The Gift of Singleness (UGH REALLY?!) with Ashley Hetherington | Episode 226, Heart of Dating 

Thank u guys for this episode. The girl I'm dating this morning told me that she needed a pause and the day was stressful and had my mind racing. This managed to calmed me down and brought me to peace somewhat. Thank you again

Hi Kait and JJ, thanks for sharing this episde! May the Lord bless you both from Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic!

❤❤ Lovey is the cutest. All snuggled up with JJ.....so precious

Love it!

I love you two! ❤

Hi, I'm Stephanie. I wanted to ask if you could give me a strong prayer? All of my life I've never knew God, I believed I was a good person and do right things, and never kill or anything horrible. And I came from a family that says their catholic but doesn't practice and for the past 14yrs I was dating a person and started having premarital sex and a few years later started living together and I thought it was a normal thing to do because everyone does it. And I thought and we thought we were living right. Even if we both say we believed in God. And then down to the last two or three years of our relationship I heard the Gospel for the first time in a podcast and shared the 10 commandments to show our sin. It convinced me, because it talked about sexual immortality. And reading scripture about it. But I really really struggled to embrace this for myself because I felt too good to be true for me until this day. I believe God died for our sins and he's the one who truly satisfies and gives us worth and value. But I felt what if he wasn't for me. And I struggled to believe that for me. And I struggled to let go of the relationship because I really loved the person I was with at the same time. But was afraid be separated from God and end up in hell. I prayed if it's his will to let separates even if it hurts it'll be fine. Although I wanted God and him to draw me, but still wanted my relationship with the person I was with because I still loved him. During the last two or three yrs I slowly stopped having sex but would give in out of because he wanted to and he would get sexually frustrated and he I didn't want him. I would always fall in. And I didn't read the word or follow him. Basically I didn't feel a grasp of the Gospel like I wanted. I found myself fixing him in some way so I would be a potential wife to him and wanted him to know Jesus. He knew I was curious and getting into Jesus and definitely wanted to get married but he didn't seem interested and I was out of work for 8 yrs at the time and he wanted me to better myself, not for his benefit. But for me. A little someway to help him with bills. But mostly to see the best for me. And at the same time didn't want to be stuck with me the way we were at without me becoming successful and the sex being cut off. And because I felt what he thought if me and approaching married would disinterest him it made me close off and my communication with him really lacked. I felt that I was a selfish in because I was trying to make him do the first move and make him see my worth and get these from him. Even if he didn't know it, but complained to me and my family that I wouldn't make the first move and I stopped having sex with him and not working or going to school and that I took the whole God thing to far. Although he did at one time see him open his Bible the one and only time. And the only time I opened up about faith and God was in front of his friends because they professed faith and belief in Christ but although they were nice people but never shared the Gospel and what God says about sex. But encouraged us and says We were basically married in his eyes because we've been together and unmarried for almost 14 yrs. And my ex at the time seemed a little upset with me because I wouldn't communicate with him alone, only in front of his friends because it was where I had confidence and courage because they say their Christians. And he confessed to me that night at his friend's that he struggled to believe and have faith but never told me. And walked inside. And 6 months later he separated from me. It's left me heartbreak for over two yrs now. And I used to pray for God to make us believers and bring us back together and had believers online pray for him and myself. But then I got so discouraged. Because all the heartbreak has been weighing me down. I've been depressed, emotional, closed away in my room everyday and have some sleepless nights and get worried and feel pain and don't really have any Christian friends to take me to church. Because I don't and can't drive. And my ex has been all I've been thinking about and heartbroken because we were together for 14yrs and have so much history. And now I've been praying to myself for God to take this desire for my ex away from me and the feelings of being in love with him still. If God separated us I've been praying for him to take away these feelings I still have. And move forward trying to seek him. But I still find myself still struggling and having these feelings. And also find myself checking to see how he's doing on his social media often. And at one point it got me in trouble but I still find myself still doing it. And I find myself sad and discouraged because I've been praying and confessing to God about this and to take away my desire and my deepest and most wrenched confessions to God about my sins and to draw me and take all this away but I'm still in this dark place and feel abandoned and unchosen by God. And still sinning. And in cowardness. My heart is so tired of being heartbroken. I'm tired of being in this dark place. I want God so much and to take this idol from me to focus on him and for him to give me motivation to lean on him. And to break the chains of idols, lust, pain, greedyness, heartbreak, every sin exc. Please pray a strong prayer for me? If what I still desire is not from God please pray for God to heal my heart and truly lean on him and go forward. And pray for my ex too. Keep me in your prayers everyday. Tears, my thoughts, prayers to God hadn't been better for me. Or helped. Pray for God to draw me and to have him truly satisfy me and my worth be found only in him. I can't do this alone. Thank you for all you do. Thank you for serving and being people of God. Please pray strong for me. God bless, Stephanie

Here’s a thought, start a dating pool from your followers

who is actually benefiting from listening to this for the full hour?? Sharing nothing but feelings.. while having to endure ad after ad.. What a waste of time.