The Husband Who Wanted to Be Queen: Interview with Trans Widow Ute Heggen Part 1 

Thanks so much, Carol! You and your channel are rockin' it! Happy to chat any time.

The most detailed account I've heard of Ute's story. I didn't know it went so far back to the 90's. I lived in Toronto then and I knew of only one trans identified man. Times have changed.

Ute and Carol!!! 🙌💕

and now the trans movement is completely ignoring daveena’s letter and statements of regret and they’re portraying him as a “transbian” icon 🙄

This is a great interview. Thanks to both of you. I am looking forward to Part II.

Wonderful conversation. Thank you both ❤

Are these available as podcasts anywhere? (It's easier to listen on my phone as a podcast those apps take up less room/power that's why I'm asking )

exellent conversation! this was do interesting to listen, thank you two for your work❤

Great conversation, thank you!

What a great conversation. Lots of insights from you both. Thank you!

Great conversation!

Great interview 😊

Aw, I can’t wait to listen when I have some chores. Chores? Never mind.

So glad to see this collab! ! Love you both🌺❤

I like how Ute connects to nature as a balm to the soul

Funny how mtf don't demand being paid less for the same job.

What a wonderful interview! Lovely to hear from you both Ute and Carol!

I love you two together! I have just discovered Carol and Ute was among the first people I saw tackle this (via Jon Uhler). I have not gone through this but have always been a feminist and was disappointed to see the trend of losing female space and gay spaces to trans ideology. My whole life I heard from society how unreasonable feminism was and how we were making mountains out of molehills. Then came this crap where we had to waste 5-10 minutes at every work meeting giving out our pronouns and adopting new language so everyone could one up each other with their newfound compassion. Worst though, has been the threats to women's safety. Tonight I came here becayse I'm devastated over what happened to Angela Cirini today. A male journalist I follow who owes all his success to Karen Read's terrifying situation, tweeted about supporting the boxer who smacked her breast after being declared winner. He tweeted about how this guy's life was in danger in Algeria and how being intersex means death in his country. He said "Life isn't fair" -- a Karen Read supporter said that -- about what happened to Cirini and that he felt that it was better for her to be hurt or unable to give consent rather than this boxer step down from boxing women (because he's a man). This guy's viewership sky rocketed when Trooper Proctor read aloud his text messages to his friends calling Read a c-word, but Cirini did not have a right to box another woman because apparently Khaleif is intersex (I question that because I have seen how manipulative these huge organizations are, and again, why must women suffer, if they are indeed intersex can't there be a separate category for these thousands of oppressed intersex athletes?). It blows my mind to hear a man from my generation who made his career off institutional misogyny as a "nice guy" actually state that a woman must concede her dreams to make him -- the viewer -- and the apparently intersex boxer more comfortable. I can't. I just cannot anymore with this. Sorry for the rant, @sourpatches2077 and @UteHeggenTranswidowHeals but you two helped me tonight!

Very happy to see Ute here. Also, abuse is abuse IMO.

Perhaps you have already done videos on this (and I'll look through your channel), but I would really be interested in what it was like to transition in the past ~ in 2010 (thereabouts) verses 2000 verses 1990. I was under the impression that there were more "guard rails". I'm also under the impression that people who wanted to transition needed to pay for surgeries on their own. Thanks for all the work you do on this topic.

Amazing interview, thank you for sharing!

33:00 that's not OCD, that's being controlling. Also "everyone being punished physically" doesn't make it any less hurtful, Carol.

Super Thanks

00:43:28 lol most insane accusation I ever heard. You can't write this, it is genius.

Non-rhetorical question: Did Ray Blanchard get pushback from feminists *at the time*, that is, in the 80s and early 90s? I can't really count Janice Raymond here, because she wrote a bit before he did and she didn't really talk about some of the key issues in question (like whether TiMs should be allowed in women's restrooms).

Ute seem narcissistic too. It seems they both fucking hated each other and had this constant powerplay of bringing down each other.