I appreciate you so much I’m 27 because of my cerebral palsy I don’t really get to go on dates it was really hard for me to approach women when I was younger and in school I was helping me find my confidence. It’s hard enough being a normal guy. And approaching women but it’s harder when you have a disability
This video was more clear. I’ve watch 20 videos and none really gave the exact do’s. So it was refreshing to hear exactly what to do which is provoke strong emotional responses by doing a magic carpet (roller coaster) flow of conversation. Get her to FEEL and not THINK! Much better. Still would love more specific real life examples of this, but I understand enough to start applying it a little.
Thank you for advising men from a loving position absent of rude judgment and disqualification. A lot of what you say helps me to understand women and relationships. As a late bloomer for Everything in life never given proper guidance on these dynamics from my father, I'm desperately trying to get there but I always feel like I fall short and miss the mark❤
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love him and most times I cant stop thinking about him, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of him, but i just cant, i love him so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about him.
Hey I wanted to say thank you for your videos I went on a date for the first time in two years that I actually was pursuing I love the Termanology you said how you got a look at dating as exploring I really took that the heart and I appreciate it I was kind of nervous it’s been a long time but keep bringing out some good videos because men do appreciate them very much
If she doesn't feel attracted to you and you have to "make her think she's attracted to you", maybe she's not the one. I don't want someone's attraction to me to be eternally dependent on variable or changing factors. Emotions are fleeting so it's hard to Know and trust a woman actually loves you just because she says she does. Giving of my love is a big commitment but women don't seem to find love to be contractual. You can win a free Bugatti and feel graciously lucky but it doesn't matter in the long term if you can't afford the upkeep and regular maintenance fees that come with the responsibility and ownership of that experience. It's nice having nice things but I don't want to attain something bright and shiny if it could slip through my fingers and be in someone else's possession next year. Long term or bust.
Apollonia Ponti Nice content as always, Please can you do a video on dating a woman in her 40's what to exspect if your a younger guy that be much appreciated!
I did a lot of research and women are vague on what a emotional roller coaster is so I’m willing to see if what I think and what you got are close what course focus on the emotions roller coaster and that the one I want to get right now
Appolonia i love your content, i am a lesbian woman and ive followed your tips for a long time! I wanted to come with a suggestion, how about discussing topics like emotional labour or mental load! Alot of women leave or get divorced because there is too much emotional labour or mental load in the relationship and its also apart of love language. Fx if her love language is acts of service then that means men should be prepared for being concious of how they can contribute to minimizing mental load and they can infact offer this in courtship to attract the woman they want. It is also important that they continue to do this to keep a stable relationship. Basically it is evolving emotional intelligence and bringing something new to the table to offer. Few men understand the burden of emotional labour or mental load. It is a great advantage Could you also discuss dating divorced ed women. Im inna relationship with a person that has been divorced for less than a year now and idk what to expect or if i should be insecure Also discuss love vs limerence
Thank you I can see what my wife likes best. And to be honest I don't click up to that. I noted it make her feel she is beautiful by doing the things she likes best
Me and my girlfriend are on a break but we live together and we have lil girl together and we still sleep in the same bed together is this a sign to give this break time
I've been thinking about this more since watching it earlier this morning and I arrived at a question that can provide some insight and understanding. Which meal is higher quality and better tasting: One that is ready in 3-5 minutes or one that takes 10-12hrs of cook time and prep?🤔💡🧠 Expediency Vs Value and Sustainability
Could you also discuss dating divorced ed women. Im inna relationship with a person that has been divorced for less than a year now and idk what to expect or if i should be insecure
Apollonia question.i told a girl.i know that her boyfriend is a very lucky guy to have her as his girlfriend. I told her I wish she were my girlfriend. Was this an OK move or not
So last night I had a date then we went out and had some tacos and like I said this is the first day I’ve been on in two years that I’ve pursued and we talked for a good hour and I was trying to figure out who she is what she’s about because I know what I want these days I’m looking for long-term high value go orientated. I truly believe I’m kind of leaning in the sapiosexual side as a man I love intelligence and talking about solutions problems but not in a gossip wit I’d like to try to bring light into some dark things. So then in the night my gut feeling was saying this one wouldn’t really be for you for longevity or long-term maybe in the moment and pleasurable yeah so I did message her and I was real with her and honest about how I felt Do you think this was the right move I’m really asking for your valuable advice
Hi Apple, I think dudes have trouble in relationships because maybe we don't put ourselves in women's shoes enough; awareness; in addition to pride in my opinion. But, I could be wrong😞
Boundaries aren’t necessary. If someone does things you don’t like and you have to condition them to be the person you want, they simply aren’t right for you. Take it as a sign to walk away. Love is the only boundary. Setting boundaries isn’t a loving act, it’s similar to walking on eggshells. And if someone is doing things that require boundaries, they aren’t ready for a loving relationship. Someone ready for a loving relationship already understands what is acceptable behavior. When boundaries are set, you are simply communicating that you don’t love the person for who they are, that they must change for your benefit, and they must act accordingly, or else. It’s conditioning a person to change and fall within your own ideals, whether they are ready or not. Changing someone else to fit your ideals is a selfish act and usually doesn’t work. They ’may’ appreciate setting boundaries and find it attractive, or just use those boundaries to further test you. Not everyone deserves your leadership, and some rebel against it. Find someone who doesn’t require boundaries, doesn’t set boundaries upon you, who is right for you, follows your lead, and is ready for love.
She wasn’t using boundaries in the sense of vetting a potential partner (that’s a given to look for red flags)… She was speaking more about healthy boundaries in ones own environment. Strong boundaries mean we honor ourselves (internal boundaries) and stand up for ourselves (external boundaries). Can a women see us show up with consistency on our personal statements/agreements we have towards ourselves (internal) and towards situations (external).
Women are crock pots, men are microwaves. This makes so much sense. But I've tended to various crock pots over the past 11 yrs and none of them worked out. For all of the work and cultivating I did the fruits of my labor were given to other men. You know how time and labor intensive that process is? The initiation alone can be grueling yet I'm supposed to maintain optimism and patience. Time for sexual reproduction eventually runs out for women, and for us men too. Take notice of the people who take interest in you. All I've ever asked for is love😑
The Corey Wayne saying "attraction isn't a choice" really makes me want to vomit. OF COURSE it's a damn choice! Logically, if attraction were NOT a choice then there would be zero free will. Attraction for a woman, say, is definitely a choice, because, even though a lot of attraction is subconscious, the conscious mind makes reasoned, logical conclusions of certain questions asked BY the subconscious (such as double checking with the instantaneous question: do I really find him attractive?), thereby confirming the subconscious 'triggering' of POSSIBLE signs that the man is attractive.
Attraction and love is very unlogical. I have never made an active choice to be attracted to someone or something. In fact, the woman I last dated I was very attracted to, but she caused me alot of trouble in the end. That didn't change my attraction for her though. There were times I wished I could flip a switch and turn off my attraction for her, but since attraction is not a active choice for me to make I can't. However I still have the free will to choose if I want to continue a relationship with someone or not, even if I feel a strong attraction to that person. Come on man.
