The ENTP Empath: A Different Perspective 

My pleasure! I know too many kind & sensitive ENTPs in real life to let this unfair stereotype continue unabated.

"I'm so touched I have to emojis," lol. I'ma have to cop that, good stuff.

I know - right??? This is so ridiculously validating 💜💜💜. And eerily on point. Thank youuuu 😘😊

Eff it. I wanna be a sociopath. It'll be much more peaceful.

Also, how do you know you're not an INTP? I need help.

My pleasure :)

its difficult to navigate with people who think you are a cold, narcissistic dick when in fact.....

@@CognitivePersonalityTheory So basicly the entps have not only fooled themselves, other entps, but also the World. A World whos All to willing take it and to give the Illusion thier own t positiv or negativ Twist to fit thier narative. turnig the Illusion into propaganda lie. How the fuck are you supposed to feel about that

I feel you man. I wish all people could disagree to agree.

bro it's just because we care alot more about people than they think and when ever we get mad its the worst of the worst so we get a negitive outlook

Agreed

Oh? I thought it was to be expected; how much time do they have for their own emotions? And if they need to be alone too much they won't have much outside input for reflection. It's a bit like they'd need to pull their own weight, but they're not into pulling. So I can imagine their mental own-emotion muscles atrophying.

@@fleetingfootnotes9133 Even after severe atrophying lifelong they are still stronger than AT LEAST half of the 16.

Because if you actually do have intense emotions you can't guarantee that you can get the social outcome that you want because the situation in question requiers a different emotion. Feelings have sense as a reflection of the world around you, not as a result of you're own state. Why? Because you have the impression that you can't be understood.

I believe it's because we can perspective shift by imagining a scenario by moving through the events using a cause and effect logical analysis to forsee who will and will not be happy or not happy about a certain result from the task at hand. That's how that looks, we don't have a good personal fluid use of colorful emotions and warm expressions, we are not silly or playful, and we don't get what's inappropriate to make funny comments on until it's too late because we often speak on sacred aspects of life as if they are just ideas to throw around, however these things are not okay at all times and around all types, we get better once we are aware of this and want to evolve.

You're right, female ENTPs are generally more likely to mistype as ENFPs :) Thanks for your comment!

I think ENTPs had traumatic childhoods

Beloved. If you have not, I suggest listening to the audiobook (I know! I know.) Will by Will Smith.

Likewise:)

Cognitive Personality Theory I was typed as an ENFP mostly throughout my hs / teen years until recently I’ve been typed as an ENTP so this is so true !

Awesome to hear - I appreciate you commenting!

@@CognitivePersonalityTheory absolutely, I second what David said! I’ve mistyped as enfp and INFJ almost simultaneously every other time I took the test. So out of my confusion, I’ve studied the cognitive functions like introverted feeling, but never personally related to it. I’ve always felt people’s emotions to a point where I sometimes cannot control my tears. I believe it’s my Ne read of people and zooming into Fe, I then pair Fe with Ti to take care of what’s happening in the moment because I know it will lead to what’s underlying. I’ve never felt so heard in MBTI because I’ve bounced between enfp and INFJ for too long, but entp empath sounds more suitable

'It's not illogical to care' - perfectly said. I am frankly amazed this sociopath stereotype took off! Time and time again I'm hearing from ENTPs such as yourself who are deeply empathetic by nature. Thank you for your comment!

Same even reading this almost made me cry HA

Me too, I care that's why I argue.

I've never really understood why so many people don't seem to 'get' the deeper emotional side of the ENTP to be honest!

The Ne function can seem very invalidating sometimes just because of how much it can jump around. I've learned to accept it, but I understand why it is can be mistaken for being disengaged or cold in some way.

But isn't that borderline personality disorder? Saying this because I have some traits of bpd and am an entp

My mum has bipolar and I’m an ENTP is that what u mean?

@@gouthambolt bpd

BPD mom, psychopath dad, both abandoned me at 17 lol.

well I am ENTP and yes I do have that- ;-; why me lol

Happy to cause said fudge - cheers for the comment!

Cognitive Personality Theory lol 😂

Agreed 100%. Thanks for the great comment!

Errr... a brief cautionary word or two. [You even superficially resemble her. It was the headband that hooked me early on.] Don't become boring. Tall order; I know, but life has a way of making our actions and thoughts routine. Don't let it. Also, we are an unknown quantity, since the thought gnomes are always working. We will seem to change outwardly. Know that the same machinery is still in place, just running updated software. Please keep up with the current version of him as not to be unpleasantly surprised. Promise him tonight: No INFJ doorslam ever. Talk about cutting off your nose to spite your face.

Are you really giving unsolicited romantic advice? And to a women also no doubt. Jesus. You ain't sucking his dick boy hush.

Thank you so much

@@richsackett3423yep

Ahaha!

That’s funny!! (In reality, I do know the answer though, at least the vast majority of the time. Maybe I am dead inside ;))

@@1chienandalou we all are. Check out r/antinatalism.

@@Haru-nee icky, ew.

People accuse me of backtracking. (... They are correct). I'll deny I ever meant what I said seriously to my grave if there's consequences!!!!!

Ah. Spoke too soon. You address this.

Thanks for your comment! Many ENTPs are gifted at presenting themselves in a manner that countless highly different people can find resonance with - PewDiePie is a great example too!

@Who let the virus out? Woof woof woofhan Whoa now let's hold of assuming we'll like every person of x type soley because they're x type XD I'm not a huge fan either, but cognitive function wise he seems innately tapped in to the Fe of his audience while expending social energy according to an Si-Ti framework :)

I get that! Also a female ENTP and I am very uncomfortable being personally celebrated or the guest of honor. I don't mind informally being the center of attention but formally makes my skin crawl

Yeah, I think a lot of gatekeeping against women entps is their well-developed Fe being seen as too dominant. It has a lot to do with how they're socialized.

What do you mean I don't look happy? Carl Jung who did the original MBTI 😂🤣😂

Thanks for sharing!

Yes, you describe it here perfectly! :) ENTPs are incredibly socially gifted and are the type I've been most inspired by when learning to use my Fe in a more convergent manner.

I relate N Y X Been in a typing spiral going ENTP, INFJ, ENFJ and back again (even considered xNTJ for brief periods of time)

I'm always told I'm an Entp but I relate more to infp except I'm way more loud at times. But basically everything being said about Entp is so similar to me as well and I'm annoyed because both types don't seem to always know themselves that well, but I guess you could say that's the case with everyone who doesn't know themselves well...I just hate not knowing. Drives me batty. Lol 😂😂😂

I'm an ENTP and my sister is an INFJ. We are joined at the hip and love engaging in deep conversations. We could go on for hours. My husband is an ISTJ, like most of the engineers I 've worked in high tech with.

@@7sanctuz this is hella late gosh don't know if youre out there but am in the same shituation fam

I often find ENTPs prefer the everyday expression of caring to big gestures, but I also think it's unfair for anyone to expect a continuous steam of Fe affirmation too! Such things can always be difficult to navigate. Thank you for your comment!

@@CognitivePersonalityTheory As another entp female, I concur. I can only maintain 1 or 2 Fe needy friendships at the same time. I way too easily "lose" them by dixit:ignoring them. While it's actually just..not really having that need for the chitchat, social calls and what not.But have learned that the couple of esfj's/isfj's I do have and want to keep need that, like watering a flower. But too much is too much.Look at what I do , not how often i send texts or call you. If I'm opening the door at midnight because you got in a fight with your bf, it should be telling more than my "life pings" in a friendship

“ENTPs prefer the every day expression of caring to big gestures...” Spot On! It actually tends to derail my interest in the early stages of friendship or dating if someone goes really big right at the beginning. A) It’s unsustainable and B) It comes across as needy and/or suspect. Now you apparently want/expect something from me that I might not be keen on being coerced into. Slow and steady wins the race 😉. Plus, being beneficial in my day to day life with little things gives me time and an excuse to get to know and appreciate you better. The adjusting empath in me is always uneasy about inserting myself too much into someone’s life. I don’t want to push in, take over or appropriate someone’s life, especially if I like or am attracted to them. I always give people space to reach back out to me to make sure they are as invested in the connection as I am.

@@revolutionfrommahbed4246 Amazing contributions, thank you!!

@@revolutionfrommahbed4246 spot on for me too.

I believe logic is comprised of both Subjectivity (feeling) and Objectivity (thinking), and a developed empathatic human being would definitely have a good relationship with both codec functions :)

I am litterally 50 feeling and 50 thinking in my result it really interesting

As an Entp, I find all feelings and guilt Illogical ;-;

@@Milkythefawn Feelings are illogical within their nature. But they serve a logical purpose within ourselves and our emotional connection with others.

emotions are a human thing-

Haha, cheers :)

Agreed :)

I love you ENFP! I love ENFP's and their deep understanding of the world around them, their kindness and acceptance of others whilst also standing up for what is right. I also love their humour; you are hilarious! I've never met a dull ENFP. ENTP

As an entp, I must say enfps and isfjs are my favorite feeler types

Cheers Devon, I appreciate it! What you have described is so often the case for other ENTPs - this is simply not a type that matches the MBTI dichotomies. Thanks for the comment :)

Hehe

I personally love it - only downside is a couple of your comments went, initially, under my radar! It was a pleasant surprise hearing from you, and I really appreciated the shout-out you gave within that time-frame ;) Thank you mate!

@Talking with Famous People I really try to restrain myself, but I can seldom stop myself from commenting all over the place. Makes sense that would be an ENTP thing.

This is a great comment, thanks so much! You offer a very fair distinction - uses of the word empath do often overlap with any perception (intuitive or otherwise) of emotion on a deeper level, I would offer.

You're very welcome

It's a common dilemma for sure! Cheers for commenting :)

Thank you for this comment!

I'm an INFJ, but this is something I do as well, ha! Caring for someone means being honest, true friends tell you when you are fucking up, enabling people is not love, rather the opposite. Also, it goes both ways, I don't want people I trust to tell me what they think I want to hear! Give it to me straight, lol. This might be my enneagram 6w5, but, I just think honesty is the only trustworthy quality (vs. the alternative); if I fuck up and don't know it, I also want to be told. Caressing my ego won't help me, so I want people to tell me the truth in my face if they truly care, and so I do the same.

Thank you for sharing!

I'd offer a similar compliment to ENTPs I know personally!

Can I come over for ribs?

My pleasure :)

@@CognitivePersonalityTheory I've gotten both results but I am an HSP and empathetic. But I'm highly analytical too. It's hard to tell what I am. I can't tell if I use Fi or Ti. I can't tell if I use Fe or Te.

Thanks so much for the reassuring comment! Yes indeed, I seek through CPT to cover all the possible cognitive factors while also distinguishing between cognition and personality factors such as identity - I'm starting with cognition and may in the future branch out from there :) Your description of your own experience as an ENTP is great - Ne is often a future oriented function, especially with the near-future, so the ENTP will so long as the Fe world is in order definitely be forward moving by nature!

Both types hate to be controlled for sure, and many ENTPs do indeed consider themselves as introverted due to their reflective nature :)

I went through a process where I thought I was Intp then I realized I was more social in comparison to intps, which made me think I could be a feeler type so I decided I might be an infp, but I was definitely not that emotional and I was also still more Entp like. It l Took me about a year but I finally figured out I have been an Entp this entire time. It’s kinda of crazy looking back because I used the intp and infp label to shape how I acted, “‘masks” and it actually caused me a lot of problems because using theses “masks” caused me to act contrary to my true self which as an Entp is actually extroverted although I do enjoy alone time. Properly typing yourself is important because if you mistype you unconsciously will shape your interaction styles to be more like the stereotypes of those mistyped types. This video also was really interesting I watched the whole thing CS Joseph also made some eye opening videos which helped me properly type myslef.

Bob Joe This is pretty close to my own experience. I thought I was introverted and framed my life around this persona, going so far to use it to normalize my destructive behavior. Wasn’t until last night I discovered personality types. I feel like a dunce though, when I look back all the signs are there. I’m so grateful that I finally figured out why I’ve felt as if I was an imposter.

Bob Joe this is congruent to my experience

Yes! Thank you for this comment - a great example :)

Thanks for commenting!

@@CognitivePersonalityTheory I practically love you

Thanks for this comment! :)

Too cute

Thanks for the great comment!

Thanks Michael, I'm really glad to hear you both resonated with this!

Keeping everyone happy in those situations can be difficult, but a decision must be made in any case. As an INFJ such decisions on behalf of others can be much more difficult, as my divergent Fe makes me far more risk-averse in such matters than an ENTP!

@@CognitivePersonalityTheory Oh I don't take decisions in the place of others. But it's more out of a..I want people to choose for themselves.I don't mind pushing people into taking a descision vs inaction and providing info ,basically be an agitator. And I will try to convince others of my preference, but they need to want it as well. I want them to feel like they are content with their choice, or it will disrupt harmony.If someone says "ok we'll go there because you like it", I'm seldom ok with that. The objective determinable concensus is the ultimate goal.It leaves the least possibility for annoyed people afterwards, or people feeling like their decision was not taken into account. And it provides.. justification should that situation arise anyway. It's as you mentioned, a framework. I am very aware of who in the group will act a certain way if a certain thing is said,and I always try to manage it to make everything as pleasant as possible for people. Not meaning I let myself be used because I will call out someone that is purposefully disturbing the harmony.It led me to believe I was not a "thinker" type for a long time, because I feel so much and am so sensitive to disharmony. But there is that.."cold streak" that I think allows me to actually act in a way that sometimes goes against harmony..to restore it. if that makes sense.

@@dwelfusius Fair points and great information - thanks! This is such a great example of the Fe utility operating from a logical Ti foundation :)

@@dwelfusius I concur. This is how I also operate in groups. I orchestrate, I moderate, I entertain, I distract all for group harmony.

Thank you for sharing this!

This is me

I'm damaged too. Personality hackers website and videos have been really helpful. The one where the break the four personality functions into sitting positions in a car is especially good for broken ENTP'S. They also suggest a book called Radical Honesty. Well I'm on my second reading, its a hard pill to swallow because it hits so close to the heart. Anyway, I don't want to get too dark and deep here so but these things have helped me and I hope they help you too.

My absolute pleasure :)

My honest pleasure!

Thanks so much for subscribing! ENTPs really are such caring people and it's my absolute pleasure to illuminate the empathic side of the type!

Pretty sure my ex was an INTJ and he NEVER understood the depth with which I cared for people in an ever expanding social circle. He didn’t believe I REALLY cared about anyone since I rotate and cycle through time spent with various different friends. He had two best friends, his mom, his siblings and me. In fact, he kinda had a hierarchy for which siblings he preferred as well. 😬 Of course, if you’re with a partner who you doesn’t believe you have strong feelings for anyone, it’s just a matter of time until you convince yourself that her feelings for you aren’t strong enough to matter. Blah. Onward and upward - and now, I can sit someone down with this video if they ever doubt me again😉

Nice!

Thank you!

I really, really appreciate that - cheers! :)

Often happens :)

My pleasure and thank you for sharing!

Hey Andrew, yes ESTPs are by comparison a lot better at pacing themselves, though the times they do need alone time are often comparatively more grumpy! They tend to be very open ended (and subsequently FOMO!) when it comes to a future outcome whereas the ENTP is often a lot more precise when determining whether something is worth their effort!

@@CognitivePersonalityTheory He didn't say his girlfriend was an ESTP, he said she was an ESFP. 😂 ESTP is the entrepreneurial type - Sociable, motivating yet statistical, and analytical in order to gain status, wealth and entertainment through self indulgence. ESFP is the entertainer type - Sociable and wanting to be the centre of attention, is typically into drama and theatre but isn't concerned with facts and figures and is apolitical.

@@ashleelmb Ah, my bad!! Indeed, my words on respective alone times applied more to the ESTP ENTP comparison - ENTP ESFP tends to be a pretty common and effective combination!

loved the social budget part, so true!

Cheers for the kind words!

You should! I find ENTPs utterly inspiring and am always slightly in awe of both their social energies and specific thinking style!

Great suggestion, and not the first ENFP ENTP request I've had - I'll definitely cover this at some point!

yes, please!! 🖤

Thanks so much for your awesome comment!

So often times this is the case - few types are naturally private, but many Fe users become thus as a necessity :)

Happy to read your blog my fellow N! Yes, when there's a decision to be made the ENTP will often (though certainly not always) shut down the axis between Fe and Ti and essentially communicate Ti with Ne-Te. The primary utility of the type, in most instances, is social, and therefore the playground tends to be one of externalised emotions :) I have a video exploring different forms of empathy! Many ENTPs will experience Mirror Empathy and, for so long as the person is within their locus of control, so they very much feel the emotional harmony of a social situation. The Relational Empathy component tends to be more unconscious in an ENTP, but still present, though I would say the humanistically-informed logic you're describing may be more of a Ti rationalisation of Fe data than empathy per se.

@@CognitivePersonalityTheory "playground... externalised emotions". Yes, that's what shakes many people. That we're perfectly happy to _show_ emotion, but don't employ it as the primary advisor for decision making. Living in a majority feeling-deciding world, people just expect that to be how a "decent person" functions, and they're often shocked when our "robotic" side is revealed. While I agree with you that absolutely anyone enduring past their threshold of hurt or betrayal is likely to fall into their type's weaknesses, I disagree that ENTPs are robotic for this reason. We're NTs, robotic is just part of the package. Yes, we're the most playful and emotionally expressive of the robots, but we're still robots. There's literally nothing wrong with that. Your last paragraph is a bit jargony for me to answer right now, so I'll try to check out your forms of empathy video and maybe ramble in that comment section too. I'm trying to understand what you mean by my description of empathy not really being empathy at all? Actually it sounds like you're describing... lol... a robot doing emotions. Which is genuinely hilarious if that's what you're saying. Alright, enough of my meaningless opinions for now. Thank you for taking the time to reply to me. I've enjoyed our conversation, and just for the sake of Poe's Law + possible thinker-feeler misunderstandings, everything I've said has been friendly, not fighty 👍. Signed, Cyborg 009.

Haha. Welcome to my blog that I publish in other people's comment sections.......you win best quote today.

Thank you for this comment!

That's awesome :)

Cheers :)

Thank you! Something that gets overlooked about INFJs is our capacity for intense Se-Fe experience - it definitely blends well with an ENTP-ness dynamic ;)

Thanks Aaron! Good ear! I am indeed from the North East - my non-UK subscribers tend to have a harder time placing my accent (latest parralel was an Irish accent); I originate from Durham! Stay safe.

I'm so glad you enjoyed this video mate! I've been keeping up with your channel for some time now and really appreciate you taking the time to comment - it's been an honour to shine a new light on a largely misunderstood type!

Cognitive Personality Theory thank you for saying that!!!

Talking with Famous People Harry says that people might often not identify with entp as their type bc of the stereotypes although its their accurate type and if I hadnt had your help, Eric, I still wouldnt know/ see its accurate for me too, that was huge. This video also helps a lot to clarify what really isnt said usually and its great seeing you supporting it.

ENTP-INFJ combos rock! Thanks for the awesome comment!

Thanks so much for this comment! The outlook you mention is near and dear to me - cognitive type only goes so far and despite variations in the way we process information we are ultimately all still human and affected by life in similar ways.

It can so often be the reverse in terms of such behaviour too! Cheers for watching! The video is gradually getting shown to more people :)

Thank you so much for these words! :)

Such a great combination! More ENTP videos are on their way :)

Cheers for the kind words!!

Thank you mate! Yes the ENTP stereotypes have been a source of frustration to me for some time, so it means a lot to see ENTPs such as yourself responding so well to the video :) I've subscribed to your channel and look forward to checking it out properly soon!

I'm in a facebook group "True entp" , it was a getaway from the entp main group that is full of trolly people feeling they need to adhere to the stereotypical entp image.It's awfull. Every once in a while we get some in our group,and they choose not to abide to the rules. Claiming, ENTP's don't do rules :D They don't last long. There I really found a cool spot of likeminded people, like finding your tribe.It was a magnificent experience.

Thank you so much for your awesome comments! I agree many, many younger ENTPs also have that inquisitive streak :)

Cognitive Personality Theory Im so impressed! How could you figure this out in such a precision? the not showing ones vulnerability (instead joking, lighten the mood, ...) Noone talks about that but its my life. Theres a big fat stop sign when its about showing weakness/vulnerability. Usually the Entp is being seen as unfeeling not vulnerable but feelings can be difficult to process and make us vulnerable because we are not so skilled in the area of Fi.

@@chrisd.2831 It's my privilege to know a few ENTPs personally, which has been a massive help in understanding the type on a deeper level :)

Thank you :)

Thank you very much!

Glad you think so!

Really glad you got something out of it!! :)

@@CognitivePersonalityTheory I'm actually watching this video again! 😍 For many years I suppressed my Fe partly due to being repeatedly hurt because of my marriage to a covert narcissist as well as due to him forcefully isolating me from family and friends. As u can imagine this caused me severe depression to the point of near suicide but fortunately those days are over. I can definitely see why an entp might under such circumstances display sociopathic behavior and had I not been responsible for the welfare of my children I likely too would have done a few crazy things. 😅 I can also understand how someone having acquired an inordinate amount of wounds in their lives could become narcissistic and attention seeking and develop entitlement syndrome. In fact I suffered from the entitlement until I read a book on it and realised I was playing the victim and that snapped me out of it really quickly. I refuse to become a burden to someone else because i haven't developed enough self awareness to rise above my circumstances/past. I have also been accused of being inauthentic when in social situations though I don't consider it being so. I think of myself as being multifaceted and depending on which group I'm with or which social situation I'm in a certain facet will then come to light. In my mind I'm connecting with people on a level that they are comfortable with and that allows for an enjoyable experience for all, especially since I have a very extensive range of interests. And yes! As a child/teen I was very introverted, spending most of my reading about my interests and writing stories or doing art and performing on stage. I was very quite at home but when in social situations rather boisterous and engaging which I supposed made me seem all the more fake to some haha! I have also often been accused of giving unsolicited advice. It's become a family joke now even though I don't do it anymore but generally when I am unable to help someone or fix a situation I feel 'useless'. When I am in introvert mode I'm usually learning something or doing some writing/reading. I cannot sit and do nothing! If I don't have some sort of creative outlet or means to sate my random bursts of curiosity I get extremely frustrated. Most of the time I forget to eat and don't even know I'm tired until I start to pass out while doing something because my quiet time is still productive time. I often wish I didn't need sleep/food/etc lol I don't think of myself as extremely scientifically inclined. Though I do enjoy science and experimenting I'm also only extremely stubborn if there are clear facts to back my claims up and the person trying to dissuade me has no proof. I'm rather open minded and if someone can offer me better more efficient theories/opinions/ideas I might change my point of view. As for the introverted intuition and introverted feeling I have in this last year I would say I have definitely ignored my need to make people happy and affirmation seeking tendencies in lieu of what I know is best for me and my children. Though it's very hard to do sometimes though I realised I have to live with myself and my choices, not other people, and thus I should do what makes sense to me for me and mine. Lmao I think I will stop this essay here since this is more than enough unnecessary information! Thank you again for your wonderful videos! I will keep on watching ❤️

No worries Dominick, I'm glad it didn't dissappoint! :)

What book? I want it also, can you please tell me the name of it. thks

@@soniac2156 "Cognitive Personality Theory" by Harry Murrell