Diane, I think you’ll understand why I’m posting this comment. This morning I had a dental appointment. I was numbed up and feeling a bit fragile, ready just to pay up and head home, but at the desk I decided to make my 6 monthly check up appointment!! When I got home, I put the date in my diary (a friend had given me it for my new job). I know this is basic but for me it was big. Thank you Diane for bringing structure to my present and future 🙏🏼💐🧚♂️
Don't laugh but I am a lot older than you but you feel like the mum I always wanted showing me how to do the things I need to do in a fun way. So... thanks Mum x
I watched your most recent videos and accidentally found this one from 6 years ago. Oh my !! the change in colors you are wearing and your hair style are striking. You look so full of life and more youthful now even though you are 6 years older. Fantastic!!!!❤❤❤
Your 31 baby steps did it for me. I was good at decluttering, but I usually only cleaned when it got me down, and then I was”pooped”! The fly lady system has been a blessing for me. Thank you for your videos.
Today I find myself in near tears. I think I was grateful to the flylady system especially you and the secret slob as I focused on both of your videos. I am much more organized and generally have a little routine going. But there is so much chaos in our personal life and I find my biggest problem is organizing those around me. I am tired of being a slave to my family who are all slobs and disrespectful. I don't know how to assert myself and demand that they do their part. Having done this system for a few weeks now I kind if see that it is a bit like shovelling snow while a blizzard is going on. I cannot do the flylady when everyone around me is undoing. So let's say I shine my sink clean counters etc. Come back to the kitchen and the sink is full of dishes, crumbs all over, etc etc. Do laundry everyday but clean clothes are tried on, dropped on floor, trampled all over. When I ask them to do anything I get attitude and resentment. Today I just feel like crying as I am not sure that all my healing will translate into anything meaningful unless I can bring the rest of them along with me.
Andrea Marr Aww I just saw your comment here and had to respond. Sorry to hear of the struggle you are going through Andrea. We have 4 kids and I can relate to the experience of disrespect and mess everywhere. Sometimes it hardly seems worth the effort! Diane’s videos are great and I just came across the Secret Slob as well. My thought was well it’s not really me who doesn’t clean after myself but some people I live with lol! But all this is to say that I want to encourage you not to give up. Just do what you can each day. I know how frustrating it can be, but putting one foot in front of the other is the way to go. The situation isn’t forever. We are strong and we can persevere! 💕💕xo
Hey Lots of time has passed since your comment but i just felt i had to reply. I hope it's going better for you... If people around you treat you like you aren't important to them (which is what it boils down to, whether by neglect or on purpose) you've got to stop this. You'll pay for it if you don't. It's not a mom's thing, also lots of men struggle with this. First and foremost - treat youself like you matter. Because you do. Obviously this isn't the platform and i won't pretend i have any answers for you. Maybe, just maybe, some encouragement will help you. Maybe you will also find listening to jordan peterson on this topic helpful. (Highly recommend his book 12 rules for life) Just an idea. But please don't let it slip. If you let people treat you like a doormat your soul and your body won't let you get away with it. Strength to you. Change is painful and frightening, but you can get out of tyranny. Forget the dishes, that's only a symptom. You matter. Take care of yourself. Hope this isn't way out of line, i just felt this should get to you. 💫
I hope things have changed since you wrote this. I know exactly how you feel, there was no way I could get my family (husband and adult children) to help out no matter how I begged, shouted or cried! The amazing thing is, 6 months since I started shining my sink, they have all adapted without me ever saying anything. As long as I stick to the daily routines, including a quick tidy, the whole house has slowly got better and better. I really hope things are better for you now, keep going, you are not alone!
Thank you for also talking about Hygge and showing us winter bathing and places you visit. If I only think about housecleaning, I get discouraged about not meeting up to my own expectations. I forget to have fun. I so appreciate the way you show us some fun, too.
It is funny I have finally decided to get on-board, although slowly. When I first started watching you, I didn't take you seriously as I thought you and your house were so perfect. Like looking in a magazine with people and their beautiful homes. Now that you have explained that you weren't like this before the flylady system. You have got me into decluttering, and have finally gotten into planning my routines. I guess seeing you have time for so many other things helps, lots. Thanks.
hi Diane i follow you for about 2 months now, and i.have said before that i am a hoarder. i do the morning routines now and that feels very good it does give me energy to go on, my house is still a mess but i feel good with the routines and the energy it gives me slowly i am getting it all organised, before i let nobody in my home. now friends can come in. i am working a lot outside my house but with the routines i do for now i feel glad. thank you so much
Hi Diane, your Uncle reminds me of a family member of mine because his motto was 'A job a day' and it still holds true today. Isn't it funny with all this modern technology with apps etc that people still struggle when the most effective method is a piece of paper and a pen plus the essential timer...... Job done!
Perfect synopsis, Diane! And you have just a perfect personality and manner for sharing/encouraging us. Imagine a shower of lovely flower petals falling around you as my thanks.
I found you through your daughter Steph of Secret Slob. You are lovely!! I am trying to work on building my habits to keep ahead of the chaos. I am pregnant with my 4th baby. I have a 6, 4 and 2 year old!I need to get our house under control before the new baby arrives. I'm getting my older two children in the habit of helping me clean up. My 2 year old son sabotages their efforts but we try. Haha!!
Welcome here, Lawain! Steph followed my videos when she started out but she isn't my daughter 😁 I'm Scottish, live in Copenhagen with my Danish husband and we have two grown children of our own.
I'm very new to Flylady. A few days ago. At 80 I can't manage the house because was trying to do as I did when younger. A load of laundry is genius! I always had a "laundry day" and did it all. It was too much. The Flyway system is opening up all sorts of ways of doing things. I'll have a clean house soon!! Thanks. (where can I get the Flylady things like schedule book?)
Diane, I found the FlyLady system & you a little over a year ago . I am so grateful to you for explaining the FL system so well. You so kindly & patiently answered my questions as I tried to understand the system as I incorporated it into my life. You are a blessing & have found one of your callings in life! 💗
Diane, so well explained! I come from a different place. I was a stay at home mom who felt under appreciated and overwhelmed. It doesn’t matter what your situation is, doing what you said works! I’ve been flying over a decade. Every so often even though I have routines etc. I check in for a tweak or just to enjoy the community for support.
I'm the same as you; in my work, I have to follow my diary step-by-step every minute of the day as I'm a Wedding Coordinator, but at home, I'm the opposite, my watch is off and I'm away with the fairies lol. I have an all-or-nothing approach, mostly nothing until the last minute and then work like crazy (especially if my mother is coming over!) Yes, 52 and still worry about that :-/ I did my first 'room rescue' today, but thought it was 15mins, not 5, however, it was hard to leave it so the timer was a great idea as I needed to make dinner .
See this is why I love you.💕 Even though I keep falling off my routines you dont give up on us. Helps me not give up on myself! ps your blouse is gorgeous. xo
Hi Diane! I LOVE THIS LOOK!!! it's so feminine and soft, like a spring blossom! It brings out your eyes and that top is fabulous! (euhm I am still not going nowhere near my clothes, decluttering all the other stuff first ha ha ha) Thank you for always being so clear...I know the flylady system since ages, but have not as yet managed to implement it. I find it very well thought out, I have read Marla's book, but the flylady website is extremely overwhelming (and cluttered ;-) I usually watch your videos when I want to take a break and/or when I am extremely not motivated to do anything...and I usually end up doing at least 15 min! THANKS! WHAT DOES BOB'S YOUR UNCLE MEAN??? xxx
You are a beautiful and have a cheerful spirit that I am just drawn to, definitely subscribe and watching all ur videos. I pray to get to where your at when I am 50. I guess living in beautiful Denmark helps it (looks so beautiful outside) compared to crappy Killeen, Texas. ❤️ I’m close to turning 40
