The Dangers Of Dating Older Men: Advice From A Mother Of 6 

He started grooming her when he was in his early 30s and she was still a teenage/minor. Her baby daddy is a predator.

Pretty much he trapped her. Now he doesn't have a reason to keep up the facade

Sad asl honestly but true unfortunately they will try to treat u like they are ur parents one tried to talk to me honestly I said y u not with someone ur age maybe cause they smell ur pile of shit from a mile away

@@pynklady11Sounds like it!

My thought exactly so cruel of him and selfish 😢

I don’t care if I had 10, when it’s time to go, it’s time to go

Right!! I wonder if she can still sue.

No way. The man needs to be held accountable most importantly for lying and being terrible. Y r only good ppl held accountable for the actions of evil men that r out of control everywhere?

@@DarkCelestialConsciousness because when she was a minor, it was their job to protect and care for her. How the hell are they "good people" when they're clearly trash parents, allowing an evil predator to take advantage of their daughter??!?

@@no.6377 I hope u never made a single mistake in your life. I also hope u hawk over your kids 24/7 if u will take such a harsh stance towards ppl who care and the disadvantaged that were unable to care properly. Y wouldn't u blame the predator?

@@no.6377 lol my other comment got censored but ya the government has no right to hold parents accountable for the actions of the evil that perpetrated it

He truly did now she is tied to him forever if I was her dad and know that was my friend i would have went for his mom and make him my son

Girl!! Same!! Worse experience of my life!!

There’s a reason why no one his age group wanted him

That’s exactly why they seek out younger, naive women!

Not really,he just doesn't want older women

@@purplelove3666 They want any woman… don’t let that crap they say fool you. They’ll take anything they can at the end of the day... They only go after the younger and naive because it’s much easier as you can see…

@@purplelove3666he’s a predator

​@@ethxo6734 But when "older women" say it we're "haters"! Let these younger women FAFO to their own detriment 🤦🏾‍♀️

She's not stunted... Shes unhappy and broken in her Soul cuz wat he did to her

Does a broken soul not stunt your growth?

16 and 31????? 🤮

@@xletragedyx😂😂😂

Sadly he’s probably STILL into teens girls and she’s an adult now so it’s not fun anymore for him to manipulate and have power over her as when she was a child. These types of men don’t change now that she’s not a kid he doesn’t care about her and is probably out there looking at other underage girls. 😐

😂😂😂😂😂 not the pdf file 🤣🤣

@@elmalabelle5206 whats a PDF file? 🙈

Right im pissed for her honestly

First kid at 19... that's 6 kids in 7 years 😮

​@@xletragedyxthat's true she didn't even get to enjoy life before having responsibilities she reminded me of this girl my cousin got with she was 18 with her first he was 38

I feel for her but then again that’s why I’m a huge advocate for birth control and sterilization. No one would talk me out of it. I got my tubes tied at 27 after my second baby, my daughter. My husband at the time wouldn’t get a vasectomy and I said no way was I having anymore. I didn’t want to go through another pregnancy. I wasn’t one to be very assertive when I was younger but you best believe I asserted myself when it came to that!

That's crazy. I'm scared to have baby #2 at 31

Any man!! Ladies get what you can out of the situation and don’t give him a bloodline.

@@LilithsCosmicLounge Agreed! But especially the old pervs!🙌🏾

I would rather not engage with predators at all. Weird messed up energy. I wanna keep myself as clean as possible because living in this world is already heavy, and our personal life should be positive energy.

@@Maria.5482 You are a wise woman ✨ Either use oldmen or avoid them. Avoiding them is the better option ,and that's what I do now .

right i'm that age, i could never

@@sibria me either doll. AINT no way!

She wanted nice family pictures and to be able say : look we live together and he actually claims me.

Sorry to say, she doesn't even look 26 😢😢😢that man has literally drained her youth😢😢😢

So true !!! 💯💯💯

Ewww 16 and 31 :( 🤮

As soon as she said 41 and 26, I'm grossed tf out

also men die earlier then their wives majority of the time so closer in age is bettter.

Baby…. I sure would!! 😂😂

You thought you had me until I pulled out that Reverse uno 😂😂

That’s stupid too. You are still going to end up dealing with pregnancies, nasty STDS and health issues caused by male transmission, etc, I never understood the purpose of living together - but not getting married… but you are literally still playing the role of a “ wife appliance”. Come on now.

Date them for money. Date them for what they can ENHANCE in your life. Don’t go into any situation trying to “ prove your worth” to a man or prove to him what all you can do! An evil man will trap you and let you live in LIMBO with him for decades! All while you shouting out “ he loves me and we’re committed”. Yeah ok.

Don't date,court ,vet and then get married if he's the right one,make sure there's a third party

Nah even with dating you get sucked dry. If you do date you can get preganant and chakled with the kids, even more important then dont marry them is do not have kids with them. Honeslty i would say go 4B because sleeping with them, the risk of STD, pregnancy, them being crazy and ending your life or harrassing you because (if i cant have you ...). I would say approach with greates caution and with many back up plans. And do not settle even if "only" dating dont be a cool girl or pick me. The more centered in you and not jumping to please them the more you filter out the trash. Set boundaries firm like the china wall and dont let yourself be intimidated or pushed not even in a "joking" manner some like do do that to push boundaries and to groom you to tolerate nonsense.

It’s about all of it…

Exactly!!!

It is about dating an older man. This is their way. 9 times out of 10 the man is a predator even if you are over 18. AGe gaps are a red flag even with Adults. Oh now I get you yes its not just aout older men its the fact that she was litterally goomed. This isnt "dating" story its a teenagere got groomed situation.

You’re correct! BUT I don’t trust he will treat his own children right. He may neglect them or worse physically abuse/injure them.

​@@mariahg.6811 But I thought BM are "the most active fathers and the better parent" 🤔 They claim it's BWs parenting that has the black community in shambles let BM figure it out and watch they're narrative change.

No her father seems like a punk to be ok with that older man around his 16 yr old child.

@@QueenOfKings0402he is a punk cuz ain’t no way smh she was failed by both parents

Anything above your age is older, 5-9 is getting up there, and anything 10 plus can be questionable. I’ve always preferred older, but the most I’d go now is 5. In the past I was attracted to much older men (15-20 gap). It’s just I have several family members with a 10-20 gap and it’s turned me off the whole thing. Let’s just say old men can be a certain way when they’re with a younger woman.

Okay… The last part..based on my experience that’s true

Just understanding it is not enough a lot of parents don't raise there kids correctly he's not entitled to any part of her body without her permission and if they don't want women to be ran through when they marry her then buy a sex doll or he can use his hand if he needs to get off. They can't have this both ways. It's virtually impossible for a woman to keep a low body count if men don't learn how to respect her boundaries.

The age gap enhances the extend and the ability to take advantage of the younger person. There is a reason predators seek out younger people or people with things that make them vulnerable. Predators try to maximise power imbalcane. AGE is a factor in power dynamics. Its even instictual in humans its our first and oldest Hierarchical order in society. Subconscioulsy people are more likely to listen to, respect, follow ordres even of someone older, the older the more there is power in their influnce. Are there exceptions of course but that is not the rule. Esecially if you are in a family or romantially involved there is a fondness, love and respect the age difference power imbalace is maximised. 20 year old is more likely to listen to a 40 year old and even more so if they are inlove with them and likekly admire them. A 20 year old can admire, respect and love another 20 year old but they are less likely to subconsioulsy want their validation and follower their lead or orders. Even in companies they dont just want older managers for the sake of experince but also how their age will give them more authority even if its just from perception of age. also age does come with more experience and behavioural changes even on a biologial level. You cant know what you dont know yet. some things do take years and experince. Yes some people are under developed and dont learn from their experiences. But generally I would seriously avoid age gaps. 9 times out of 10 its is not good. WE have had too many cases of things going bad for people to still want to defend this. I beg

She was 16. 16. He was 31, and a predator. Her parents failed her (parents: mother and father). She had to learn the hard way: no one will have your back but you.

@@ant123924 he was a straight up predator- she shouldn't be doing a lesson on dating men close to your age, it should be on seeking therapy if you are broken at any age. A man close to your age can very well be a predator too. At minimum she should have woken up at her 3rd child

@brianfreckles8542 i was a 18 yo teen parent, bf was 22 year old. He was lost,and so was i. I wanted him, like this young lady, to rescue me. We had 2 children. He was go e by year 3. ThkGd. I learned fast i had to watch my own back. She most like has seen the hammer falling after baby 3, and thought he still gonna save me. If he stays away, she still has a chance to recover some. No she is not relationship material. Sorry it is what it is, but she can save her older self from utter poverty. If she focus.

A predator took advantage of a neglected child and immediately began brainwashing and grooming her to abuse her!

Stop this internet speak. Real men step up and become step-dads in the real world!

@winxclubstellamusa Lmao nah real men will find a woman without kids. The one's who can't get a woman without kids and can't stomach being alone or those who think they can benefit in some way off a single mom will step up. No man with real options is gonna take on a woman with multiple children from a different man.

And very vulnerabul for more predators.

She was groomed! Why did her parents allow this?! Sense their not married it will be easier for her to leave! I pray for her and her children's future happiness and well being! 🙏

This!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I’m 36yrs BW 👱🏽‍♀️ and childfree by choice ain’t no way 🙅🏽‍♀️ I will be someone’s baby mother😅. Not in the cards! 🃏

Exactly! I heard a saying: "Only have as many kids as you're willing/able to take care of by yourself"

My ex partner tried to do that to me @19. I told him no because I didn't want to have his baby and become a single mother struggling on welfare. He didn't give a damn about my physical, mental, or spiritual health. Till this day he has hatred towards me because I wouldnt allow him to control my womb. So glad we ended our involvement with each other years ago. His intentions were sinister, and selfish. If I ever became successful I believe he’d try to ride my coat tails bragging about how he “once had me” as ego boost. He only wanted me to have his baby as a “legacy”. He was deceiving exhibiting pro-formative “love” which wasn't love at all. I have way more enjoyment and peace of mind without him. I will never regret not having his baby or anyone elses for that matter as a young adult. Instead I chose to protect my sanity, physical, and mental health. Use condoms ladies and choose wisely who, when, where, and how you want to consensually conceive if in fact you want children someday. Don't allow yourself to be used, and abandoned.

For the world to not ruin them yet they had to be Younger than 21 girl 😅

@@AyAReI00 nooo I promise u not true!! It's in thei mid 30s late 40s and beyond they get jaded ❤️❣️

​@@anjaxtvoh ok ... Cuz most men are already twisted 😢, find good men is hard, they exist of course i have meet them, i Even respect them but for every single one i meet 10 Bad 😅😅😅😅

What's younger men to you? Because this is the same thing men in their 30s and older say to take advantage of young women in their late teens and early twenties.

At least don't date under 25 when you are in your 30s. That's for men and women. Let young people date in their age range because they will look back and have regrets or realize the dynamic was unequal.

Exactly! She's stuck with him in more ways than one!

Exactly! Nothing about this economy/world says "now's a great time to have a baby"! It's obvious foresight is not a natural human trait 🤣

@@elysiyah3364 i get her situation, not shaming her she was groomed but for to have 6 children in this day in age is crazy asf

At 26 and now that she knows he ain't 💩 if she continues to get impregnated by him she's a willing participant!

Thank you 😊

She’s obviously very dumb, vulnerable, and gullible, and was a literal CHILD when his brainwashing of her began!! She’s a victim and this is a tragedy!

💯💯 Exactly! 6 KIDS ain't no accident! Her "self-preservation mode" should've BEEN kicked in!