The Letting Go Paradox: Make Them Want You 

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

*unhealthy attachment

Tinnitus....

Attachment comes from insecurity

@huaynaX - words deserving of a plaque 🙌

how to let it go then .??? i been trying so hard to let it to go

Does this work? And does this help for a future for both of us rekindling and starting over?

@@frankiegates4149 No other formula is as effective. But silence is no joke and patience. I mean 2,3, 4 months. Sometimes 6 months or a year. But be patient and don't go on social media pretending to be Mr. Popular, it's phony. Just don't post anything that makes you look needy or angry.

That is why God is silent

The hole does exist and it can be filled with money

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Absolutely

I realized that tryng to chase by 4 years I was never able to get something till I started focusing in myself, then in less than 6 months, I just got to the point that I didnt even know what to pick up, I mean girls, friendships, paths, evertyhing has to start by us not by outside

Me too! So good

Likewise

OK I am watching

Yep, very precise wording describing how my failure to stop people-pleasing manifests. Self-love and filling your life on your own fixes this.

I agree

Same

same

Bruh it's 04:01 for me rn

It’s 4:03 for me😂

4:17 am here

Jesus Christ is my savior. I'm not God, and I didn't die on a cross for the remission of all sin. I'm no savior, even to myself.

@@obscurereferences7198 don't you know who you really are??

@@obscurereferences7198Jesus is the messenger of Allah and the Messiah, not your saviour, nor did he die on the cross. He will bear witness against you. So be warned of a tremendous day and leave the Christian delusion created by paul the liar

​@@noelmalik5018The only people that are delusional are you clowns and your "god".

Yes ma’am I agree so much!

Ya plus it’s embarrassing

Great message! Keep at it and be proud of living the life you chose. Resentment drags us behind and you've changed it to love. Very beautifully done!

Amazing!!

so beautiful!!

tears.

Relatable af. ❤

If I say this, she will slap me then and there lol

Beautiful!

​@@luisabatistasamoraI'm totally agree with you because we can't depend our happiness to someone or things, cause the most important we need to create our own happiness,work on our self to be a better version of your slef

You're welcome! There's nothing wrong with chasing someone, per se. It's more that we're often actually running away from ourselves and abandoning our own inner power in order to do so. Often when we feel the need to chase, or to prove our worth to the person we're interested in, it can come from a situation where early in life we felt we needed to prove ourselves to our parents, maybe we needed to achieve or people please in order for them to be happy, or had to make sure everything was perfect. In my case, this was paired with a deep rooted fear of abandonment. The crazy thing is that this fear of being abandoned by somebody else causes us to consistently abandon ourselves. We change the way we behave, what we say and do, in order to please other people. We start to make them happy at our own expense, hoping to fulfill that pattern and make sure they won't leave us - all the while subtly sending ourselves the message that WE don't have our own backs. Just keep doing your best and learning and growing from the experience and giving yourself some grace when you temporarily slide back into old patterns. We're all doing the best we can!

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And it's less and attracting others, more about becoming true to yourself and in your own energy. Then, we might attract situations and people more aligned to our true self 🎯

Absolutely! If I can admit it here...the attracting others is a bit of a lure I use to get people to watch. Because so many people come with that inner sense of lack and they want the easy fix. So I try to hook people with what they want, and then do my best to deliver the deeper aspect of what they need haha But it's absolutely about becoming true to yourself and in your own energy, the attracting other people and situations that resonate with the new energy is a side effect of the deeper transformation

True

Your life become hollow.

Absolutely! It's a tricky subject to address for exactly that reason. The very nature of our tendency to see things from a place of insecurity, scarcity, and fear means that we're so quick to jump straight to self-condemnation when we develop self-awareness. When I realize that the common problem behind many of the problems in my relationships is my own inner insecurity, in a sense, that gives me ammunition to feel even MORE insecure and alone and flawed. That's where the negative feedback loop can begin. So you're absolutely right that we must give ourselves some grace and empathy and look at these things with love instead of shame. Interestingly, that whole process also feeds into the authentic embodiment of being your best self anyway! Because when we find peace with who we are, and are able to accept our so-called flaws, that's when we no longer feel that need for endless validation and reassurance! So, acceptance and empathy are a huge part of the equation.

I feel the same way too, I hope you will finally heal.

I'm sorry to hear that she didn't see your true value. Someone else will come along..

You’re lucky. She could have just kept milking you until she found someone she wants. That would have sucked as you would have wasted years on her. At least now, you can finally move on.

Totally agreed! This video is aimed at people who are fresh out of a breakup and hurting, so I figured the best approach would be to relatively gently introduce the concepts of attachment, letting go vs clinging, and so on. Just as a way to reach people who would otherwise be unfamiliar with the topic, and looking for a quick fix to a painful situation. But I absolutely agree that the deeper opportunity in letting go is certainly not an easy problem fix, but in understanding and shifting the way we relate to the world in the first place.

Thank you so much! Glad it resonated with you!

Why you watch these videos then?

Knowing we are good enough as authentic selfs is very important as well, but knowing we actually need to be saved, to be loved, we need each other to survive its not being insecure Not one bit, it prevents us from playing games as suggested here actually, in a complicated way 😊. That's why prisons were invented for. To outcast people it means to make them suffer in order to teach them a lesson of not being grateful or punish them for doing bad things. We can not survive long in isolation, except when we know there is at least one person who wants to be with us, thinking of us, loving us, as in a critical situation, a war or something like that. We need that hope at least, to know that there's is someone who loves us unconditionally, no matter how badly we behaved. At least one person, a parent, a partner or a friend. If there will be no one left we wouldn't want to live all alone, maybe in connection with something, the nature, the universe, maybe a dog or a cat but not completely alone. It's imposibil to survive alone. Period.

Knowing we are good enough as authentic selfs is very important as well, but knowing we actually need to be saved, to be loved, we need each other to survive its not being insecure Not one bit, it prevents us from playing games as suggested here actually, in a complicated way 😊. That's why prisons were invented for. To outcast people it means to make them suffer in order to teach them a lesson of not being grateful or punish them for doing bad things. We can not survive long in isolation, except when we know there is at least one person who wants to be with us, thinking of us, loving us, as in a critical situation, a war or something like that. We need that hope at least, to know that there's is someone who loves us unconditionally, no matter how badly we behaved. At least one person, a parent, a partner or a friend. If there will be no one left we wouldn't want to live all alone, maybe in connection with something, the nature, the universe, maybe a dog or a cat but not completely alone. It's imposibil to survive alone. Period.

That feels like truth to me, if we were good enough we would have someone.

Yes, me too, felt relief hearing the message at the end, after having been ghosted, hit me hard

@@ritapeters1330 Press on, girl 💪🏻

I 100% agree. If you suddenly change your behavior to start ignoring people to seem more "attractive" then you're missing the point, in my opinion. The deeper learning opportunity is to explore that inner feeling of lack and insecurity, and find the freedom and possibility that is on the other side. Trying to cheat the system by acting detached is really just another manifestation of being incredibly insecure - to the point where you feel the need to manipulate people to make yourself feel better. It's just tricky to get all of that nuance across in a single video.