's always someone better than me. I'm going to do something creative, for the enjoyment of it today and I'll remember to encourage and validate myself even if I don't. Thank you guys 🎉

I have this symptom more than the other symptoms but I do have all 9! Nothing I do fills that hole, I got my degree, felt nothing. Amazing job, feel nothing. Any success, feeling lasts q few hours at best. I spend to fill that hole, feelings last for moments. I'm trying to find my purpose but nothing fills that hole.

I honestly thank God for this video my wife is BPD and it’s so hard understanding things for herself and for me! I think she’s so strong and videos like these help me stay filled with compassion instead of exhaustion as well as help strengthen my understanding to be a real solid partner for her cause I know I fall short so much. Truly thankful for you guys sharing your testimonies

My feelings of chronic emptiness present as indifference to whether I live or die, I just see more pain and hard ache in the future. More struggles with BPD. This is a chronic feeling I carry with me and I think it partly stems from the fact that I love others deeply but it’s really hard for me to feel their love in return. My experiences have taught me that love is conditional. I do relate to what someone said about reaching all these milestones and not being fulfilled… I have an in demand career and am successful, I’ve purchased a house and have a higher level education, none of those things filled that hole

I really needed this. I've never felt so seen.

At the 30 minute mark of this video you really hit me hard at the core with what you Said «better the debil you know” you Said Talking about hiding for the world and isolating yourself in you own. This really hit me because I have been doing this for a long time now, and I just started making music about myself to try to understand myself better and I have a lyric in the most powerful song I’ve made that goes, better the devil you know then you wanna be caught in the cold missing the snow This lyrics means the same think. Felt really good to hear that from someone who seems like there doing a lot better and can see it in the past. As someone who’s stuck with the devil we know, it gave me some hope that I can make it about if this state of mind. If you ever read this I just wanted to say thank you for giving me some hope. And thank you for running this Channel I just got diagnosed with borderline and it’s really been helping me to here all your friends explain some helpful ways to look at a lot of problems I’ve been facing. It’s very hard for me to find information in this disorder because I’m from Sweden and it doesn’t really exist anyone doing this here. Thank you for the work you all do ❤️ god speed

Emptiness.. while fearing an abandonment.. of our FP/Partner.. leads to the Addiction or impulses of a whole list of bonkers copes… add in actual betrayal/abandonment cPTSD from parents and lovers, friends.. the things one can do. You guys are really awesome and inspiring! Looking to transmute my experiences and share as well! 🎉🧿

Thank you for this video. I’m currently doing my thesis on emotions regulation strategies that alleviate feelings of emptiness in bpd. It was very informative.

I’m 28, I’ve never had a girlfriend and few friends. I feel soulless at this point. There’s nothing inside me anymore. I can’t do drugs (sober), sex isn’t a part of my life and the one thing that brought me joy (music) isn’t in me anymore. There’s no break, or relief. Just soulless all day everyday.

Thanks guys, you're one of my favourite youtube channels 🥰

So thankful I found you! Finally I'm not alone.

all of these are so relatable, even as someone without bpd! thank you 😊

Loving these videos. I find them very informative. Could you please do one on dissociating and your experiences with it. Keep up the good work.

Thank you so much, everyone, for another great episode! I especially needed this before the holidays. Keep up the great work, Xannie, and panel!!!

Saving lives here

I just came across your group and I’m so thankful for all of u! I will definitely keep following! This chronic loneliness is very hard to deal with. I’ve had it since I was a child. But losing my mom and sister has made it much worse for me.

Sense of community comes from volunteering in community also helped me.

creative people naturally change their identity a lot. its why they can be so creative and change their looks often, relaunch themselves or their small business. so artist/writer/entrepreneur type plus bpd can be hard to manage and tell apart.

Thank you so much!

Great job guys. Thankyou

love this conversation :-)

I don't know for sure If I do have bpd but I research about mental illnesses a lot especially bpd because I seem to show a lot of signs of it. And when people started talking about signs of not feeling like you exist unless your with people didn't like ring a bell or anything but then i remember how I literally cry every night because I don't feel like I'm good enough for those people even tho I just said I love you to my mom or my friend just told me how great and kind I am. I hate being alone so much because I feel like people might go and replace me and secretly hate me if i don't see them everyday. Literally my friend was in the same room as me and I wasn't able to sit by them so my mind was completely convinced they hated me even though they really didn't do anything and probably don't hate me in that moment I thought my friend forgot about me and hated me. It's so hard to recognize these things about myself but since I've been researching about it it's a lot easier tbh

You all are amazing 🤩🤩🤩

Okay, so I think I may have been using feeling empty with my therapist completely wrong and they may think I am reporting something different to what I am experiencing. I thought it meant being like being extremely tired. That I don’t have any energy or have anything left to give or provide. What you guys are describing sounds completely different. The loneliness, feelings around lack of self, or nothingness/being a void described in the video is not something I have experienced. So thank you for the video as this really helped me contextualize what I was feeling and how I was conveying it.

I love that I found this and appreciate your guy's work. I still wish more men were getting diagnosed and talking openly about it. Amazing channel, instant subscribe. I am in intensive treatment now and it's working. Nice to see other BPD people thriving in this world.

After I had a baby I felt blank empty hollow and sad because I can’t feel I have a baby

Do you guys know of any place for BPD group therapy online?

Amen to the faith point! x

❤❤❤ Thank you

I so wanna be part of this thing 😭 lord how do I do it? Someone tell me

18:18 States of Mind

How many of you grew up with battling parents? How many had loss of faith in God. I use to be like this but had ptsd from parents fights. 😢❤

14:29 👏

Oof. Finding christianity to solve BPD seems like taking a drug to forget reality. I'd rather take actual drugs.