Sometimes it's the other way around and the womens sex drive increases and the mans decreases. If you truly love the person though you find ways to compensate without jeopardizing your marriage for your own selfish reasons.
Funny, I’m 64 and sex IS NOT THE PRIORITY anymore…..life experiences, hanging with friends, hanging with my grown kids, traveling…..been married for over forty years and have no desire to have an affair….so not a exact science
I think she’s talking more about 40 somethings - the classical „midlife crises“, children being small to teenage years. what you describe is absolutely normal for successful long time relationships and the plus 60 age group .. often there’s spikes of the relationship being spiced up and that’s great but otherwise every age has their beautiful prioririties .. a satisfied old age with someone who’s shared ones life is what most people strive for and what makes humans happiest
Well, isn't that convenient? She loses her sexual desire for her husband and doesn't care about his feelings or needs, but he still has to provide for her and the family, whether he feels like it or not. So, in essence, she has no responsibility to her husband's needs, and he still needs to go down on that sinking ship. Stay in a sexless marriage and know what it truly means to be lonely or divorce her, and be financially ruined and lose your kids. I'll just say this, there are no guarantees in love or marriage, and over fifty percent of married men can attest to that, myself included.
This doesn't work. You missed the most important part she said: "When women get more connected to you, their sex drive decreases" - I have NO idea why this is and it makes no sense, but it's more or less true.
If there is NO attraction...there is NO good relationship. If the man ends up Asking the woman for sex, OBVIOUSLY the relationship is no longer charming. If only You have initiatives and She has no initiatives There is no point in being with Her anymore. A good relationship doesn't just mean sex, it matters a lot what personality you have, mentality, openness, initiatives, communication, passions, how you see life, etc.
You might be too young to understand this. The notion that if a woman is attracted to a man she will offer sex without the man asking, is not true as woman ages. That's her point as well.
You definitely do not understand what she is saying. Tells me you lack experience in relationship. Long term relationship usually connotes a commitment.
She hasn't a clue I was a sex addicted untill I hit my 40's now it isn't the first thing in my mind in fact I have no interest in women even when they smile or start to talk to me I am just not allowed that interested so my sex drive had definitely decreased
there is also the aspect that when a man ages, he needs more stimulats to keep "it" up. He still wants/craves sex but with an ageing wife he cannot perform as well. It is just the physiology of ageing, Therefore he looks for a younger sex partner or looks for stimulation in internet porn. My husband told me he was no longer atracted to me after I had kids, fine I did not desire the whole act but needed the closeness of it and I was happy when he got his satisfaction even though I knew that in his head he was with a sexy, young woman, not this ageing substitute. Mariage is more than sex, it is commitment to the person and the family you create. I just cannot understand this obsesion with sex, it is as though people do not understand that it leads to babies and responsibilities.
It is important for a man because we still have the hormone Testosterone being shot into our bloodstream every eleven minutes. Testosterone not only gives us our strength but makes us want to have sex.
Sex is not just to "lead to babies" 😮. It's a beautiful experience of sharing your mutual love and feels divine ❤. Once you experience this, and you are with a man you like, your desire does not diminish, it increases.
I don't think women that don't like sex should have long term relashionships with men that do. Both will get very frustrated in the long run, like in your case
so transactional thinking here sadly- is that what relationships reduce to- if you do that for me ill do that for you -so depressing if this is the ground of it all
This is a lie. My ex was NEVER on my level of sex drive. I down degraded when I picked him over someone else because I saw other qualities. My sex drive is still the same when I was in my twenties. What are you talking about?! Not every woman is the same. Please stop generalizing all women the same. It's so not true.
Life is based on generalities? Most things are made for right handed people, why? Because most people are right handed. Of course there are left handed people just like there are people who don't fit what she's talking about here but those are the minority, not the majority.
There are many ways for spouses to satisfy each other, not just intercourse. Have a conversation(s) about it, see if there is a willingness to think outside the box. State what you need. People will work together if they value the relationship. If not willing to work on it, then you can explore other options or ending the relationship.
I found few side chics and happy with them. Don’t bother to ask wifey any more as she never had interest in physical intimacy . She is happy with the big house and Lexus I provide her😀
The real reason is no real purpose in life. When you have a meeting and to raise a family and to be part of a community together makes a heck of a difference. Another point no matter how old children are they always want to come home to Mom and Dad if the relationship has always been nice not perfect just nice
You think maybe, just maybe that the younger husband didn't realize that he wasn't getting enough attention, in the form of hugs and appreciation early in the marriage, therefore it is not there later in the marriage, you think? Women, hug your husband, walk up behind them and hug them in front of your children.! I said early on that if I did not get the sex at home, I would find it somewhere else. ........ 24 year later, I walked away, but only with my vehicle and my guitars. I signed over the house and property to her. I worked on myself I did not violet anyone. God has blessed me with the same thing that I walked away from.
If all men consistently provided 3 times a week sex to their wives for their whole lives, there would be significantly more happy women in this world. For most men sex drive does decrease significantly once they age, even in their 30s in comparison to their 20s. Finding a man with consistently high sex drive after 35 is even more difficult. She definitely attracts a specific type of ‘clients’ who go there to talk about sex and salivate while looking at her. Her sample size is not representative of the general population.
A lot of younger women tattoed up, piercing as 50 plus man I am scared to approach. I do not know woman have mental issues, molested, rebeilling society gangs, partner in jail. I prefer the older woman to approach first. We may flirt if both dating but know consequences want to do have sex long term.
If she is single in the video, can you ask her if I can take her to dinner, breakfast or lunch. I find her to be very attractive and I love her accent. If I need to fill out an application, I am totally game. Appreciate the insights, but when you get right down to it, both sexes are completely opposite and that's why it's difficult to find "the one". I have a dog, best relationship ever!!!
This is not really true. My sex drive has slowed down a little bit. My wife still enjoys sex as well, just a little less, like me. There are so many reasons, such as bad health, over weight, and lack of communication with your spouse. Exercise and healthy lifestyle ( diet) will help. Many ex couples just don’t like their spouse and either leave ( mostly) or cheat ( gutless) No one answer. I do know that the woman tend to put the blame on the man, also not true. A little romance guys, it works wonders.
If this happens, you are with the wrong person... If the sex, making love, is right, and you love your man, the desire doesn't diminish. Why would you stop doing something giving you pleasure and satisfaction and closeness? Makes no sense, unless you dont get these out of the act itself, or you are doing it with a wrong person, because you "settled". This is not normal, just usual, unfortunately, because most simply settle.
As a human I once pointed out to my spouse -how much we work and spend time indulging in everything else 24/7 -except each other -really what is 15 or 20 minutes in a day . Oh and for the women -orgasms keep you young simple fact of life.
If he’s cuddly, gentle, smell good, clean, mouthwash a lot, and if he’s funny and affectionate, chances are she’ll crave him. He won’t have to do anything.
She just gave us the answer. “The more connected we are to you the less we desire you” wonder why she always lights up at a new boy. Give your gf mystery and dont ever commit until kids are necessary
Shit I see why they don't say nothing is because she will lose it 💯 and we don't want to go through the BS, men y'all have gotta be better with controlling ur wife and girlfriend and set some boundaries, y'all might can be ok. I'm going through something similar, and I'm getting a divorce from her of 24yrs of marriage and 3 kids 💔❤️🩹 I come to realize that I had alot to do with the situation between her and I. The dating thing is trash and I don't know what to say, let the girls say it and we are pervert. Stop putting on clothes that shows me and the world that my boo is got damn freak..smh, last thing; never trust a woman 100% because mine did it after all this time that went by. 💔 🤧
When this happened to me (wife started losing interest in $ex... mid 40s)... I used an analogy. I told her... if your partner (that you love) needs something from you, that doesn't do much for you either way anymore (but either way you don't mind doing it)... why not just help your partner out? I used an example... say she decided one day, that she never wants to clean another toilet again... but I don't mind doing the work (though I'm not enthusiastic about it either)... why wouldn't I just step up and offer to clean the toilets from then on? She smiled and told me we "have a deal!" I can have more $ex... but now have to clean all the toilets from now on😂
Duality is what you experience when you believe your thoughts about your experiences. Nonduality is what you experience when you focus on your sensory input without paying attention to your mind’s interpretation of that input... Most people have already experienced "no separate self", and it just wasn’t that big of a deal... If you’ve ever “lost yourself” in a book or a movie, or been “in the flow”, where it seemed like your body was on autopilot and was just doing its thing with no “you” controlling anything, then guess what... That was the experience of no separate self! Congratulations! Once you’ve recognized the illusion it becomes easier and easier to see through. You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean within a drop! Every family has a person who breaks the chains of poverty and trauma... I AM that person! The only thing I'm giving up on in my life: is the need for specific conditions to be met, in order for me to be RADICALLY HONEST. RADICAL HONESTY is my modus operandi. JOY IS MY PURPOSE. YESHUA IS MY GUIDING LIGHT. When there’s a disagreement, when I need to say YES or when I need to say NO, when I need to state my needs, and ask for them to be met... When I need to create boundaries... There's a possibility and a probability, that someone will inevitably, most likely, be disappointed in me... So I engage in every encounter, interaction, and relationship... In a way that ensures, that the person disappointed in me... NEVER ends up being me! I aim to never repress, never suppress. I aim to never lose parts of myself. Radical honesty only: 100% of the time. Always, all ways. 1. Decide who you want to be and BE THAT 2. Set FIRM AND CLEAR boundaries 3. Cut out ANYTHING and EVERYTHING that doesn't serve your health and your wealth 4. Take action everyday toward your ideal life/reality 5. Gratitude 6. Master your mind/emotions (do not be a slave to these)! YOU ARE THEIR MASTER! 7. Keep your promises. Treat yourself like the Queen that you are. 8. Learn (and ultimately master) new HEALTHY skills 9. UNDERSTAND: not every man is built to see your value. They are not all capable nor able. 10. Be confident and authentic 11. Create peace around you, and within you 12. NEVER EVER accept anything/anyone that disrespects you and your boundaries 13. Be open to correction and growth and evolution 14. Be the woman God wants you to be and has created you to be A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, EVER, period. So... If he ignores me I will step back and he will lose me. I don’t play any of these childish abusive controlling mind-games. I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me, and treats me as the Queen that I AM. Because I am a beautiful and kind and sexy and wise and magical woman: who knows my worth. Period. Whenever you are alone, remind yourself that GOD has sent everyone else away, so that there is only you and him... Do not feel lonely, the entire universe is inside you. YOU ARE THE UNIVERSE IN ECSTATIC MOTION, BABY! Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes... For those who love with their heart and soul there is no such thing as separation. You have to keep breaking your own heart until it opens (It is only then, that GOD can truly totally completely fully enter)! Our greatest strength lies in the gentleness and tenderness of our heart. --- Rumi You are constantly being re-born, re-created, re-generated, every moment. No belief is contained, held, or stored anywhere. It might cause a cascade that brings a symptom, breathing patterns, somewhere in the body, but the concepts, thoughts, and stories are constantly being re-created. You are generating it ALL, and this is unconscious. You can change in an instant!!! Every morning you wake up, your life story is re-constructed. Do I have to wake up believing reality is the way I believed it was yesterday? When breathing is restricted, get curious about what is holding it back, when it is open get curious about why that is... YOU are the Artist! Awareness of something alone IS enough, it untangles itself, the knots let go of you. Choose Freedom, take responsibility for your own suffering. I plead the blood of Yeshua over you, right here right now, wherever you are. God, send your Holy Spirit on the one who writes this, and on the ones who read this... Give them peace and joy and bliss and health and wealth and love. Repent and allow Abba to hold you in His arms. Cry to Him about your pain, He loves you. He won't mind. He'll show you a way out. God bless you. NO WEAPONS FORMED AGAINST ME SHALL PROSPER NO WEAPONS FORMED AGAINST MY FAMILY SHALL PROSPER I AM RIGHT HERE EXACTLY WHERE I AM SUPPOSED TO BE
First time I don’t agree with her! Sex is overrated and not that important for long lasting relationships as is spiritual connection, trust and understanding.
I believe other factors has more weight that this... I think one the main reasons would be as time passes you will be more enlightened by ur differences (cause not even twins are completely similar) so if by the time marriage didn't take place, as a female I know we reach to a limit and be fed up.. then with a simple problem we call everything off and move on.
If a man wants to cheat on his wife, all he has to do is become an actor and "cheat" with beautiful women legitimately on stage or in film :). There are ways around breaking up.
