The CRAZY Advantages Dumpees Have 

Thanks for sharing buddy, and amazing effort on your journey. 💪💪💪

@@TheLoveFix-Nick cheers, Nick. I've not felt this good about myself in years...

You should feel amazing. You’ve put the effort in and earned it.

In this context, she taught you the lesson you needed to learn, and did you a favour. I hope you’re feeling better.

I also feel exactly the same @morpheus3190

Dumpers suffer too, my friend. Ending a relationship, is often the last choice, not the preferred choice!

Aww thanks man. Glad I could help. I hope you’re well. 😊

My advice would be to stop choosing these type of women.

Fuck that guy! If you don’t yet see this toxic guy leaving as a good thing you soon will. Don’t give him the satisfaction of feeling bad, if anything you should pity him. Consider him non-existent and find someone who will appreciate you and then he truely will become non-existent and the hurt will pass.

I hear you and that is heartbreaking. The more you know about him, the more you focus on him, the more you disempower and hurt yourself. Focus on you now.

You are better off without that shallow player. Let someone else get stuck with him.

"Reward" him with your absence. No contact for life, in this case.💪

Actually the weld is stronger than the link

In the japanese culture they add gold to a sword or valued object that has been cracked or broken so its more valuable and stronger.

​@@charlesmullins664was going to say the same thing 😂

​@@HopeFaithExpect77the Art of kingtsugi

Get your negative ass out of here bruh. People break up and then get married later stop putting bad thoughts in everyone’s head just cuz you’re negative

It’s not anyone’s job to be anyone’s saviour, my friend. Healthy relationships don’t depend on one another to save one another.

what you're talking about is an avoidant personality type. They are literally forged by childhood neglect and disregard that creates further issues of insecurity, abandonment, jealousy, and so much more down the road. I just got dumped by one and while she never admitted to being an avoidant (i asked her at one point while we were together), she DID open up to me a lot about her dysfunctional household/upbringing and then a decade of toxic, emotionally abusive relationships. She ended things with me because she told me that after almost 3 months of being together, that she could no longer hide or "mask" her insecurities and jealousy and fear of abandonment, and that she had to end things in order to really fix her head and have the best chance at therapy actually being beneficial to her. It's amazing to thing someone as insanely beautiful as her (like no joke, think a blonde combo of ScarJo and Angelina Jolie, with the greenest, most captivating eyes you've ever seen), as successful as her making well into 6 figures a year whose traveled the world and dated doctors and millionaire trust fund babies and lived in apartments that rented out for $3500 a month, would be intimidated or jealous of me; your humble, blue collar worker living in a 900sq foot house, driving a beater 2005 Honda, who has never traveled outside the country or even more than like 1200 miles from home. I have NOTHING in comparison to the men she's dated, yet I made her more nervous and anxious than any of those other guys did because I was always my 100% transparent self around her, for better or for worse. I never sugar coated anything, I didn't get on my knees and worship her or tell her that she's the greatest human on the planet. I was always real with her and often criticized her, but made sure to balance it with as much or slightly more positive praise. She told me that she had to leave to focus on her career and her business she wants to start in the coming months as well as "fitness goals" and also to learn from her therapist what security feels like and if she's even capable of. What really happened though, 2 weeks post-discard is that I triggered her. She realized that I'm husband/life partner material and that she's not ready for that (or so she thinks) and that committing to me means a loss of freedom and so rather than pumping the brakes maybe and slowing things down (which we did try 2 weeks before i was tossed), she just said "eff this, I'm not allowed to have these feelings I have so.....run for the hills it is."

Not this time

No, because how I respond is a reflection of me. That’s how we measure ourselves.

My pleasure. I glad I could be of some help.

Thanks, Lizzy 😊

My pleasure. I hope you’re well.

Your situation is the exception to the rule, my friend. This may not be that right video for you.

4 billion women in the world. Quite a blanket statement. Leave the red pill BS alone, buddy. Trust me, you’ll be happier.

@@TheLoveFix-Nick we're talking western society & other 1st world countries. which is where a majority of your viewers reside. there's a reason large swaths of men in the "passport bro" movement are leaving america to get a partner because the women i'm talking about have become the majority. if you can't rebut what I said with facts & evidence, my point still stands. the blue pill copium isn't going to do you any better. i'd rather be in touch with reality, even if dire, than remain in a state of delusion to assuage feelings.

You are actually right. Don't buy "politically correct" conformism. They don't care about you once they left you. Especially those with BPD.

I try not to make anything of such things. Actions tell us everything. What’s the truth of her actions? She’s not making any effort to reconcile. That’s the answer, my friend. I know it’s brutal and I hope you feel better soon. It’s going to be okay. 🫂

@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you, yeah my hopes aren’t up at all. I just thought it was curious. Why not bother to read my messages, but then wish happy birthday instead of ignoring it, only to ignore me saying thank you 😂😂 It’s like she didn’t want to upset me/even though the rest of it did. Or perhaps she didn’t want me to have that in my arsenal should we ever talk and I can now not use ignoring me on my birthday against her. Odd, innit

I think these situations, it’s our limbic brain trying to find pattern, meaning and connection, because that’s what it wants to find.

@@TheLoveFix-Nick yeah mate, just thought I’d ask in case you’d seen anything similar. Very conflicting signs from her isn’t it

Did your ex ever reach out to you???

Monkey branching is emotional cheating. It’s like they’re outsourcing the pain of the emotional checking out, to someone new.

​@TheLoveFix-Nick so this means that although they may not experience these feelings right away, the act of monkey branching is an unhealthy thing to do and feelings of loss will catch up with the monkey brancher sooner or later, right?

Possibly. Frankly, we will never know for sure. Ultimately, don’t wait around for monkey branchers. They are cheaters and have shown you their true character.

​@@TheLoveFix-NickOk, do they ever feel the loss or they just see the dumpee as a trash bag that they have disposed in a bin?

@@TheLoveFix-Nick that's very true, thank you for the insight. I don't want him back romantically but we were best friends for 7 years before getting together, and both expressed a wish to somehow rekindle that friendship. He dumped me over the phone, and I'm doing NC currently for my own wellbeing after telling him not to contact me, but am unsure when/if to open up a conversation with him

It’s possible, but don’t wait around.

I’m sorry to hear that. Monkey branching is emotional cheating. My advice is to not wait around for a cheater. I know it hurts but, she’s shown you her true character. I hope you feel better.

Possibly, yes. But it takes a great deal of self awareness. If they keep going from one person to the next, they’re merely outsourcing their wounds to other wounded animals. My advice. Don’t get hooked up on rebounders. They’re not thinking healing or long term. They’re securing their emotional survival by securing the low hanging fruit.

Then I’m sorry to say, my friend. You’re gonna be stuck for a very long time. I hope you can change your mindset.

@@TheLoveFix-NickYes it takes a long time to meet someone else usually but I survive always.

Change for the better is your superpower.

Rejected yes, but you come out and do self improvement to get yourself out of the rut and be a stronger than you were before.

Buddy, only your ex can answer that. A different question. Why invest time in someone bouncing around to the highest bidder?

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I do have a regret that i did not push her away 2 months ago when she wanted to rekindle things the 4th time, i really thought that after hearing her out something has changed, that she did finally understood what she wants and chooses. 7 months she bounced, told me that she misses me etc. that it hurts( even when she was with him). But i will admit when came back to him i was so mad that told her, i will tell him everything so i was blocked then unblocked on messenger. I did apologize to her thou. I wont be the person who does this kind of thing i have to be higher. And the thing that i do not understand is why she tells me that she has all those problems like not being able to be alone, no self love etc. she told me everything even that she dated and slept with another guy after she broke up with him, and then returned to me, as she said that i with the second guy were very similar but he was not me. But she wont tell a thing to the first guy.

@@aleksandras4659sounds like she wants to keep him as an option or she is cheating on him with you or vice versa. I do not understand why you are tolerating being treated so badly.

@@aleksandras4659bro it’s time to leave…

@@camellia8625 I meant that she cheated on him with me, and after she broke up with him in January, there was another guy she dated, and then returned to me. Then she broke up with me and returned to the first guy.

Manipulating others? If you feel that way, feel free to not listen to the content, my friend.

Who was too available?

@@TheLoveFix-Nick dumpee.