I read this book years ago when it was newly released and the author himself was alive. I was profoundly moved in my spirit and impressed then as I went about life I forgot it. You have returned it to me today! Ty so much! ♎🙋
@@nogoods3511 Hi there! 🙋 According to my research and memory The Four Agreements was the work of Don Miguel Ruiz, ( deceased ) originally published in 1997. His son don miguel jr. ( is still alive ) and along with his brother don jose they have kept their Toltec tradition alive by promoting their fathers book to include their own very successful published books such as The fifth Agreement and other very accomplished works! Here on RU-vid check out Lewis Howes Channel episode #358 where in an interview the son don jr. refers to his father's book and how he came to accept his nagual ( shamanic) responsibility and thus to step into it. Since then the brother's continue to write books give interviews conduct trainings and to give lectures on the topic. They both have several books available on the wisdom of the practice. There are many interviews wherein he the son don miguel jr. refers to his father's book The four Agreements. He may have rewritten it along with a co-writer Janet Mills in the early 2000's but do check into it since many interviewers attempt to dismiss the value of senior ruiz himself whether in the body or not. Read the comments as some also remember Senior Ruiz contribution. Ty!
I am 88 yo, Mexican-American, born in a desert mining town during the Great Depression of the 1930s. I was very lucky to have been born into a wonderful Familia and during hard times when we " Mexicans" were 2nd class in the eyes of the dominant society. As a child in my formative years immersed around decent, loving, poor people with stoic Christian values, I grew unknown strengths that I took for granted. My days as a child around my peers and cousins were glorious and filled with wonderments.... only poor kids can know. Here are a few to illustrate my point: 1. Hearing spooky stories in the dark, on the floor with kin, as the train approaches, rattles the shanty, and rumbles away to distant Los Angeles. 2. Going to city dumps on Sunday with your uncle and cousins to scavange and finding all kinds of treasures and curiosities to bring home proudly. 3. Walking miles upon miles through vineyards and orchards eating the very best of fruits you can imagine. 4. Eating the best Mexican foods ever made and served by aunts, cousins, granny... tortillas, albondigas, tacos, frijoles, enchiladas, etc, etc... On mismatched dishes, cutlery, from pots and pans all with stories to tell. My granny, "These came from China, see the 👸 princess... etc." 5. Reading for hours in an old abandoned car in our backyard while the rain is pouring outside. 6. Everyone in spiritual awe watching a spectacular meteor shower with you kin, and granny making comments about God and creation. 7. Mexican weddings, baptisms, wakes, burials, Christmas, 1st Communions, birthday parties...You haven't lived. My point above, is that the Dr. Ruiz WISDOMS for being, relating with others, and self definition are all true and solid as 24 carat gold no matter your social or material station in life. I am a retired social behavioral scientist with a clinical background in prison mental health services. I taught 8 years in a major university and also did court ordered community drug addiction treatment. Paz
Thank you for sharing some of your story with us. I am glad you are a proud Mexican-American and learned how to see the magic and wonder in all things!
Oh how those days were such fun and just simple but good fun work/play! Humans will only go bk to such days when the internet is down, yet I learn faster, more and varied info now. 😊
I found this book back in 2019 in my lowest low and it changed my life. I read it a couple times since then and I always learn something more from it each time. Love this book AND the author! Have purchased all of his books after this one
I just got out of rehab, and this book was pretty much the only book we sat down as a group and read word for word with each other, in fact there are other rehabs that entirely revolve around this book! Pretty powerful stuff
I have read this book a month ago, and this was an upgraded review for me. Now I understand better and escaping ordinary best than yesterday. Thank you! Love from Argentina
ironically, this was the last present my mom gave me before she passed. i love it so much. im doing so much better mentally while practicing these thought processes
You are so very lucky to have a lovely Mom. Mine was never kind or loving, witheld love. You know it even as an infant , but there is no explanation. A long life recovering from childhood ptsd. Your Mother is,still watching over you. ❤
@@MimiYouyuYou are beautiful; just learn how to love yourself. I dealt with PTSD for a long time, and what made me feel better was finding my passion and mastering that skill, then believing in myself that I as well could not only make it but live peacefully while living my professional life.
You've come a long way with this format. Watching more recent videos has shown you are mastering the ability to communicate what you've learned and care about what you share. Clear, concise and educational. Thank you for your work!
Thank you for your summary of the Four Agreements!It was easy to share with people,and I did!This book is such an important tool that at our seminar,it is gifted to the recipients at the end.
The Four Agreements 1) Agreement 1: Be impeccable with your Word. -Your words are powerful -The word can enter our mind and change a whole belief for better or for worse. -The word casts spells -You are what you consume -Gossip is black magic and pure poison 2) Agreement 2: Don't take anything personally. -Don't take things personally -About them vs about you -When everything around you is great, everything makes you happy -We make agreements to help each other suffer -Keep the agreements with yourself 3) Agreement 3: Don't make assumptions. -We have the tendency to make assumptions about everything -Why we shouldn't make assumptions -We make the assumption that we know what the other person wants -What is Real Love -If you don't understand something, ask questions 4) Agreement 4: Always do your best. -Your best will become better than it used to be -Action VS Reward -Forrest Gump -The first three rely on the fourth -Master through repetition
I red this book only a few months ago.. loved it.. never heard of it before 2020.. and if i see the views on this Summary, my guess is that many have not heard of it. But you really do Amazing work..i am watching the 7 habits now, but after that this little gem is next.. keep it up! 👍🙂💕
I'm really enjoying the content on your channel, it should be in every school's curriculum! Life changing stuff! I always struggle to stay focused on lengthy books, but you summarize in a fun creative way, so I really appreciate how you present the information!
Also, I would love to see more of your content like this! I read this book soo long ago and seeing everything laid out in a visual diagram works really well for me. When I get a moment later today, I'll be watching 7 habits next! Thank you again.
New subscriber. Thank you so much for the time and effort! I’ve actually never read this book, but with visual synopsis it’s a gift. Can’t wait to see more of your vids.
People are not mind readers and we just automatically assume I guess somehow that they know what we want and how we feel and once they don’t step up to the plate, we automatically assume the worst it’s so true
Man, thank you for explaining these facts about life. I need to read the book and listen more about this because it is an answer to my current state of mind.
Wonderful, This book was on my list for long and I think I got the summary at the right time. Thank you so much for your work, you did it nicely for the visual learners(almost everyone)
Some people take this "whatever someone says about you, is just a reflection of them or a projection..." waaaay to far. Sometimes there is criticism worth hearing, even critcism of character. Peoples egos are out of control, when everything is deflected with "You not liking what I said or did, just shows YOUR issues...", even though the person might have really behaved like a toxic arse and needs to be set straight. I also cant observe in my life, that the people I choose to surround myself with are either purely negative or positive and that we are together because we fuel each others suffering. We have highs and lows, we are sad and discouraged sometimes and cant always be super supportive, and then there are times when we can. The types of people who are totally absorbed by these "positivity over everything"-stuff, shoo away from people so quickly when things get bumpy, that you cant even call them friends. Life is complex and there are valid reasons to not always be super okay and you have to let downs happen...the people who dont wanna be with you when you arent mr./mrs. sunshine, arent people worth having around in general.
I agree. I look at the gist of what the book says as a general guideline. As it has been said many times "no battle plan survives a battlefield." but the advice is still sound. As with any of these books, we are free to take whatever works for us and discard the rest. Not everything that I read resonates with me either, but if I can find a tiny gem in a sea of slag,, it was still worth a look.
@@vtc8570 Sure thats true...I just hope that everyone who reads this book has this nuanced thinking, cause otherwise its real fuel for people who never wanna see their own flaws.
This is just for me :) 1:14 - The Word are Powerful 3:24 - The Word Cast spells 12:41 - Don't take things personally 20:31 - Assumptions 23:07 - Why we shouldn't make assumptions 29:47 - Not expecting Rewards
23:20 all the drama in your life was rooted in making assumptions and taking things personal. NOPE! The drama in my life came from her opening her legs to other lovers, while I was either at work or quietly at home, thinking how I could be a good man for a solid relationship. And damn right I took it personal. 👎🏽
19:23 Don’t take things personally: If you keep this agreement you can travel all around the world with your heart open ❤ You can say I love you without the fear of rejection. Note: You can only take things personally if you **agree** to what the person says.
its weird because i had these thoughts recently and i came up with the idea that family curse comes from family repeating bad family habits that the family fool themselves into thinking a curse is forever in the family the only way to stop it is to learn the family mistakes and don't repeat them
Huh, how coincidental is this i just finish reading the book and then this popped up in my recommendation. Makes me wonder🤔 is it really a coincidence? I dont know who you r but quit watching me but thanks for pointing me in the direction of this video🙏
Talking behind my back is what shaped my entire life, literally. It gives people the false impression that they can tell the motive, the 'why' behind whatever the other person does and they see their own distortion as a confirmation which leads to a spiral without an exit. It's not that you accept their opinion, you even develop anxiety bc you realize whatever you do can be turned into something totally different and cause an absolutely unexpected backlash. You can't change it bc it's not in your head. It's so easy to say ask questions when no one does.
Wow, as a visual learner, I thank you for putting in the time to do these visuals and spread invaluable knowledge on this free platform. Greatly appreciate your content.
Recent studies show that there is no such thing as visual or anytype of learners, everyone benefits from multiple ways of receiving data. Veritasium - The biggest myth in education video talks a litttle more about that if u wanna learn more.
I feel like if we are never taking the things other people say personally, we also know how we are the toxic people sometimes. Just a thought. But hey!! I’ve listen to this guy a few times now and I really like these videos I definitely subscribed thank you for taking the time to break down these big concepts!
The Amazing thing about these contents is that you try to compartmentalize each and every concept of the book into Something very succinct, concise and understandable 💫
The gossip part is inevitable and according to the book "The Power Paradox" is necessary. As much as I hate gossip (small minds discuss people), when you're in an organization, everybody is watching you, judging you, and talking about you. So I would rather just say, refrain from gossiping in your spare time.
Wowww the part about everyone is living in their own world is something I talk about a lot.. i say that we are all just trying to create the world we want to live in anf makes us happy. I sell food if someone says you should wear a hair net i just assume that in the world that they want to live in and be happy everyone who cooks food should wear a hair net. And i don't get offended.
i read this book then burned it.......this book is literally telling you to listen to the angel of death which in scripture is apolyon/apollo. there is only one agreement need and that is loving our heavenly Father will all our heart mind and soul........everything else is vanity. Repent and seek the Way Truth and Life
great summary! but please keep you lip smaking to a minimum or keep the microphone further away. the 3/10 people like us who have this problem find it very hard to watch all your videos because of this. just a heads up because I'd like to see more of your videos
I love love love these video books! And I also love this man’s voice. ❤️ Also is it possible you may have been a teeny weeny bit unprepared? The narration seems natural and perhaps you winged it? (Not saying it’s bad but it felt more like a podcast narration)… but different from the style in the other video books in your series, which were quite precise and succinct. Just seems like a different style.
Appreciate your beautiful explanation and insights on the Four Agreements. If it's not too much to ask, I would love your perspective on a visual book summary for 'Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion' by Robert B. Cialdini. Thank you!" :)
Something else I really liked in the book about the second agreement was don’t take compliments personally either. Thank the person who gave it but let it go. They can boost your ego and leave you with a craving for more validation.
1. If you can speak "faultlessly" (a definition of impeccable. another is without sin lol) then congrats on the talent, but sin is subjective. Nobody is objectively faultless, but also no fault is not also a kind of strength in another way and different situation. The original Greek idea behind vices and virtues was to avoid both and sit in the middle, a happy medium without any downsides to anyone and yet both upsides. 2. You are a person, so you can only take things "personally" in one way, but if we focus on not getting overly focused then great. 3. Assumptions are indeed terrible, checking everything is ideal, but often not done because trust exists thankfully and sometimes not ideally. 4. Your best is beyond anything to truly be the absolute best. This is such a common phrase, but true best is impossible since there is always better beyond that best, we're not linear beings at all. Every skill not only can be improved endlessly along a single factor, but also has endless other factors and situations to optimize in and then co-optimize into infinite potential and created situations. But sure, do well, and do better after observation.
Thank you for summarizing the book. I appreciate it. This was the second video I watched that you prepared and the first one (Atomic Habits) was far more well organized, you kept me interested and even directed me to see a couple of videos of Mr Clear himself on RU-vid. Nevertheless, this one was exactly the opposite. Although I have read the book couple of times before and I liked the points you have made but not the presentation, at all. Sorry to mention this but it seemed to me that you didn't work your lesson enough on this one. Your gaps in between the themes, and making the presentation board zoomed in and out might distract the concentration of the audience (at least it did on me). You might want to stick to your way of presenting these because I really like what you do. Thanks again.
This was amazing. I was wondering how can I get the flow chart that you showed or maybe I should try making it myself and stick it on a wall. This way I’ll remember the agreements and will be able to practice it on a daily basis.
Really very Impressive summaries.. I don't like to read that much but watching these kind of videos really help to gain the knowledge. instead of reading the whole book, I will prefer to see more of these videos.
