(03:30) - The reason chivalry is dead (23:30) - Do women really care about their man’s happiness? (45:00) - Children should not be a priority in a relationship (55:30) - Where do I find date-able men?
TRILL asked, "Why do you care this much after one month?" That hit hard, and it's because some of us, if not all, are genuine, and we want something genuine, so we hope for that in others! ♥️
11:29 in 1998 I was dating a young lady who was the manager of one of those top three companies that wasn’t competition of the company that Kevin Samuels worked for which was MCI. She was a manager who trained managers for the different sectors of the company. I was never intimidated, and she never threw it in my face, we no longer together because I moved to another state but we are still friends to this day and she is married.
I agree with Trill that of course money dont always solve problems. But it damn sure can alleviate it a little...or mask it at times. FR. Maybe a band-aid over a bullet wound. But a band-aid is better than nothing. Lol. Sometimes its not that easy to get the right doctor to fix your problems. Bad analogy...cause if you have money, you have better access to better doctors. But that proves my point in money Helps. But some things Money Can Not buy. And those the things I cherish. So hopefully I can better at that in my coming days. But in the mean time, I gotta get this paper. I rather be rich & unhappy than broke and unhappy. Lol. FR. IJS 😂
10:50 i’m not in competition with my woman, so therefore not trying to keep up with her that almost sounds like I’m trying to keep up with the Joneses, but on a singular level with the person I’m in a relationship with.
Well thats what you always say you like in a woman Trill...an ambitious woman. So it makes sense why you rather see youre lady out getting it, and then wanna spoil her more. But for the most part, with us guys in general...we just want someone thats not a golddigger. Simple as that. They can work a minimum wage dead-end job, it may not matter a lot of us. Its about the Character. I know you value the money and status with ppl. But I mainly go by the character of ppl. But thats just me. It is what it is.
The men y’all be online asking for our the prize. It’s more beautiful women in the world than there are men who are successful, attractive, supportive, and faithful plus men are the head of the household. Men will always be the prize
Gigi is too "deserving." She mentioned all the things that she does or is willing to give so in her mind she DESERVES whatever she thinks she deserves from a man and her whole aura is one of deserving. In an involuntary way she probably disregards who that man is and the parameters of his life because she deserves whatever she thinks she deserves.
I don’t I know within a month if that man is still worth entertaining and so far I have not been wrong yet but once. I know I’m deserving and what I bring but I also know a certain man is deserving of it. I’m very considerate of any man I choose to date or have dated. I don’t want him to change who he is to be with me.
@gigiarafa2761 I have no doubt that you absolutely deserve everything that you put out. What I'm saying is that at the very beginning of an interaction with a man if your energy is one of a deserving nature it can force a man to fold or fumble. We're more fragile than I think we're given credit for so just take it a little slower and give maybe 2 months of grace instead of 1.
@@fredalexander5757 I know that and it isn’t my problem. A man who makes his decision needs to stand on that. If he folds that’s between him and god and his reasonings for doing so. There isn’t even any pressure in the beginning so if you already fold by your choice that tells me all I need to know even more to continue on. I know how to handle fire and how to handle glass accordingly. I’m taking it slow enough. Those who are meant to be will stay and those not will stray. There timing is of their own. I know what to continue and what not to continue. And a man who can speak up for himself is needed by the kind of woman I am. So he can save himself or not. I would expect the same for myself in his eyes. The process is the process.
@gigiarafa2761 good shit. At least you know what you want. The thing I loved the most about your segment is not only do you know what you want but you know what you're willing to give. Not many people consider what they themselves are willing to give to a healthy relationship. Most only consider what they want. I'm optimistic about your chances of finding your king. Keep your head up queen. 💪🏿💯
@@fredalexander5757 I know exactly what I want. Which is why it’s easy for me to just no longer speak to who I was speaking to when I see certain things come up or certain topics through conversation and dates let me know if they are on the same page as me. And if not ❌. I have healed and fixed a lot of myself in my late 20s. I know what I bring to a table. I’m optimistic as well. It will come. And it will be beautiful. And I pray for 50 plus years of it.
Clarification. It takes me a month to know if he is worth still speaking with and filling out (not being exclusive or serious) The intent is stated and then the actions are seen if they actually standing on that or just said it. I don’t tell men what I bring to the table or what I’m willing to do. It’s seen through consistency of dates and talking. Because finessing can be real. I’m 32 not 22. So I know how to break down certain things and I pay attention to a lot but not speak on it. I peep what I peep and note it mentally and keep it moving. I am who I m and will not fake who I am for anyone or any man for that matter. I go with the flow of things without force and can gradually see where he is and what he is trying to do. I don’t think every man I meet is THE MAN. I am dating and take things slow I just know within 30 days to keep talking to them or dismiss them because we aren’t on the same page nor in the same book. It’s not hard to tell what category they in just like men can tell with us women can tell if you can potentially be something or worth the risk and they haven’t been worth the risk outside of one man last year. I just am enjoying learning and dating. I don’t sleep with men I’m dating. I’m dating to marry. And it’s a process and I know the process.
Gigi sound mad contradictory. Like shes talking out of both sides of her mouth. But I think its that she may be struggling with who she is...and who she wants to portray to be. She definitely sounds hella desperate too. So yeah, gotta relax ma. And she may be doing too much. Like not even talking about the wifey things that you may or may not be doing for your partner...but thats debatable...but if you dont like feet...Why are you even rubbing feet then?? Cmon girl. You gotta learn to be yourself. Be comfortable in your shoes. And be genuine...not fake. Dont do things just to get someone. Do it cause you like it and Want To Do It. So thats my advice for you Gigi.
Not desperate at all. Everything I mentioned was just for context to the pod I never mention these things to men. Ever. We fill each other out through dating and I know within a month if it’s worth still pursuing or not. And a year into dating I only fumbled once.
When in a relationship I will indeed rub my man’s feet because he has had a long day these are committed benefits because he treated me well so I treated him well.
I cater to a persons love language as they do to mine. I am only myself I will never fake who I am for anybody. Love takes care of someone regardless of anything else. Just like men may not like everything I do but will find interest in it for me and us to spend time
@@gigiarafa2761 OK. Just a guess. Idk you personally ma. But yeah, they gave some great advice as well too. As far as what I may have picked up with the fake and/or contradictory things...I know you taking these ppl advice as gospel...but that dont mean that they Always right on Everything. Sometimes things they say may sound like something, and ppl take it and interpret it 1 way...when I have to clarify what they meant...or elaborate on what it is from a general man's perspective...cause they may be talking from a perspective of a former player's perspective. So just be careful with just taking anybody advice like that on everything. But the Krew are usually on point with most things. But I just suggest that if you take it, make sure it's co-signed by others before you run with it. As far as knowing a guy isn't right in a month, that's 😎. Same. Like I said, just be genuine and be You. The right man that's for you gonna get with you. You don't need to worry about the other guys that don't really want you. That's most women main problem...worrying bout dudes that don't fully want them...wondering why they doing this or that...instead of taking that as Ok...I know These are not the men for me if they do so & so. Most yall be mad at them for revealing themselves...instead of the be greatful that they showed you who they are...but I digress. Anyway...I wish you the best in your dating ma.
I’m always grateful it’s apart of the dating game I never change who I am or what I do unless I know it’s not becoming of a woman of substance like myself which I have a high standard of me for me. I don’t care to lose anyone man, family, or whoever, nor do I try and make anyone stay in my life, the door is always open and never locked or closed. I just move on to knowing the next one. I feel no kinda way lol 😂 it’s just easier for me now to cut em off and keep it moving to who shows interest to my liking and vice versa. Clear up my notes and contacts. I never worry about any man especially those I don’t want. I usually am the one sending no thanks not interested or I’m no longer interested in speaking further text or ghosting if I feel I need to depending on how we mesh and his conversation. I’m not most women love I can assure you. My cousins on the pod know lol. It’s never a worry of mine I’m usually country hopping and traveling and working I am not bothered by the presence or lack of one from men. I make time for dating when I choose. I love seeing true colors after week three or usually same week so I can lighten up my roster to ones more serious anyways I’ve had it immediately after the first date be a wrap and I delete their number 😂. I still go through my regular day to day unbothered. Im never mad I welcome the switch up so I can be closer to the one and them not holding my line up. 😂 I just like their insight and input and opinions because their real. And no I don’t take their words as the end all be all but it lets me know if I need to tweak something’s or open my eyes to other things. I am who I am regardless. They are full of gems and insight. Only co-signer I ever had in my life is me. I take advice with a grain of salt and apply it where necessary if it’s necessary to me and my lifestyle and how I move.
I disagree with you all because people meet and know that them going to be together in a few weeks, you all sound cheap boy talk grown men don’t talk or think like you all
