Danish queer couple out to educate and spread love! One is trans, one is cis (kinda), but we're both ready to entertain and have a good time with you guys! : )
Wow you are both the luckiest woman i the world and I would love to meet someone like you and I have only started transitioning and it is hard when your partner does not support you.
Thank you for the part on feeling insecure talking about your own sexuality while actually liking the topic otherwise… I could really relate and feel validated by that…especially in some areas of discourse a transwoman can already feel like being seen as a predator by identifying as lesbian…
It just means that a person is comfortable being the gender they were assigned at birth ^^ so if you were always a boy and feel comfortable being a man, then you're cis!
Hey, awesome video! So happy I found this! Just commenting to let you guys know the music is a little loud. I think if you guys lowered the volume on the music a little bit it would make your speaking much easier to hear.
Anyone who says don’t ask me if I’ve had top or bottom surgery means they definitely have NOT. That’s why they’re so defensive about it. Anyone who’s actually had it is actually pretty proud to tell you that yes they did.
I am not sure how the algorithm found me, but I'm grateful it did. My eldest daughter just came out as gay, I have a trans neice, and one of my daughter's friends has been in a relationship with a trans man for several years. I just want them all to be happy!
For me, a lot of attention-grabbing sounds, and even some ambient noise, hold equal weight in my mind, so they tend to get mixed up, eg. if I'm talking to someone, and some other sound is nearby (like traffic noise, or a baby crying), my concentration is split, and I miss what the conversation was about. Because of this, I don't really get into music with lyrics unless they're musically great, and even then, the lyrics often just drown out anyway. Let's be honest though, a LOT of popular songs are just the vocals ontop of the same repeating chords. It's boring. As a result, I don't follow music trends, or what artist is topping what chart. If I listen to anything, it's instrumental in nature, eg. classical, game soundtracks, etc., especially if I have an emotional attachment to it. Like a Dark Souls or Hollow Knight piece will remind me of the fight in the game, and the times I got wiped out by the enemy, or when I finally beat them. It becomes awkward whenever someone asks what music I''m into. I know that they're just making small talk, and are looking for some generic answer, but that's just not something that I can provide.
Hey! I found out about your channel 4 days ago while at work and I binged your entire videos from the old ones to the most recent ones, and every video was really entertaining, normally my job is a really boring office job but your videos saved me!, I am a trans girl in a relationship with a cis woman for 4 years and we have known each other for 10, we started our relationship young as well so I was really surprised with all the similarities our relationship has to yours it's like we found our dopplerganger relationship, anyways I really want to let you know that I think you re both so wholesome and pretty and I love your content c:
Awwww what an honor to have kept you company during work! Thank you so much for watching all our videos :') you probably know us better than we know ourselves by now, haha! And that's so wonderful! It's amazing to find kindred spirits ❤️
Just found this channel, having watched one of the most recent vlogs, thought I would wind back to the beginning and see how you started...liking it so far, bang goes the weekend!
9:40 into the video I had too pause and ponder... So like, my understanding or interpretation of the question made me think : "Much like how dogs need too sniff butts too understand each other, so too is too be human and ask questions; no matter how "in a person's business it is, or not in a person's business, much like how dogs go about sniffing each other's butts." And since butt sniffing is linked too "business", (because potty humor) a lot of people / commonly accepted too ask questions. There are no dumb questions; only dumb answers, my teacher once told me. But am curios about your takes on this banger, and those that are actively reading this
I was freaking out when you said Dir En Grey, it has to be a trans woman thing. That made me so happy, I still have a physical copy of the marrow of a bone." The Final is my all-time favorite song. Don't know if you were also fans of X Japan, considering the older style, but omg the validation and euphoria.
Maybe so, at least for me the VK scene was very alluring due to the whole playing with gender presentation thing 😂❤️ I looove X Japan - even got to see them live in London in 2017! 😍❤️
@WivesVsWorld I'm so jealous, I never had the chance to see them. As for vk, that and today's "genderless style" have been inspirational in my clothing designs. It's been hard finding cute stuff, so I make it myself. So good to know creators with such great taste. Glad I could sub.🙂💚
Thank you for sharing and providing representation. I am a queer cis female and my partner identifies as non binary transfem. We are very smitten with each other.
no one ever asks straight people - when did you know you were straight. Maybe we should. Asking this question will shed some light on attitudes. in 1987 I was working at a Hospital making slides for doctors. A book said- most people have specific ideas about what constitutes what is Male and what is Female- biology has its own ideas. I have a gay buddy who is married to.a man. I've known him 2 years and in this time his partner has transitioned to being a woman. This transition is complete in my mind. My frind is happy and still very much in love- so that is what counts.
@@WivesVsWorld also made me think of the character Valtraid from sea of stars: he has a twink body and when he rips his magic shirt off it makes him hunk 😂
I don’t know. It’s always hard to know how I would react in certain situations. But I always try to be respectful and show empathy. I also have ADHD, so I know I can say things I later regret and I am not even aware when I do it. This makes me want to always improve myself and be the best person I can be. So I would probably notice if someone is transgender, although there are some beautiful humans where you can’t tell anymore. It depends, I guess. I was on a journey where I didn’t know if I was gay or straight or what. Also, at the time, this was not as openly discussed as it is now with being neurodivergent and what gender you identify as. So now I would say I am pansexual but I prefer female looks. I read the term “finsexual” somewhere, that would apply. If you are feminine and attractive to me, I don’t really care what gender you are. I met with women and I also met with transgender women. If anything, a transgender woman is even more attractive to me because I simply like peepees. :D
I find it's much easier to find comfort in T4T relationships. I have five partners, only one of them is cis. I don't think I'd ever really try to find another cis partner. I mean... realistically I'm polysaturated at this point (ie. I've hit my maximum amount of partners... I have no more time to split up). In general, it's easier to get along with other trans folk. I feel like I'm more seen and I have to do a lot less explaining about what causes dysphoria, what doesn't, what things (in bed or not) are ok... but with any of my trans partners, that's never been a thing. It's only ever been an issue with my cis partner. Perhaps it's not the same everywhere. From what I've seen in this video, that's likely the case. But you've also been together for over a decade I think? I find when I'm with another trans woman, I hit that level of comfort and understanding immediately. There's no teaching involved. So in that, I feel more comfortable. I feel safer and more seen. I know there'll be less explanations necessary and we'll start off several steps up the comfort ladder.
Hard agree on the 'leap of faith' thing. I had two options, unalive or transition. I'm sure there are tons of different journeys that people have gone on and are going on, but I decided I couldn't not.
DIR EN GREEEEEYYYYYYYYYYYY YEESSS i've been feeling strongly connected with Jackie's transition life experience 'cause for me it's been the same, with the BIG difference being that im from north of México and until 2 years ago I started my transition (after actually knowing since 2013 i was trans but not being able to express it for the fear of being disowned by my family), but seeing your videos and always being like "I FELT LIKE THAT!" and now a Dir en Grey mention??? I feel listened, aknowledged, and part of something. Sorry but that just sent me straight to heaven. TY so much for your videos, it has helped me a lot :')
Congrats on 10k! I'm so glad you have a wider audience as you absolutely deserve it :) I feel like your channel has grown at a similar rate to my transition as I remember discovering it around the time I first started socially transitioning and now I'm nearly 5 months on hormones! I've found your videos a constant source of comfort in what's been a rollercoaster journey. Thank you Anya & Jackie ❤
Thank you, we're so happy you like our videos 🥰❤️ Maybe it's connected and we have you to thank for it? 😂❤️ Anyway congratulations on the nearly 5 months, that's huge! ❤️
10.3K as I'm writing this comment! congratulations!!!! 🎉 And I love your Q&As. they are always so genuine. It feels more like catching up with friends. You two are just amazing. " a lot of trans girls are little data nerds" ✅
I love your conversations and hearing your thoughts. It's always so wholesome, loving, smart and funny at the same time. And truly honestly insightful too. The conversation on T4T couples is one of the best, most sympathetic, and most relatable conversations I've ever heard. Thank you again for your vulnerability and sharing this conversations with us. "It's not that you don't understand, but sometimes I have to explain" omg that is soooooo spot on. And "it's like a team of pokemon..." this is officially how I'm going to describe the social aspects of the transgender community from now on :) And oof, the envy element. I'd love to hear a whole extended discussion on that. I'm still trying to untangle that one. Though I think you hit all the high points. I think that's a complicated one in trans cis couples. I love hearing that you've found a good place, and maybe it's just that I'm still working through where to put those feelings myself "but I have dimples!" 🩷 And Anya "I attract disproportionately trans girls" 🤣🤣🤣🩷👀 I mean... I have some theories 😝
Aw it's so good to hear you enjoyed it :')) I'm really glad it was entertaining and relatable ❤️ We acrually already did a whole video on envy! It's called "did I envy my cis partner?" and is a few years old ^^ Hahahhaa oh really? I need to hear these theories 😂👀
There’s a trans group connected to LGBT+ Denmark that meet Friday evenings on weeks with odd numbers. Everyone participating can be as anonymous as they want and all information exchanged is confidential. The group meetings is run by volunteers. There may be similar groups/organisations near you.
