The Secret Psychology of "Ignoring" a Girl 

Be Calm, speak less, avoid drama, be less reactive, make eye contact, use correct body language, listen more than you speak, think outside the box, think before you speak, don’t always be available, speak less about yourself :)

Don't be needy. Be happy with yourself first. Fix yourself first

Let me say this. Most men go very fast with women. Lots of attention, lots of texting, asking for dates. This is all wrong. After 1 date you're telling her how you feel and after another you're ready to be her boyfriend. All wrong. No games here. You've developed very bad habits in the dating world because of neediness and texting. Now it's time to learn healthy habits. Patience and being non reactive to her responses will get you VERY FAR. Women DO NOT develop attraction this way. It's not about "playing games". It's about learning patience and knowing how to spread out your attention to her over time. Tons of attention and princess treatment the first week will only push her away. TEXTING KILLS ATTRACTION. It's only about 20 years old and that plus social media has killed dating in general. Technology will always make dating worse. Women do not respond to instant "checking in" with her everyday. Women are emotional beings and need time away from you so they can think about you and let her feelings develop naturally of her OWN choice. Women make the majority of their decisions about you (and life) based on how she feels in the moment. If you made her feel good on a date, just disappear for a few days so she can anticipate seeing you again. Over time her feelings will get stronger. Anticipation is the key attraction trait for women. If they like you, stop contacting her except to ask for a date once or twice a week. Continue this process until she asks to be your GF. They NEED some time and space to miss you. And yes all of this is only true if she likes you. If she likes you, you will begin to notice her feelings will increase while away from you. She can't control this and will start chasing you and reaching out to get more of you. Yes. Tell her you want to take her out once or twice a week, then let her chill for a bit. You'll find women don't want to be chased, MEN want to be chased. Women want to do the chasing. But by being all up in her business texting nonstop you killed anticipation which is what she needs. You can bitch all day about games and what not, or you can learn to adapt and give her what she needs. We've all been lied to growing up. Men are told to chase and buy flowers and do anything for her. No. When a woman sees your rarity she will chase you. I know from experience because I've lost the last 3 women that started chasing me. I wasn't patient and started getting anxious and insecure, not being confident that I'm good enough and wait for her to reach out. If she keeps making excuses about your date offers without a reschedule, it means SHE DOESN'T LIKE YOU. Accept that and move to someone else. Women that like you, will make it very easy for you. Women that don't like you, will make it very tough. Approach women you like until you notice one is accepting every date offer and starts chasing you. Pull back and pace out your attention and time to her, and be patient.

Have you life Have your goals Have your vision clear Have your friends Priorities your family fitness Be honest to your study/school/college/work no matter how many womens are waiting If you follow above things and literally work on them then you won't have to do anything extra to get attention of any women .... Focus on youself and whole world will focus on u ... 👍

If a women texts me less and ghosts I want her LESS. That behavior turns me off. I have no problems deleting a woman's number no matter how attractive she is. I only deal with cooperative women who respect my time. I'm not available for the ones that flake or play games. Guys let's be honest with each other. Think of every gorgeous women you see... how often are they texting away or talking on thier cell phones? Exactly! She is ignoring you. So return the favor. Especially if she has the nerve to text or call asking for help or favors. Don't be afraid to tell a beautiful women NO!

it's so frustrating that humans work like this. I feel like I'm never actually allowed to love someone, I just have to eternally pretend I won't feel a thing if she leaves. It's so outside my personality and I hate having to be like that

My mother always told me every guy around her were craving for her attention , offering her gifts , would ask her on a date , even give her monney , she didn't care about anyone beside one guy that didn't give a shit about her , didn't care to talk to her , who was super rude and was not a nice person overall , in her own words " He is the only one who was ignoring me , it made me so angry , even his sisters told him he should ask me for a date , but he didn't care !!! ". Oh , that guy is my father by the way.

If she DONT like you, it dont matter what you do, manipulation or silence, she will NEVER chase you! She will only chase you if she testing you and you ignore her

A guy followed an advice like this. Then a woman also followed an advice like this. Both ended up not communicating because this advice results in a dead end situation

It only works if she has high physical and emotional attraction and investment in you. The fear of being forgotten by a woman is the obstacle men have to face in order to not push away(repell ) the woman they desire because of a man's need for reassurance. What you gain by letting go is peace of mind, more confidence in yourself and a abundance mind set.

Being ignored makes me less interested. I don't have time for feeling manipulation. Be straight up and be yourself.

I’m 18 years old and have been avoiding relationships like the plague. I’m not bad looking, I’m tall, in shape, and I’m not an idiot. A few girls have asked me out and I know there’s been some that would have said yes if I would have asked them out. Honestly, I don’t have the time or energy to play these kinds of games. It just seems like a waste of time. All my friends and classmates are getting in these crazy relationships and it’s ruining their lives, and I just don’t want any part of it. Patience and/or staying single is a perfectly good option lol. Don’t be rushing into relationships especially if you have to play games like this.

I remember getting dumped by a girl because she was "too busy" with school. I respected that and told her ok and that I would never contact her again. And I didn't. But guess who contacted me months later when she wasn't busy anymore.

My grandfather once told me when I was 16yrs..."if I ever find out you stay at a woman's place or u cried because a woman left you, you are not my blood" ....that hit hard...trust me I don't simp...if a woman is good, am gonna treat her right, if she doesn't deserve it, I leave quick fast!...the last thing I swore to myself is to never ever screw my quality of life...

Years later, and ever once in awhile, it's good to revisit these videos, to remind ourselves of what we're forgetting. It's easy to get overly comfortable and slip into bad habits.

I've known all these techniques... for many years. Played the field, it was easy.. now I'm in my 30s and to see this man speaking pure facts, listen up.

100% correct! Never try to “talk her out of it”, it never works , only causes her to dig in her heals, and reinforces to her that she made the right decision.

Have done this & she moved on. Walked away, she lost her interest in me and married someone else.

This doesn't work if she wasn't attracted or had interest with you to begin with. And no, don't bother changing her mind by texting her or asking for a chance, that just makes you look weak. Focus on yourself, celebrate your wins and keep growing is all you can do.

I appreciate all the videos like these when something similar happens to me with a woman. Definitely helps me clear my mind and feel better while at the same time understanding where I went wrong.

I'm a woman and this will only work if the woman actually finds the guy attractive.

You're absolutely right about all of this. It took me years to learn this. When it worked well, I always had something going on so they didn't think I was pinning away for them all the time. I'm having that issue right now about being too nice so having to literaly keep busy. It's hard. What I do, do is start making female friends just to take my mind off of her. It does work. I'm not being a traitor. When they sense you're busy, they pick up on it in your voice, how you talk to them and don't seem overly eager. Thanks. I needed the reminder.

I know for a fact that the person reading this is really strong. You are really strong honey and your are doing so good! Anxiety is really hard to overcome so be proud of yourself for not giving up. (virtual hug) Remember that everything will be okay, it doesn't matter when, just hang on okay? Hang on. It will come - and after it arrived you will be so happy, happy about the fact that you never gave up. That you are strong. I love you, and many other people do too. Always hang on and wait for your happiness to arrive.❤

All of that information was spot on. I was already doing most of those techniques but your video helped to perfect them. Thank you

The autonomy part hit home. Well said. You want to attract someone who reflects the principles and values you hold dear; that self-actualization is a sign of personal (and in turn projected) respect.

I think it depends on the person. Ignoring has worked for me sometimes. Sometimes out of sight out of mind is true

you are right bobi .. Ignoring a girl can actually attract her, as it hurts her ego and makes her more sensitive to your attitude. Ignoring a woman might make men anxious, but it's actually a strategy to make her value their attention more.

Ignoring only works if the woman only is focused on you only. If she has other option’s and talking to them then ignoring will not work. It goes against you because you are actually competing with these other options.

Waiting for the reply definitely keeps her on my mind. Cancelling plans LAST MINUTE makes me want nothing to do with her. 24 hour notice is annoying, but given a reasonable excuse builds anticipation.

Spot on Bobby. I've experienced the downsides of being a nice guy several times and learnt the hard way that a man has to keep it cool and slow. But it's super valuable that you have explained the psychology behind it. :) After my marriage is over now I'm back at the game and this video comes in super handy. Cheers.

I’ve actually accidentally done this with at least two or three women, I wasn’t overly honestly interested in them after the first date, so I pulled back and making forward pretty hard! This stuff works guys, I know it sounds like games, but all you’re doing is playing into the female psyche, if you don’t do that? You’re just gonna end up losing anyway.

Damn! this video is pure gold Bobby. I have been ¨kinda¨doing all you have mentioned for a while now (I have learned the hard and sad way), and it really does work. Women just get bored of the easy men and get intrigued by the not-so-easy men. Thank you so much because now I am even more sure that this is the only way to get in a womans mind. Keep up the good stuff man!!

If she has a bad relationship with her parents then this will work. If she has a great family support and circle of friends, you’re out of luck my dude.

Don' t bet on it man or woman, you can only push someone so far and ignore them that one day they don' t come back, if you care for that person be honest and communicate don' t play games and that' s what that is and when you end up alone which you will you have no one to blame but yourself and they are happy at Peace without you and with someone that is actually deserving.

Just went right past your channel everything that you're saying is correct and I'm going through this stuff right now at older age a lot of younger men don't understand this main key is just to keep yourself busy find your purpose

I already made all the mistakes you talked about. I pretty much did the exact opposite of what you teach. Wish I had seen this stuff 3 months ago. The scrambler would have saved me. I wouldn’t have believed anything you’re saying if I hadn’t lived it. With every mistake I made, the girl did the exact thing you said she would do. And with everything she did and the tests she gave me, I did exactly what a predictable nice guy would do.

_hot and cold behavior is like the tension of a spring. When cold, or negative, energy is stored. When it turns towards the hot, or positive end, the potential is released. This very dynamic is at the heart of any good drama._

I started ignoring her. Now she altogether cuts communication with me.

OMG man you knocked my situation right on the head precisely. I should’ve watched this a long time ago.

Great video Bobby. Sound advice. I'm going through some similar actions like you are mentioning. I must refrain myself from been so spontaneous.

No wonder people are single, all this "games" is exausting ... but letts try it out ;)

As a women I will say you dont have to go through all of this back and forth if she is genuinely interested in you. You will have to do this and play games if shes not interested and ultimately you do not want to be in a relationship with her if thats the case. Just be AUTHENTIC to who you are.

1/check in, 2/attention - longing w/ love, 3/not figure out - mental challenge, 4/hot & cold behavior 5/autonomy

Wow!I can understand more and more now!Thanks a lot Mr.Bobby Rio!

The Elements of ignoring a woman. 1. 4.57 Avoid Checking in for reassurance. 2. 7.40 Women equates longing with love. 3. 9.55 Give her a mental challenge. 4. 11.45 Hot and Cold behavior. 5. 14.50 Autonomy.

Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her

I'm a woman and I really wish good men don't follow this advice. Why would you like her to be insecure and ask herself if you like her or not? This type of behaviour is actually why we are all screwed up. Mind games only work because they make you insecure. Sad

I have given up dating for so long that I had forgotten the basics. Awesome video man, thank you

Thank you Bobby for bringing this to our attention.

I think this tactic is OK when you're initially dating but in a serious relationship where there was true love, the hot and cold thing and being unavailable will kill off the attraction.

Agree with the psychology in a sense game of dating from your video. “Ignoring” be respectful of your own time. I started going “old school” and calling her. One call can be equivalent to many many texts. plus you know if she’s actually wants to talk to you (interestes) besides just thumb typing a response. You’ll get a quick read of she’s into you.

Very well explained. Easily understood the content and I agree with you. Other men that know how to handle this situation give the same advice.

Great video Bobby. Thanks so much!

Love watching these videos. I learn so much. I drop them dead in their tracks as soon as I see game playing. Lots of men left feeling stupid and ignored.

To be honest you are the coach it's like you know what I go through thanks Bob💚

damn. everything u just talked about makes a lot of sense. thanks for taking the time to teach us about these things kudos to you Bobby Rio

9:34 "Not ignoring a woman is being selfish". I needed to live this long enough to hear it put this way 😆😅🤣

Great video Robbie, I've watch loads of your videos and by far you are the most realistic and logical. 👌🏻

Any time where I have ignored a woman, they just ignore me back and will never talk to me again unless I say something first... it is so soul destroying!!!

I think its powerful to not focus on her! Be unpredictable, push pull! Stay busy stay in the gym! And be indifferent

Bobby ...you are very honest bro . Thanks a lot 👍🏻

This is a good technic that keeps both couples interested and flirting with each other.

I love your analysis. Massive respect

You are right on target. The only thing I would do otherwise is change the word "ignore". It's a technically negative term and while you elaborated very well into the positive for the man it can come off worse than what you were hoping to bring up. I deal with patience all the time and some of them are men not a lot because men seem to avoid psychologists like the plague until a woman comes along in their lives okay.. I'm sure you understand that. So I really got to tell you you have a really top-notch understanding and perception and command of the entire male woman issue or I should say male-female issue and I watch you very closely and I want to thank you because there's a lot of stuff I'm learning from you which I otherwise would not have. Sometimes book knowledge definitely is not sensory knowledge that you give and I really appreciate it. Merry Christmas to you!

it's so true! sad that women can't just love and stay simple ..

thanks for the lesson bobby

Very well explained presentation on the issue. Well done! You really give excellent points of view on it

In almost all of these types of videos, the answer depends on context specific to that situation. They’re typically giving a solution that will fit a majority of the time. You can go into a situation with a goal, but not a specific action.

If you ignore me i say goodbye and block you from every angle.

This is proven to be true in dating! But my question is: Does this continues forever, even in a relationship or just during the dating phase? Because I see it as tidious and tiresome to always play those games even after a long period of being together. Isn't human nature to long for one day to have stability in one's own life instead of this constant "uncertainty"?

If she doesn’t respond to you forget her ,doesn’t make me want her more if she ignores me , it just confirms she’s immature and isn’t capable of communicating or a relationship.

If she likes you she will chase you. If she doesn't like you she won't chase you. There's nothing you can do to get a hot woman who doesn't like you to chase you. Meanwhile that ugly girl you wish would go away won't stop calling and texting you.

Not to be cocky,,i perfected this by 18. It was my main move. The one who got my buddys who were way bedda looking than me and had more money than me. I jus learned how to keep myself slightly unavailable,,always🙏🤙

If you need to do all this just to keep your relationship stable then you need a better partner. A relationship is supposed to be a mutual enjoyable thing where you can be relaxed and be yourself. They either like me for me or they can jog on.

Well explained, it was a great experience with you Bobby really you are an talented Genius guy. Thanks for sharing the valuable tips with us.

You’re half right. I don’t chase. If ignored after 2 or 3 reaches from my side, I turn around and go the other way. If you do like her, ignoring is a head game which hurts and is a waste of time. If you don’t like her, be a man and tell her gently.

For sure, Bobby… because even with plutonic friends or band mates or teammates etc you’re like “when are we gonna practice again? It’s been a freakin week!” and you start valuing and anticipating your time together more. That effect only skyrockets when it’s romantic.

Ignoring me only pisses me off. 3-4 days and I start seeing someone else. Nothing makes me more mad than being ignored.

Bobby , your video about the masculine traits to make a woman is the one of the best I saw online , not with only dating but with personal relationship in general thank brother

I'm a woman and if you ignore me, you'll never see me again. That's extremely toxic and I have self esteem. No thank you

This works both ways. If you ignore her, she will move on to someone who won't.

Good video Bobby Good Insights well done

1.) You as the man is the goal for a V 2.) if she plays games, she is not worth your time, effort or energy. 3.) Look at her circumstances that is family, social circle, religious affiliation & career objective. Assess those aspects, put them together & how they will work for you or fit in your life. Are you prepared to make concessions & will they work out with your overall goals & strategies. 4.) Say No and have boundaries. When she starts to be disobedient, rebellious & not accepting accountability. Then she is Ctrl + Alt + Delete. 5.) Focus on your goals, have direction & be purposeful. A V is an addition if she doesn’t want to be a part of your life, then she isn’t for you or want to be with you. Let her have her space and respond, not react. 6.) In addition give your attention is spurious moments. Don’t always buy her coffee every time you see her. So when you realises your getting too much, read the situation and respond by cutting back. Don’t chase incorrectly, but chase in correct methods. That is primarily character & personality.

Him cancelling his run to be with her would demonstrate sacrificial qualities that would make him a very strong man in her eyes.

I've had to learn to take my time and chill when texting a woman. I recently charmed the heck out of a girl at a grocery store who was much younger and I got her SC. She messaged me FIRST. Like 20 min after leaving. I didnt have time to talk to her so I just teased her a bit and asked her to go out and eat the next day. She said she had plans, and I just said ok. Now I dont feel like talking to her at all. I dont feel like putting in any work unless she gives me a reason to. I commented on one of her stories and she replied immediately, but didnt give me much to work with in terms of conversation. So now Im just not gonna text her because I dont know what to say and I dont feel like it. We'll see how it goes

Despite the general opinion, I still think that often messages or "slight anoyance" cannot really push a female from me. I am more leaning towards having an open and adult communication rather than playing games. I know the flirt game has to be up there, but at the end of the day, people rely on solid material and not a story or a pose you made to impress her more. It is also good to know that this rule is generalized and that not every woman is the same. I had women that would shoot me 5 messages in a row and talk with them for hours, and some can be ok ssending you 2-3 short sentences per day. Take everything with a grain of salt :)

This video single handedly is the best video on women. Changed my life. Excellent reminder

I needed to hear this

I've notice once you do this to her, She will do it to you too. So the bottom line she will loose interest in you because the way you treat her of ignoring her.

Everything you say is correct. I am 55, so didn't have access to advice online like this, and I had to learn the hard way, going through years of making all those mistakes before the penny dropped.

Thanks Booby :) Loved the insight.

I lost an opportunity just this month, I did ALL 5 steps wrong. All of them 🤦. Thank you so so much for this.

This is fantastic. Thanks. My GF is a dismissive avoidant and to be fair, it's hard work. I've done the no contact thing which works but if there's anyone in the same situation, hang on in there, carry on loving yourself because you're doing well. If I can help, let me know. Thanks for the upload and efforts. Love from the UK

That’s exactly it!!! The ones who say they don’t wanna play games are 100% not autonomous. I try to tell my sisters all the time but they think I’m telling them to play mind games with men and not be themselves. They think I’m old fashioned and they are strong independent feminists! I let them learn but it’s clear who is never freaking out about constantly getting ghosted or feeling uneasy and like I’m chasing a guy and demanding respect. Nope, if it ever even happens I’m not noticing getting ghosted or I’m just letting myself be ghosted. I have options and too many other things to do. I’m commanding respect from where I am not chasing him down trying to demand it.

Bobby, you are incredible - fair play to you - warm greetings from Ireland

Balance is the word in every matter. No healthy woman will develop interest in a mand that ingnores her constantly. Just as any woman will keep her interest in a mand that seems to be desperat to get her. Dont adopt extreme attitudes. Be your self, dont put your interests or your life aside because you are in love. It is now when you should focus even more on your own things, so that your world does not revolve around a girl. Feel fri of express your feeling and show your apriciation for her, but do it to the extent that she also shows it towards you. Invest in the relationship in the same extent that she does. Balance my friends allways seek balance

I actually lose interest in a girl when they cancel on me. Especially when it’s last minute. At that point I just feel like it’s on her to reschedule or I’m moving on.

I love this type of video I've learned and I've Lost a lot.💖

This is pure gold

Love this. I'm going to try it as hard as it may be. I really like this girl and want to win her over. Thank you!