My son died in a motorcycle accident eleven years back, I miss him terribly, I can recall a conversation with him a year or so prior to this prompted by something he had seen on tv where a young man had become quadriplegic, ‘ Mum, if I ever end up in this position, please do not prolong my life.’ It must be so,so hard to adjust to a life like this after the carefree days of youth. There are times when I think we’d have coped and any life would have been better than none at all. We will never know as he didn’t survive the accident. He was an admirable young man with his life ahead of him and my heart continually aches for his loss but I don’t think he would have coped living like Stuart had to after his accident. RIP to both. Xx
I admire a caregiver who loves their work and who does top notch work and nothing less by those with physical disabilities....the elderly and children/babies ....so to all of you out there a huge hug & a huge THANK YOU !!!
My heart hurts watching this honestly... he was such a strong man with an amazing personality.... seeing my problems are nothing to his.... I’ve learnt so much from him... thanks so much and he will always be missed as he was a gem of a person... I still can’t believe he passed away!
@@winternachts.maedchen That's usually how it goes. Curtis Mayfield died that way, I believe. Christopher Reeve was going great guns, but then an infection got him. Something about the condition or treatment compromises the person's immune system.
At nearly 70 I couldn’t have lived this life, at 20, or 30, . I wouldn’t have his determination, my life would have been over . I would have been distraught as I wanted to, travel and sail, marry and have children all the things I have done in my life and I held dear including my independence. You were a very brave person to have been able to embrace the life you had left to you. Sincere admiration.
Stuart is very courageous to accept life after this. He's a great inspiration for me during this documentary that I watched twice. I won't see life the same now, it is so fragile. RIP Stuart you won't be forgotten.
Hello Stuart, first I would like to say how deeply sorry for the injury I am. During all four years at college I worked on the paralysis dorm for the boys. We had many quads and I did the full the personal care routines. You my dear have a beautiful spirit. I lost my precious love of my life son at age 16. I find it is impossible for the average person to understand the depth of trauma a life altering event brings. Especially when it is a permant situation. For me I lost many years of life after, however it has been 13 years and I have found my way. The human spirit truely is amazing. I was always a very kind, loving, caring woman, It was my internal nature. I however must say in some positive aspect of a horrible accident I became even more loving and kind,learned imense patience and tremendous empathy. I learned the VALUE of people, sounds like a simple word yet it is in my opinion one of the most profound words there is. Sometimes in life tomorrow really never comes. I admire your spirit and the tenacity of a man who embraces what HE DOES HAVE. Should you ever need someone to simply remind you that life can be Amazing no matter what we face, you can respond. I am a 54 year old woman who is only reaching out as a friend. My nature is to nurture, always has been and always will be. I wish for you days filled with joy, love, friendships and fun. May the light of GOD surround you Stuart. Julie
I am a nurse and over the years I have wondered why no one has invented a people wash, so that people who are immobilized can be showered safely. I have the design in my mind but I don't have the skills necessary to follow through on that.
3:04 As if things weren't bad enough then along comes someone who tries to blind him lol. His postive attitude was inspiring and he had great humour too. Now resting in peace 🌷🌹
Game over I’d rather be dead. Because this has never happened to me that’s my opinion now. Don’t think it would change. This isn’t a life for me. I feel horrible for him. He’s stronger than I am. Until his final day. RIP
What an extraordinary young man! The courage & strength this man possesses is rare & most deffinatly admirable. Life is so extremely precious. We all have a story & will give an account one day for what we did w/ this precious gift. Many of us will never have anything close to this kind of difficulty so we need to encourage those who do w/ our words & deeds. What a great attitude & outlook. How inspiring.
My heart goes out to all his family and friends Stuart your an inspiration to me for this thankyou xxx i do hope things are going ok for you and your family with much love and blessings in abundance from Australia
Stuart!!!! Mi dispiace per la tua perdita! Sei stato un uomo meraviglioso!!!! Hai voluto donare i tuoi organi per aiutare le persone che avevano bisogno di un trapianto!!! R,I,P.Caro Eroe
To you people who say youd rather be dead.. you ve not experienced what this man has been through and the absolute will to live one must go through after a life altering accident it's easy to say I'd rather be dead but you have no clue wtf your even talking about think before you post and have some humanity I personally think this guy is a hero! And the fact he strives to live and have a semblence of a life is extremly inspiring .. Stewart stay strong keep fighting and keep your strong will brother I'm praying for you.
He is extremely strong and inspiring and has a lot more character than I would under similar circumstances. I just would not want to be saved from something like this
The Revealing u:. NB Everyone has not a background of healthy start like he, then, one goes through accident and convalescence in different way, it is harder with childhood traum,a having shrunk ones personality, spirit, energy levels, survival instinct, joie de vivre, ability to cope psychologically, lacking the social glue of lifes thriving. i am left without medical care , am too stress damaged by not-understanding, abusive, doctors wasting my life time. Terrifying and sad as hell.They have said I cant heal, and that I need help, yet they in effect seem to demand me to not have the symptoms I have. Going to Dr = too overaroused and exhausted to function and leaving with worsened condition., more stress and fear Staying alone = Not that stress and fear, but stress and fear from getting worse without care, unable to carry out everything without the assistence. Interesting challenge and dilemma to solve. Have tried for 20 years, have to find now!
He was always a positive person though ,alot of people who get paralysed badly think about suicide though , I would definetly think about it seriously I have been through nearly dying when my bowels ruptured out the blue from crohns , I got so depressed after the life saving life changing op I defo wished and said I wished they hadnt saved me , thats just with a bowel problem, But having perm paralysis would definetly make me want to die and woudlnt be so easy/quick to get over the feeling, but it would feel worse to know you cant even do it unless someone else helps you although I know my partner will kill me if I get so bad physically one day an dont like living at all anymore an would for him an my son anyone Id do it for
Bravo Stewart let me say thank you for your courage in sharing you experience it takes a brave person to step out of themselves to share tragedy of life the way you have not that your life is a tragedy I am not saying that I too have a disability I was bored cerebral palsy my cousin is well is in a wheelchair he is a quadriplegic now but the strengths that he's show me over the years is amazing the inside at the love you show people is incredible you are an amazing person:-) I know how my expense is but I bless with so much today was a incredible hard day for me but something made me watch your experience so glad I did he gave me a new appreciation 4 my life expense thank you for sharing your experience:-)
I have to give him credit for going forward as much as he can. I guess there is no choice really. I would want some time alone, but it would be frightening knowing that if your ventillator messes up you could die in 2 minutes. I don't know how it works to get people to care for you round the clock like that. Best wishes to him and mad respect.
Damn, he's a brave young man to keep his good attitude. It looks like his caregivers are genuinely kind people. I want the same insurance he must have!
Yes. That got me thinking about an accident that happened near where I live, in Charleston, SC. To make a long story short Marc Buoniconti, son of Nick, a famous former Miami Dolphin, was playing in a Citadel football game. He suffered an injury similar to Stuart from these clips. He was a quadriplegic but he and his famous father founded The Miami Project, which became a major player in spinal cord injury research. When I saw these clips of Stuart, I googled Marc, to see what became of him and he's still alive, over 30 years later! And not only has he worked in the Miami Project, when his father became ill due to the same syndrome that Aaron Hernandez supposedly had (caused by taking too many hits to the head), Marc started working to promote funding, research for that too. So even though Stuart only lasted a year, it isn't always that way.
At least even in this condition he can speak hear and see. If he couldn’t speak, he wouldn’t be able to tell if some part of his body hurting and that could mean in death. If he couldn’t hear he still wouldn’t have known why he couldn’t feel and that would’ve resulted in lots of panic and death. If he couldn’t see he wouldn’t have known where he was and that would’ve resulted in death. So he still has a reason to live.
We often take life for granted. It can change in an instance. It must be so difficult Stewart to have to adapt to a life that you could never have imagined. I hope that science progresses and that something can be changed to improve your life. Xx
Jesse Collens in Tacoma Washington has C1 spinal injury from bicycle accident 15 yrs ago . He needs ventilator & 24 hr nurses . He CANNOT move & seeks female relationship not a caregiver.
Is there a back up generator for his respirator in case the power goes out? Odd question maybe but in Northern Ca they turned the power off to help prevent more fires. A man died as his oxygen was cut off and he couldn’t get to his portable supply. Stuart is an amazing man.
What a difference though, in the midst of the dreadfulness, y´to have been normal before the accident, and being psychically/mentally healthy. for me, things get worse with my spine, probably unnecessarily, because no Dr and dentist/therapist will treat me without personal assistence for every-day stress relief and preparation . They want it simple, are not so knowledgeable or good-willing, but ant to have it simple. With traumatized Aspergers, I did not realize the folders and law don't equal reality..and am doing efforts at helping myself, although in isolation, anxiety of isolation aggravates then whole thing. I need help and support to get my home , money and civil, húman rights back, as well as the social rep. They have lied and twisted so much, and even on court!.Hope I don't come out as self-pitying.. not sure of those emotions and the calm, balance wanted!
I don't understand, in the last minute of the clip he says if could make it that he never plays ruby and not be injured or he has his life as it was, his injury and to never walk or feel again and he says he would still chose to play ruby and be injured cause it was so much fun playing ruby as a kid???? I don't get it, that's crazy talk to me. Seriously, accepting your fate is one thing but that statement to me is stupidity.
What an unimaginably cruel trajedy. The severity of his injury seems, his total dependency on a team of carers and a resporator seems to me entirely incompatible with life. The :miracle' of modern medicine makes this possible, but it cant make life worth living. He gave it a good go, he was very brave, but death must have been a mercy
That's amazing they let him use public transportation he'd be more prone to infection and catching germs but im sure he's determined to be normal I guess
Well hopefully it will never happen to you. What a horrible way to live. But the will to live is strong. I don’t know what I would wAnt in that situation.
If I was in this situation than I would have appeal for mercy killing . I was in bed for 1 month as I broke my ribs n spinal cord . I was not able to live such handicap life for 1 month also ... you r true hero n inspiration 🦸♂️...
