The Crazy Truth About Feeling Invisible After 50 

I always remember my mother complaining to me that at sixty she felt invisible. At that time I was 40 and just couldn't understand why it mattered to her that other people should notice her. I knew who she was and everyone who knew her respected her. While I didn't think it was a big deal, I realized it would happen to me and I was determined not to buy into it. And of course it has happened to me and it doesn't feel nice when I'm discounted or ignored - and left feeling invisible. But I was prepared for it and I see it as part of the journey of life. God knows who we are and so does every one who is important to us - I think the gift in this is to remind ourselves to become more self-supporting and to stop looking to others to determine our value.

Yes I am 67 and feel invisible now and older now since my husband died. I have no friends and my grown kids are busy with their lives. Here I sit alone on a Saturday afternoon contemplating how to fill my day. I felt young and visible when my husband was alive but now feel old and invisible with no purpose. The loneliness can get to you. I will do my best to rise above it though and build what I can of it when I figure how to do it. Your videos are encouraging.Thank you for your brightness in our lives.

I am 64 and love my silver hair and my soft skin that is turning into molten wax. I am lucky to be healthy and here! And although I am wrinkly my arms can hug my grandchildren and those I love and my legs can carry me anywhere I chose to go. It's all about choice in attitude I find.

I am recently widowed and was on holiday alone for the first time. I felt like I was going crazy because of the way people reacted to me: Invisible is a good description; I really could not understand it especially since I am well educated, smart and have all kinds of talents and interests. But I really felt no one was interested in what I had to say and/or often felt dismissed. No doubt, I did not feel very confident without my husband for the first time so this did not help. It was a really horrible feeling, after always feeling attractive in the past.

You always pull the rabbit out of your hat, Margaret, and every day! And in full make-up to boot. You're amazing, such a blessing. Thank you so much for all you do. Diane

Great topic. For myself I feel old these days at 64. Have had cancer twice and effects of chemo have taken their toll on this body. I look in the mirror and see an old woman. Still colour my hair though to fight the grey and never leave the house without some make up on. I asked myself why bother no one is going to look at you with any interest. Then I thought it's not for someone else, its for me. It is self respect and pride of who I am and who I've been. My friends tell me I always look nice and dress well even though I am overweight. That means something to us I believe. I still flirt a little sometimes if I am having a really good day.......

GREAT VIDEO!! I AM 65.and I feel good about myself, with all my RA, Fibro etc. There is a beautiful lady inside this body and any one that would ignore because of looks it is their loss!!! I love you Margaret and all of our subcribers, this is a wonderful channel that you made and enjoy it so much. XOXO

Thank you Margaret for a place to be seen and heard. I want to matter, to make a difference, to be enough.

Thank you so much for addressing the issue, Margaret! I do feel conflicted at times about this. However, one benefit of being somewhat invisible is that I feel that I can do silly, fun things and not really be noticed. I have gone whole days and have felt that no one really looked at me, whether at home or out in public, or both. Sometimes I'm OK with that, though, because I know who I am, and that there's goodness inside me that has nothing to do with my looks. I believe at this point in my life that the effort I make to be well-groomed, and the time I spend on my hair, makeup or putting on jewelry or dressing nicely is more for me than for anyone else. There's one quote that I like, by Daniel Francois Esprit Auber, "Aging seems to be the only available way to live a long life."

Finding you last year changed my life, Margaret! I had been recently retired from full time teaching after 30 years. My whole identity changed. I felt older yet know if I was still teaching until my full retirement age of 66 I would not have felt that way. Working AND being with children keeps one young. I watched many of your videos and had plenty of time to reflect. The invisibility of older women, rather than men, is so very real. This is what I have done. First, I began with fitness training because my body strength was terrible. Even though I am a size 14 I no longer feel fat. Feeling heavy also means invisibility. It is just now that my plan is cutting down on the weight on top of the strength training (although have lost 25 pounds in the last three years by healthy eating). A size 12 in this world is still “huge”, but would make me feel totally comfortable. If I can’t achieve that, so be it. From someone that used to wear full eye makeup, blush, and lipstick daily, I now cleanse, moisturize my face, brush my teeth and GO! The eyes are drier now so contac lenses after 40 years is not an option. The lashes aren’t even curled. After doing this a while, I looked around and saw how many women didn’t wear make up at all, either. I want people to accept me as I am, not a face I put on for the world. It is actually quite freeing! On special occasions, I will wear make up.

I am not sure how much I care how strangers view me. I care how I look, but for me. I have the scars from beating Cancer. So? I did it! Of course Icare a little, but I am not trying all the creams, etc. My husband died three, nearly four months ago, I cared how he saw me.

OMG As soon as I saw the title, I immediately thought, "She just described me perfectly." Thank you for this. - xx, Carla from 2 Real Chicks

That is some serious bling around your neck! I love statement pieces. Being 66 and leaning heavily toward 67 … it has been a touch and go for me over this past year. 2nd time for cancer (this time a mastectomy) want to talk about getting slammed physically and psychologically… I have short, short hair with a silver streak in the front....and now I can wear dangling earrings. My style is whatever I feel comfortable in...regardless of my age. I wear minimum make up but still like to have a bit of color. No....I don't get noticed like I did when I was younger and sported long auburn hair … those are days gone by. But you still can look good, feel confident and shine in your own way. No … we cannot possibly physically compete with the younger ladies … but we have our own kind of beauty. I know we are often very critical of the turkey necks, sagging arms, cellulite etc... but no reason not to continue to exercise, eat healthy, and be the best person you can be. We are fighting father time and gravity with both fists swinging...so focus on what we think are our strengths...our talents, our skills, our knowledge, and things that only come with experience. Let's keep our wobbling chins up and shine on!

I think it's important to maintain daily efforts to take care and maintain ourselves. Unfortunately, many see this as trying too hard or wanting to compete with younger women but in fact, it's about being your best self. I recently retired and I had to develop a new daily routine. It changes depending on whether or not I'm going to the gym, running errands, etc. However, there is one common thread; I shower and dress every day. This might sound minimal but there are a lot of us who stop this daily care and rationalize it as pampering. Another way to remain visible is to resist resenting younger women. Try to interact and be yourself. You'll be surprised at how your life experience impresses and can be encouraging to younger people.

great conversation, Margaret. I've enjoyed reading the responses too. I remember when I turned 50. For some reason, 50 hit me hard. I was very depressed. To cheer myself up, I went to the MAC counter at Macy's to buy some foundation and a lipstick. (I always say that for me, a new lipstick is always a great pick-me-up.) They were not very busy but I soon felt like I was being ignored. I stood there making it as obvious as I felt I could that I needed help, trying to make eye contact with an associate. The other shoppers were much younger than me, and in my eyes, the associates were flocking to them. I became so depressed that I was about to burst into tears, and had to walk out. This now seems so silly of me to even admit my behavior. Perhaps it was just my skewed perception but my thought was, I felt invisible because of my age. anyway, great topic and I do love that necklace!

You know I don’t think I am...till I’m treated that way. I make it a habit to put on a smile and engage with the people I meet. The grocery people know me, gas station, doctors office. I try to chat with those in lines with me. They may want to make me invisible but I won’t go quietly.

I just found your channel ... thank you so much for speaking to the subject of being invisible. I'm 63 and definitely have those invisible moments more often. And I've become camera-shy, too. However, I remember a woman I worked with telling me that when her mother died, they were looking for pictures to create a collage to display at the funeral. There were virtually no pictures of her mother after the age of 60. They had some of grandma holding her grand babies on her lap, but grandma's head was cut out of the picture. I never forgot that ... talk about being "invisible." - Susan

This definitely resonates with me! About 7 years ago I wrote about this..."Center Stage" describing how uncomfortable I was in the spotlight. And yet, I sadly feel so invisible. What a contradiction! Thank you! I guess I'm more normal than I thought I was.

Hi Margaret, no I don't feel invisible, quite the opposite where I live. It seems as though people here where I live in South Texas have to constantly point out how someone has aged (myself and other women my age) . You can't just bump into someone you haven't seen for awhile and have a conversation without the topic of age coming up. I am 64 and expect it, but my daughter is a very attractive 36 yr. old and she says the same thing. Other women younger and older will point out to her how she has changed. She informed a younger girl the other day that yes we all change as we age 'That's what happens' and it would happen to her also. This is a very good topic you brought up! Really enjoy your advice and insight on things. Thank you so much, have a great day!

Thankyou for todays discussion Margaret, this really is affecting me at the moment, i was 61 in February and am struggling with how i look right now. I have treated myself to a few new tops as i was wearing the same things all the time. I also tend to withdraw in a group as if to hide away. I think i have always been this way but even more so now i am getting older. I love your necklace and the bright colours you always wear, i think i will see if i can find a bright pretty necklace to cheer myself up.... have a lovely day x

Great in depth advice..my grandparents were the best example for me. They were so full of life, so many friends, so much conversation..and never about makeuo, exercise jewelry or clothing. They traveled to the country for the entire summer and met other friends there. Great people, not perfect never wanted to be...but life had a different meaning then...for sure. I will ways miss them.

I am so glad I found 60 and me! Margaret you are like a tonic. I am only on my second day with you and all the other 60-ers, catching up on the articles and videos. I have struggled with the "invisibility" issue, as well as many more that you have covered. 60 hit me like a ton of bricks, how did that happen??? Five years ago my 20 year best/only friend and next door neighbor re-located to another state. It has left a huge hole in my life. I have no children by choice, have gotten more overweight and "frumpy" following the 20 years since my divorce. I am the most un-photogenic person on the planet. And the mirror is not my friend. Finding plus clothes and wearing them, trying to convince myself that I look great, is just depressing and futile. SO, in order to remain emotionally content, I have been very hard at work attempting to make the shift to a kinder and more personally accountable mindset. No more denial, I am 60, shut up and make it work! I am in good health, financially comfortable running our family business, and am embracing being just me. Because exercise is not a happy thing, I invested in myself and hired a trainer at my local gym. She is fantastic. It keeps me accountable, strong and proud of myself. Sometimes when I am feeling alone I will go to the grocery store and intentionally catch someone's glance (usually an older person) and give them a big warm smile. Right before they return the unexpected smile, the looks on their faces is priceless, like they have been seen and acknowledged. The next video I want to watch is "Growing older alone", again spot on... one of my big fears. Thank you so much!

Judging by the way I felt while listening, and the response of other subscribers, this is definitely an INSPIRED video!!!

You are a lovely sight for me first thing in the morning, Margaret! Gets my day off to a good start. Thanks for all of your work in bringing good information and a good mood.

I've always felt that way. Think it relates to childhood where attention was often negative.

I never really thought about things in those terms. Somehow when women get beyond the age of about 50, they are criticized for making certain choices in the way they present themselves. Our society seems to think women of a certain age should fade into the background and not be visible for sure. There are times when I will not wear a certain thing or make up a certain way because of fear of being thought that I'm trying to look too young or not my age. Sometimes, for me, age doesn't factor into my thinking if what I'm considering wearing is something I really like or wearing it makes me happy. Perhaps we should be brave at least some of the time and go for it, tastefully. Have a great day ladies.

Great video! This topic is so fascinating to me...I was rather interested in being seen in my 50s and then when I became ill, I hid. For the last few years it seemed easier to hibernate and not have to deal with it all. I didn’t want people to see me in my ill body. But now at 63 I’m beginning to feel more like myself=a “new” self or really my TRUE self. I love the gray streak in my hair, I accept my body as a friend. It is still hard to be seen in a wheelchair, mostly due to people’s reaction and the need to “tell the accident story” countless times. But I am relaxing into my new cycle of life and I am glad to be here! Thx for sharing these meaningful conversations, Margaret ( & all )❤️

You’re looking especially good today. I love your Style and your beautiful necklace. Thanks for supporting me. I appreciate it. Thanks for sharing this. Have a wonderful day Margaret. 🤗💐

I have always colored my hair and decided to let it go natural, there are beautiful shades of gray and sence I'm not working anymore I can just be myself. I am 69 yrs. old. I have received some not so nice comments and some friends wanting to be helpful by telling me about covering my roots, one neighbor said I thought you were your mother, my mother passed away over 20 yrs. ago and had never visited. I'm really suprised at how people view me now. I haven't changed, I'm the same person. I would recomend a book by Lorrane Massey, called Silver Hair Handbook. I am seeing a lot more ageism sence I made this decision. Love Your topics. Thank you for being here.

What a delightful video. I am one of those who LOATHES having my photo taken. I always vanish when a camera comes out. Yet I crave being visible. Thank you, Margaret. You are truly an inspiration. xo

Love you Margaret; Love this channel & community connection here. Your truth resonates in all of us...you just happen to be our voice ( demure or demanding )❤️❤️❤️

Great topic. What helped me with pictures is, one day I decided to see how HAPPY I look, instead of being ashamed of being less attractive. This mindset is contagious, and fun.

I have done some thinking on this topic and I think some of this invisibility can be self inflicted. Bear with me. I had a lot of male attention as a young woman, round of top and behind, and never really knew how to deal with it. But now that I am 57 I somehow feel the most comfortable I have ever felt in by body, even though I am now the size of a small planet, bear the marks of a long term illness, am much older, and zig zag around on a walking stick. I still wear make up, wear the colors I love because it makes me feel happy, and still attract back smiles and chat from both sexes because I look approachable and carry myself like I'm a queen. Not every day do I feel lie this by any means, but more often than not. It is joi de vivre and self confidence that attracts people to interact with us and really nothing to do with actually physical characteristics. It is when we let our inner light shine. What a discovery!. :D

I am 57 and the only makeup I have ever worn is mascara, I also don't dye my hair so my long thick red hair is changing, it's fading. I am on my own now and frequently hide away and try to be invisible. Although I am more confident in my style as I have never been a fashion conformist and wear a gypsy /boho style.The only place I feel confident and happy is at home or at university. I started a bachelors degree 18mths ago. i do find that everyone at university is very welcoming and nobody cares or comments on what I wear or look like,I guess thats why I feel happy there

Wow. Am I ever dealing with this right now. I will turn 60 in April and I am having a difficult time with it. This topic is really front and center with me. Thanks for sharing this.

I love your message❤️ great visit!

As in just turned 50 last year, I was feeling not bad, had my self-confidence going, I am an overweight woman too. But I wasn't bothered by most of it, then as of late soon in few months will be 51, and it is like a complete 160 turn I did. I wasn't feeling good about myself, I was feeling down in the dumps. I use to feel good and important, and as of late I don't, I feel out of touch with many and just not good feeling lately. And let me say I am in most times a strong woman but have let that guard or shield down as I call it. So Working on getting those feelings I had, but also working on my weight, as in general, it isn't good being overweight, most of us who are know that. But that all famous diet word doesn't work for me, and people telling me what I should and shouldn't do don't usually work well for me neither. I think most of us know what we should do, so I am working on that, and also other things. I am new to your channel, and I have to say it was off to the side as a request to watch. And seeing the title I wanted to see what you had to say, and it was quite inspiring and boost lift. Have a good weekend! xoxo

Thank you for this post. My desire for not being seen has been a life long problem, nothing to do with aging or being attractive, but about believing I'm not worthy to be seen so for a long time suffered from social anxiety. In the last 10 years it's been something I've been aware of and worked on quite a lot . The more I've committed to working through this the more I've realized how I have things to give others and bless them with who I am. Obviously I still have flashes of low self-worth so it's always good to listen to something like you've shared. I love your posts.

You are so articulate! I enjoyed this video very much... I feel both ways every single day. I can't be visible until I've had my coffee and put on make up....Just leave me be please. After that I still choose...Depending on my mood but I think for the most part, I like being visible...I find now at 65 I really like smiling at people and seeing them smile back. But I always love my alone time...Visible just to my dogs!

I have always felt that conflict in my life. This is not a new experience. Your talks are so enjoyed for your sincerity and true kindness. I wonder if you realize what a gift you are? Thank you for relating so many ideas that go on percolate.

Dearest Margaret, Your are a perfect example letting our light shine. You look absolutely gorgeous today and you are rocking that necklace ! Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We playing small does not serve the world we were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us. There’s nothing enlighten about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around us. Nelson Mandela 🌞🌝⭐️✨

Beautiful Advice. I absolutely needed to hear this! Actually brought a tear to my eye… Of peace perhaps end of appreciation. I think it’s very very easy to feel like we individually are the only one with these kind of feelings or worries or concerns about being irrelevant or invisible or not attractive like we used to be in our 20s and 30s and 40s.

This is exactly how I feel, and it takes so much effort to want to be visible. It makes me want to hide at times and yet feel upset when I am not noticed on the days I actually try to look pretty.

Thank you for sharing, knowing many of us go through the same emotional stages while getting older. I am 45 and so worried about my looks. Not being seen as attractive anymore and the feeling I no longer matter. Its very difficult to deal with.

I love hearing you talk about tea; it's a relaxing way to start a conversation. I love hearing that you have such a great variety of friends that you can share interesting conversations with. I think something great comes from within you that when shared with other people makes you so visible and so valued.

Thank you for your wonderful channel. You look fabulous and that necklace is poppin'!

Brilliant. Yes I did have these conflicting ideas about myself but I got through that stage throwing them away as nonsense. I believe the world is out there for us to conquer at any stage of our lives. Of course some of us are just plain shy......Thanks for this one. I picked up some important drifts from your experiences.

I only recently found You. I turned 60 last year on mother's day, May 12. I live in northern Canada where winters are cold like Alaska. I try and look my best everyday, even if I am staying inside because of all the snow. I try to keep busy and stay active. Thank-you for this wonderful RU-vid inspirational show. I love your necklace! I know watch a segment in the morning when doing my makeup, and one when I am in bed. Thanks for being so welcoming!

you look fabulous!!! and yes, sometimes we don't want to be "seen" however, we can wear what we want right now!!!! we've paid our dues and we are too critical of ourselves so let's be free of our own judgements and be free with our choices

0ver 70 still glamorous WOW !! that color is awesome on you and the necklace is too. :) I finally went on u tube last week and it brings me so much joy. hug :)

Margaret, I enjoy so much your early morning talk.This is how I start my day and it is always encouraging.Plus I would love to know about your cute tops, they are great colors and love the neckline . thank you

Listening to this piece 4 years on and so relevant to me now as I turned 58 this year and sometimes feel the need to shrink a little to try and fit in. In work calls I always worry about how I look and if people will judge me as an older woman. And also I am hugely aware of the tall poppy syndrome. (It’s as real as imposter syndrome.) Sadly in my experience other women have been only too keen to tear me down. And not just me. What happened to “we rise by lifting others”? So I am all for being visible and putting myself out there without making my face up all the time and believing that I am relevant and I matter. Keep up the great work. Thank you for this talk❤

Love this video, I’m almost 60 and in this odd place of feeling like I have such a small window to take all the chances and explore everything I missed in my youth lol, not necessarily dealing with feeling invisible, yet anyway, but just that life and opportunity is fleeting. Thanks for your video!

Wow...hit the nail right on the head!! I certainly have had all those feelings. Sometimes you really have to make an effort to be visible...but remember it's always always worth it, because we are worth it. 😃

Thanks for this video. I too have experienced the feeling of wanting to be invisible or visible at the same time. I know how this feels. Now that I am 60 I am really valuing my friends and forming new friendships with people who have the same passions.

Thanks for addressing this, and so articulately.

TOTALLY a great subject! Dressed colorful at the moment because it makes me hsppy, BUT feel a little awkward. I am having a coffee and a Margaret as I listen to the video and rising above it!.

Thank you for your wisdom and for reminding me what’s important for me and what I need to work on!

As usual, you nailed it, Margaret. Tug-of-war describes my thoughts about feeling visible vs. invisible.

I agree with you and also want to add to this subject of being invisible. When you physically cannot do all you could do when you were younger, I feel you may engage less with other people and activities. It starts to make you feel old and less interesting to others. Therefore, I feel it is important to address your health and take baby steps toward being your best healthy self. You may never do what you did in the past, however, focusing on what you can do now will make you more visible and relatable. I would like to see you discuss more topics relating to good health habits and a healthy lifestyle. Thank you.

I have watched a lot of your videos. Somehow I missed this one. I think that is one of the most valuable for all ages that you have done.

I enjoyed this topic and can totally relate to not liking other people's photos of me these days. Also not being comfortable with the signs of aging. I can still sometimes take a decent selfie, for what its worth :D

I came across your video in some recommended by RU-vid and I'm so glad I did! You are absolutely delightful! I enjoyed the information about tea, that was very interesting as are your thoughts on aging. Thank you.🤓💐

Thank you Margaret!! Yes so true. I am truly enjoying my cards!! Sometimes I meditate, sometimes I pick one card a day and dwell on it all day while I work around my home. We appreciate you so much, For all of the enthusiasm in our life!! XOXO

Love your necklace. I have been watching some of your videos. You are so lovely and brave to share your life with the world. Thank you.

Great video and always top topic

Wow, I found you Margaret a few years ago just before my husband and I moved from American overseas. This post is so interesting for me because after turning 71 last month I sometimes want to be invisible. Although I look 20 years younger and don't want to admit my age because most woman younger than me look much older. I have never had plastic surgery but have lived a very healthy and active life. Living in the Caribbean on a small island I am trying most days when I go out to not be to visible. Some blogs I read said when moving overseas to dress not to draw attention to your style but to adapt more to what the natives are customary wear. I still want to be attractive for me and my husband and I had to change and give up many of my clothes I love wearing because I would stand out to much here. I do take selfies to post for my children and friend back in the US to see how life is treating me. I love to keep up my appearance without putting together a look that cause to much attention from the native women who by most go without makeup on a daily basis but when there is an event I love that my total look can still make me visible. Love the way you looked too and thank you for this post.

Great advice about giving other women a boost!

Yes!...it's a strange conundrum; sometimes I want to feel invisible, and when I don't, it's an even trickier matter lol...I've never liked drawing attention to myself and truly felt more comfortable in my skin not trying...but I am an introvert...I dress rather plainly, even though I do occasionally try to expand my color choices, but will sometimes regret it ! I've gone as far as bringing a change of clothes...to me it's all too complicated of dynamics, but I do appreciate that you've addressed this mysterious topic so concisely, Margaret, Thanks, I totally relate ❣

You are such good company 😊

I don't care if I'm visible or invisible. Self validation comes from within not from anyone else.

Love, love your beautiful necklaces and your insightful conversations or so enlightening.💕

Great topic! When my hair was grey, I really was invisible even in my early fifties. To a degree, it is just part of life. In our very visual, youth oriented culture, no one notices older women. It used to bother me more. I do try to look attractive, but age appropriate. This is just reality now.

Margaret you are very inspiring senior ladies. Listening to you is encouraging at this time of life. I hope that you continue into 70's

There are many times I'm made to feel invisible or guilty for growing older. Even by well meaning friends. I'm horrified when it's done by the media or or in stores. I don't see men treated that way by media, stores or by women. Men do treat women over 40 like they are invisible, mentally ill or stupid. Of course not all, but most I have seen. I got depressed, but recently decided not to give up my power or on life. I am reinventing myself. My health, time, joy and peace are my focus. I stop and smell the roses and worry less. I find myself laughing more, enjoying life and traveling more. I also am doing a few new firsts, like indoor skydiving. I recommend it. Dancing and scuba diving are next.

Wonderful video!!!

Another great post, I'm 57 this year and my main preoccupations are my continued health and wanting to travel - don't yet feel invisible but don't want focus on it either.

Excellent. I do appreciate your communication skills and vocabulary in all of your videos. You choose wisely. 😊

Thank you I needed this

Love ya Margret your always so cheerful such a pleasure to watch. Your my favorite

At 68..I've changed so much from who I was! I've turned into a troll! No...I don't want to be seen like I look now!! I have COPD and can't exercise...no air! I've gained weight where I was slim. No...I don't want to be seen like this!

A very important subject that is very real. Love your necklace, Love your spirit!

This video was truly an epiphany. As an older woman I sometimes feel invisible and now consciously realize often I do not want to be seen. On the flip-side I am very aware of the fact I also embody social authority/power due to my age. One asset gives way to another.

Your videos bring me peace !! Love ya

I certainly have had the feeling of being invisible. It is always interesting to me who discounts me. Being American I think we tend to like the underdog or dark horse so I think putting a different spin and moving along. We still have choices just avoid folks who would treat you as invisible. 😊

I agree with the attitude of self confidence that shines through

Love the necklace beautiful on u x

I think your necklace is beautiful. Looks great with your top and on you. And yes, I now feel invisible.

Love the necklace!

Good points!

Yes, I am very conflicted! On the one hand, for example, I have some nice fashion jewelry pieces and accessories that I would like to wear but on the other hand I don't ever want to draw attention to myself! How crazy is that? I mean how many people are going to notice or care if I am wearing large earrings or a brightly coloured scarf? If anyone does notice they will, in all likelihood, have forgotten all about me two minutes later, just like I don't pay attention to the strangers around me. Perhaps we are too much focused on ourselves and should give up thinking and caring what others think about what we wear, how many wrinkles we have, etc.

I don’t wear my jewellery or clothes because of others! I’m totally selfish in that. I relish my good taste and all I’ve acquired during the years. You’ve inspired me. To recognize beauty, buy and wear it says all about our artistic flair. It’s a precious talent.

Never had a problem turning 50.....maybe because I got a new job then and a partner 15 years younger. His family and friends teased him non stop about being with an "old woman" (We lasted 4 years if you were wondering) Turning 60.....eeeeeuuuu I thought....Anyway, got a new job at 61.....Don't know how I managed that as one of the interview questions was....where do you see yourself in five years time? A picture of me sitting by the fire knitting flashed into my head lol. Anyway, I am 63 now and do feel invisable sometimes. Not at my job though...I just be me. Only good thing I see about getting older is I don't really care what people think of me...My mouth just seems to say what it wants.

Wanting to fit in--and yet to stand out. Your fabulous necklace does both...more on the "stand out" side! Love it. As for being "seen" by men...happily, I think, I have absolutely no interest in romantic relationships (or in men as whatever). That was part of my menopause. And nothing has affected my outlook, my entire life, more. I lived by the measure of men, in society, throughout my life. How awful that was, in retrospect!

Love this site - I have been listening daily since I found you!

Good Discussion, that I find to be true! I am never in the photo. I want to be invisible.

Wow, what a gorgeous necklace! It goes so well with your dress. Appropriateness really depends on how accessories are combined.

Feeling down about things tonight, and this video was very helpful.

YES! I do have conflicting feelings about being visible & invisible ............

You are a lovely woman Margaret - so glad I found your channel.