Definitely a lone wolf 😅 I transitioned in rural Denmark and didn't meet another trans person until 3 years into my transition. And that was at my first Pride in Copenhagen last year. People were very nice, but I did not really feel at home there I guess. It did feel like I was a new person in an already established friend group. I'm living on a farm with my wife out in nowhere and this is where my happy space is ❤
Ohhhh that thing Jackie said about entering a space and being able to hang that queer part of yourself by the door and be more yourself, that was perfect and beautiful!
First of all, Anya's new hair cut is so spicy and Jackie's eye makeup is amazing! (would love a tutorial or at least a products list). Similarly to you two, I realized I was queer when I was already surrounded by (*cough* anime nerds) other comfortably out queer friends and allies. And even now, most of my friends are queer, we just sort of gravitate to each other I guess. It helps a lot that I live in a pretty liberal state. I haven't felt a strong need to get involved in a formal queer community, though I have attended some formal events hosted by pride centers. The thing I am struggling with currently is how, as someone in my 30s, do I find queer people who are also single and looking? It seems like, when I go to such events, most new people I meet who might theoretically be interested are already in long-term committed monogomous relationships. How do you know what dating apps are good for queer people, especially when your sexual orientation is not strictly gay/lesbian? How do you navigate the waters when you want to wade into the water slowly to just meet people without sexual expectation? How do you not scare someone off when you don't have any dating experience at this age? That's the stuff I need the queer community for and I just don't know where to get that specific kind of support.
This was another good video, so timely. I've been struggling with this finding community thing. And especially with making friends later in life. It's complicated, and like you said Jackie, I don't know why. Why did it become so much harder to make friends? I've never had deep long lasting friendships in my life. I was hiding too much of myself and disliked too much of myself. And now that I'm starting to like myself and willing to share all of my self genuinely, finding friends has somehow gone into super hard mode. 😅 Our local quiet communit6 is awesome. It's vibrant supportive and active. And I love so many of the individual in the community. But turning that into friendship is.... Hard. Really really hard.
Thank you for this video. I have very few IRL outlets here in New Hampshire to meet with other trans/queer folk so I seek some company on the internet. Luckily my Instagram has opened up a whole world of people who are not just trans who enjoy my poetry and opinions. You have given solid advice and I love you for that, especially the way you two speak to us viewers as friends. Love you ❤
I'm definitely with Anya on this one, I have a really hard time joining or feeling part of any community, whether it's artists, or anything.... loner, introvert, whatever the reason, it's hard for me to get close to people and make friends and the older we get the harder it is... I feel for what Jackie said about always having to be the one to answer questions about your identity, because on one hand it's definitely the only good way for cis people to grow and understand is listening and getting to ask their question from actual trans people and not just other cis, but also I know how exhausting it must get to have to be "the spokesperson on all trans issues" all the time and the last thing I'd want is for you to feel like the token trans friend or something. Interestingly, I don't think I'd consider myself queer but most of my friends are? Idk what that says about me lmao
I have heard this word before " friends " but i cant quite place where.. Hmm .... Video was great and i have not yet had the pleasure of really engaging in anything Queer/trans specific outside of Virtual communities via gamin etc. I do however love that you bring this to light and inform us that we are not alone and that we there is always someone for each other to lean on. Tak søde wives
