Alastair might want to consider getting an evaluation done if his snoring has gotten bad. It could be a sign of sleep apnea that can hinder the recovery process of sleep.
Alastair being all frustrated and worked up about the whole separate room situation is the cutest thing ever. With that said, I also understand where Zach is coming from as someone who suffers insomnia constantly. I hope you guys find the perfect solution for your dilemma without hurting your relationship.
I think you should check in to get a sleep test. I had to for my husband and found out I have sleep apnea. Much better now with my CPAP machine. Saved us from sleeping separately.
There are lots of apps that can record you when you start snoring. You can determine how long and how often you snore. Getting a sleep study is a great idea. I have done it and diagnosed my narcolepsy. Apnea is very serious as well. Knowing might be in your best health interests.
"I'm sorry I love you" Pure gold. On a serious note, if it's become more acute, Alastair should look into it with a health professional. Sudden changes, even if a year on, in someone's breathing can be a sign of something more serious. It's good that you both have a sense of humour about it, speaks to the love you both have, but it's worth checking into.
My parents had the same problem not being able to sleep next to someone who snores. My mom would snore so bad. So my dad ended up going to sleep first then an hour later my mom would so he could be asleep and not hear her snore.
I sooo relate to the snoring problem!! My husband's snoring is awful also and I end up elsewhere in the house many times!! I also have put Candace Cameron Bure on my 'do not support' list. You can't claim love for all, yet exclude groups of people. As for being shredded for my comments...I commented on a story on the ClubQ attack and I got RIPPED APART from all the haters...I pulled down my comment to stop the harassment...truly awful event and situation.
The sad thing about Candace Cameron Bure statement and the backlash which followed is that it had reached the target demographic who had a blast mocking and turning queer people to ridicule over this and saying that they have now a new channel to watch. So basically it gave this channel great publicity.
I agree with you Zac. My partner and I have been together (and shared a bed) for over 25 years. Fortunately, he doesn't snore. But, I often go into the guest bedroom because I always have a better sleep when I'm on my own. Like Alastair, my partner would get a little sensitive if I suggested having separate bedrooms permanently. Some studies show that sleeping separately can be the key to a happy relationship.
My husband and I have been together for 23 years and we have slept in separate beds for 4 years. I cannot sleep,even with ear plugs, due to extreme snoring. The important thing is to maintain intimacy and togetherness outside of sleeping time. Do you know what’s sexy? Sleep!!! 😂 As long as y’all decide together what is best for both of you, there is no wrong way to sleep, or not, with your partner. ❤
Alastair please go to an ENT doctor to get checked for a deviated septum or a referral for a sleep study. I'm an Air Force veteran and the VA did a surgery for my deviated septum and I no longer snore.
As someone who was married for longer than you two have been alive (put together), there is a vital marital closeness you get when sleeping in the same bed - especially over time. There is a loss of vital marital closeness when you wind up creating your own world in your own bedroom - especially over time. This is so critical to understand while you are still young. Whatever the problem is, work it out now because you two are SO worth it!
I know people that have been married for years and sleep in separate bedrooms cuase we all have our own comfortability and it doesn’t always match. Maybe for you that separate ness causes problems but it’s not for everyone. Everyone has their own way and no one persons way is the right way.
@@buffy17mike Well said from another standpoint. I guess it boils down to whether one of the parties has a problem with sleeping in another bedroom alone.
@@joehollis1912 And in this case of any relationship there is no right or wrong way. We are all different and we all have our own ways are being in a relationship. And its all about the communication between those involved that needs to taken into account. And we all have our own ways that work for us and wanna take what works for ourselves and share it with others in hopes that it helps them, but we also got to remember everyone is completely different and actually very rarely will you find that shared with others. Like personally its just like when gay people talk about marriage being on their own terms and not the traditional way. TBH in that same case you could say getting married is the traditional thing. Because there are lots of people that been together thier whole lives and don't find the need to get married and it something that should be respected and not expected.
You are so correct, and I definitely see your point. I should not speak for everyone as though my way is the only way. But I was speaking to the person in this video who DID have a problem with separate bedrooms. You are representing an opposing view. So, your opinion is welcome the same as mine is. I will try to remember that before being so hasty the next time. Maybe we could agree to disagree but also agree there are a lot of remedy suggestions in these comments that might be really helpful to both the guys!
Bill Abbott who runs and is an owner of Great American Family was formerly CEO of Crown Media (Hallmark Channel) resigned in 2020 because Hallmark had to apologize for removing ads featuring a lesbian couple and restoring the ads a few days later. The ticket fiasco almost makes you wish for the day when you actually had to leave the house and line up to buy tickets in person
Alastair, you have great health care by being in the military. Sleep apnea can be dangerous. Please get it checked out. Zach had mentioned in a vlog quite some time ago that he would love to have his own space in a bedroom just for him. Your marriage seems strong so separate bedrooms won't cause any serious issues in your relationship.
I understand separate bedrooms VERY WELL! My throat is busted in a way that i snore REALLY loud. Actually so loud that i have never met anybody who can sleep in the same room than me. My ex and i had separate bedrooms BUT we took few nights now and then to sleep together in same bed, but on days when both needed sleep (work, school, etc.) separate bedrooms were just blessing for both.
I snord and was diagnosed with sleep apnea. Chaps worked for a while, but I'd pull the mask off in my sleep. I retired, stress level dropped, apnea and snoring went away. Can be difficult but decrease your stress and the snoring should decrease. Good show guys. Thanks
I will say as someone who works in the banking industry the first six digits of a credit card at most identifies that the card belongs to Capital One, etc so, on its own, it would do little to actually prevent bots from getting on those "priority" lists.
It sounds like Alastair has sleep apnea. He needs to get a sleep study done. If he has sleep apnea, Alastair will need to use a CPap machine to sleep at night. It will stop the snoring. Sleep apnea is a serious condition. A person with sleep apnea basically stops breathing while asleep. It's very bad for one's health unless treated with a CPap machine which pumps air into the nose and mouth so that one's breathing doesn't stop. xxxx oooo ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
I enjoy the sleeping in the same bed talk !!!! I hope you will do more of it . I feel it shows what it is like to be married !!! The UP's and the Downs, but you love each other and you find away to work it out !!!🙃😊🤠😎😅
Like many others here, I can understand where Zach is coming from. I have found that I do not sleep well sharing a bed with another person in general, and if they’re storing that’s even worse. My father snored loudly and I can remember being able to hear him in my bedroom from my parents’ bedroom down the hall. Sleeping in separate rooms does not necessarily mean a lack of love and affection, of course. And thank you for the words at the end about the mass shooting in Colorado Springs. You are correct that it is, at least in part, due to the hateful rhetoric that comes out of some people on the right. For them, staying in power is much more important than other people’s lives.
Glad you covered the ticketmaster monopoly so well. I've recently paid more than ever for Depeche Mode tickets with 'dynamic pricing'. Big artists are going to become inaccessible for many, its ridiculous. Also, I believe Alastair that he doesn't snore 😊
Fighting together to sleep together is worth all the pain along the way just like sleeping in separate bedrooms worked fine for my 75 years married grandparents and now for me and my partner of 12 years. In the end what matters is expressing your needs and getting them met for here and now satisfaction. I vote science and tender intimacy on this matter. 💗🔥😎🔥💗
I love you both for sharing the snoring and separation when needed . It so reminds me of Chris and l when l was snoring the other night with him poking me to wake up and go back to sleep then he turned over and started snoring in my ear. Made me laugh because we all do it. Separate beds for us no way l love to cuddle with the rumble🤣🤣Happy Thanksgiving y’all.
Zach, I can't believe you and your husband, Alastair are both talking about the tragedy of the LGBTQ nightclub of The Club Q in Colorado last weekend including my idol, Candace Cameron Bure from Full House and Fuller House about the traditional marriage at the core of the GAC on this video during the episode of "Coffee & Tequila", so I'm proud of you, because you're gay and I know you had the Southern accent!!
My loved one was a pretty loud snorer too. And he loved to put his leg over mine. Overtime I'm used to his snoring. Long story short he felt sick, recovered and suddenly just stopped snoring. But alas the sickness back. He succumbed to his sickness and passed away not long before that. Moral of the story be careful what you wish for.
I’m with Zach separate beds is no bad thing. Maybe mix it up some days together others not. Then when your back together it will add some extra excitement!
Alistair and Zach hi snoring has to do with sleep Apnea and is a serious condition. It can lead to heart condition. I got tested positive for apnea in my thirties when got older.
I can not sleep with someone snoring in the same room let alone the same bed lol. I do understand the frustration from losing contact immediately and randomly though. You should get an evaluation done to see if you can revert the snoring Alastair 👍
I have recorded both myself & my husband snoring over the years. We have diagnosed sleep apnea BUT it doesn’t occur forever. These things change from time of year, from the weather, from weight changes… it is something that you will both get used to. Really 🙏🏽 Zach, you will get used to it faster than you think. 👍🏽 In all honesty, I feel more for Alastair since he has to deal with Zach’s very active sleeping motions. 🤷🏽♂️ Just saying.
I will admit my husband gets pretty bad snoring when he is sleeping on his back. So I will nudge him and get him to roll on his side and it stops for the entire night
It is weird that Joss Whedon would state that his mom was his hero and he respects women and then act the way he allegedly did to Charisma Carpenter and others on set.
I know you were holding your breath saying where’s Brads feed back lol. The joys of marriage and sharing a life with someone. Lots of comments I used a cpap for awhile but not now. Alastair u are young and fit just get it checked out, just in case. Personally I feel take away the snoring a king size bed gives a fair bit of personal space. One thing I always loved was those evenings where even in a king bed my partner and I at that time would occasionally find each other and there would be non planned intimacy, I loved that. I think that’s true of those moments u just chat about something of interest very intimate. I am always impressed with your conversations and how you represent your thoughts on issues. I just read an article saying genx and younger are losing the religious interest in Christmas but more interested in it as a festival (which is how it started historically). You will not read anything about Dec 25 or Christmas in the Bible because winter solstice was a pagan celebration. But even Romans celebrated solstice. The shooting hmmm, there always seems to be someone picking on someone not sure the ultimate answer to acceptance of and for all. Good luck you didn’t say if you ended up getting tickets. Love you gentlemen, always wishing and hoping the best for you guys.
great episode you two....bravo for the Co.shooting comments, the crazies are out there , we will always be "other"... be aware, loved your comments zach - there is a new homophobic backlash brewing
I think it’s a smart idea for Zachary. It’s not uncommon and it’s becoming more popular for married couples are doing this. I see nothing wrong with it!
My husband claims that I snore. I’m ok sleeping in the spare room if his snoring keeps me awake. If my snoring keeps him awake cause I got the dog and cat in my arms laying on my back then he can sleep in the spare room.
While the promo is on... Zach give early The Crown a try. The acting totally sucked me in. I'm not a T. Swift fan. I can't get through a whole song. Still, I am glued to this video. You two are excellent. One of my dear friends is terrified that her trans teen is going to be killed either by a psycho or by a health care law, and she's fighting like hell for him. Every time you guys and folks in your community speak, you are building support for parents like her.
I usually watch your episodes late at night, and your banter about sleeping really hit home, it was hilarious to be honest, I am on the Alastair team to the max, my husband says I was snoring so loud he can't sleep, to help with this I will Stat up till 200am, daily. He goes to bed at 1000pm, so he gets a good four hours. If this didn't work I was going to recommend separate bedrooms, but it must be working, we've slept in the same bed for 43 years this January, so I wish you guys the best on working this out.anywho take care guys, not a taylor swift fan, as the sissy spacek lorretta Lynn character in coal miner's daughter. " I just can't ".....
Academy Award winning actress Sally Field believes that it's unnatural for two people to sleep in the same bed. So, you have good company, Zach.(I'm with you on that too.) Also, get a sleep test, Alastair.
As an insomniac who lived and slept with a snorer for many years, I feel your pain Zach. Alastair definitely needs a sleep study, but meanwhile you might try an adjustable bed frame that will raise his side of the mattress a few inches. This will work without a split mattress. You can also buy soft padded Bluetooth earphones for yourself. Sleeping alone is a luxury you don’t want every night! 😺✌️
We, the 60 /70/80+'ers, experienced this same hate. Personally, it was my 17th active duty when the "Normals" labeled gays' as mad dogs in society and charged thousands as child molesters, and worse, too many were murdered just for standing up for Human Rights. As hard as it is to face the remerging hate, we, the "Gifted," must realize it is the devil who leads the masses of "so-called" Christians. Jesus Christ never had a word to say against gays or any other diverse human being; that is a True Christian. So don't give up on God; it is the Devil who promotes this hate. The two of you are stars of this generation. Please do not give up. (Alister, go to the Doctor, it's free.)
Alastair sounds like he is in the beginning stages of sleep apnea. I highly recommend he go to the doctor he could have a heart attack in his sleep. Even at his young age. I have had sleep apnea for over a decade and I recognize it from your description of him, taking a deep breath, and then lapsing into snoring. My husband and I sleep in separate rooms he snores very badly and uses O2 at night it’s very loud.
Sorry for the double comment, but geez I personally don't think people should be so forward about commenting like, negative sleeping comments on your guys relationship lol. Anyway, good show.
You both should consider asking your doctor to refer you for a sleep study. Snoring and sleep disorders are health concerns. Also, I hate sleeping with other humans. I can't get good sleep at all. Being in bed with them until they fall is nice, and being in the same room is okay, but the same bed, no never again.
I'll echo the others that say Alastair should see a doctor. The last thing I want to do is come on here some time and see Zach tearfully announcing Alastair died in his sleep. As someone who only really came to terms with his sexuality 18 months ago, still closeted but embracing who I am at 59, it never really dawned on me that the guy who killed the people in Club Q wanted to kill people like me. He wanted to kill me. Sobering but also incredibly difficult to understand. Sometimes the world is more than one can handle.
Alistair should get checked. The snoring may indicate a more serious problem, including heart. May need a CPAP Machine . Testing is pretty simple. Goid luck guys!enjoyed this!!
I use a C-PAP but fellas the need for a C-PAP isn’t always related to all things cardiovascular. You’re young & so it is more likely that the issue is maxillofacial or positional. Your complaint may be more in the domain of your dentist 🦷 than your cardiologist ❤! But other viewers are correct that the answers lie in a sleep therapist’s observations. Just remember that oxygen is life!🥵
I feel like if I were married I'd actually want separate rooms from the get-go. Sometimes you just need your own space, married or not. Half the time you sleep over with each other, half the time you don't. I think it's the insistence on being tied at the hip that actually makes marriages break down more than they should. Societal norms sometimes make people think their relationship has to function one way only. On the other hand if a spouse finds that they can't sleep without their partner next to them then there's probably a lot to unpack in a seemingly small issue.
I totally agree with zach!!! Omg mouth breathing in the face so irritating..or how about when getting spooned and muscled arm pulling you in closer..like you can't breathe or move lolz ☺💪👅👍💋❣
