Abdul. Your content is excellent. I have found that many channels discussing this material are unclear, confusing, contradictory, etc. However, your explanations are very clear, easy to understand with the bottom line being that they make sense. You explain specific clinical characteristics without all the ridiculous psychobabble typical of those with credentials in the mental health profession. Many of them cannot explain such things clearly because they obviously don't clearly understand the issues themselves, whereas you seem to have a very clear and personal understanding of the various types of narcissists. Not only do you understand and explain their typical behavior patterns but you also shed light on their thought process, internal state, and reasons for their behavior that are likewise easy to grasp because they make perfect sense to those of us with experience in Narcland. Thank you for this information, it has helped me to clearly understand the narc I am dealing with, and what I need to do in the future
I'm an empath but it sometimes feel like a burden because energy vampires LOVE to attach themselves to us. I'm still blessed to have this gift❤😍. Thanks so much
Emotional and psychic vampires are apaths or emotional voids (exhibiting narcissistic traits). Learning to identify them and reverse the flow will frighten them and theyll leave you alone forever. Unless theyre suicidal.
Im an empath.. in a narcissist marriage. You have said out loud my dynamic. Thank you for helping me to understand myself. On top of being an empath. . My mother abandoned me at 5. Then died when i was 17.. of course i got pregnant.. raised my children..never had the time to understand myself. So thank you. I need this.
Hey Betty. Same here - grew up in an orphanage, many, many traumas before I was abandoned in the orphanage, married for 16 years and God revealed the narcissistic abuse which is taking place in my marriage, I only got shown today who I am: A Beautiful and powerful Super Empath. I am so excited in learning more about me, then I am going to express who I am so that the world can experience who I am.😌 Can’t wait to set myself free from this dark and evil marriage I’m in. Blessings to you!
@@caitlovesasmr yeah, after being diagnosed with Complex Trauma or PTSD and major depressive disorder, then I think you can begin to consider an empath
I appreciate that you do not shrink away from more esoteric and archetypal concepts. I find it very helpful and have much respect for your contributions to my growth.
Iam lucky to know more a bout empaths i didnt know i am one and thought i was flawed and something wrong with me .. thanks for helping me understand myself better🌸
I too have thought that I was flawed. But I have learned so much in this past month that I understand why I could not even understand myself as well as I thought I should. Your videos have been real eye opener for me. Thanks.
I didn't know I was one, either. I thought everyone experienced emotions the same way I always have. Unfortunately, I've been in a relationship with a narcissist for 7 years now, commonly blaming myself and improving myself to be "good enough." Now I am in a legal battle and as a man I am having an extremely difficult time. Searching high and low for help and support with little hopeful results. Sucks. But I am learning about myself! Yay :)
Best Psychologist on this earth PERIOD! I don't even know him personally and he understands EVERYTHING I GO THROUGH 100% I wish I knew him personally. I love the fact that he DOESN'T' SPEAK THE MEDICATION LANGUAGE 👍
Thank you so very much! I've been in "therapy" for most of my 61 years. Never was my my severe ptsd addressed. I guess it was the times I lived in. I thank you so much for explaining this issue! You've helped me more in a few minutes, free of charge, than years of expensive, pointless, and further trauma producing therapy ever did!. And never was my empathic behavior even noticed except by me.
You deserve honorary doctorates from Oxford, Cambridge, Harvard and Yale. You are liberating so many, many prisoners with the light of truth, compassion and courage. God bless and keep you SIR ABDUL SAAD... I humbly thank you.
This information given by this particular man, Abdul, is worth so much more than the time it takes to watch it! This man is practically a magician! If you really listen to what he says and think about and apply it! Ive already made huge HUGE improvements on understanding what I've been so confused by forever! Highly recommended
Thank you. Very intriguing and I relate strongly to the states you’re describing, particularly the over developed and maladapted inner child and relentless inner critic. I’m very much looking forward to hearing more about these states and how to recondition oneself to have healthy boundaries and live authentically.
Not understanding the inner child yet (hopefully it will become clearer in future videos), but I definitely know the inner critic. "Relentless" is a perfect descriptor. I think the inner critic is my main source of self-talk. I'm really intrigued by the warrior. I know I have one, because I see it when I'm advocating for someone I love, but I can't seem to mobilize it on my own behalf. Right now I have a friend who's advising me in my dealings with my narcissistic sisters, but I so want to pull my punches. I have to force myself to trust my friend's advice and not give in to feelings of fear (of their reactions) or low self-worth (that I don't deserve to stand up to them). Now I'm off to (re)watch the videos he mentions on the critic and the warrior.
Rebecca Woolfolk I can really relate to that inner conflict: defending your values and the fear of outer conflict(!) we’ll tolerate such conflict within ourselves though?! I used to say I try to never think in words but only pictures and feelings because words did nothing for me. It’s dawned on me now that it was because the language I was using was almost solely critical or fear-mongering.
@@rebeccawoolfolk5377 when we mobilize it for ourselves we realize we’re surrounded by narcs that want to keep us down in the box they have all put us. I’ve stood up for myself and have very few close friends now, it’s lonely but I’ve just kind of accepted it.
I really appreciate how you focus on empaths and helping us understand ourselves and not just the narc. I want attract better for myself and heal from my past. Thank you
Yes. I have focused so much on the Narc that is abusing me that I have forgotten how powerful and beautiful pure Love can be. The lights only came on today and I cannot tell you how excited I am to understand who I am as a Beautiful and Super Powerful Empath.
I really needed to hear this today! I’ve been operating through my inner child and horrible inner critic but as soon as you explained about the adult and warrior I remembered the times when they’ve been my operating states. My depression, mostly, is caused by my sense of lack that I am no longer these ‘ people’ or versions of myself. Just knowing that they are there and always a part of me, albeit underdeveloped, has filled me with a sense of pure hope and joy. Thank you 😊
I cannot believe how accurate your work is when it comes to the empath and narcissist relationship. It's like you are speaking directly to me. It's been 2 years since my split with the narcissist, and I'm still learning and healing. Thank you so much for your continued commitment to this incredibly toxic relationship.
Thought I was an empath all my adult life but nope.. turns out I'm a pretty self-centered person. I'm a type 5 on the enneagram and although I can empathize and have a great deal of compassion towards people, my inner life is mostly centered around myself and my own needs first. I actually have to cultivate the ability to be more selfless. Realizing this about myself has been a massive punch in the gut, needless to say.
Bravo Bez 11 you have the guts and honesty to face the truth of yourself Self awareness is painful for most of us (certainly has been for me) but a priceless treasure and a prerequisite for further enlightenment Congratulations to you Maybe you've read them already but I found a very helpful book 2 b "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Riso His " Personality Types " is a big ouch but if you're up for it very eye opening Best to you in all ways
No reason for not being an empath just because what you see is selfishness. I've answered your other question in the comments, I'm a 4 too but I see it differently. Empathising with people is different to empathy, and what you say about it seems more like sympathy.
@@riteasrain please elaborate. I always put my own feelings first and have no problems distancing myself from people and creating boundaries. Never been a victim of narcissistic abuse. I can get quite aggressive if people violate my private space or if I feel disrespected.. I can't really recognize Dr. Abdul Saad's description of the empath in myself.
@@debroo2128 thanks for your comment. Yeah I'm currently reading Personality Types and it's the book that kinda flipped my understanding of myself upside down. As soon as I read the description of the type 4 it just shook me. It was very uncomfortable and at times, I even felt a bit of disgust.
Thank you so much for this series! I am taking notes and looking forward to learning more deeply about myself and also how I can help others more in my private practice as a therapist. I love how you explain things and how it makes it so easy to understand and integrate.
Thank you your work has helped me innerstand myself and others so much, my transformation has elevated because of you im not projecting anymore im setting boundaries and people don't like especially my family i had to leave them in another state to heal thanks again
Great verse very prophetic. Also, we are all created by God but we do not become true children of God unless we accept the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross for our salvation.
Brilliant model, it really helps me make sense of how I'm thinking and feeling often in my adult life and relating it to my childhood life and my inner child now. Thank you for sharing this work with all of us.
Wow! Thank you.🙏❤. I've been through all three stages and I'm now a Warrior! This video has helped me to learn and understand about myself so much. I'm blessed 😊
Thank you so much, Dr. Saad. I find this series so useful, because there is so much available on narcissists, but so little on the psychological dynamics of an empath. It's great for us to understand our "adversary" on his/her own psychological terms, but I think it's even better that empaths have a psychological understanding of themselves. Self-acceptance starts with self-knowledge, and it is not only empowering but an effective safeguard against narcissistic people. I'm excited about this series! Also, your beard is absolutely fantastic!
Thank you Dr Saad for sharing your knowledge. I'm 71yrs in making destructive ways of being upon myself.Ive been divinely guided to listen to this video, as I've been brought to my knees today. Arohanui from New Zealand.
Unfortunately Christianity namely Roman Catholicism has made guilt a virtue, seeking confession felt goodness was returned however temporary that was, especially as a child/young adult ( until the next bad thought or action arose ) Today I can forgive myself as I know God hears my everything. Finding your channel is a blessing for my healing. Aroha mai, aroha atu.
Thank you so much for this series. It helps and explains a lot to me in a phase of reconstruction, after skipping two narcissistic friendships which I kept in hindsight way too long. Thank you!
Thank you so much for providing answers for questions I didnt know I had. You are so articulate. I feel so much strength and understanding from your videos.
Yum! You are so calm and reassuring, my inner child likes you. Richard Schwartz's Internal Family Systems model resonates strongly with what you are presenting here. He has some impressive client demonstrations working with the various parts (self-states) on youtube. Thank you for sharing your insight and knowledge.
Thanks for this video. It has already begun to help me. I started "looking through the eyes" of the four internal self states when a certain circumstance would come up. You info was spot on. Looking forward to up coming videos. GOD speed!
Such good insight and a great model that helps me understand these different sides of myself that have been strong and vibrant in the past, and got broken down, and now I’m healing back towards the fully embodied empath state, but this time I have all the wisdom I gained through being in the abusive relationship. Strangely, I see now the whole experience surrounded by abusers as a sort of hard core intuition-training period, and it led me on the real deep healing/ and becoming true self- path 💗🙏💗
This is helping me to understand how sometimes people cjange to a very different personality. I have several times seen a domineering person, when called to account, start acting in a babyish fashion, even displaying the postures and mannerisms of a toddler or infant. It's disturbing!
I do react strongly to injustice but only when other people are suffering. Probably because it is too hard to acknowledge that I myself am terribly disadvantaged in many areas, and that I need help, probably more urgently than the other people whose lives I am focuses on fixing. I also derive my sense of wellbeing from others. If they are happy I am happy. Obviously that can backfire because I can't control anything outside of myself. I had a volatile childhood because of my mother's frequent mood changes, been depressed for years in young adulthood after my group of friends fell apart, and suffered a breakdown which triggered a bout of autoimune disease after a discard from a narcissist. Who I was fully aware was not right for me, and I realized that I had not lost anything valuable, but get this - it bothered me that he made it impossible for me to help him and fix his life! I totally went against my own self interest in that relationship, with the only goal of alleviating the injustices he had to suffer. I hope this series will help me learn how to be resilient to whats happening outside of me (inner child work?), all the things I cannot control, and how to protect myself from the injustice (warrior?).
Well letting aside the fact that you identify yourself with the victims because of your childhood I think it is normal and a sign of mental health to react to injustice in a world where so many people look the other way!!! 💙
What a beautiful gift you are! Every video is spot on and so helpful. I will be scheduling a session to meet with you and gain more insights into myself soon. You have such a wonderful understanding of empaths! Thank you fine sir. 🙏🏼❤😌
Thank you so much for your helpful insight. It's refreshing to find spot where RU-vid is understandable & appreciated as helpful resource, lol. Really looking forward to the rest of the series rollout. You are a gift I appreciate. I hope it's ok that I share your stuff on Twitter. Maybe everyone doesn't want my big mouth attached to their projects. Apparently you can block me from a RU-vid channel so I assume u would, if that's the case. Great to have place to go to escape the huge content of narcissists on RU-vid. Just looks like their playground most days, lol. Thx😊
Yes - a very good question as to why, even when armed with conscious knowledge and awareness of their vulnerabilities, Empaths still struggle to adapt and change their behaviours in the face of narcissistic-type behaviours.
Oh my gosh, you are giving me great insight into how well I've actually self navigated... Everything started to change after I attended the Enlightened Warrior Training Camp, and then went back to crew the event a few times. It's exactly as you say. Hence enlightened as the adjective. Warrior energy is grounded, protective and fully committed... And funnier thing, the guy that runs the most transformational day at the camp has a treatment center for at risk teens in Colorado and I was thinking, he's got the #1 Parenting Podcast in the states and you'd be a GREAT guest to have on. It's called Beyond Risk and Back, on Mental Health News Radio Network. In any case, he delves very deep into archetypal trainings with us, and for me, coming to know my warrior was the path that lead me to awareness of my attachment trauma that ultimately landed me on this RU-vid channel.
Fantastic to see you back again Dr S bringing your amazing clarity and insights into models of psychology. This is an interesting direction; looking forward to more.
Very intriguing Reminds me of a book by psychologist Robert Waggoner, "Lucid Dreaming, Gateway to the Inner Self" which goes very deep also and touches very much on the material presented here Thanx 4 this series Doc Would love your insights on all of the Enneagram types and how each can break thru 2 enlightenment God Bless you
Lucid dreaming...been doing it off and on since childhood. I didn't know it had a name nor that it was somewhat rare. Very helpful for the inner person.
So great, yes working on my "warrior" for a while now, so others don't take advantage of my trusting heart. It's been very challenging, but your videos have helped so much! Thank-you for this series!
ALHAMDU LILLAH... JAZAKALLAHU KHAIRAN KASEERA.. SIR YOUR DESCRIPTION IS INDEED VERY ACCURATE.. I JUST REALIZED EXACT THESE STAGES AS I WAS ALWAYS EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED FOR GOODNESS ALWAYS HURT BY WRONG PEOPLE RECENTLY 2 YEARS BACK I WAS STRUCK BY A NEEDY COVERT NARCISSISTIC SADISTIC APPEARING ALMOST AT THE EDGE OF SUCIDE.. (THE WORST OF THESE KIND TEAR ME APART). THERE I REVIEWED MY WHOLE LIFE IN THESE 4 STAGES SINCE CHILDHOOD). 1.INNER CHILD (ITS HEART OF INNOCENCE IN THE PRESENCE OF THE LORD THE MOST GRACIOUS AND MERCIFUL). 2.INNER CRITIC(THEY EVEN CRY FOR WHY THEY ARE LIKE SO AS THEY ARE NOTHING BUT AN EMPTY BODY WITH HELPLESS SOUL - CRYING - OH MY LORD HELP US. 3.ADULT(HERE GOD GIVES SECRET KNOWLEDGE, STRATEGY AND WISDOM TO REALIZE HOW TO SECURE THEIR INNER CHILD WITHOUT BEING AFFECTED BY NEGATIVE ENERGY AND TO FIRM AGAINST DARK ENERGIES-WILLING TO DESTROY HUMANITY). ULTIMATELY LEAD TO WARRIOR STATE WITH SPRITUAL ARMS AND AMMUNITION TO ACHIEVE HIGHER GOODNESS FOR THIS WORLD). 4.WARRIOR(ULTIMATELY STRONGER TO STAND AGAINST INJUSTICE. (THEY ARE NEVER UNJUST AS THEY FEAR GOD).
Ive always said im made of 4 parts. hurtstina meanstina teenstina momstina.. teenstina rebels a lot and meanstina criticizes which isnt helpful and momstina tries to coach teenstina into making better decisions by upliftings and reminding. hurtstina is always coming though asking if something is wrong and is scared and overwhelmed of anything that is changing or threatening.
Hey Pisces! Also a Pisces here. Lol, a while back I started “parenting” myself and reconstructing my beliefs, talents, shortcomings and motivations. My son said it sounded weird when I’d say that I parented myself hahahaha.
That makes sense why personal development work helped me so much and I kept going back to it even though it never quite helped me get to awareness of my real problem... What it did though, was it activated my adult to set limits on my inner critic... I have done things like practice removing negative words from my language and telling myself positive things. It's funny how my pain has had to adapt around it. I've learned to harness that little voice so it says I'm valuable and have a lot to offer and I believe it... In a way kind of positively gaslighting myself. LOL... Really though, I have some positive beliefs about self, so the ache of loneliness and not feeling that I belong got packaged in a place of sad confusion, like I just don't understand what it is about me that makes people leave or discard me, or why when people do love me they live far away... But I won't quit believing in what's good about me that would bless others if they chose to be close to me. I'm always gonna keep a candle lit for that part of me and never let it burn out because I'll never quit. I may not know how to begin this journey, but I'll wake up everyday willing to take another step.
Thank you so much for the very clear explanation. I see all those states in myself. My inner child is the more prominent one aswell as my inner critic. When we think with our emotional mind, I wonder which state this is? I would imagine the logical mind would be the 'adult self'
This is brilliantI So insightful, every idea rings true to me and fits together pieces of the empath psyche I've been struggling to understand. Thank you so much. New subscriber!
this is so me and i really wish that i were aware of all these much earlier so i can love, care & protect myself better. thankyou for this quality content, sir! 🙏 anyway, do you have any explanation/research about how empaths related to HSP, OCD & anxiety disorder?? i would love if you give some insights to us about this. thankyou. 💜
Thank you for these insights. As a Christian knowing God as a heavenly Father is my deepest security and joy that helped and continued to help me face any difficulties in this life!
