as a youngster, i concur. it seems that most now only want to hook up or “casually date” people. finding someone who wants to commit long term nowadays is like looking for a needle in a haystack.
Got married at 21. Got pregnant right away but ended up miscarrying. Struggled to get pregnant after that. Ended up adopting our son 3 years ago. We’ve had a few hard times (who doesn’t) but I am 1000% happier now then when I was single. I get to stay at home with my son, take care of him and my husband. Who could ask for more??
I found my soulmate at 14, I just didn't know it yet. At the time, she was dating a friend, so she was off my radar, but every day, she would have at me as we passed each other on the way to class. Me, not having her on my radar, didn't remember her, but was always happy some hot chick was waving at the dopey, nerdy dude with acne as they passed each other. Anyway, that school served as a central hub for the area, but the following year, they opened a second high school that target my district. Little did I know, it targeted hers, too. I found her in the hallway first day, and from that moment on, we were friends. I would call and talk with her every day, something I didn't even do with the girlfriends I had during that time. I was 17 when it hit me, I love her. We've been together ever since.
Thank you Brett!! I really appreciated this video. Im a millennial and didn’t really fall for the boss girl culture because I was lucky to have had good more traditional role models myself. My husband and I are are just now in are 30s and ready to start a family (so even we are getting started later than previous generations). I mostly want to thank you Brett for what you said at the end of your video in you calling people out. It has been so sick to see this really mean mentality to women who are waking up to these lies in their 30s (coming from more of the red pill group or just right wing more often men). People in that group need to start calling each other out for this. And even being a traditional conservative woman more myself - it’s really disgusting to see these cruel reactions. We should be excited for people and hopeful for them and the future of our society. People feel this group of women are like responsible for their pain or beneath them I guess and so they can take it out on any woman in this group - even one who is actively questioning and leaving that group (guess cuz they smell like blood in the water - so it’s time to attack I guess). You’re chasing people away from tradition by saying it’s too late for them. It’s never too late. It says everything about your heart (not theirs) if you have been talking about these women like this. Look it’s fun to point fun at people with ridiculous nonsensical ideas sometimes, but like just having to rub something in someone’s face when they are going through an emotional transition- it’s just low life kinda stuff. Check your heart.
You all have been telling men how worthless we are, drinking from cups that say male tears and using the family court system to rip father's away from there children and using court orders to keep us from seeing our kids while calling us deadbeat as you use the state to steal our money so we're basically homeless until we are picked up and put in jail because we can't afford the amount and sometimes the kids are not biologically the father's but we still have to pay, yall get what you deserve, your body your choice your consequences, from what I've seen first hand i truly believe women are incapable of love and only love what they can take from men.
Almost EVERY WOMAN changes once she slept around with half the town, or slept around until she is older and miserable. If women don’t want ” cruel ” messages from red pill. Guys then tell women to stop shitting on men and male preferences older bitter women are everywhere name calling men “ where are the good men, men are initimidated by older women, mu past shouldn’t matter to men ” women can’t shite on men and not accept backlash from men. As usual the emphatic gender poring empathy for women and found a way to dem0nize red pill guys. Enough of this bs of cuddling women and making excuses as ” grown women are misled into acting as depl0rable tr@sh” just like you tell men to man up and don’t be a bum just hold women to the same standard instead of cuddling women
” you are chasing people away from tradition saying it’s too late for women ” a 37 year old, who slept around, who broke her vows and dumped her husband YES it’s too late. Any man who marries women at this state is playing a Russian roulette.She didn’t want to end up alone and miserable so she chose him, now would she stick with him, and magically takes her vows seriously? As a woman and how di$gustingly selfish and self centred woman are all you care about is a woman getting a second chance but what you don’t give a flying fook about is the men who will be taking that risk to marry her. It’s high time men should stand up for other men and call out horrible, dating options such as these “changed” women .They are disastrous for relationships let alone marriage. As I said if men don’t call out these ” changed“ women, these same women are name calling men into dating them “ my past doesn’t matter, intimidated by older women bs,insecure” bs
And on top of all that, the whole "girlboss" movement has has serious repercussions on men, too. When literally a third of men between 18 and 30 are celibate (either virgin or celibate for a year or longer), it's become a social crisis. That being said, I believe you can talk about one issue without having to address another, there's nothing as frustrating as trying to bring awareness to some problem and someone goes "Yeah, but what about -insert some other group here-", But I guess I'm being that guy right now.
It’s okay to talk about other issues because unless an issue affects women it’s not discussed in this femini$t society. Only time men’s issues even raised is when those men issues indirectly affect women or society functioning. So yes men are being screwed to cuddle women, men don’t have any incentive to strive to be getting married because society is rigged against men, family courts, false accusations, women sleeping around there’s nothing of value for men to pursue
Well, if you believe in soulmates, there is a good chance the special someone each of these former girlbosses were meant to find have dealt with so much toxicity they would rather be single.
@@Apathy293 Truth, although I honestly don't believe in soulmates. But the point still stands that there's one less woman on the "market", and in many cases, on less woman that had serious potential to be high value and feminine, who ended up wasting themselves on their own ego (because society said they should).
Yeah but to be fair it’s usually something like men are dying in mass numbers because of suicide, but women are most effected because they’re getting less complements
Not to sound flippant, but why is it a "crisis" that a lot of men aren't having sex during the year? Like, life is a lot more than that. Also it's mostly the same for women too, at least if they're not complete floozies.
I don't feel sorry for the woman that threw away her husband at 30, partied the "sex in the city" life and now is crying about wanting a family. She's written about her dating life and her previous outlook about what she wanted in life. It took her a month to write her next article saying, "being selfish isn't inherently bad". See she needed those single years of sleeping around and being the girl boss to be "ready for a partner". No, what she wants is a baby daddy who'll help pay the bills. She might get some guy to give her a child but she's not going to be happy. Stats say she'll most likely be a divorced mom within 2 years of the child being born, screwing over some guy who refused to see the red flags.
Had my first baby at 27 and immediately felt the natural urge to put him above my career, even working from home with him a majority of his life. I’m due with my second just before I turn 30 and we’ve spent the last 2 years setting up our finances so I can stay home. I work in a high achieving industry and I know zero moms who are happy they are at work instead of being with their kids.
I had my second 9 months ago and I was wishing and still wish I wouldn’t have had to go back to work. I want to stay home with my kids and be a housewife. I’ve only recently thought that I don’t want to climb the corporate ladder. That’s not the path I want my life to take.
Just curious, do you wish you didn’t work in a high achieving career then? I just graduated college and started at a high achieving job. It’s a blessing ofcourse financially and starting off, but I also want to structure my life in a way that in the future, I’m able to have time for family and not be so work dependent. It also worries me because even though I just started, I want my potential partner to make more than me and be the provider, but that means that many guys right now are not a compatible since many guys around my age don’t work such a well to do job, atleast right now.
I think its something to do with people realizing that nobody actually wants to work 12 hours ago for a company that hates you and will do everything in their power to pay you less.
If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a million times: there is nothing unfeminist about the girl who chooses the ball gown and the prince; there is everything unfeminist about those who shame her for her choices.
Yes this!!! I am so thankful for the feminist movement that gives women the freedom to choose their happiness I am 100% behind women who choose to be moms and housewives or tradwives. Feminism should not be about women being better or superior to men or being singlemindedly focused on career. It should be about having options, choosing your own path to happiness!
So true. I want people to understand that being a girl boss is just one type of way to be a woman, and it's not the only way. If you want to be a traditional housewife, go ahead as long as you weren't pressured to be so. Unfortunately the first boyfriend in the Business Inside article did pressure her to do housewife tasks that she didn't want to do and they even agreed on that before hand.
I'm a man. I remember when I hit 30 I freaked out for like 10 seconds because I was never married and had no kids. I wasn't "focused" on my career. I just worked. A lot. Had no choice. I'm a man. We don't get the privilege of choice between work and family. Whether we have a family or not, we work.
Yeah, the same here. I had my kid with 34, not by choice, but because in my country and generation it was imposible getting a stable income before... i had to work travelling a lot between my 25-32, so i could only spent a few days a month with my girlfriend, now my wife. I would have liked to have my kid before, but I'm pretty happy nowadays
@eyeh8ul I'd just like to point out that "the privilege of choice between work and family" is not female privilege; it's rich privilege. There are mothers that work because they can't afford not to.
A hardworking man is what a family needs! Sounds like you will make a great father! If my parents waited to have enough money they would have never had kids, and used to tell me that a lot.
I absolutely love this! I got bullied growing up for saying I wanted to be a stay at home mom. I am now 23, married to the love of my life, stay home with my two wonderful kids, am pregnant with our third child, and absolutely loving my life! Update to add!!! We just found out at our 20 week ultrasound, we’re having twins!!!
23?! Damn 😂 I’m 25 (female) and no kids. Still working on doing what I wanna do with my life, gonna leave the Army soon after 4 years active.. new chapters and none involve no kids anytime soon.
@@SuicideboysGrey59 that’s awesome that you are doing what you wanna do with your life but like I said in my comment, this is what I wanna do with my life
@@BrieMomOf4 never said it’s bad just mind blowing for me is all. Personally I consider 23 young.. like just having dropped the teen off your legal age or being able to count the years back you graduated HS on one hand young. Different strokes for different folks is all.
@@iisunzo I was married for over a year before I had my first child. Just because people choose a different life than you think they should, does not mean it’s the wrong choice. You are disgusting!
My mom was pregnant with me at 30 (I was born in ‘84). She worked for a doctor. When she told him she was pregnant and will need to take her leave, he said “well, what are you going to do about it?” and then essentially demanded her to get an abortion to keep her job. She quit, that very same day.
I smell a law suit or at least reporting it to the Employment Commission (it was under the control of the Honorable Ronald Reagan, so it might have helped her).
Got married at 21. Had my kids at 23, 26, and 29. Now I’m 46 and my oldest is 22 and youngest is 16. I’m still young and have tons of time in the future just me and my hubby. Y’all can have your careers and be the boss babe. I stayed home and raised my family. Absolutely never had any regrets.
THIS! THIS SO MUCH!!! If women truly want to "have it all" this is the way to do it. Find a good man, help him build while you raise your family together. In your 40s you can have that career and work for 20-25 years if you want to. Why can't ya'll just do it this way?
Yes this! I got married at 18 and had kids at 19, 21, 23, and 25! My hubby and I are excited to enjoy our life together once our babies are out of the house and we can go on vacations and stuff in our forties and beyond.
@@jessicaholman5330 you're gonna love being a mom ❤️ remember to give yourself grace and remember that the housework can wait til you're done cuddling your little one.
@@jessicaholman5330 it’s the best. And I had energy to raise them. I can’t fathom chasing little kids at my current age of 46. I can handle grand babies when they come but I get to give them BACK! Lol
@parrotshootist3004 this comment assumes that only women are feminists. There are male feminists too. And if you're assuming men also aren't part of the culture, I don't think you know what culture actually means.
Me, a millennial homeschool mom who married an amazing man and left the workforce over a decade ago, smiling because everyone is finally understanding how amazing my life is instead of judging me for it. 😊
Well done you. Being a parent is a wonderful experience. I feel sorry for women indoctrinated by feminism into chasing careers. They are wasting their lives on a job that won't give them fulfilment or any sense of achievement, but will bring them crippling loneliness and misery.
The problem is that the feminists don't actually want you to be happy or make your own choices, unless they approve of those choices and it somehow devalues men.
Even as a man I was lied to. I heard that having kids was the death of your own life. And to live for experience in all media. Now I am an old dad. I am 38 years old with a 4 year old and a 1 year old. I wish I had these kids earlier. Now I have to wonder if I will even live long enough to see my own grandkids. Family is everything.
Do your best to stay healthy. Of course, our focus is always our family, but we should also take good care of ourselves. that's not just for us, but also for our love ones.
You are not old. My dad had me at 41 and I’m his oldest (I’m 27). My youngest sibling is 17. My dad is still able to do lots of things, and be a wonderful part in our lives.
I was on track for a pretty significant job with a significant degree and I had a professional in that field say “your downfall is going to be that you’re going to care too much about your family. It’s hard to have both.” So I quit. I didn’t get the degree I was supposed to have. I married my amazing boyfriend. I have two amazing kids. I don’t have a significant job outside of my home but I fully believe I am more fulfilled now than I would’ve been with the job I was headed towards. I had SO MANY people tell me I was going to regret this. I had so many people tell me that I needed to be more than just a mom. I needed to do something more important. But like…why? More important to who? This family, my husband, and my kids are the most important thing in my life. A job could never make me feel the way this family makes me feel. I love taking care of my babies and loving my husband. It’s an amazing life and I know I wouldn’t have had this if I had headed down the path I was headed towards.
I have a similar story. My gifts and abilities have been used fully in my home making and child rearing and partnership with my husband. I hate how young women have been lied to!
It makes me so sad that our culture has pushed the idea that "just" being a mom is not enough when being a mom (especially a good mom) is the most important thing a woman can be.
Also feeling fulfilled as a housewife. We finally hit the financial stability to start trying for our first at 27 🥰🙏🏽 Hubby worked hard, and I'm so proud to be his wife 🤩
40, and never wanted a family and I still don’t. Not career focused either though. I have a very happy social life, many friends, jobs' fine etc.. Thing is, people are wired differently. There is no 1 solution for all. Everybody needs to stop listening to society or what’s the norm. You do you
Beautifully said some girls/guys don’t want relationships/ their own family for their own reasons. Nothing wrong with having kid nothing wrong with not wanting kids
I agree completely, after all America is "land of the free", supposedly at least. I find it ironic that Brett preaches this yet would be considered a "gorl boss" in many ways. Anyway she's coming up to 6 months married now, let's see if she practices what she preaches - there should be a pregnancy announcement soon, and then she should be quitting the DW to stay at home.
@@GoldenLily-r7p Lol, I already have an empty house. I also have plenty of friends not wanting children or actually really disliking them. Then, I do have friends with kids. I still see them. Its absolutely fine. And guess what. I actually have many interests so Im never bored and sometimes I prefer to go holidaying alone. So I can meet other people and do my own thing and sometimes I do want go with friends. Why is that so difficult to comprehend?
My mom worked as a nanny for 1% girl bosses in Manhattan in the 80s. The families she served were so miserable it turned her off the whole idea of feminism forever and she passed it on to all of us.
Feminism - why be a slave to a man who is obligated to care for you, cloth you, shelter you, feed you, and protect you. instead be a slave to a soulless corporation who's only obligation is to pay you and can fire you on a whim.
I don’t think misery has anything to do with feminism or demographics. It sounds like those “girl boss” women did everything society told them to-have kids, careers, be in the top 1%-and they were still seemingly unhappy. It must be something wrong with them internally, not externally.
I’m their same age. We were raised by hippie, bra-burning feminists from the 60s. Our moms, teachers, television, etc. And there was no internet, just Teen Vogue. The overall narrative was “You’re a failure if you don’t become a boss babe”. The SAHM was mocked as a caricature of pathetic womanhood. Have some compassion, for God’s sake.
@@limeOjello Do all dogs bark? Yes, all dogs bark. Do all fish swim? Yes, yes they do. Don't give us this silly "individuals aren't their group" argument when so many women work like a hivemind. Wearing the same clothes, speaking the same language, hanging out with likeminded friends, consuming the same garbage. Besides, we're talking about a very specific type of woman, so it IS a group of women, and there's no reason to seperate them into individuals because they all do the same things.
I celebrated my 50th birthday and 30th anniversary last year. I was (pre) girl boss, was studying to become a sports medicine doctor, thought about maybe having a few kids in my 30’s. I couldn’t be happier that I married at (almost) 20, and was pregnant with our first miracle 5 months later, and was a stay at home mom ever since. No success in life matters if you fail in the home.
Congratulations! This is awesome. My boyfriend and I and are planning to get married soon and I’m so excited to have kids. I think about it everyday! I’m 18 and am thankful I’ve learned from other peoples mistakes. It’s a blessing to get married and have kids young. God bless you and your family ❤
My mom did the same. She ended her education with 2 masters. The brightest woman I've ever met to this day, and I've worked in the financial district here in NYC where some of my peers were women. Mom chose to settle down WHILE she was getting her first masters, and had my brother first before she graduated. Her and my father had the most beautiful 20 yrs together until cancer took her. She redpilled me and my brother, and this was WAY before that space even existed. She warned me to NEVER choose a "career woman", and to be careful with settling down as the courts are against me. You and my mother made the right (and excellent) choice. It's no surprise that you're happy, and I hope that trend continues for you! God bless to you and your beautiful family, ma'am.
@@-l1ly- Wow, congratulations to you as well! You have your goals aligned with what really makes one experience true joy, and I can’t wait for your upcoming adventures. May God bless you and your future union with much joy❤️
@@kugelschreiber5678 First of all, my condolences on the passing of what sounds like an exceptional, brilliant woman. It sounds like she instilled in you the greatest importance in life, and may you be blessed to have a happy one in all your future endeavors ☺️
@@jennifertwede7142 thank you ma'am. You are very kind and I really appreciate it. Mama did instill some of THE best values in her kids. My brother and I look around and see how miserable the world is, and further thank our mother and father for the way they raised us. Mothers like you and mine are a genuine gift from kid. Us kids couldn't have been any luckier 😇. God bless you and yours!
As a 33 year old married father of 4 it’s so sad to see women-and men-fall for this trap. Literally yesterday I made up with my 5 year old that when he starts growing facial hair we are going to grow huge mustaches and call ourselves “the mustache men”. I wouldn’t give any of this up for NOTHING. please. It ain’t easy. Sometimes these loonies are annoying as anything but they’re mine and I couldn’t be happier.
I'm in my 20s and literally still have a twelve year old brother who says things like this all the time. I also have six other younger siblings. I just want a break. Not everyone's situations are the same, some things you could never understand, so it's really not one shoe fits all.
I guess I'm just saying that, "kids say funny stuff, who knew" doesn't mean God put everyone in the same position. I am glad if having kids gave some people a new perspective and it was good for them. Some people just already knew that and still feel called to to other stuff that gives them meaning. But people on this thread act like it's the only thing anyone should ever do.
Been married more than 3 decades. No kids, by choice. Both my wife and I have genetic conditions (different ones) that can be passed on. This was a decision we made together, knowing that any child we had would very much likely have one (or both) of these genetic issues. I have no regrets. Not judging parents - you do you. I'm happy for you! But I am also thankful for my decision. I do love kids, but am glad I never had any biological children of my own.
Same man. Kids are the best. My 3 year old son always tell me he can’t wait to get big and strong and be able to go to work with me and go to the gym with me, and help me with projects around the house. That level of admiration is just irreplaceable. Being someone’s hero and role model and raising a tiny version of yourself is one of the greatest pleasures in life.
When I was 21 and engaged I ran into my elementary school principal, he asked me what career I was pursuing and I told him "I'm just working until I have kids." He said "What a waste of your potential." 10 years and 2 kids later, I'm so thankful I am a stay-at-home mom and not a pharmacy technician
@@jeremycarl2401 Wow you know her more than she knows herself? I have never seen a stranger speaking about another stranger and knowing them more than they know themselves.
Complete waste of your personal potential what if Einstein or someone like that decided to be selfish and have kids and not pursue what they were great at and their world changing views and ideas…don’t flatter yourself you could have fucking done both
As a single man in my late 30s, i saw SOOO many women that were both desperately clinging on to their feminist "i hate men" principles, yet also DESPERATELY scrambling against the ticking clock to build a family and find a husband IMMEDIATELY. Their desperation is SCARY to deal with because their life plans become 100% YOUR responsibility as a man, and theres this feeling that you wont even get the chance to just enjoy each other's presence before you become entrenched in the responsibility of marriage and kids
Your second paragraph is me in my early 30s. Unfortunately I had to stop dating women my age (single and without kids) because they become way too desperate when they suddenly realize time's not on their side anymore. It's not a stereotype, women are not good at hiding or dealing with that kind of primal desperation. However, I won't change my time line of getting to know someone just because they suddenly realized they didn't respect theirs. Society loves to shame men for dating "younger" but actually sometimes we simply don't want to "hold up" the 34 yo woman with no kids from finding a man that's as desperate as her to have a family. You don't get to put that pressure on me _on the first date_ after you spent more than 3 decades not caring about it.
I've been tasting that desperation for years in my late 30's in the dating market. I just gave up, I always felt like they were not even there for me, I felt like I was their last chance so they would settle down out of resignation. Im looking at younger women now and I dont give a shit about what society thinks of me.
Those are the types of women who marry a clueless guy and divorce him after they get their kids or after finding they can't have kids. He's just a means to an end and he has no clue.
It's amazing that some of the women I've known for years, married and divorced, no stable incomes, unstable parents, partying and being jackases into their 30s, find out I've got a decent job and all of a sudden want to hang out/catch up blah blah blah. Oh where were they when I lost my job during COVID lockdowns? Or spent years studying to get a useful degree, or suffering through jobs in awful conditions for a line on a resume. Nowhere. This culture has taught them to take shortcuts at all times, and I'd rather stand and watch their 3rd wave bullshit burn them than offer an olive branch built on my sacrifices.
i’m only 20 and although i’m putting a lot of effort into figuring out my career as of now, finding a husband and having children is still my top priority in life. i’m so grateful i realised that early on and didn’t have to wait till my 30s for the sad epiphany.
Only date with that in mind. This casual scene can screw up even guys. Every time it's less special. People are lying who say otherwise. Just because it was more exhilarating later isn't the same thing. Drugs are exhilarating, and people love them
Good. You're on a good track. Having a career isn't a bad thing. The bad thing is when women put their career and "sexual liberation" as their top priorities and supress their natural inclination for having a man and children because of feminism illusion, which is programmed into dormant low IQ women at university and by MSM. They made it hard for men to commit to good women because many of them are chameleons. We're now very hesitant about women. But I'm glad you kept your brain clean. And keep your legs closed for your husband only and no one else; your value will be kept that way. Chastity and peace are very important to men, as ambition and ability to provide are very important to women.
You do not know yet if it's something you can be grateful for to be honest. You will know it in 10-20 years. For every woman that I know that now is unhappy in her 30s due to choosing a career pursuit, I know 2 that are frustrated cause they chose family over career and now close to their 40s they feel that sure they have children but they feel they have achieved nothing in life. And for every man that is unhappy in his 40s for choosing staying in work until 9PM over seeing his children I know of 2 unhappy cause they were not focused enough on choosing the right professional path. Being an adult is a hard shit filled of "hindsight is 20/20¨ situations. Brett describes it as if it was black or white. Meanwhile, people can be extremely unhappy regardless of the choices earlier in life. The thing is that it is way more nuanced than that and looking at the nuclear family model with a rose-tinted glasses is as foolish as trying to be a strong independent woman no matter what.
@maddiec6186 sound like a win for the women in that scenario. If you're a guy and won't marry a women because they earn more then they probably aren't a man you would want anyway
I had this awakening at 26 and felt so behind. I’m so grateful that the man I was already with wanted traditional marriage, faith and kids and we’re working towards all 3
@@alejandropacheco7832 im a woman i have a really hard time looking for someone to marry. No one has any interest in me. im 26 now. i feel like i wanna 0ff myself.
I have a feeling that Gen Z (or at least a significant portion of Gen Z) are going to be more conservative than millennials. I’m Gen Z myself and I am a very traditional, Christian guy. I think a lot of my peers are waking up.
The culture was women telling women that crap. I have never met a man of any value encourage their daughters or women that the girl boss path was the way. What about the men who were rejected by these women, these men who don’t have sons or daughters to snuggle with because these girl bosses wanted to sleep with random men and get that bag? I’m sorry I’m not going to pay these women on the head and say it’s ok- they were selfish and now want to be told it’s ok when it’s not. As humans we judge people all the time not their past behaviors, and we should change that people some 40 year old woman wants babies.
@@natoslayer2907 It's the same thing as the trend followers. If you're an easy on the brains and like a sheep that goes after the new and popular thing? Yea, feminism, girl-boss, Cardashians and all that crap. But smart people choose that to do with their lifes without that shit. Wanna have a baby? Ok. Wanna be child-free? Ok. No culture can tell YOU what to do if you don't CHOOSE to.
Yeah it's really nice how, as a woman, nothing is my fault. Everyday people are just letting me get away with anything. It's a good thing all women are exactly the same with this magic privelege.
I went to a women in engineering event and when I saw how unhappy the speakers were, that really just affirmed to me where my priorities should stay. I'm not going to stop pursuing my education, but I'm not going to compromise my long-term goals of being a wife and mom for the sake of my career.
Don't put me off, I'd like to date a girl who likes exact science, because I'm an engineer. I would like to pass these skills on to my children early 🤣🤣
Engineering is depressing for both men and women. Unless they are work-oriented people. @@cavaleirosemlicenca3894 I have friends who prefer a shared profession in a partner, but about something entirely different on the table?
Just make sure you don't go into debt for your education. I got an engineering degree for 60k debt. Now I'm a stay at home mom and my debt is a burden for my husband (thankfully he's very successful so we'll be fine, but I wish we didn't have that hanging over our heads).
I feel the same way. I’m 18 and studying to be an aerospace engineer. I value my education and feel a need to have a career in what I love. However, I deeply desire to be married young and raise children and to put my family first.
I was married at 20 to the love of my life and I just turned 40. We’ll be celebrating 20 years this summer. We waited a few years to have kids, but I was still in my mid-twenties when we started our family. Best decision ever! Of course we had to work through a lot of immaturity and baggage (we both came from broken/divorced households.) But by the grace and help of the Lord and a little bit of grit, we pulled through and it’s been a wonderful adventure. I love him more now than in the beginning. We’re still young, our kids are in high school and junior high and there’s so much more to look forward to! If you can help it, start your family and essentially your life, as soon as you can. Don’t rush, don’t make foolish decisions in urgency or fear, but don’t resist the invitation to life and love and family when presented to you in exchange for the false success of a career that will only last so long. Family lasts forever ❤
It's lovely that your marriage lasted 20 years, but how many others didn't? Marriage at a young age is one of the strongest predictors of divorce. There is just so much maturing and identity-creation that occurs in your 20's, and the children of "older" parents tend to have better behavioral and academic outcomes. Your story is wonderful and inspiring, but that doesn't mean advice like "start your family and essentially your life, as soon as you can" is good advice. It's ok to focus first on education/personal growth, career, travel, friendships, and finances. Those things add a richness to your life. You'll have experiences, wisdom, empathy, and more perspectives to offer your husband and kids. Just my two cents.
@mleobviously I understand what you’re saying :) But if you continue to read what I wrote in it’s entirety, you’d see that I also added to not rush or make foolish decisions out of fear, but to also not resist the offer when and if it comes, in exchange for a career. In other words, if life and love are presented to you and it’s the right thing, don’t put it off because you think a career will be more important than starting a family. Being married as young as I was, I can absolutely see both sides of the benefit to getting married young and also the benefit to waiting until you’re older if that’s what you have to do. I changed tremendously in my 20’s and felt more like an adult in my 30’s. But the opportunity to start my life young was presented to me and it was a very good decision that I didn’t push away because I thought a career would be more fulfilling than starting a family. And I certainly didn’t look to others to validate what they viewed as a successful life. And my husband and I are truly a miracle. With us both coming from divorced parents, and my side actually being a generational pattern of divorce (grandparents as well). Young people don’t have to fall into statistics just because “society” states that getting married young has a higher rate of failure. We made a decision that went against the grain with great success (and a lot of hard work and grit) and I want to encourage those who would actually be encouraged by it. If it doesn’t encourage you or speak to you, then that’s ok 😊 I joined the conversation with some experience under my belt of making choices that essentially go against the narrative of the feminist movement.
The Title was "I'm 38 and single, and I recently realized I want a child." That's NOT the voice of a woman who wants to be a wife. That's a woman who just wants a child. Careful Gents and pay close attention.
The problem is that you can say these women are “waking up”, but they seem like the type that if they did settle down, get married, and had kids; they’d get bored a few years in or realize being a mother “isn’t for them” so then you either end up with a resentful parent or just a divorce.
I just retired beginning of January and I couldn’t be happier. My quality of life is so much better as well as my daughter is thriving. (She’s 17months) I don’t have to worry about babysitting and my husband is happy with home cooked meals. Ladies wake up! Prioritize your family don’t listen to society. I’m now 34 trying to have a second child. Praying to God he has that planned for us.
I’m 51 and never got married or had kids, because I thought I was supposed to focus on getting rich and famous. Now I’m broke, unknown, and alone. So there you go!
When did you come to the full realization about how things weren't working out the way you thought they would in terms of reexamining your priorities in life? I'm genuinely curious to hear more.
@@KIMIxMELLOI want you to know that Jesus is there for you, he sees you, and he loves you anyways and you have much to look forward to after you leave this world if you trust in him
It's unfortunate that by the time most of these women "wake up", it's already too late. They've squandered their best years and won't be able to attract the quality of man they feel entitled to. So, when they eventually settle for someone they consider below their standards, they will become bitter and contemptuous and likely end up cheating or separating or getting divorced.
Being a stay at home wife and mother is the best thing I could have ever done. I am thankful for my husband every single day for encouraging me to do this. As the husband is the head of the house, the wife is the heart of the home. Without her, the home is cold is dead. Set the world on fire ladies by loving your husbands and children at home ❤️❤️
Sad that you don't see much of this. I work in an industry where I go into a lot of homes, and see a lot of people. This is rare, unfortunately. All the best to you and yours! Good people like you guys are the ones that make me wanna keep working!
No hate, I feel like it's valid to say that partners are co-heads of the household. They're your partner, not your boss, right? An unequal relationship sounds like hell. Would a man find it acceptable for his wife to be "the head of the household"? Then why do we have to? A kind and engaged partner and parent is absolutely a heart of the household and it's a beautiful thing to have
"It seems that today individuals who do not have the Y chromosome are already labeled as strong, independent , bosses and empowered" - The Critical Drinker
It doesn't help that these "girl bosses" were stepping on the good men that would have married them for 10 years. Those good men have good reason to be resentful.
The metoo movement only affects actual good men and makes them risk averse, while the bad boys and dark triad people could care less about such things…
One simple question always deflates the whole deal: "Boss of what?" Actual answer 90% of the time? A lot of debt + buyer's remorse. (And either a dog or a cat or a bird or a reptile or an invertebrate -- listed in descending order of likelihood.)
It's just being a boss of their life, which rings hollow for men who will literally be living on the streets if they don't do that. Yeah you take care of yourself, so what? So many narratives around feminism really do have a childish feel, just like the beginnings of feminism had, and smart women felt that was very patronizing. I think it was. Things were on the upswing, but then like everything else, our culture totally regressed and now we freely pander and condescend. We almost have to now, it's demanded as such. It's so pathetic that I can never actually do it, because I sincerely expect them to be offended by such things. Safe to say most won't be offended these days, like I said they expect it, but it's just wrong. They're actually screwing up their goal of real equality when it's possible, I'm the one holding the line.
@@MikeTheD "They're actually screwing up their goal of real equality when it's possible, I'm the one holding the line." Or that was never their real goal, it's not actually possible, and you're chasing a pipe dream. One borne of a grift. (Food for thought.)
The worst thing about this shift to feminism is that we've dismantled a lot of the ways that people meet and form bonds. As a single man I have no idea where to go to meet women other than bars and churches. Couples don't just form out of nothing. They begin with two single people meeting up and forming first a friendship then later love. We need to start creating the conditions under which relationships are formed and opening up ways to socialize would be a very good start.
I dont know where to go In general anymore, women have made all excuses to not give me a chance, and now I'm just supposed to forgive them? Don't work that way, watch their actions not their words.
@mikem8523 100% correct. Women are always thinking about themselves and what they want. But they don't realize how many men along the way. Have been damaged goods just to be a piece of a pedestal that they stand on as they put down all men. And never take accountability. There are so many men out there that suffer and are really trying to find love. When women are really out there, just to get. They're rocks off and a bunch of free meals or just to get a bunch of free meals and fake that they want the guy. Then like this woman ruined her marriage and a guy's life just to divorce him and break His heart and now she wants the exact same thing she had that she threw in the trash. Women don't realize, but they're p*ss Poor decisions affect the men in their life as well, And as men hold each other to a higher standard. Which is why we don't have a safety net if we screw our lives up
this is the problem, women screwed the entire planet up and want men to not mock and ridicule them for it. Women have been denigrating men for 50 years, we have every right to make fun of women forever.
This is totally me. Got my masters degree by 23, entered corporate world, got married at 25 and had my son at 28. I’m 31 and pregnant with our second and I don’t care to climb the corporate ladder anymore. Just want to raise my babies. But we can’t financially justify me quitting. I feel so lied to. I wish more people were expressing the importance of being a mom and wife and home maker. Might have taken a different path in life. I’m just grateful I do have my babies now. Genuinely jealous of all the SAHMs.
I am 23 this year I plan on getting my Master's too, because I hate corporate work, and I want a flexible research job that can make me work from home (I work in tech). I have not met any man that can provide for me as I stay home and work from home so I am proceeding with my degree while I look for one😂
@Amanda-wb6vb I was robbed of my 20ties, and I grew to reject men for dissapointing me and hurting me, so im 30 now I work but I look for a husband with whom I can just be at home, I wanna make flower buqets and eat good foor and sleep long I dont need no corporate ladder and I hate it takes so much from your life and others are so proud of it
You can become a stay at home mom. Ask your husband to set up a plan and increase his earnings. He definitely can do things to increase his salary. It’s not fair for you to do both home managing and working.
We were in the same boat, but we made major changes to our financial choices, which was hard at first, but I asked myself, if I were to die a year from today. Would it have been a more fulfilling year if I stayed home and made those memories with my kids, or more fulfilling to have made more money. Thats when the decision I needed to make really hit me.
@@rebeka145 praying for you... Do you have any solid plans so far for the lifestyle change? I barely go out of my home and see the same people everyday. No luck so far🤣
I have a career, but I know when I get married my family is going to be my main priority and a way greater source of happiness, so sad how so many young girls were lied to😔
@@calebhicks4441I know marriage is not for everyone, that’s why I said it’ll be a greater source of happiness for myself, because everyone’s life looks different❤️
As a teenager im glad i saw this video. I feel like ive lost sight of what is important and i simply decided i never wanted to get married some day. This video is truly eye opening. Thank you :)
Give every guy interested an opportunity, but date with a purpose. Date with the question in your mind of "Will this man be a good father? Did he have a good example growing up?". If you ever think, "No." Break up immediately. Do not waste a second with someone who you're not on the same page philosophy wise with money (you don't have to be at this same place financially, but your goals must align), life goals, and religion (if that is something that would be important to you). If you do this, you will waste far less time than these women realizing when they are 30 what they truly want. At 30, you're out of time. You've collected too much damage and you're asking too much of men to invest the time. People will tell you it's hard out here in the dating scene, but these are people who are dating without a purpose so prone to collect serious damage.
Society scorns young love, and tries to criminalise it. Of course go at your own pace, don't be pressured into doing things too quickly if you'd be uncomfortable, but it's important that you actually do "go", you know? Dating is an investment. Of the potential people, see which romantic interests would be the best for a family setting. You'll be fine, and your work will pay off in the end when you have a whole family who loves you.
Big pharma profits from women by selling them birth control in their youth, then fertility treatments when they're older and (finally) want kids. Corporations profit from women joining the workforce in droves because it increases the demand for jobs, gives employers bargaining power, and increases the tax base. Academia profits from women by selling them junk degrees in "gender studies" and "critical race theory". Banks profit from women by giving them college loans (for junk degrees) which they'll be paying interest on over decades, negatively impacting their buying power. Don't get me started on social media. Algorithms have wrecked human interaction. Your generation is subject to propaganda on a scale never seen before.
I kinda disagree with you on your first sentence, as a teenage girl there are lots of weird predatory guys out there and I wouldn't give every guy a chance especially if you know he is kinda guy who dates to just get sex
@@Jessibestie-tb9kw there are predatory guys who go for all ages, and good guys too. Many men's first instinct is sex, and you tell the good ones from the bad by their attitude - good will be happy when you get pregnant, bad will leave. One could even argue that the men who go for older single women are more predatory. Those are the women who have less going for them. They aren't fertile, they generally can't perform familial actions and tasks such as cooking, a life of working has soured their outlooks, and they don't have a long future to improve these facts. They're desperate and lonely, and are less likely to get pregnant. Predatory men see that, and use them as consequence free sex dolls that will almost just roll over and accept it when they're discarded.
My husband and I have been together since I was 18 and he was 22. So 22 years. We have 3 kids. I got sick a few years ago, and my husband didn't hesitate to make sure I could stay home and focus on getting better going through cancer treatments and spending time with my kids. I'm so blessed. I am sad for these woman, I pray that they find their family. The strength is in that partnership and commitment that creates FAMILY. FAMILY OVER EVERYTHING. ❤❤❤ MUCH LOVE BRETT AND BLESSING AND PRAYERS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE AND FUTURE FAMILY. ❤❤❤
I’m really happy you beat cancer ❤. Hope you stay healthy and happy for many, many more years. Please don’t feel sad for anyone else. Would you like it if I said I feel sad for you because you stay at home? I work because I don’t want to stay at home, but family is my priority and they come above all else. This naturally means I have less time for girlfriends and book clubs and other things that just take a back seat, which is fine by me. By the way I am not a feminist nor do I think women need to choose between the two, you can do both. This entire debate is ridiculous. Stop judging people for their choices or providing faux pity. I sincerely hope anyone who has an issue with women working never goes to a female doctor as that would just make you a hypocrite.
They not taking responsibility, they are hopping for a men to pick up their slacks. They not only failed to fullfill their role as a women, they also failed to become a strong independent women. Now that the clock is running out is when they want men to save them. Meanwhile us men continued working on ourself to have something to offer to our future wife and mother of our children. Thats why we prefeer young because at this stage in our life we cannot risk loosing a child due to being high risk. While i am glad they waking up and trully wish them the best, men will not be picking up the slacks of a women that rejected us because she thought she could do better. We want the one girl that stays with us when we had nothing, not the one that wants us after we accomplished everything
I feel the loss too because it still happened to me and I wasn't even like them. I never wanted to be a boss girl, I've always wanted to get married and have a family. I've been trying to get married since I was 17! My mom is VERY much a third wave feminist. She'd literally scream at me about how worthless I am because I wanted to be a stay at home mom. So even though I wanted that life I kept dating men like her, who abused me. But in 2018 I got into therapy and healed myself and by 2023 I'm engaged! We're getting married in 5 months!
@@shauhame6364 Aww, thank you so much! Goal is married in a few months, first baby in two years, second shortly after. I'd be happy with two but I think I want three. 🥰
@@athomewiththemrs9410 Aww! You really are so sweet, I was not expecting this kind of comment when I made my comment. I just hope other girls who have parents like mine and weren't necessarily victim to that kind of culture but still struggle to get married can have hope. I appreciate you so much! It's been a long, hard, road. But I did it and I've never beem happier.
I have been shamed by my family for saying I’d want to be a stay at home mom even by my mom who IS a stay at home mom. I’ve been told by my dad to “not sell myself short” my aunt at thanksgiving was condescendingly like “yOU wAnT to DEpEnD oN a mAN” ???? Like yes that’s exactly what I want 😂 I want to focus on having kids and raising them and baking brownies and cupcakes for school bake sales and decorating and going to games and dance classes to support my children. I get in this economy I need to have the means and the funds to support my life but if that could be done with just one income I shouldn’t be shamed for wanting to focus on taking care of myself and my family and home.
@@megankissinger8269why don’t these people also tell ” what if’s” for men? Before marrying or marrying a promi$cious women, or stay at home wife? Considering family courts are rigged against men and women initiate 8/10 of the divorce cases so there’s no ”advice “ for men instead men are shamed and name called into getting married or date promi$cious women. It’s scary how selfcentred and di$gustingly selfish female nature is
It can be done, even on varying degrees of income level! Budgeting, saving, being thrifty and sacrificing material things for your family life is well worth the effort!!
Sounds like giving women an excuse for no accountability. Sure they got tricked and I don’t think they should be made fun of but that is the reality. They should take accountability and said I fucked up and anything that is thrown at them is the consequences of their actions. There will be a man that will give them a chance but they have to bear that burden they put on theirselves. So saying “don’t blame these women” is just an excuse to not put accountability on women.
You said it all. These women are weaker than wet toilet tissue. Sure, there's no need to laugh at their misfortunes. But, to say that we as men shouldn't say, We told you so," is arrogant and entitled. Brett is just another typical woman who's making excuses for women THAT CHOSE FEMINISM OVER EVERYTHING!! I refuse to mock these silly, but I also refuse to feel sorry for them. The quality of your life is always dependent upon the choices that you make. Lastly, the woman who wrote the online ALREADY HAD A HUSBAND!! She blew it!! So this is for these Feminist girl bosses: "WE TOLD YOU SO!!"
My mom saw the big picture way back during ERA and taught me that a woman’s place is in the home. I was “left behind” by all of the Boss Babes who now look at me with envy *because* I have a 30-year marriage to a doctor with 7 beautiful children.
I chose marriage and kids over a career. Now that my kids are teens, I am criticized because I don't want to go to work now. I am still raising my kids and I am happy with my decision.
Yes! I was asked "when are you going to go to work and help your husband?" My being at home and managing things, including a large garden, has allowed my husband to advance in his career. Like you, we are happy with our decision.
My heart goes out to this woman. I wish I could give her a hug and tell her hope is not lost. My mom had my brother at 39 and me at 41. They were both easy and seamless pregnancies and deliveries. My mom tells me that she loved being pregnant and caring for her babies. She would have had more kids if she was younger. I just want to say that being in the upper 30s does not mean your biological clock has run out yet.
Why? These women have caused the destruction of countless men using the family court and she's one of them. Now we're to pity her for being selfish? It wasn't a victimless crime. Feminism isn't victimless!
@@nickd2296 But even young moms can have babies with disabilities. There’s a girl on RU-vid who had a baby with Down syndrome when she was only 16 years old.
To sum it up, staying at home and looking after your kids is far more feminine than trying to do everything by yourself. Also, on an unrelated note, Brett's segways into talking about sponsors are always so smooth and unexpected.
To go further than that, why do we have to be feminine? Why do we have to be masculine? Why do we have to "be" anything and fit an image or mold to be acceptable or "do life right"? If you're happy, you're happy. You're the one living your life, you're the only one experiencing it every day.
I'm so glad I never fell for the whole "Girl boss" thing. And my friends are saying I should, but I just... want to he happy? And my idea of happiness happens to be more trad.I have a job I love but I'm more than happy to start a family soon, just waiting for the right time (hopefully soon)
Part of the problem is that these "girl bosses" have spent their adult lives until this point telling men how worthless they are. Yes, it's great that they are waking up, but to then expect these same men to just forgive and forget is asking a lot. I consider myelf a pretty forgiving person, but I think it takes more than a sudden change in attitude to erase years of behavior. It takes years to truly get to know someone, especially if you want to marry or start a family. By the time a lot of these women get to that point in a relationship, they will be past child bearing age unless alternative means are used.
Spot on, this is a far deeper issue than just forgiving and then riding in to be a savior. These women have sowed deep consequences for their choices and need to reap those consequences, without such they will not be any different from their original mindset and behaviors. These women are even worse traps than unrepentant girl bosses, just imagine the bitterness and argumentative nature they would bring to the marriage / family table. "Proverbs 21:9 Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman."
They ” changed ” because they are used and dumped by other men and almost or over 30 if they don’t ” settle down with an average Joe that’s obviously beneath the queeeeen she is” she knows she will die alone. It’s a grift, all her young attractive, fertile years go for random men while she is all used and broken then ” nice guys finish last”
I lost my woman card in the 90s because we had our first child and I wanted to stay at home with her. I didn't expect that at all. When we got married, I was so sure that I didn't want children, until I did. I was so sure that I could deposit the baby at daycare, until I had to do it day after day. My poor husband was amazing throughout all of this. He told me that I would change my mind when we got married and didn't press me on it. He was 100% right and thankfully we are still married and our kids are grown. But the crap I dealt with from other women was ridiculous. I was in mom's forums back in the 90s and 2000s, they were in their girl boss eras but at least they were having kids. I got it from irl women and some men!
It’s disgusting men have to deal with women being so sure of what almost always is complete and utter nonsense. Politics /values being top of this list. You’re damn lucky your husband tolerated all your childish girl boss nonsense.
I agree. I spent a long time in school getting a BSN and RN license and put off having kids. One of the directors of the program flat out told us "don't get pregnant" because they wouldn't work with us if we needed to missed anything. A few years later, I was hired by a surgical dept. and asked if I had kids. I said no and the nurse I was talking to said, "Yeah. (So-and-so) likes her nurses unattached." She was referring to the director of surgical services. When I was finally pregnant with my first, I told director and she said, "Yeah. I thought you were going to do that." I've never had that kind of treatment from male bosses.
Why do women get so defensive about things that are plainly obvious? Reminds me of this exchange between Gavin McInnes, and some dem lady on Hannity years back. "How DARE you suggest I want to be a stay at home wife and mother! I love my job!" Guess who got married and disappeared from politics?
I’m a 40 year old female and I felt this so hard. I spent almost two decades in NYC chasing after a marketing career in Corporate America that will just spit you out as soon as they decide they’re done with you. I never wanted kids, but I always wanted love, and a husband. And now that I’m at 40, I’m craving my own family. I’m sick of focusing on everything/everyone else and working a million hours, to the detriment of my own health. I felt everything Brett said in this video so strongly. My priorities have shifted and I just want a different life. 🙁
Brett I agree with you on most things but this. I cannot encourage anyman to get involved with damaged women just because "society told them so" that's utter BS. I managed to be a millionaire in a 3rd world country and now all options are available to me and no way I'm dating anyone above 25 or single mother who's partner is still alive that's BS. Society told our generation many things male and female no excuses, the best survived and the rest are now in tears.
This is the type of comment that makes me depressed. I'm a woman who just turned 26. I have been seeking a traditional marriage since I was a teenager. I prayed for it so many times (background: I'm Muslim and was homeschooled ). I do not do the traditional dating this Western society does. I never had a boyfriend or been with a man at all I'm doing wrong. I only experienced friendships (with women) where they don't care about you as much as you care about them. For a decade I sat back and watched mutuals get married like it's so effortless. For years when my dad would take me home it would be the same thing: Sitting in the passenger seat and crying asking him "why am i not married yet?" or "Why have I not found anyone?" This went on at age 20, 21, 22, and 23 and so on. Another example is that I would pray all night, especially during the last 10 nights of Ramadan, which are supposed to be sacred for the same thing repeatedly with tears in my eyes. Still nothing... The years went by and I heard this rhetoric,....... Here I am....26 years old....over the age of men want women and I feel like no one will want me despite doing everything right (guarding my chastity and staying away from men physically). It has come to a point where 3 times this year I have thought the best course of action now is no end my life, there is now no reason to live it. And before anyone says anything about standards, they are not or never were high or low. In the places I do go, I just feel invisible. Nonexistant. A person people have no interest in. Here I am...and my decade-long biggest fear has come true....
Yes but there is also a balance! Don’t start a family without having a stable income and a home!! Not everyone these days have that ability with our economy today so no, bad idea having kids young these days. It’s easy to say that when you already have this success at your age but not everyone has your success at your age let alone the mindset you have at your age. Everyone is different, grows different, matures at different times.
I’m a 26 yo married stay at home mom. We don’t have a house yet and we make sacrifices to make it work but we couldn’t be happier. Our son is 5.5 months old and just got his first tooth! I couldn’t imagine missing these days and moments with him for a day job. My husband works so hard to provide for us and I’m very grateful.
Yeah, but...your husband misses those days. Your child's father wont be there for those special moments if he's working all the time to provide for you guys.
Yeah yall want to have kids at 20-25 and be a stay at home mom all you want but in todays eco you'll be dead broke unless your SO makes 6 figures or you live with parents.
Literally true, some of Brett's video amounts to yet again telling men to accept the abuse and now feel sorry for the women who doled it out. Just pay attention to the videos these "regretful" women put out, most still want the mega-chad easy mode lifestyle. It is not so much regret for a family as regret for not landing that Chad millionaire that they regret.
@@ReineDeLaSeine14 Ever noticed men's red pilled videos are about walking away or letting women have the boss girl life they want, without men. BUT Women's videos in this culture are about how no one needs a man and how in inherently evil men are, even wishing men to suffer more, some have gone as far as to hope for self deletion of men. There is a big difference between what men and women say in theses videos!
I’m thankful for my Mom who told me as a teen that she regretted not being home with my brothers and I. That made such an impact on me, and I knew from that conversation that I would stay home with my children. My husband and I were the first to get married from our friends group (21). We had 4 children by the time we were 28. We couldn’t be happier with the decisions we made to marry and have children early, or to live a traditional lifestyle (my husband works, me at home raising and homeschooling our children). I have several friends from college who still aren’t married or at least decided to delay children and then it became harder to get pregnant, and they just don’t seem happy or fulfilled. I feel sad for them. But I remember conversations in college when I said I planned to be a stay at home, homeschooling mom, and my friends mocked me. I’m not really having the last laugh, because I genuinely feel bad for what they’re missing out on. As a side note, having children as young as we did, we will have an empty nest by 50, and can travel and do those things that won’t friends focused on in their 20’s and 30’s.
thing is, not every women was made to be a mother and submissive, and not every woman was made to be a girlboss, problem is we have confused people on both sides trying to figure out who they are. its ok if you are either one, just make sure its what you really want and not what social media tells you to be ❤
That is what I am saying! You should do what truly fulfills you, and not listen to social media ect. because they don't care about you and you are the only person who knows what you want
You're inherently wrong, just purely biologically speaking. Women just like to think this way because they think being submissive is a bad for some reason.
@@Yoroiful no, you are wrong, biology has nothing to do with this, people can genuinely think outside the norm you know? have you ever gone outside and met real women from different backgrounds and personalities?
I’m 24, almost 25 and have 2 babies and my husband and I both work full time. Our kids don’t have to be in daycare because we work for the same employer and they schedule us opposite each other, and let me tell you, it’s killing me inside. The full time is new to me, we’ve got some financial freedom goals we want to meet, and when we do I cannot wait to be home all the time with my babies and have more. I have NEVER condoned the feminist movement. Being a young mom is the best decision I’ve been in my entire life.
They weren't betrayed. They are adults, likely with higher education, and can therefore make important choices. They have a plethora of older women as warnings, much more now with tiktok lamentations, yet remained steadfast behind the ideology because it benefitted them somehow. They only feel betrayed because men do not work according to their narrative. Warn a woman in her 20s about the same thing and she will probably fight you tooth and nail till she ends up just like them.
Brett this needs to go viral. Everything you and these ladies said is so true. As a woman in my 50’s I too experienced the is it too late regret but was very lucky to find the right man and have 2 amazing children within 3 years as I turned 40. Women, if you find a good man in your 20’s hold on to him tight, because there isn’t an endless supply of them and loneliness is painful, no matter how many designer handbags you own.
When she had someone who loved her Back when she was younger She wonders if she held out A little bit too long. Back then there were so many But now there just aren't any And she thinks all the good ones are gone. Pam Tillis.
And having "high standards" for how you are treated is actually just having "standards." Disrespect or dismissiveness or control or "well he's only a LITTLE misogynistic and it's only sometimes" isn't acceptable. You're worth more than that. Men get called "good men" all the time just because they hold down a job and aren't violent degenerates. But do they treat you as an equal human being? If yes, THEN they're a good man, and those exist! Heck, even my sister is married to a lovely one =)
@@wandertree Yes but the difference is there has always been a lot of men dyng alone, this is a very new dynamic for women. It is very hard, men have been dealing with it for age eternal, women are far less prepared for such loneliness, imo they are built needing such relationships much more than the average man.
I’m 26 and a stay-at-home mom of two (soon to be three). I unexpectedly fell pregnant with my first when I was in occupational therapy school. I was encouraged to stick with it, as my father lost his father at a young age and was raised in poverty because his mother had no career skills. I graduated (on time) and I have my license, which I’m so grateful to have, but I’m glad I had my first when I did. I realized the “grind” lifestyle of juggling work and kids wasn’t for me or my family. I felt like I never saw my husband or baby and it hurt my marriage a lot for the time being. I’m grateful to have a husband who supports me being at home and the work I do raising our children; I know lots of women can’t say the same.
@Kwildcat13oh absolutely 😅 But for context, I was told by my doctor that I would have a hard time conceiving due to a medication I was taking at the time. On top of other preventative measures we were taking, we thought odds would be pretty low! Turns out, doctors can be wrong. 😂
Nah. A lot of these women who are now desperate wanted the party life 1st. Now that theyre good years are behind them and have been ran through they expect to have a good simp come take care of them. Sorry Doesn't work like that.
You’re one of the people she’s talking about at the end of the video… it’s not helpful to kick people while they’re down. We need to support one another because community is truly all we have in this life.
I have dealt with these kind women in my field of graphic design my whole life from a young man to now. They took my jobs got better pay than me at times and they were average skill wise. No way in hell do I feel sorry for them. Because of them I have no kids as well. I'm more poor than they are. I had to buy an RV just live in. My car is about to breakdown and there is no way I can even afford a girlfriend much less a family. Who gives a damn about them
Cool story bro, I'm sure that's exactly why you didn't get the jobs. We'll take you word for it. Graphic design is something AI can do anyway, so be more creative I guess. "Because of THEM I have no kids." Sure. Nothing to do with you at all lol.
God bless this girl. I got married at 22 and had my first child at 24. 38 now. Still married to the same man. Two kids. I must admit, at times I felt like a loser comparing myself to all the girl bosses around me… not anymore. My daughters are the biggest blessing of my life! And I plan to build a career once the little one goes to school once she is 4 year old.
Same here, I married and had my three children at my twenties I enjoyed looking after my babies 🤍now that they grown up and cannot have other babies due to infertility (thank God I had them before ) I can definitely focus on my career
Absolutely LOVE this video and commentary. I feel so bad for the women who bought the Girl Boss lie at the expense of a family. If you can't birth your own kiddos, divorce rates are crazy high. There's a lot of single dads out there, be an amazing step-mom! Adopt! Foster! There are tons of kids who need decent adults in their lives.
This video is about women who probably aren't going to have their own children because they waited too long. I don't understand your comment. @@AK-American
This video is so important. Thank you for sharing all of this with the world, Brett! I am 32 and I have a 1 year old son and am pregnant with my second and family is everything to me. But SO many of my friends (most!) are exactly like these “girl bosses” and I really fear they will get to a point of regret later in life about not having kids when they could. 💔
I believe that people in general should not be so focused about what other people want them to do/think/say. Because its most of the time not what they really want and they will regret it. If you want to have kids, do it. Dont listen to people that say "but you have to have a career", when you dont want to it. Dont listen to people that say "but as a woman you have to have children to be happy", when you dont want to. I never did something that i did not want to, just because someone else said "but thats what you are supposed to do". I never wanted children ever (i had a relationship for 20 years and after that time he broke up with me because of another woman) and now i am 43 and very happy living on my own. I got a new job, bought my own house and i love my alone time. I am sooo glad that i never got a child because other people say that as a woman you should want to have one.
This is exactly what I was going to write before I read your comment. :) A part of feminism is the freedom to choose how you want your life to be. There is nothing un-feminist about being a homemaker, neither as it is to choose a career over kids. As long as we are not surrendering to any trend-pressure, rather choosing what we truly want - I think we have cracked the code! 😊
Yup - the point of feminism is that you have the choice. My carreer fulfills me. I know this is what I'm meant to do. My mom quit her job to raise my siblings and I, and she made it known that she resented that choice. My man admires that my first love is work so I'm lucky I'm supported in following my own desires. It truly depends on the person. Maybe I will change in the future. That's the beauty of like - I get a choice.
When I went to college in the 70's the feminist wave was breaking over our heads; no one ever said "I want to be a home-maker, and raise my own kids rather than pay someone else to do so". But in my heart that was what I really wanted. I avoided getting a job that was "too good to quit", married a man who agreed, and ended up having nine children. I have never regreted my choice. P. S. Don't despair about age: I had four children in my 40's.
I would not advise young women in an era pushing women to delay having kids if they want them. Health problems related to both women and child are far higher past 35 and that's assuming she can get pregnant, since fertility drastically drops off and having four children in your forties is an exception to the many women whose fertility has made it next to impossible to have children.
@@loganblackwood2922Thissss!! Especially since most are being vaccinated with the COVID vaccine. My sister was perfectly fine, she got her vaccine and boosters for work, went to the doctor 6 months later and got told her egg count was extremely low at the age of 21. She has no genetic or non genetic conditions that would cause infertility, the only thing different was the vaccines.
Okay, here's where I don't agree with the redpill extremers though: When they say, "You are just going to get married eventually, in your late 20s or early 30s, so why won't you get married now?" they are completely forgetting and taking for granted what your early 20s are actually like. 30 is the average mom age for a reason. Maybe young women put it off till their late 20s/early 30s because that naturally makes sense, not because of femininism. Your early 20s are the time of getting experience. You are finally not in high school anymore, so you can take classes about things you always wanted to pursue (animation for me). You can get experience at a job (even a part time one) and grow as a person (I finally made FRIENDS at my job; high school friends all leave you at that age if you forgot). You can also build up a passion project and even complete it in that time, which would not happen if you had infants?! Early 20s are just different than late 20s because there's so much you haven't done yet. So yeah, I think God made the average mom age 30 for a reason. It's not because of femininism.
Even the most 'based' women of all like Mikhalia Peterson are actually in their 30s when they're having babies. So don't lie. It just makes more sense. Maybe we should base opinions on reality and not extremes.
Get off the camera.. women haven’t changed.. they want to be the main character in their own reality drama with fans. If they regret it truly and want to change, they’d put down the camera, put down their ego, and find a good guy they will cherish love and raise a family with, but they’re prob trying to find him on tinder and he needs to make $$ enough for her to stay home.
Right now it’s important for our society to find balance, because neither the 1950s housewife or girl boss lifestyles worked out for most women. Also, that shade of green is so pretty and flattering on Brett.
Strangely enough, if you look at the real history and not the one peddled by feminists, most women at the time (near 70%) didn't want the vote and thought leaving the home for work was a bad idea. It was forced on the population because the government wanted more taxes and corporations getting to stagnate wages by doubling the manpower. The housewife lifestyle worked fine, being bored is normal when technology makes everything too easy, women just need to learn to do as men do and get a friggin hobby.
Funny you should mention the color green. Trad women aren't happy. Boss babes aren't happy. And when part-time boss babes aren't happy? I'm sure y'all will find a new shade of green on the other side of yet another fence that you figure will be the ultimate winner.
@@SeaRaven227 When trad housewives weren't managing their household, they worked for their community. Planning social events, watching each other's children, cooking for each other, etc. Everyone is lonely and miserable now, it almost seems like atomization was a net negative.
I think most women are happiest when they are prioritizing their family and home and have a part time job that is meaningful to them, even if it makes little money.
I don’t care if some women want careers, I just hope we are moving towards a point where young girls/women are equally encouraged to take either path. I was pushed very hard from a young age and never felt like being a regular person or stay at home woman was an option. I came to my senses after a year of college and it took years to not feel terrible about myself for not achieving a big career. But it was never something I wanted, it was pushed on me. Also you don’t have to just stay at home and never be part of society. I’ve worked part time for years now, and my plan when I become a mother is to have little side gigs for extra money, to continue growing my skill set, have a break from being at home, etc. I’m looking at teaching YMCA classes, tutoring , or I’ve already had experience teaching painting classes 🎨
Not to insult your intellect or abilities, but there's a 99% certainty is that you'd never have had "a big carrier" anyway. That's only available to a select few for a long number of reasons, while for a vast majority of others it's a proverbial carrot in front of a donkey. Even a decent carrier is hard to achieve - and, what's more important, not that much of a win in the end. It's actually a strong family that's the main prize in life. You seem to be on the right track, so good luck to you with that!
I totally agree! The first 5 years out of high school I was working so hard to achieve a big career and putting everything on my education. Then I suddenly realized that I was not doing this because I wanted to do it, but because I felt like I had to, like I was a failure otherwise. Now I am married since last summer and we want kids soon and for me to be home with them for a few years. I am so excited for it.
@@ВладимирКруглов-к9оBy "big career" most people don't mean becoming the CEO of Tesla. A "big career" can mean being a teacher, software engineer, nurse, secretary, librarian, etc. or content creator for the Daily Wire, which is what Brett does.
I think there are problems beyond the career/motherhood choice. My sister's in her mid-twenties and a lot of her friends seem to be clinging to adolescent (hanging out, getting high, operating on three hours sleep through choice, gratification). If the average life expectancy was 45, people would need to make a decision about what they wanted with a level of urgency. But for some people it can be easy to waste their twenties, and leave a narrow window for growing up and settling down. As a dude, I lost my twenties to depression and lethargy. It was only in my mid to late 30s, I worked out that I wanted things from life beyond the avoidance of pain. Oops. I just think it would save people pain if they could work out what they want by 25. Otherwise, it seems easy to be adrift.
God put my wife in my path when she was 38. We married at 39 and at 40 welcomed a healthy child. It is possible and we found each other we both stopped looking and used faith. That was almost 20 years ago and still married.
It's cool and all that women are saying this but I doubt it will ever become a norm or even close to a majority. I also find it hard for anyone to change that drastically after being a specific way for such a long time but good luck to the ones that try. Im sure the right man is still the 1%.
As a girl I wanted to focus on my carreer and school before getting married. I'm now a 23 year old college senior doing online school and stay at home mom of a 5 month old, living on my husband's income. I am so thankful for the course my life has taken. I truly love every minute of it.
I'm applauding you. Hang in there. It's tough, but you can totally do it. Motherhood is one of the most beautiful and challenging and rewarding things in the world. ❤
My parents got divorced when I was little. Because of this, my mom wanted me to have a career because "you never know what will happen in life and you need to have options." When I was 27 and I wanted to pause my career to have a family, I felt guilty for the money my parents had spent on my education. To this, my mom replied, "We paid for your education so that you would have choices in life, not so you would be trapped". I took several years off while keeping a toe in the waters and prioritizing my family. With my kids being older now and leaving for college, I am in my career again (which I love doing). If you want to give up a career for a family that is great. But it is also possible just to pause your career.
Married at 24, we adopted our daughter at 33, quit my job at 35 while pregnant with my daughter. Now at forty have two more biological babies. My children, my husband, my family and faith are my life. As hard as it was to reject feminism at the time, I am so glad I did. These are the most important things!
I started to realize all the BS behind the doctrine a few months before I turned 27. Now I'm 29, and I will only accept facts when in debate. I still can't believe I didn't wake up sooner: I would've had so many - and interesting - conversations with people, some of whom I felt the need to apologize to the last few years (I was passionate, yet infuriating). I received nothing but love, except for those who still believe this is the way to go. Those stopped talking to me, so I guess I still win. And part of this transformation was because of voices like yours, Brett. I guess all I'm saying is thank you. Best wishes from Argentina.
the most untrustworthy person is not the one who told you the lie, it's the one who broke your trust and is working to regain it. Now that tradwifing is popular again, I'm not sure if these women are truly regretful or trying a new tactic to get what they want.
I'm in college. I've been depressed for years, my worst days are those that I don't spend with my friends that I love. People are important, I can't imagine not being able to live with/around people I love. It's so hard to feel fulfilled when you do everything for yourself, living for others and especially helping raise kids is truly the most fulfilling act I have ever come across.
Ex-"girl bosses" blaming third wave feminism for becoming "girl bosses" in the first place is the opposite of taking accountability. Simply switching from "blaming the patriarchy" to "blaming third wave feminism" won't free them from their victim-hood mentality. Yes, good for them for waking up, but without a real sense of accountability, finding and building a wholesome family will be difficult.
There is a difference, as 3rd wave feminism is a real thing. Sure their are patriarchal societies, but after looking into a dozen or so feminist claims only one turned out to be true. We have to remember that real victims do exist. Just because everyone is crying wolf all the time, doesn't mean there aren't wolfs out there. And feminism is built on factual lies.
Exactly, it’s either hyper feminist approach or over correcting it! Each direction has its pros and cons and only you -man or woman- will know what best works for you
I was a stay at home mother in 1987. I maintained the home, yard, shopped and cooked and did the bills. I took my two girls to school everyday, helped in the classroom and was a girl scout leader. I was told my my husband of 15 years that all I wanted was a meal ticket and he left me for his 23 year old pregnant girlfriend. He threw his family away and destroyed me and his children for his selfish needs. I can only hope stay at home moms will be valued in the future.
My wife and I's first marriages were not good. I had 2 sons, and she had a son and daughter. She worked during her first marriage and I'm more traditional, but when we met and fell in love, I was willing to consider a more modern marriage. She was 35 and I was 31 and she got pregnant (a miracle actually) we decided to have the child as my wife said at the time we were discussing options, that there was no way that she could get rid of something that came from us. Because she felt safe with me, she was willing to give up her independence and become dependent on me, but I earned those feelings from her by showing her that i wasn't going anywhere and I wanted to build a happy family. She took on the traditional role of stay at home mom and it was difficult at first because she had never done it. It took a while and she struggled hard, because raising a small child is very difficult and takes true dedication to do it well. When it came to making the choice, she could not leave our child and after that point she embraced it and loved every minute of it. She was free to make this decision because I am one of the good men and she felt safe with me, as she should. Being a good man isn't that big of a deal, but men seem to not want to do what is required. I love the responsibility. My career meant nothing more to me than being able to bring home the bacon. I worked 12 to 14 hours a day and when I got home, I was happy to spend time with our now two babies, two girls. If you want it to work, it's simple, very simple. Truly love one another. It is now 36 years later, and I live to make her happy as she lives to make me happy and we have been blissfully in love the entire time. Out of our 6 children all but one is traditional. All three daughters are or have been stay at home moms and are raising their children and anchoring their families with love and devotion. Love really is the answer. Do we need women? Not to live and exist, not really. Do women need men? Not really. Do we need each other to find a happiness that can never be found alone? Yes. Love is truly the only thing worth living for. I worked that hard for my family, why else would I work so hard. My wife gave her all to our family and when you have both partners working together to make their family work, it is truly glorious. Always remember that love is all that matters in life. We now have 22 grandchildren, and it won't be long that we will be having great grandchildren. Thank you for your show.
