The gap between planning and doing | Kirsten Rohde | TEDxErasmusUniversity 

1. Be aware that you cannot run away from this. 2. The gap between planning and doing is a result of a disagreement between our current and future selves. Change in circumstances, preferences, or not enough empathy for our future selves results in this gap. For example, I am excited about waking up early tomorrow but tomorrow, my future self, would hate getting out of the bed (this is a change in preference). Or, I want to buy 10 cupcakes instead of apples, but maybe my future self would like having an apple at home (not enough empathy). 3. We must project our selves into the future and see if our future selves will like our current decisions. We need to prioritize a self by checking the consequences. For example, when I'm setting an alarm, I'm dealing with two future selves, one who doesn't want to get late and one who doesn't want to get up from the bed. I am prioritizing the one who doesn't want to get late as the discomfort of being late > the discomfort from getting out of the bed. 4. Minimising the gap between planning and doing by setting up realistic goals (work of the present self) and being committed to the plan (work of the future self) all the while being aware of the differences of the present and the future self.

Good perspective. 1) be aware of the differences of my own desires. Ex. Excercising in the morning and sleeping when I wake up. 2) set realistic goals and Commit to it. First being aware of this difference in my own self is very important. That's what I got

Wonderfull talk. 1.Prensently rich people specially celebrity lifestyle can be seen by internet,which makes us ambitious and forget our present state.Therefore we increasing the gap between our planning and doing. We have to be more realistic and less ambitious to execute our planning.

Go to bed earlier and throw away the alarm clock? The problem with blaming awareness is that it skips emotion. We are only aware of the things that our nature tunes us into-- what grabs our emotions. So, our plans are really driven by our true nature and resulting emotions (humble opinion). Setting the alarm clock to have coffee with your girlfriend might have a different result than setting it for an early business meeting that is not important and that you are anxious about. But, if you grew up poor and think there is a remote chance the business meeting could be important, and you just found out your girlfriend is cheating on you....it switches...all driven by emotion-- and your own nature.

it is perfect somebody finally differentiated desires of the current self from future and later future selves, bravo, loved your approach

Ms. Rohde's spoke about the present and future. I have heard psychologist say talking to a child about a positive outcome instead of scolding them in the present moment for X has much better results than actually last life long. I believe Kirsten is saying do this for one's self? Which makes sense. I like the talk. Good Job Kirsten.

Thank You TEDx for presenting such a wonderful talk. Thank You Kristen Rohde for explaining your opinion by such simple concepts. Very relatable TED Talk

Thanks a lot. You help me look at myself in a different perspective which means looking at my current and future me in order to understand more about the gap. Thank you :)

I am really tired of unbalance between planning and doing. I hope these 3 things will help me fill the gap 1. Circumstances 2. Priority 3. Hard to guess what future self will need and like. Thank you😊, Kristen Rohde.

And I'm watching this at 02.05 AM... FML

This is The Truth, and insight that what's actually going wrong. Very few know where they did it wrong. But most are suffering with it. Well, here's what's going wrong.

You know HABITS are not changed overnight. It takes awarness , commitment and realistic planning and being PATIENCE and having faith in yourself it takes TRUE EFFORT.

This was a very new perspective about the planning; thinking in terms of present and future self (planner and doer) and why there is disagreement. The simple alarm clock setting example was very great used to explain the complex concept. It was eye opening and was bit philosophical as well as we keep struggling within ourselves to find answer this dichotomy. Awesome speech Madam. Hats off!

Amazing, very unique concept and explanation.

Thank you.

Interesting content. Positive criticism: Arguing a bit the way it has been delivered. Difficult not to get distracted by the same tone-rhythm of the voice associated to the fact she's either reading to much or talking to invisible smurfs. It is my opinion we could use half of the time to deliver the same topic while being more effective.

Maybe it's a mind opening video! Will need to watch it twice.

9:10 I thought she was going to sing

Fantastic❤

awesome.

wonderful video

Great and usefull

from the begining until 1:46 already make me realize

I don't even plan, I simply live.

I’m interested in reading your research on the topic. Can you point to the reference? Thanks

I planned to study but end up seeing this.

feb/8/2023/ 3 pm 11:00set realistic vision

A behavior change effort succeeds when the initial motivation to engage in the behavior change is channeled towards creating achievable automated habits, rather than expecting those levels of motivation to be maintained indefinitely. Because regardless of how intense the initial feeling is. It eventually wears off with time. And you can't plan for your best version of yourself to show up every time, you have to use your energy to set systems. the belief is that well-defined system are very hard to set, but they are easier to maintain than a haphazard system that rely on having high levels of energy and motivation every time. The systems rely on the power of habit formation through repetition, environment design and reasonable expectations.

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Content starts at 1:40

The eternal dilemma

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But what if you feel like every thing is extremely perfect in your live, and the change in your case will only lead to something "bad", how do you move from that position, is not like I am living in 15 million mansion and a top model with 3 ginias kids, but I feel that I am totally sutisfacted with my live, but in praktic, is not really true, there is off ourse a lot of things I what to get done ore accomplish, so how do you get that kick in the as, when you don't feel any discrepancy between your self now, and yourself tomorrow.

11:11

did they force her into making this talk

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How about going to bed early now?

Great ideas shared but few things are over-repeated and that makes the video a bit boring.

...these ideas are simple, if you got a bad start in life it can set you back 20 to 30 years...she actually knows less than some poorer people, the environment has to be good & safe....then you can build...if the base of your existence sucks...wealth will help not a lecture. These folks are everywhere, with ideas that will not help. In fact we don't have the medical technology nor the understanding of technology to fix stuff, we actually want people to mess up so we can feel good. She misses that we have a fundamental issue in our minds, we are horrible selfish creatures.

...reincarnation is likely the best way to get back on track for many...need new family or new friends & a new body, then change is possible.

Wow i didn't know David Bowie had a problem waking up early.

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Blah blah blah just get to the point!